Did they just zap my 'i.d.i.o.t'? Is that even a bad word?

Well yeah, if a guy is naturally an easy going smiley person. But suddenly acquiring a habit of smiling at no one in particular and for no apparent reason just to pull chicks will have the opposite effect of making you look like an idiot. Charm is not something you do, or learn or wear, it's one of those things you either have or you don't. Remember trying too hard is not the look you wanna go for, it reeks of desperation, So just do you.

Good Luck.

86 Now that's just NASTY! Ewwww, And she has to lay up with that. Maybe he's wealthy and has a chronic heart problem. Only way to make sense of it.

I am freely myself with him which is what I love the most about being with him. It's when there're some issues and there's sulking and silence and 'wounded lil' boy' ish, That's just juvenile to me. I like the straight forward 'Here's the prob and it needs our attention now' approach. Haven't sulked or expected people to turn into mind readers since I turned 9, Aaarggghh!!!

Yeah, I'd date a 10yr plus, have always dated older men, right through to 15yrs plus and that works for me. My man's 4yrs older than me and it's new territory. I'm finding little irritants I'm not accustomed to, I sometimes have to activate my juvenile just to keep my sanity, LOL

MAN U before anything and everything! I always tell even my family that should they ever get the urge to expire they best check if there're any MAN U league matches that week before giving in to said urge, or I just might have to be excused from attending the funeral. They totally understand this as they're Die Hard fans and wouldn't dream of dying at such a crucial moment.

Now this babe needs to get a life, literally, go out there and find hobbies to occupy herself as a boyfriend is not a babysitter or an entertainment console. Damn! Do 6yr olds date nowadays? Is a relationship all about pleasing one party? Like showing up for duty to attend to The Queen? Has she tried showing interest in the game? She just might like it.

Katy86:

Where did you people solve it alone?


You people are still running to America and Europe, nothing change in your country, everybody who can leave ,leaves.
Families are selling their own daughters for Prostitution to Europe. Election is very difficult in Nigeria and when you have problem just take your money out and pay your problems away. And do not forget the millions poor Nigerians who sleep on the street and do not even have something to eat.

You people really solved it

You people thinks you are the best, but you arent. You people are just haters who are to much jealous of others.
Ghanas are bad, South Africans are bad, Whites are bad, everybody is bad but not the Nigerians


This is what shows a real racist.

Hear, Hear!

I exclusively prefer ultra dark tall men. I can have hundreds of Will Smiths in one room with me and not one will raise my temperature. But let a deep dark brotha (with an accent) stride in and my 'Who Be That' antennae goes into a total frenzy. There's something deeply sensual about dark skin IMO, and to me it represents extra masculinity, strength, beauty, dignity and all things fcuktastic in a man. Light skinned men do nothing for me, and I do equate their lightness to femininity. Of course none of this has any scientific or biological basis, just a preference and laws of attraction don't have to make sense or be proven to be true.

MRbrownJAY:

@poster
Warmth?! Joy?! Happiness?! You must be kidding, right?

Do you know the addictive strength of crack, Heroine etc?! No woman can substitute the pleasures that derives from these drug's high.
Some are selling their own damn kids for a fix, talk less of gfs.

As if these people are lacking warmth, joy and happiness? They KNOWINGLY choose the warmth, joy and happiness that these drugs bring them, over any type of feelings that you are referring to.

Now that's what I call a great sales pitch! I'm sold, where do I buy

Whenever there's difficulty in attracting someone, best believe it's because the someone is not attracted to the attracted party for reasons only known to himself. It's often speculated that the fuglyiness of the smitten party is the main cause but that's only just a speculation.

I know most of you will tell me to leave him but it's not that easy, the commitment and the sacrifice i have made in this relationship would not make that so easy for me. And above all, i love him so much! Am perplexed.
Thank you so much for taking all your time to read this, you don't know how much it means to me. I'm almost crying now writing this, just thank you so much everyone.

Ok, I won't tell you to leave him as that would not be easy for you. Everyone knows that packing a bag and heading for the nearest exit is a 100 X more harder to do than being throttled, having your head bashed against walls, kicked, bruised on the regular. So stay, you've worked hard at this relationship and sacrificed things besides, you 'love' him so much and he 'loves' you too when he's not trying to kill you. How sweet of him to apologize after every beat down. He's a keeper.

How do you like that advice? But we both know it's bullshyte, right? Now,

Whoever told you about or showed you Love as a child needs to be sued. This man DOES NOT love you. He's telling you to Eff Off with every beating and gets angrier with your low self esteem having self for insisting on sticking around. You're not showing commitment by consenting to being his punching bag, you're just showing him that you value yourself even less than he does. So he's not wrong for treating you like shit as you're not treating yourself any better. It's not gonna get better, it will get worse. Quit him already! You really sound like a good woman caught up in a bad situation. Be good to you for a change. Be dedicated to you. Get to know you and learn to value yourself. Love you.

"If you really put a small value upon yourself, rest assured that the world will not raise your price" ~ Unknown

Good Luck

Thanks @ Nerd.

Hotie Tima:

no matter what it is your first boyfriend will forever be special to u.

and it's so hard to leave them at the end of the day.

but what will one do if they first love come back into they life while they are married?  

i surely don't know, all i know why are the first boyfriends so special to us  

Honey, speak for yourself, My first boyfriend doesn't feature in anyway in my life or thoughts, my life's an ongoing movie, I don't live in reruns. You sound like a person that's been holding a candle for a beloved that did a duck. You can't be that happy in your marriage if you're busy entertaining thoughts of exhuming dead relationships. Sad really,

What to do?

Nothing! And when you're done doing nothing, grow up.

Good Luck.

Get gone. What other option is there?

@ Dremoney. Honey, you might do well to go look up 'secondary' in the dictionary daddy bought you. Now back to topic, my answer didn't come from some hypothetical database. I have been the breadwinner in my home while my partner persued his real passion. Seriously, it's just money, not the be all and end all. It's more important to me that a man has ambition and a fearless attitude towards life. As for looks, I think he's the hottest thing after Adris but the next chick might disagree, It's all relative.

I'd rather be with someone who loves and respects me and is willing to ride with me through thick and thin. Everything else is secondary.

So what u're saying is Bad Boy got u sprung, u're getting no sleep and u're damn near close to losing your mind. If that's the case, I say jump right in, it might all go to shyte after some time or it might not. But u would've at least given it a try. A life filled with 'what ifs' is nothing but a waste of time and oxygen consumption. And just because some other dude who's 'by the book' suitable is shopping for a wife doesn't mean you have to stamp a SOLD on your rear. That little voice keeping you awake is the real you telling you what you need. Good Luck.

Personally, I'm open and honest about my past, even the colourful bits. I'm not ashamed of it as it's made me the awesome chick he's loving now. We've never had a spanish inquisition type of interrogation which would freak me the hell out but as he's my 'BBF', I share more of me with him than I do with my friends.

Lord Reed for President! Seriously, we do run our mouths when we're angry, and we tend to aim below the belt. Or if you're me u do a coupla rounds with his credit card, get it thoroughly battered just to make sure he's hurting proper.

He thought she was joking when she said: What's yours is mine and what's mine's mine.

Log Off and mind your own business!

FFS! At 42 you still need approval and assistance in living your life? Do what feels right to u, u already know what it is now Bleep everything and everyone else and just do u. Everything else obviously hasn't worked for u thus far. Good Luck.

'I'm too busy' is code for 'Nigga get lost'. Now be gone! Take your idle self to your nearest Employment Agency for better luck next time.

Does it hurt having that carrot stuck up your azz?

Damn! What's she waiting for? The Holy Spirit Virgin @ 35 is a Sexual Dysfunction. And if she's waiting for marriage then chick best get real by now, no mofo's been tripping over himself to take her down the aisle. And menopause waits for no virgin. How unf.uckable is this chick?

How was the balance of power prior to getting married? If it was as is now and you and you married him, then you ok'ed the T&Cs and signed on the dotted line.

If love means sharing toothbrushes, then I vow never to love. As for comparing kissing to toothbrush sharing, if u give head to your man and enjoy it, does that mean you'd like nothing more than keeping his jizz in a jar and sip it from a Martini glass from time to time?

Insecurity is a nasty desease.

Lady, get a brain. Dumb is never a HOT look.

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