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Re: The Aftermath Of DNA Test: My First Child Is Not Mine by Starz825(m): 5:48pm On Oct 26, 2022
general111:
Calm down...
One day this thing will hunt you if you dont deal with it now.
Tell her peacefully and try to let her know that you still love her and would love this to be a secret between both of you..
Once she hears that you want to make it a family secret, she will get soft and begin to confess.
Then you can properly forgive her and move on...

Besides, i think she has really been good to you, else this would have been a good reason to leave her.
Oil dey your head
Re: The Aftermath Of DNA Test: My First Child Is Not Mine by KamsiViva: 5:48pm On Oct 26, 2022
Painful
Re: The Aftermath Of DNA Test: My First Child Is Not Mine by BATified2023: 5:50pm On Oct 26, 2022
Meektunz:
Been married for over 5 years now and ever since my wife gave birth to my first child, I've been suspecting that it's not my child due to no sense of resemblance.

I finally did a DNA test but unfortunately the result shows that I'm not the father of my first child. No doubt my wife loves me so much and honestly she has done a lot, sacrificed alot for me.

My conscience never allowed me to end the marriage because honestly she is a good wife one could ever ask for though she has her bad sides.

Since the result came out, I never told her or confronted her because I'm very very certain that once I confront her the marriage will end cos alot will happen but everyday once I see the boy and remember, I get so angry but after some time when we are all playing as a family I will forget.

I still do everything a father could do for his son. Honestly it's not easy to forget about everything.

What do you advise me to do guys?
see ehn

If u want to tell her just make sure u inform your family first n show them the dna result cos once u tell her first

The first thing she will ask u is “hope u haven’t inform anyone “

The reason for her asking u is to b sure of her next step,once u tell her u are yet to inform anyone then she will just look for ways to kill u so the secret can b kept for life

Bro just stay safe n use your head
Re: The Aftermath Of DNA Test: My First Child Is Not Mine by MorningStar233: 5:50pm On Oct 26, 2022
What if there was a switch at the hospital

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Re: The Aftermath Of DNA Test: My First Child Is Not Mine by Maynman: 5:52pm On Oct 26, 2022
Praise202:
Sometimes it's best if we don't know about some certain things.

Now that you have satisfied your curiosity, what then.

Believe me this knowledge will scatter your home in future.
One small dispute with your wife, you will spill the beans and just like you Said #your home will not remain the same once your wife knows what you know.

She will query you for doing it @ the DNA TEST. Without her knowledge.
Brother and Sister let be mindful of the things we go about looking for.
This knowledge no fellow at all.
If “knowledge” will scatter a home, then that home NEEDS to be scattered.
Ignorance is not bliss.

The wife will query him for doing DNA without her knowledge, hope the wife will also query herself for cheating without protection and bringing an illegal child home “without his knowledge”?
I hope the wife will do both queries.

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Re: The Aftermath Of DNA Test: My First Child Is Not Mine by Nobody: 5:52pm On Oct 26, 2022
general111:
Calm down...
One day this thing will haunt you if you dont deal with it now.
Tell her peacefully and try to let her know that you still love her and would love this to be a secret between both of you..
Once she hears that you want to make it a family secret, she will get soft and begin to confess.
Then you can properly forgive her and move on...

Besides, i think she has really been good to you, else this would have been a good reason to leave her.
Re: The Aftermath Of DNA Test: My First Child Is Not Mine by Niwdog(m): 5:53pm On Oct 26, 2022
What's the essence of conducting DNA test?
Just to kill yourself within
I keep telling guys make sure you conduct DNA test on all first born if the child doesn't look a bit of you
Cause Everyman first seed ought to look like him
Re: The Aftermath Of DNA Test: My First Child Is Not Mine by Starz825(m): 5:54pm On Oct 26, 2022
Prettygirl200:
Useless fake story
No be everything be fake oooo
Shit dey happen oo
People are going through a lot in their marriage

Prettygirl200

Re: The Aftermath Of DNA Test: My First Child Is Not Mine by CSTRR: 5:54pm On Oct 26, 2022
Praise202:
Sometimes it's best if we don't know about some certain things.

Now that you have satisfied your curiosity, what then.

Believe me this knowledge will scatter your home in future.
One small dispute with your wife, you will spill the beans and just like you Said #your home will not remain the same once your wife knows what you know.

She will query you for doing it @ the DNA TEST. Without her knowledge.
Brother and Sister let be mindful of the things we go about looking for.
This knowledge no fellow at all.
Who should be worried here?

The husband or the wife?

No husband should be scared of confronting a wife that gave birth to an illegitimate child.

That is unheard of.

If the result of the test show that the husband is the father, then yes, he must make sure the wife never knows, because she go scatter that house with fire and brimestone.

But since the result is contrary, then madam must come and explain and fight to preserve her marriage.
Re: The Aftermath Of DNA Test: My First Child Is Not Mine by Terror48: 5:54pm On Oct 26, 2022
That's the problem.I got a lady pregnant,I never knew she is married,she never disclose it to me.It was a very close friend of mine that told me that she's married.After, I confronted her,she admit to it.I decided to quit the relationship and she was determined to transfer the pregnancy to her husband.Fear woman!
Re: The Aftermath Of DNA Test: My First Child Is Not Mine by EdwardRandy(m): 5:57pm On Oct 26, 2022
TheAlchemist:
A child calls you father for more than 4 years and you still went to do a DNA test... I dont understand.
Even if na 10years the pikin call am papa, and so? undecided
Re: The Aftermath Of DNA Test: My First Child Is Not Mine by InvertedHammer: 5:57pm On Oct 26, 2022
Meektunz:
Been married for over 5 years now and ever since my wife gave birth to my first child, I've been suspecting that it's not my child due to no sense of resemblance.

I finally did a DNA test but unfortunately the result shows that I'm not the father of my first child. No doubt my wife loves me so much and honestly she has done a lot, sacrificed alot for me.

My conscience never allowed me to end the marriage because honestly she is a good wife one could ever ask for though she has her bad sides.

Since the result came out, I never told her or confronted her because I'm very very certain that once I confront her the marriage will end cos alot will happen but everyday once I see the boy and remember, I get so angry but after some time when we are all playing as a family I will forget.

I still do everything a father could do for his son. Honestly it's not easy to forget about everything.

What do you advise me to do guys?

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Is there any guarantee that the next child will be yours?



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Re: The Aftermath Of DNA Test: My First Child Is Not Mine by fotadmowmend(m): 5:58pm On Oct 26, 2022
You have bn served
Re: The Aftermath Of DNA Test: My First Child Is Not Mine by Niwdog(m): 5:59pm On Oct 26, 2022
I know of a girl who's wedding is slated for this December but she is still furking with her ex
Believe me you they will be having it raw and they don't mind
I am 90 percent sure if she takes in before the wedding the ex is responsible
Re: The Aftermath Of DNA Test: My First Child Is Not Mine by unyted(m): 5:59pm On Oct 26, 2022
Prechgold1180:
So wetyn u come want make we do


What best defines a simp.
Op know this and know peace
The father of that child is still banging your wife till date

This is a golden comment. OP I feel like lambasting you for your stance. What a shame of a simp. Go and confront your wife now! The marriage is built on deceit!
Re: The Aftermath Of DNA Test: My First Child Is Not Mine by ECHICHE: 6:00pm On Oct 26, 2022
This is the time to Prove yourself as a man.
It is a sin not to exposed such a terrible betrayal.

Broker the news to ur wife without further delay. This is not issue of love anymore. A wife who imposes another man's child on you is wicked, and can harm or destroy you silently.

If you fail to confront ur wife, the DNA test result will hunt you and you won't have peace all the days of ur life..

Also, visit a Teaching hospital and do a fertility test to know if you are impotent or not. Because it is strange for your wife not to take in for you for 5yes now.

May God help you.
Re: The Aftermath Of DNA Test: My First Child Is Not Mine by MondayOsunbor(m): 6:00pm On Oct 26, 2022
Meektunz:
Been married for over 5 years now and ever since my wife gave birth to my first child, I've been suspecting that it's not my child due to no sense of resemblance.

I finally did a DNA test but unfortunately the result shows that I'm not the father of my first child. No doubt my wife loves me so much and honestly she has done a lot, sacrificed alot for me.

My conscience never allowed me to end the marriage because honestly she is a good wife one could ever ask for though she has her bad sides.

Since the result came out, I never told her or confronted her because I'm very very certain that once I confront her the marriage will end cos alot will happen but everyday once I see the boy and remember, I get so angry but after some time when we are all playing as a family I will forget.

I still do everything a father could do for his son. Honestly it's not easy to forget about everything.

What do you advise me to do guys?


A boy !!!!!!!!!! ARE YOU STUPID!!!! MY bro run oooooo even if she is an sugar self
Re: The Aftermath Of DNA Test: My First Child Is Not Mine by Enimin: 6:01pm On Oct 26, 2022
Meektunz:
Been married for over 5 years now and ever since my wife gave birth to my first child, I've been suspecting that it's not my child due to no sense of resemblance.

I finally did a DNA test but unfortunately the result shows that I'm not the father of my first child. No doubt my wife loves me so much and honestly she has done a lot, sacrificed alot for me.

My conscience never allowed me to end the marriage because honestly she is a good wife one could ever ask for though she has her bad sides.

Since the result came out, I never told her or confronted her because I'm very very certain that once I confront her the marriage will end cos alot will happen but everyday once I see the boy and remember, I get so angry but after some time when we are all playing as a family I will forget.

I still do everything a father could do for his son. Honestly it's not easy to forget about everything.

What do you advise me to do guys?

You are playing with fire, a woman who can do that iis capable of.ending your life without notice. Now consider a scenario where the biological faher of that child (whom she knows, but you do notknow) approaches her with juicy incentives in order to get rid of you and claim the boy. You'd be a goner in such a scenario.

My niggä, I'm sorry I've got to inform you that your life is in serious danger.
Re: The Aftermath Of DNA Test: My First Child Is Not Mine by lilyheaven: 6:02pm On Oct 26, 2022
You are making a mistake, you should inform your wife...
What if someone mistakenly carried your baby after delivery.
You should have done this immediately you observed your suspicion.
Meektunz:
Been married for over 5 years now and ever since my wife gave birth to my first child, I've been suspecting that it's not my child due to no sense of resemblance.

I finally did a DNA test but unfortunately the result shows that I'm not the father of my first child. No doubt my wife loves me so much and honestly she has done a lot, sacrificed alot for me.

My conscience never allowed me to end the marriage because honestly she is a good wife one could ever ask for though she has her bad sides.

Since the result came out, I never told her or confronted her because I'm very very certain that once I confront her the marriage will end cos alot will happen but everyday once I see the boy and remember, I get so angry but after some time when we are all playing as a family I will forget.

I still do everything a father could do for his son. Honestly it's not easy to forget about everything.

What do you advise me to do guys?
Re: The Aftermath Of DNA Test: My First Child Is Not Mine by lilyheaven: 6:04pm On Oct 26, 2022
What if, it wasn’t as a result of cheating but hospital mistake.
Enimin:


You are playing with fire, a woman who can do that iis capable of.ending your life without notice. Now consider a scenario where the biologicall faher of that child (whom she knows, but you don't know) approaches her with juicy incentives in order to get rid of you and claim the boy. You'd be a goner in such a scenario.

My niggä, I'm sorry I've got to inform you that your life is in serious danger.
Re: The Aftermath Of DNA Test: My First Child Is Not Mine by Toktee(m): 6:07pm On Oct 26, 2022
Moh247:
cool


Oga no bastard in marriage joor

The woman you paid bride price on and the children from such marriage are yours

You paid for all expenses during pregnancy, paid for school fees and upkeep from your hard earned money

If anybody tells you nonsense or come to claim your Son kill him with matchet and claim he is a kidnapper

Tell your wife you know the truth and if she ever dare tell anyone she's dead

Your wife gives you happiness and joy and also sacrifice for you... Don't let anyone or anything steal your joy


.
so that the secret husband continues drilling the wife hole, right?

I must know the identity of the person sharing my wife with me.
Re: The Aftermath Of DNA Test: My First Child Is Not Mine by Enimin: 6:07pm On Oct 26, 2022
lilyheaven:
What if, it wasn’t as a result of cheating but hospital mistake.

Yeah the more reason they need to address the issue immediately
Re: The Aftermath Of DNA Test: My First Child Is Not Mine by Awesometouch1: 6:12pm On Oct 26, 2022
Meektunz:
Been married for over 5 years now and ever since my wife gave birth to my first child, I've been suspecting that it's not my child due to no sense of resemblance.

I finally did a DNA test but unfortunately the result shows that I'm not the father of my first child. No doubt my wife loves me so much and honestly she has done a lot, sacrificed alot for me.

My conscience never allowed me to end the marriage because honestly she is a good wife one could ever ask for though she has her bad sides.

Since the result came out, I never told her or confronted her because I'm very very certain that once I confront her the marriage will end cos alot will happen but everyday once I see the boy and remember, I get so angry but after some time when we are all playing as a family I will forget.

I still do everything a father could do for his son. Honestly it's not easy to forget about everything.

What do you advise me to do guys?
Fidelity is over 80% of being a good wife. Don't punish yourself forever over the remaining 20% by not talking about the child.
You have to open up and discuss the matter. If she insists then conduct another DNA test for certainty.
No point keeping an unfaithful wife and living with so much bitterness.

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Re: The Aftermath Of DNA Test: My First Child Is Not Mine by capnies: 6:14pm On Oct 26, 2022
JUST TAKE HIM AS YOYR ADOPTED CHILD IN YOUR HEART, HE IS INNOCENT THE GUILTY ONE IS YOUR WIFE, BUT FORGIVE HER. I HAVE CHILDREN TOO, I'VE ALSO THREATENED MY WIFE WITH DNA TEST OF MY FIRST SON, NOT BECAUSE OF PHYSICAL APPEARANCE BUT CHARACTER THAT I DISLIKE HIS JUST 15 BUT WE'VE BEEN MARRIED FOR ALMOST 20YRS. WE ARE EVEN PLANNING TO ADOPT AS SOON AS MONEY COMES AS MY SON PREPARES FOR HIGHER INSTITUTION. I WOULD SAY DON'T TELL HER IF YOU DO, SHE WOULDN'T BE COMFORTABLE AGAIN AT HOME, AND MIGHT LOOK SECOND CLASS IF SHE STAYS.
ALL WOMEN ARE THE SAME, THEY BEHAVE THE WAY YOU WANT THEM TO.

GOOD WOMEN LIKE YOUR WIFE AND MINE ARE METEORS, THEY ARE ONLY SEEN ONCE IN AWHILE.

IF YOU TELL HER AND SHE STAYS YOUR LIFE IS IN DANGER. SO SINCE YOU WANT TO KEEP HER, DON'T TELL HER.

ALSO NOTE THAT ATIMES THIS TYPE OF CHILDREN END UP BEING YOUR BACKBONE IN OLD AGE.

JUST TAKE HIM AS YOUR ADOPTED CHILD NOW AND THEN WATCH HIS CHARACTER. GOD BLESS YOU
Re: The Aftermath Of DNA Test: My First Child Is Not Mine by Awesometouch1: 6:15pm On Oct 26, 2022
Praise202:
Sometimes it's best if we don't know about some certain things.

Now that you have satisfied your curiosity, what then.

Believe me this knowledge will scatter your home in future.
One small dispute with your wife, you will spill the beans and just like you Said #your home will not remain the same once your wife knows what you know.

She will query you for doing it @ the DNA TEST. Without her knowledge.
Brother and Sister let be mindful of the things we go about looking for.
This knowledge no fellow at all.
bad advice.
Re: The Aftermath Of DNA Test: My First Child Is Not Mine by Awesometouch1: 6:17pm On Oct 26, 2022
lilyheaven:
What if, it wasn’t as a result of cheating but hospital mistake.
That's a very very rare occurrence yet the more reason the issue has to addressed openly.
The hospital has birth records they could use.
Re: The Aftermath Of DNA Test: My First Child Is Not Mine by clemskay(m): 6:19pm On Oct 26, 2022
Beverlyjean:
A good woman will not cheat on u, to mk it worse, did it without protection and lied thst it belongs to u... any woman thats capable of this can kill... just know that ur life is already in danger

Not outrightly correct,
As long as a good man still cheats, a good woman doea it better.. The fact that she cheated doesn't mean she doesn't love d man.
Do u know if the man is impotent but d woman wanted to save her marriage? Remember the man said he has been married for 5 years.
Re: The Aftermath Of DNA Test: My First Child Is Not Mine by tonididdy(m): 6:19pm On Oct 26, 2022
Meektunz:
Been married for over 5 years now and ever since my wife gave birth to my first child, I've been suspecting that it's not my child due to no sense of resemblance.

I finally did a DNA test but unfortunately the result shows that I'm not the father of my first child. No doubt my wife loves me so much and honestly she has done a lot, sacrificed alot for me.

My conscience never allowed me to end the marriage because honestly she is a good wife one could ever ask for though she has her bad sides.

Since the result came out, I never told her or confronted her because I'm very very certain that once I confront her the marriage will end cos alot will happen but everyday once I see the boy and remember, I get so angry but after some time when we are all playing as a family I will forget.

I still do everything a father could do for his son. Honestly it's not easy to forget about everything.

What do you advise me to do guys?

Pls what are the requirements?
Cost?
And where did you do the DNA ?
Re: The Aftermath Of DNA Test: My First Child Is Not Mine by Jozilinn: 6:21pm On Oct 26, 2022
Fiscus105:




Ur ignorant is not curable, I have sex with a lady and after a week interval she said I'm the one responsible......if it's u ,u will take that pregnancy, .......check DNA of ur children if u married , I doubt any of children u are claiming actually belong to you.


were you not the one justifying the act and saying it's better not to do DNA at by saying the more you look the less you see right...so you think all women system are the same right? Some ladies get pregnancy symptoms rapidly and besides that doesn't change the fact that you might be responsible, don't tell me you haven't been shagging her before the one week...you dey even drag belle for 2 months with her,see guy you are just justifying your own self why not do DNA first on that child of hers you need it better than I do.
Re: The Aftermath Of DNA Test: My First Child Is Not Mine by APOSTLECHUMA: 6:24pm On Oct 26, 2022
(1) DO YOU LOVE YOUR WIFE ? (2) IS SHE STILL PLAYING AROUND ? IF THE ANSWER TO THE 2ND
QUESTION IS NO AND YOU TRUELY LOVE HER, THE BIBLE SAID THAT LOVE COVERTH A MULTITUDE OF SIN. MARITAL UNFAITHFULNESS IS BAD BUT DO YOU KNOW THIS HARD TRUTH THAT SCRIPTURALLY YOU HAVE NO BIBLE RIGHT TO PUT AWAY A WOMAN AND MARRY ANOTHER BECAUSE OF ADULTERY ? IF YOU PUT AWAY A WOMAN DUE TO ADULTERY YOU CANT REMARRY BUT MUST REMAIN SINGLE OR LIVE IN ADULTERY YOURSELF FOR A 2ND MARRIAGE. BIBLE ONLY PERMITTED DIVORCE FOR THE COURSE OF FORNICATION AND NOT ADULTERY AND BOTH ARE NOT THESAME. FORNICATION IS COMMITTED BEFORE MARRIAGE AND FOR THAT YOU CAN DIVORCE HER AND REMARRY BUT AFTER OFFICIAL MARRIAGE, IF YOUR WIFE IS OVERTAKEN BY THE SPIRIT OF ERROR, GOD DEMANDS YOU FORGIVE HER AND GO ON. MARRIAGE IS NOT FOR KIDS, WHEN OUR LORD PREACHED THIS IN MATTHEW 19, PEOPLES' RESPONSE WAS, THIS IS AN HARD SAYING, WHO CAN RECEIVE IT ?. AS A MAN, THINK OF ALL THE SINS YOU HAVE COMMITTED SINCE YOUR YOUTH AND GOD HAS NOT SENTENCED YOU TO HELL FOR THEM. WHEN U PUT AWAY A WOMAN FOR UNFAITHFULNESS, YOU ARE SENTENCING HER TO HELL FIRE AS SHE MIGHT NOT BE ABLE TO STAY SINGLE AND HER REMARRYING MEANS SHE WILL END UP IN HELL AND THATS BECAUSE OF YOUR UNFORGIVING SPIRIT. IF U CAN NOT FORGIVE MEN THEIR TRESPASSES, SAID OUR LORD, HOW CAN OUR HEAVENLY FATHER FORGIVE YOU YOUR OWN TRESPASSES ? THIS IS NOT A SUPPORT FOR UNFAITHFULNESS BUT TO TEST OUR ABILITY TO FORGIVE THE WAY GOD FORGAVE OUR MANY SINS. IF HOWEVER A WOMAN IS QUILTY OF IT MANY TIMES, YOU CAN PEACEFULLY SEPERATE FROM HER BUT YOU WILL NOT REMARRY. THIS IS THE HARD TRUTH ABOUT MARRIAGE AND DIVORCE THAT MANY DONT KNOW ABOUT AND ARE NOT READY TO RECEIVE BUT THE ELECTS LOVE IT AS IT SHOWS US HOW GOD LOVED US EVEN WHEN WE WERE UNLOVEABLE AND WE OUGHT LOVE OUR WIVES WITH THAT CHRIST'S TYPE OF LOVE THAT SEES NO SIN. cfountainoftruth@gmail.com 07054142412
Re: The Aftermath Of DNA Test: My First Child Is Not Mine by idahsy: 6:24pm On Oct 26, 2022
Meektunz:
Been married for over 5 years now and ever since my wife gave birth to my first child, I've been suspecting that it's not my child due to no sense of resemblance.

I finally did a DNA test but unfortunately the result shows that I'm not the father of my first child. No doubt my wife loves me so much and honestly she has done a lot, sacrificed alot for me.

My conscience never allowed me to end the marriage because honestly she is a good wife one could ever ask for though she has her bad sides.

Since the result came out, I never told her or confronted her because I'm very very certain that once I confront her the marriage will end cos alot will happen but everyday once I see the boy and remember, I get so angry but after some time when we are all playing as a family I will forget. u re angry at the boy instead of the mother, what did the boy know? just continue your sacrifice since it has gone far 5 years no be 5 days ooo

I still do everything a father could do for his son. Honestly it's not easy to forget about everything.

What do you advise me to do guys?

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