Sometimes last year i met this lady and we started dating a few months. The thing is she honestly summarized her past to me in the early days of the relationships; as i was madly in love, I didn’t bother to ask her for details. Several months later, talks and my personal curiosity led to me knowing the full details of the past, and since then it has been VERY tough for me to digest, been depressed.
The past is not that bad, just that she has been in three relationships before me (two of them are with people that i know in real life). The thoughts of her escapades in those relationships have just been disturbing my mind since then. One of her ex is someone we both always see every Sunday and since the revelation of the details, it has been tough for me to process that such person has sampled my woman before.
But in general, i love and find happiness in this woman. I kind of see the future with her. I want to be with her but this thought just disturbs me and mess with my head. I recently start seeing her as a leftover of some guys

I need yall advice on this dilemma that i am in. What should i do?

Most women know about body counts and how men view it, so they lie about it. That's why "your girl" admitted to just 3 relationships. Spoiler alert: her body count is MORE than that.

They know about body counts but they are yet to catch on about PROXIMITY COUNTS. That's the number of people that have bleeped her that you know personally and see regularly.

That's why a man MAY tolerate and even cherish a girl with 25 body counts made up of strange men that he DOESN'T know and that are no longer in the picture in any form. But the same man will NEVER look at a woman that has bleeped his cousin.

Both counts are more EMPHASIZED in a serious relationship than casual ones. That's why you were still able to let it go at the beginning of the relationship. You thought you might be able to hit it and quit it. But you developed feelings and started to think about your future together. That's why it's now causing you sleepless nights.

Anyway, the pain is that you REGULARLY see someone that has bleeped her before you did. You feel defrauded that he got to hammer your serious pussy before you did. You feel like you came in second place. Seeing the the guy CONSTANTLY rubs your nose in it. The feeling of being a loser latches on to you every time you see the guy.

Plus, you don't know the kind of sex they had. This guy might have bleeped your girl in MYRIADS of waya you cannot imagine. Did she deepthroat his dick or swallowed his cum. Maybe he bleeped her ANALLY. How many times?

He has explored EVERY part of your girls body. It's even worse when you consider the fact that they met in a church yet still chose to fornicate. So that means the guy has ZERO qualms about beating your girls pussy like someone that stole an iPhone 15 in Computer Village.

That relationship is forever TAINTED. You will NEVER be happy or content if you let your relationship get serious (that includes marriage). Imagine doing Thanksgiving for your wedding at a church where one of the "brothers" already BATTERED your new bride's pussy.

The pain!

Your options:

1. Dump the girl NOW. Dating 2 guys from the same church does not speak well of her character anyway.

2. Continue to Bleep her while you look for a girl that hasn't bleeped anyone you know. When you find one, DUMP the current girl. If you go this route, dial back your lovey-dovey.

3. Be a cuuck and continue the relationship. But NEVER forget that once a guy has bleeped a girl, he ALWAYS has a shortcut back to that pussy.

Remember this:

When a pussy and a diick with history are in close proximity, it's ONLY a matter of time before they collide. It's inevitable.

One day you will have a disagreement and she'll run to the nearby "brother". That one will offer her an emotional support dick and she'll gobble it with gratitude.

That is the future you're dealing with. Also DON'T say she's not like that. Church people who fornicate have a moral compass that is WORSE than that of a prostitute.

U want to hear the truth and so I ll tell u: You are not serious.

If you are happy with the woman u are dating, why holding on to her past ..... something she told u out of trust?

Some of you claim holy like this but if one digs deep into you, it's possible u have even been to olosho place for sex several times.

Which one is better?

Bro if u are not mature leave relationship alone

The first poster no go make heaven

Haba! nah only you wan chop clean mouth? Nowadays girls are FREE distributors of goods . Chop and waka

such person has sampled my woman before.

Only that she was not your woman then. Since it wasn't an issue then when love dey shack you, don't resurrect a problem now. So live with it..

I can understand a man who is a virgin being bothered about marrying a woman who is not a virgin.

I don't understand why a man who is not a virgin will be bothered about the bodycounts of a woman.

Haha... This is so relatable. I'm facing same predicament as you. I know her ex, he knows me too. Mine's worst, he is her family's friend so he still comes around to visit her parents though her parents never knew the two once dated and had sex several times. It's not easy forgetting her past especially when it crosses my mind that this guy knows everything about her unclothedness. Notwithstanding, i do my best to push those kinds of thought away. If you love her find a way not to let those thoughts get in the way of ur relationship

If you truly love her, forget about her past, change location, so you won’t see these exes again. Deal with it.

When you know the past of a person, it will always haunt you. That's why the holy books will always say abstain, but we nor dey listen.

When you start probing, you'd find but you need to probe so you don't end up with a public property.

As for your situation, I don't know how you cope seeing your girlfriend's ex every Sunday. It's tough, especially as you're not married. We're humans and our imaginations will always run wild.

I can't advise you to break up, but whatever robs your peace, you should stay away from. Health and peace is key.

You'd just have to overcome that disposition or let her go

Very important reason a woman/lady should keep herself till after marriage

Do break up with her if you have never been in a relationship/ intimate with anybody else before met her.

But if you have, and want to judge her, that makes you a hypocrite.

Don't even know what's wrong with all of you that define a woman by your dicks. If she's had one and moved on, and she's worthless by your definition, then she's worthless because your dicks are worthless.

pvirus:
Sometimes last year i met this lady and we started dating a few months. The thing is she honestly summarized her past to me in the early days of the relationships; as i was madly in love, I didn’t bother to ask her for details. Several months later, talks and my personal curiosity led to me knowing the full details of the past, and since then it has been VERY tough for me to digest, been depressed.
The past is not that bad, just that she has been in three relationships before me (two of them are with people that i know in real life). The thoughts of her escapades in those relationships have just been disturbing my mind since then. One of her ex is someone we both always see every Sunday and since the revelation of the details, it has been tough for me to process that such person has sampled my woman before.
But in general, i love and find happiness in this woman. I kind of see the future with her. I want to be with her but this thought just disturbs me and mess with my head. I recently start seeing her as a leftover of some guys

I need yall advice on this dilemma that i am in. What should i do?

You don't need an advice bro, you saw and chose a non virgin woman.... So deal with the baggages that comes with it⚠️

Just know that she lied about her body counts, she has been with more guys and has enjoyed many dicks that you could ever imagine🎯

Yet you don't deserve an advice from the alphas...... Enjoy your weekend and your low quality woman too😁😁😁

Their body count never exceeds 3

shaybebaby:
Do break up with her if you have never been in a relationship/ intimate with anybody else before met her.

But if you have, and want to judge her, that makes you a hypocrite.

Don't even know what's wrong with all of you that define a woman by your dicks. If she's had one and moved on, and she's worthless by your definition, then she's worthless because your dicks are worthless.

Why are you crying . If you were him would you still marry her, knowing fully well, your guy has banged your to be wife.

If she gives you peace of mind, you should be happy cuz that's what every sensible man wants from his lady........Then again,I just had a second thought,what makes you think that the next banny you're going to meet hasn't been/or wasn't sampled by different guys in the past before?

Op, just choose your own poison and sip it jejely till thy kingdom come.

You have several threads educating you on the need to marry virgins you still chose a harlot.
We will be here to read your posts when she gives you a bastard.

toujurs:
Why are you crying . If you were him would you still marry her, knowing fully well, your guy has banged your to be wife.

Why not? Can't change the past neither should you let it dictate the present and future.

Sonnobax15:

If she gives you peace of mind, you should be happy cuz that's what every sensible man wants from his lady........Then again,I just had a second thought,what makes you think that the next banny you're going to meet hasn't been/or wasn't sampled by different guys in the past before?

Op, just choose your own poison and sip it jejely till thy kingdom come.

Na soo?

shaybebaby:

Na soo?

. . I sight you sis

Sonnobax15:
. . I sight you sis

👀👀

Namaster:
Most women know about body counts and how men view it, so they lie about it. That's why "your girl" admitted to just 3 relationships. Spoiler alert: her body count is MORE than that.

They know about body counts but they are yet to catch on about PROXIMITY COUNTS. That's the number of people that have bleeped her that you know personally and see regularly.

That's why a man MAY tolerate and even cherish a girl with 25 body counts made up of strange men that he DOESN'T know and that are no longer in the picture in any form. But the same man will NEVER look at a woman that has bleeped his cousin.

Both counts are more EMPHASIZED in a serious relationship than casual ones. That's why you were still able to let it go at the beginning of the relationship. You thought you might be able to hit it and quit it. But you developed feelings and started to think about your future together. That's why it's now causing you sleepless nights.

Anyway, the pain is that you REGULARLY see someone that has bleeped her before you did. You feel defrauded that he got to hammer your serious pussy before you did. You feel like you came in second place. Seeing the the guy CONSTANTLY rubs your nose in it. The feeling of being a loser latches on to you every time you see the guy.

Plus, you don't know the kind of sex they had. This guy might have bleeped your girl in MYRIADS of waya you cannot imagine. Did she deepthroat his dick or swallowed his cum. Maybe he bleeped her ANALLY. How many times?

He has explored EVERY part of your girls body. It's even worse when you consider the fact that they met in a church yet still chose to fornicate. So that means the guy has ZERO qualms about beating your girls pussy like someone that stole an iPhone 15 in Computer Village.

That relationship is forever TAINTED. You will NEVER be happy or content if you let your relationship get serious (that includes marriage). Imagine doing Thanksgiving for your wedding at a church where one of the "brothers" already BATTERED your new bride's pussy.

The pain!

Your options:

1. Dump the girl NOW. Dating 2 guys from the same church does not speak well of her character anyway.

2. Continue to Bleep her while you look for a girl that hasn't bleeped anyone you know. When you find one, DUMP the current girl. If you go this route, dial back your lovey-dovey.

3. Be a cuuck and continue the relationship. But NEVER forget that once a guy has bleeped a girl, he ALWAYS has a shortcut back to that pussy.

Remember this:

When a pussy and a diick with history are in close proximity, it's ONLY a matter of time before they collide. It's inevitable.

One day you will have a disagreement and she'll run to the nearby "brother". That one will offer her an emotional support dick and she'll gobble it with gratitude.

That is the future you're dealing with. Also DON'T say she's not like that. Church people who fornicate have a moral compass that is WORSE than that of a prostitute.

OP !! I think you have your answer here.

Follow this advice and your days shall be long

shaybebaby:

Why not? Can't change the past neither should you let it dictate the present and future.

The past has to be visited.

If you were man, who would provide for a woman. You would revisit the past. To know if she is worth being a wife.

If you can’t let go of her past, pls free her. As far as you didn’t meet your babe a virgin, she’s someone else’s “left over” like you said

And as for you op, if your not a virgin, your someone else’s “leftover”🙄🙄

pretydiva:

And as for you op, if your not a virgin, your someone else’s “leftover”🙄🙄

Lozz.. dey whine your life
Keep making your yourself happy shogbo

The sad reality is that all of them today are left overs of some men. The person you adore now was just a cum pit latrine for someone and sometimes, the 'someone' is a man that can't even talk to you without prostrating first which makes it the hardest to live with. If it's too much for you to handle, free yourself but if you could, then go ahead with your marriage plans but be ready to live with the issue as long as you continue to be with her. As for me, I see relationship and marriage as fraud. I can't spend thousands on brideprice and on wedding for someone that was fuccked mercilessly with a plate of noodles.

You're eating your fellow man's left over

Oga, how many girls you don sample before you meet her, and how many you don sample after you meet her?
This thing called "marriage" nor be for children, una nor dey hear.

Let her go before you kill her with your retroactive jealousy.

Read up on retroactive jealousy and heal yourself.

pvirus:
Sometimes last year i met this lady and we started dating a few months. The thing is she honestly summarized her past to me in the early days of the relationships; as i was madly in love, I didn’t bother to ask her for details. Several months later, talks and my personal curiosity led to me knowing the full details of the past, and since then it has been VERY tough for me to digest, been depressed.
The past is not that bad, just that she has been in three relationships before me (two of them are with people that i know in real life). The thoughts of her escapades in those relationships have just been disturbing my mind since then. One of her ex is someone we both always see every Sunday and since the revelation of the details, it has been tough for me to process that such person has sampled my woman before.
But in general, i love and find happiness in this woman. I kind of see the future with her. I want to be with her but this thought just disturbs me and mess with my head. I recently start seeing her as a leftover of some guys

I need yall advice on this dilemma that i am in. What should i do?

Namaster:
Most women know about body counts and how men view it, so they lie about it. That's why "your girl" admitted to just 3 relationships. Spoiler alert: her body count is MORE than that.

They know about body counts but they are yet to catch on about PROXIMITY COUNTS. That's the number of people that have bleeped her that you know personally and see regularly.

That's why a man MAY tolerate and even cherish a girl with 25 body counts made up of strange men that he DOESN'T know and that are no longer in the picture in any form. But the same man will NEVER look at a woman that has bleeped his cousin.

Both counts are more EMPHASIZED in a serious relationship than casual ones. That's why you were still able to let it go at the beginning of the relationship. You thought you might be able to hit it and quit it. But you developed feelings and started to think about your future together. That's why it's now causing you sleepless nights.

Anyway, the pain is that you REGULARLY see someone that has bleeped her before you did. You feel defrauded that he got to hammer your serious pussy before you did. You feel like you came in second place. Seeing the the guy CONSTANTLY rubs your nose in it. The feeling of being a loser latches on to you every time you see the guy.

Plus, you don't know the kind of sex they had. This guy might have bleeped your girl in MYRIADS of waya you cannot imagine. Did she deepthroat his dick or swallowed his cum. Maybe he bleeped her ANALLY. How many times?

He has explored EVERY part of your girls body. It's even worse when you consider the fact that they met in a church yet still chose to fornicate. So that means the guy has ZERO qualms about beating your girls pussy like someone that stole an iPhone 15 in Computer Village.

That relationship is forever TAINTED. You will NEVER be happy or content if you let your relationship get serious (that includes marriage). Imagine doing Thanksgiving for your wedding at a church where one of the "brothers" already BATTERED your new bride's pussy.

The pain!

Your options:

1. Dump the girl NOW. Dating 2 guys from the same church does not speak well of her character anyway.

2. Continue to Bleep her while you look for a girl that hasn't bleeped anyone you know. When you find one, DUMP the current girl. If you go this route, dial back your lovey-dovey.

3. Be a cuuck and continue the relationship. But NEVER forget that once a guy has bleeped a girl, he ALWAYS has a shortcut back to that pussy.

Remember this:

When a pussy and a diick with history are in close proximity, it's ONLY a matter of time before they collide. It's inevitable.

One day you will have a disagreement and she'll run to the nearby "brother". That one will offer her an emotional support dick and she'll gobble it with gratitude.

That is the future you're dealing with. Also DON'T say she's not like that. Church people who fornicate have a moral compass that is WORSE than that of a prostitute.

Jeez. This advice is strong o. Plus you sound like someone with first hand experience

jmoore:
I can understand a man who is a virgin being bothered about marrying a woman who is not a virgin.

I don't understand why a man who is not a virgin will be bothered about the bodycounts of a woman.

Are you ok?

Dog will bite you this weekend

jmoore:
I can understand a man who is a virgin being bothered about marrying a woman who is not a virgin.

I don't understand why a man who is not a virgin will be bothered about the bodycounts of a woman.

I think I inherited enough sense from my parents to know that If I'm gonna be paying someone's bride price, then it has to be someone who is worth it. Not a community kpekus.

We can talk about my body count when she's paying my dowry.