A woman shd be able to buy food for the house.

if she wants to be the modern wifey who isnt under the husband and want equal rights and all that they its only fair that she halves the family upkeep but if she s ok with the husband being the head and that then i reckon paying for food,bills and the husband taking care of the rent/mortgage,both taking care of the transportation expense with the husband paying more,

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Why is this even a question? Isn’t it THEIR home? Why does it have to be something you debate? How do you even debate it?

[I]“Honey, you pay 20% of the light and I will pay 80% of it but you will pay 67% of the water, since you take longer in the bathroom and you do dishes and I‘ll pay 33 because shower is in and out for me and I don‘t do dishes” [/I]

Why can’t they both just pay it as they see it? Say, she comes home, sees a bill for N100, she has it. . . She pays it and if it’s him who is aware of it first, he does the same. If either of them don’t have enough, just ask for the remainder from the other one. Simple.

This is why people need to understand that marriage is a PARTNERSHIP, not one person ruling over the other. Couples should do things TOGETHER to protect what concerns them. . . Upkeep of the house, taking care of the children, taking care of each other etc.

When we start breaking it down. . . You do this, I will do this, putting rules and regulations, it just makes marriage Harder than it already it.

BabyJinx abeg don't make me laugh. With everything you have to have a plan especially with money and the family. It does not have to be a strict plan but there MUST be a plan. It seems complicated because you have not tried it. Every few months we go through our plan and make sure everything is still working smoothly and if it is not we redo the whole thing over. The financial part of a marriage really has to be run LIKE a business partnership only this time with love involved.

These days, i come across a lot of women who are the bread winners, while the husbands sit back and wait to HIT IT BIG!Tats all good, cos u neva know 2morow, but what amazes me is that while these ladies spend half their days in the office, they still rush home to prepare dinner for hubby who gets home before them . Some Naija men no dey try at all. In the name of Culture they punish their wives . Is that love? You guys shud advise urselves, cruelty is not the way to go! I have a friend who earns more than her husband. She recently gave birth but was finding it difficult to get help when she got back to work. The husband refused to care, told her that she'd have to choose between her job and his kid and told her that it seems like she wasn't prepared for the marriage, haba! So you can see why some women will dump the whole burden of a family onto a guy, as his responsibility, becos when it comes to caring for the home, most Naija guys believe it's not their place to help out!

nothing.
she's a woman
let the man be the man

supoorted

its a equal partner ship. help were needed,

**osisi:

nothing.
she's a woman
let the man be the man

precisely.

let her resume her rightful place in the kitchen /bedroom

A man is only a man if he can provide for/cater for his family by our culture. However, I suPport Sistawoman and Chaircover idea where both husband & wife are working they could adopt a formula for paying bills, savings and spending allowance

that's the couple's business. If the man wants to be the only working goat, make he dey do am as far as he doesn't complain his wife is lazy.

It should be done on a case by case basis. Its difficult to generalize for every pairing.

A man should work towards being able to provide for his family without needing financial support from his wife. Still the wife should contribute as much as she is able as it will likely improve the standard of living of the family.

Most problems come from men who want to share the bill without relinquishing interest e.g.  later on start going on about 'my house' or 'my car' like if the woman has no say in it.

I believe in an open financial policy in marriage (not necessarily a joint account) in which initial income into the family is combined and jointly allocated, including funds for discretional disbursement by either party.