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Re: Wedding In Absentia Using Pictures: Your Take by dayokanu(m): 4:36pm On Aug 21, 2012 |
jennykadry: You mean you havent heard of people stuck in Obodo oyinbo and cant travel for 10-15yrs? I know some guys that havent been able to visit Nigeria since 1997. So you would say both parties shouldnt get married till then? |
Re: Wedding In Absentia Using Pictures: Your Take by Bawss1(m): 5:40pm On Aug 21, 2012 |
dayokanu: Then they should get married wherever they are. Picture marriages look pathetic however you try to cut it. |
Re: Wedding In Absentia Using Pictures: Your Take by dayokanu(m): 5:42pm On Aug 21, 2012 |
Bawss1: What of the traditional part in Nigeria between both families? Different people have different peculiar circumstance in their lives and I wont go berate them for doing whatever they think its best given their circumstance |
Re: Wedding In Absentia Using Pictures: Your Take by Tudor6(f): 6:04pm On Aug 21, 2012 |
See wahala oo. Why una no just mind una business. All my past 4 weddings were conducted in absentia. Recently divorced hope to seal another one soon ![]() |
Re: Wedding In Absentia Using Pictures: Your Take by kokoye(m): 6:14pm On Aug 21, 2012 |
I personally dont agree with sitting beside a picture. I believe you can have an introduction without having to 'take a picture with you sitting beside a picture'. Having said that, I see nothing wrong with having an introduction in absentia...especially when both of you are together wherever you are and it's just your parents that are doing the introduction. All is well that ends well |
Re: Wedding In Absentia Using Pictures: Your Take by coogar: 6:37pm On Aug 21, 2012 |
jennykadry: chaircover: some people actually believe postponing a wedding is bad luck....i do too so rather than postpone it, picture wedding or a video conference can suffice! marriage is not a ceremony, it's the coming together of a man and a woman to live happily ever after! so i say yes to picture wedding - although i understand why women wouldn't - wedding is a showboating day for them but to most men, it's......"can we get this over already?" |
Re: Wedding In Absentia Using Pictures: Your Take by SisiKill1: 7:32pm On Aug 21, 2012 |
But Coogar, you'd have to be aware of your situation before setting a date to postpone. So if one of the parties knows they won't be able to make the wedding, why set a date that will be considered bad luck if postponed?! |
Re: Wedding In Absentia Using Pictures: Your Take by coogar: 8:09pm On Aug 21, 2012 |
Sisi_Kill: But Coogar, you'd have to be aware of your situation before setting a date to postpone. So if one of the parties knows they won't be able to make the wedding, why set a date that will be considered bad luck if postponed?! sisikill, shyte happens now...... i know a couple that missed their wedding cos the home office lost their travel documents! they weren't notified until after 14 weeks when the couple made enquiries.....shyte can happen! |
Re: Wedding In Absentia Using Pictures: Your Take by dayokanu(m): 8:22pm On Aug 21, 2012 |
Some places in Nigeria give very high regards to traditional wedding, In a case where both ppl cant travel to Nigeria due to Immigration issue which no one knows when it might be resolved, what do you suggest they do in such instance |
Re: Wedding In Absentia Using Pictures: Your Take by coogar: 8:26pm On Aug 21, 2012 |
dayokanu: Some places in Nigeria give very high regards to traditional wedding, In a case where both ppl cant travel to Nigeria due to Immigration issue which no one knows when it might be resolved, what do you suggest they do in such instance send the statues of the couple--- |
Re: Wedding In Absentia Using Pictures: Your Take by dayokanu(m): 8:29pm On Aug 21, 2012 |
coogar: Statues are still not flesh and bone, maybe they should travel at all cost for the wedding and jeopardize the rest of their lives |
Re: Wedding In Absentia Using Pictures: Your Take by coogar: 8:35pm On Aug 21, 2012 |
dayokanu: sisikill would rather have the wedding in nigeria than wait for any british consulate to dictate her fate. you can always tell from her comments shes an "aso-ebi" lover. ![]() |
Re: Wedding In Absentia Using Pictures: Your Take by SisiKill1: 3:07pm On Aug 23, 2012 |
coogar: Yes with my shared goat meat. . .thank you very much!! ![]() |
Re: Wedding In Absentia Using Pictures: Your Take by Nobody: 3:14pm On Aug 23, 2012 |
It's tacky, but I'd help them eat their jollof rice. ![]() Can't do it, though. I mean, if he's paid the brideprice, both families have met, bla bla, must I tie gele and throw a ceremony to know I'm married? |
Re: Wedding In Absentia Using Pictures: Your Take by Kobojunkie: 3:18pm On Aug 23, 2012 |
dayokanu: I am confused. The guy is stuck in the Obodo Oyinbo and the girl is stuck in Nigeria. How is the marriage going to work? 1 Like |
Re: Wedding In Absentia Using Pictures: Your Take by free2ryhme: 3:35pm On Aug 23, 2012 |
Tgirl4real: I have heard about families conducting marriage ceremonies with the images (photos) of their children because they couldn't come down for the ceremony. I have also heard of situations where the woman gets married to the guy's pix or d guy's brother cos he couldn't make it. One man's meat is another man's poison. Your opinion is not important as long as does involve are comfortable with it you can remain unmarried for all they care.. abi you get husband for the babe ni ![]() ![]() ![]() |
Re: Wedding In Absentia Using Pictures: Your Take by Nobody: 3:39pm On Aug 23, 2012 |
I no sm1 dat did her traditional too with the hubby in abstencia. Marriage is abt two hearts............ Usually its nt the bride or groom dat bring abt the pix tin but majorly the family so evryone arnd can see wat dey luk like. N its high time pple realise dat wedding ceremonies r for the parents/ family in naija while the marriage is for the couple. If dey r okay wit it den wats oda pples biz? Alot who did it neva for once dey will until den".............so all u pple saying God forbid "NEVER SAY NEVER"! |
Re: Wedding In Absentia Using Pictures: Your Take by Ndata(m): 3:41pm On Aug 23, 2012 |
No, the girl has greater chance to go and meet the guy,but the guy can't come home because he might not be able to travel back because he hasn't got residence permit or green card.In fact he is illegal in Obodo Oyibo.I have a friend in such a predicament now. |
Re: Wedding In Absentia Using Pictures: Your Take by meine: 3:51pm On Aug 23, 2012 |
I know the girl in the recent picture that has been circulating. We used to be very close. The guy is a US naval officer who wont be able to come home for some years so the girl was just trying to please both families who feels the girl would travel to yankee without showing respect to them. That was her reason for doing the absentia thing. The guy should be like 5 years older than the girl. I dont know if i can do such though cos i will simply tell the bagger to go to hell,i am a sucker for african traditions. But i am not in the girl's'shoes and neither are we. Whoever hasnt sinned should cast the first stone. |
Re: Wedding In Absentia Using Pictures: Your Take by Tolaaaaannni(f): 4:22pm On Aug 23, 2012 |
They actually did that for the introduction of my cousin, because her husband couldn't make it then (He was in abroad) it didn't feel weird, it was just like a normal introduction. We didn't even miss the husband at all ![]() |
Re: Wedding In Absentia Using Pictures: Your Take by dayokanu(m): 4:29pm On Aug 23, 2012 |
Kobojunkie: Both scenarios for those that believe traditional wedding is a must (Most nigerians actually) Scenario 1. Guy stuck abroad, Girl can travel to meet him later Scenario 2: Both girl and guy stuck abroad and the families think No marriage can go ahead without the trad wedding |
Re: Wedding In Absentia Using Pictures: Your Take by Nobody: 4:45pm On Aug 23, 2012 |
Re: Wedding In Absentia Using Pictures: Your Take by marabout(m): 4:45pm On Aug 23, 2012 |
It depends. in some naija cultures, it happens for many reasons. One reason is for example a man and woman meet in USA and have just done white wedding there. Assuming the lady or man's status needs to be sorted (as one is a citizen there)and documents are with authorities. Meanwhile bride price has not been paid in Naija. Getting status sorted is more important in the short-term than traditional marriage. Then the lady's dad dies in Naija. The father-in-laws' family will not accept the man's contribution to the funeral (something no daughter wants to happen), except the traditional marriage is done quick. But both cannot go. The best option is to do it in absentia. I have seen a few similar cases like that from South-South. Yes if you are in Naija marrying your childhood sweetheart and your parents are all there, you may never know this. Travelling abroad has thrown up many situations that require flexibility. |
Re: Wedding In Absentia Using Pictures: Your Take by Nobody: 4:58pm On Aug 23, 2012 |
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Re: Wedding In Absentia Using Pictures: Your Take by Nobody: 4:59pm On Aug 23, 2012 |
Hell nah, na so person go marry mad man without knowing |
Re: Wedding In Absentia Using Pictures: Your Take by SisiKill1: 5:05pm On Aug 23, 2012 |
Dlyna. . .is that you in the picture? |
Re: Wedding In Absentia Using Pictures: Your Take by Tolaaaaannni(f): 5:09pm On Aug 23, 2012 |
Ileke-IdI: ![]() ![]() ![]() |
Re: Wedding In Absentia Using Pictures: Your Take by Nobody: 5:12pm On Aug 23, 2012 |
Tolaaaaannni: My sister, it may take 1 day to diagnose mental illness. It may take 1 day for a person to snap. Imagine if they havent seen each other for 2 years? They guy is talking mad on the phone while the woman go think say na Americanna he dey talk. |
Re: Wedding In Absentia Using Pictures: Your Take by Tolaaaaannni(f): 5:14pm On Aug 23, 2012 |
Ileke-IdI: Lol so true. 2 years does make a difference. |
Re: Wedding In Absentia Using Pictures: Your Take by nic121: 5:23pm On Aug 23, 2012 |
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Re: Wedding In Absentia Using Pictures: Your Take by stanley095(m): 5:34pm On Aug 23, 2012 |
fellis:now u knw. If u like play away with ur time |
Re: Wedding In Absentia Using Pictures: Your Take by floridam(m): 5:36pm On Aug 23, 2012 |
TCD: I think you people wrongly assume the act of marriage is the "ceremony". Its not. Its from the heart, a promise you make from the depths of your soul and spirit whether it be by phone, or telegraph. The ceremony is just for show, to let people know we're officially married, to have witnesses or for the legal system to issue certificate. so doesn't matter if its a stick that represents the bride or groom in that wedding party.Oga abi baby TDC, you have made a point about marriage being an agreement or exchange of vows between 2 people wether by mail or telegraph but where I disagree with u is in the area of being married to a stick or carrot on the day of the event. Marriage to an African man like me will be a thing of joy and happiness seeing my daughter standing with the groom receiving prayers from me and not a stick, carrot or a photograph instead. It also is an act of respect for the other family seeing the better half of their child standing and not a stick. Abi na the guy go first travel go abroad? |
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