that na ruff play oh!

A friend of mine is about to do the same thing, all effort to discourage him from doing so has proved abbortive. He says he's in love and wants to do what the girl wants. I dnt like such wedding.mtcheeeEeeeeeew

Dlyna: [img][/img]

Na joke be this.The lady is just desperate. Maybe the guy dey prison.Make she kiss the picture and give am wine to drink. Yeye people.

TCD: I think you people wrongly assume the act of marriage is the "ceremony". Its not. Its from the heart, a promise you make from the depths of your soul and spirit whether it be by phone, or telegraph. The ceremony is just for show, to let people know we're officially married, to have witnesses or for the legal system to issue certificate. so doesn't matter if its a stick that represents the bride or groom in that wedding party.

I doubt God cares about your marriage certificate or wedding ceremony. God does not need any signed witnesses, because he was right there with you two. Once two people "agree" to be married and exchange vows to that effect, weather by phone or email, undersea or in space, in jail or mortuary, they are seen by God as married. You don't need a priest, judge, lawyer or parents to be married in the sight of God. After all two people can agree in prayer, make vows or covenants with God in their basements and God takes it as valid.

If you need a ceremony and party to validate the connection you and your spouse have and bond you into marriage maybe you shouldn't be getting married. Most times, you know the heart of someone not by what they say in a public gathering, but what they say to you when you're all alone gazing deeply into each other's eyes.

TCD with all due respect, your view or marriage is totally wrong. Anywhere in the whole world either secular or religious marriage, the ordinance has to be witnessed by at least two people. However, It doesn't have to be open or public. The issue of heart is of God. How can you know the heart of a human being? How do you know when he/she says no and she/he meant it. Human feelings change from time to time. marriage has to be witnessed. All cultures attest to this. My opinion about the issue of picture is that it depends on the situation. The other partner might not have the opportunity to come for the wedding, perhaps he/she is in abroad and does not have paper to come home. However, they must have known each other before departure. I think it is insane to marry by proxy somebody you have never talked to face to face.

one word-Rubbish
another one-bullshi*
summary-complete nonsense

jennykadry:

Then they are not ready to be married. If they cannot make things happen, then they are not ready to get married. Is the man in prison? Are they dead?can't they do it in whichever country where they are based? is it by force to do it in Nigeria? If it will take 10 years to make that convenient time then honestly i propose they just move on with their lives and with someone else.

Sup man, Im assuming you aitn been out of that country b4 so U av no IDEA,in some countries dont you know you need permit to marry? lol , and you even have to pay for them permit some times ago

frond:

TCD with all due respect, your view or marriage is totally wrong. Anywhere in the whole world either secular or religious marriage, the ordinance has to be witnessed by at least two people. However, It doesn't have to be open or public. The issue of heart is of God. How can you know the heart of a human being? How do you know when he/she says no and she/he meant it. Human feelings change from time to time. marriage has to be witnessed. All cultures attest to this. My opinion about the issue of picture is that it depends on the situation. The other partner might not have the opportunity to come for the wedding, perhaps he/she is in abroad and does not have paper to come home. However, they must have known each other before departure. I think it is insane to marry by proxy somebody you have never talked to face to face.

I agree with you in most things you said here but that's on MORAL grounds, but who are we to question the moralities of others.The bit I disagree, they don't need to know each other, its part of the so called arranged marriage which is largely practiced in asia etc, its even accepted in England as a form of marriage.SO its no big deal.

To the two people posting the pictures. . .Are either of you the Bride or the Groom? If you are not, then I don't think it is right to post the pix. . . We know what a "Photograph Wedding" looks like, so what is your point?

Everyone has said what they would do and why. . .doesn't mean one way is righter than the other, so posting this picture for the sole purpose of mocking the girl in the picture is just wrong. See people already calling her names when they have no idea what went down.

I hope you find enough human decency in you to take the pictures down.

Marriage by force? I didn't know such things happened. Interesting. It's silly though! It's kind of weird too. Reminds me of wake keeping and funerals when they hold the departed's photo up. I wouldn't have such a wedding. But everyone is different I guess.

Sisi_Kill: To the two people posting the pictures. . .Are either of you the Bride or the Groom? If you are not, then I don't think it is right to post the pix. . . We know what a "Photograph Wedding" looks like, so what is your point?

Every has said what they would do and why. . .doesn't mean one way is righter than the other, so posting this picture for the sole purpose of mocking the girl in the picture is just wrong. See people already calling her names when they have no idea what went down.

I hope you find enough human decency in you to take the pictures down.

Thats just to show you how shallow minded people are,mayB they are kids on here or something,I wonder why the Moderator/Admin is still leaving the photos ON

The family section has no mods. Didn't you guys know?

C'mon remove those pictures o'sisor!!!

Haha naija poeple and thier mouth cheii!!
a singer said " travel and see" most of u vomiting all the eba u swallowed have not even cross ghana not to talk of Euro or Usa. no insult.. And some of u girls in abroad ranting like hungry poppy about trad and weeding just because u are enjoying the labour of your papa or whoever that watered the ground before u stepped in.. haha. wait until u wear thesame shoes that the lady or the guy is wearing then come back here and tell us how far...mgbo mgbo paipukwanu isi...

cuteonyii: Haha naija poeple and thier mouth cheii!!
a singer said " travel and see" most of u vomiting all the eba u swallowed have not even cross ghana not to talk of Euro or Usa. no insult.. And some of u girls in abroad ranting like hungry poppy about trad and weeding just because u are enjoying the labour of your papa or whoever that watered the ground before u stepped in.. haha. wait until u wear thesame shoes that the lady or the guy is wearing then come back here and tell us how far...mgbo mgbo paipukwanu isi...

You just dey know naija ppl?

Na dem dey sabi pass

dayokanu:

You just dey know naija ppl?

Na dem dey sabi pass

Whispering

Please can you translate what he said into regular people language?

A lady did traditional wedding in absentia with my cousin there in Nigeria, my cousin wedded another......

This is an example

Missy_B: Not my thing!
Starting something as serious as marriage with such unseriousness shouldn't even be permitted.

You are still young and beautiful. Wait until you are 45 and still single, you can even agree to marry a dead man.
I have learnt not to say what i would do in situations i have not been into.

NN

Ndata: No, the girl has greater chance to go and meet the guy,but the guy can't come home because he might not be able to travel back because he hasn't got residence permit or green card.In fact he is illegal in Obodo Oyibo.I have a friend in such a predicament now.

Let them suspend the marriage until both are conveniently ready. Why all the haste? If the guy hasn't gotten his footing yet in abroad...no papers, then why is he bent on getting a wife? Chill out YOUNG MAN...get your papers first. If you need a woman to sleep with they are a lot of them there. You an continue doing this until you get your papers and ready, then you can discuss life partner.

Sam Milla:

You are still young and beautiful. Wait until you are 45 and still single, you can even agree to marry a dead man.
I have learnt not to say what i would do in situations i have not been into.

It's so sad you people stop living at a certain age.
Where I'm from, as long as there's life, there's hope, and both life and hope should be characterized by dignity not desperation.

Missy_B:
It's so sad you people stop living at a certain age.
Where I'm from, as long as there's life, there's hope, and both life and hope should be characterized by dignity not desperation.

Marry me!

In most cases, it's because the girls are desperate for obodo Oyinbo. They don't just do it in absentsia, the also do it without any prior physical meeting with obodo Oyinbo guys.

I know a girl who did it but she's still in Naija. With her 2nd husband lol


Effing desperadoes.

chamotex:

Marry me!

Cha mo tex
This must be your ghost . . . I'm just 16, and I intend to start marrying ghosts at 85. . . You'll have to wait.
[size=4pt][s]Where on God's green Earth have you been hiding?[/s][/size]

Missy_B:
It's so sad you people stop living at a certain age.
Where I'm from, as long as there's life, there's hope, and both life and hope should be characterized by dignity not desperation.

@16, do you really know the meaning of dignity?
Close your eyes and picture yourself at 55 without child and husband , do you still wanna talk about hope?

Missy_B:
Cha mo tex
This must be your ghost . . . I'm just 16, and I intend to start marrying ghosts at 85. . . You'll have to wait.
[size=4pt][s]Where on God's green Earth have you been hiding?[/s][/size]

Just send me your picture, leave the rest to me.
[size=4pt]I've missed you sha[/size]

chamotex:

Marry me!

Chamo still on Missy's tail after how many years!!!

Missy_B:
Cha mo tex
This must be your ghost . . . I'm just 16, and I intend to start marrying ghosts at 85. . . You'll have to wait.
[s]Where on God's green Earth have you been hiding?[/s]

He doesn't ever leave that his sport section. I miss d good ol' days.

Sam Milla:

You are still young and beautiful. Wait until you are 45 and still single, you can even agree to marry a dead man.
I have learnt not to say what i would do in situations i have not been into.

Sam Milla, where on earth have you been?

Sam Milla:

@16, do you really know the meaning of dignity?
Close your eyes and picture yourself at 55 without child and husband , do you still wanna talk about hope?

Some of us were privileged to have been raised in a family in which things are done with total dignity, and you can't blame us for emulating those great teachers, neither can you hold me responsible for the Sam Millas who have no idea what the word means due to deprivation of the aforementioned privilege, and hence, think no one else should.

chamotex:

Just send me your picture, leave the rest to me.
[size=4pt]I've missed you sha[/size]

I'm not photogenic. . . .Would a picture of my dog do; it is, after all, my possession? Say no at the risk of having no other option but a dead body
[size=3pt]Miss you too o . . .You abandoned me[/size]

Tgirl4real:
He doesn't ever leave that his sport section. I miss d good ol' days.

Can you imagine! We've been on the same NL and I haven't seen his posts in ages.
Who doesn't, my dear, who doesn't?!

@tgirl, i have been here and there. i love traveling and thats what i have been doing.
Hope you are fine.

Shaw007: one word-Rubbish
another one-bullshi*
summary-complete nonsense

lol

Tgirl4real:

Chamo still on Missy's tail after how many years!!!



He doesn't ever leave that his sport section. I miss d good ol' days.

Don't mind Missy, she's been chasing me up and down.

Missy_B:
I'm not photogenic. . . .Would a picture of my dog do; it is, after all, my possession? Say no at the risk of having no other option but a dead body
[size=3pt]Miss you too o . . .You abandoned me[/size]

Send that my fav one

@Tgirl

Please can you list reasons why people adopt this method?
I'm trying hard to think of any valid reason.

ronkebp: A lady did traditional wedding in absentia with my cousin there in Nigeria, my cousin wedded another......

your cousin is guilty of bigamy!
the dude needs to be manually castrated by an androgynist!