To answer your question, my husband waited for me for a year and a half and we only did it after our wedding. Not because we are religious. We are not. But because I was not ready and he knew I am "unpersuad-able". Married over a year now, first baby almost here. Life is good. Doesn't mean life won't be good for those who are ready and up to it. But its not "everybody" that does it before marriage. So if u are ready, fine. If u are not, fine. But please, don't do it cos u think everyone is doing o. Abeg.

Ayee Idris: To answer your question, my husband waited for me for a year and a half and we only did it after our wedding. Not because we are religious. We are not. But because I was not ready and he knew I am "unpersuad-able". Married over a year now, first baby almost here. Life is good. Doesn't mean life won't be good for those who are ready and up to it. But its not "everybody" that does it before marriage. So if u are ready, fine. If u are not, fine. But please, don't do it cos u think everyone is doing o. Abeg.

Thanks for addressing the question

Ayee Idris: To answer your question, my husband waited for me for a year and a half and we only did it after our wedding. Not because we are religious. We are not. But because I was not ready and he knew I am "unpersuad-able". Married over a year now, first baby almost here. Life is good. Doesn't mean life won't be good for those who are ready and up to it. But its not "everybody" that does it before marriage. So if u are ready, fine. If u are not, fine. But please, don't do it cos u think everyone is doing o. Abeg.

Thanks for addressing the issue ma'am.

Some answers

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Sex, no sex has no way of determining the outcome of a marriage.it all had wit partners involved in a rlship, if u guys can come to an agreement of nt having it b4 marriage nd it works thumbs up nd if it doesn't wrk no Shit. Afterall most of us aren't even Virgins before we met so WTF.

cold:
Bullshyt!Abstain from sex and eventually discover i've been dating a log or a 'it's a missionary or nothing' personality.Hell no!No sex,no marriage.Simples

what if you have s.ex with her before marriage and discover she is a"log", you will abandon her right? Is that love? I think it is selfishness.

@ topic.I didn't have se.x with my wife until after our wedding.S.ex serves as a final bond that consummates the marriage. If you have sex with your fiancee or gf, what if you end up not marrying them you have tied your self with some one who will eventually not share your destiny with you. I dont have time to give other consequences of premarital sex apart from the most dangeruos of all: hell fire, unless you repent(believe it or not).let me say for the purpose of this thread that not everyone is doing it. Enough said.

No pokeys for me until I said I do.

Just discovered from this thread that most Nigerians are liars and pretenders. If all the people here are against pre marital sex, then who is doing it. Seems to me all nairalanders are virgins or were virgins before marriage.
Hmm very doubtful indeed.

uyiekpenm: Just discovered from this thread that most Nigerians are liars and pretenders. If all the people here are against pre marital sex, then who is doing it. Seems to me all nairalanders are virgins or were virgins before marriage.
Hmm very doubtful indeed.

I am a virgin.....but i heard sex feels goooooooooood.

Mrs.Chima:


I am a virgin.....but i heard sex feels goooooooooood.

k

Anyway, the whole relationship and marriage thing is a big headache considering the present society we leave in, people have become more insincere.
A girl that is far from being a virgin is holding my guy to ransom with "no sex till marriage" issue
how is he sure she is not doing it with someone else, trust is an issue here. The same girl is demanding heaven and earth as if they are already married or he is the father.
if a girl is dating a guy that is ready for marriage and she is a virgin, a reasonable guy will wait.

What does your Bible say about that? Get the answer from your Bible. Thanks sir/ma.

gree-die:
D assumption dat sex is a sign of love is often times a wrong one. Sex creates a certain bond nd perhaps dats wat some mistake to be love. Most ple believe love goes hand in hand wit sex but not necessarily. U can convince ur man dat u love him by doin tins ple in love do, go out of ur way to please him but stop short of sex. Tell him u want to wait til u wed nd give him reasons.

If he is worried abt ur ability to satisfy him, well all pussies r d same, its ow u use it. Tell him havin sex wont make urs magical, its ur ability to learn tru readin, watchin nd practicin in marriage.

If he argues dat he is sacred u may leave him, well sex wont make u stay.

If he is concerned abt ur fertility, well sex wont perform any miracle but medical examination nd treatment if necessary can fix d problem, drag him to a hospital

nd it he argues dat since u r goin to tie d knots soon so havin sex b4 wont make a difference, well argue back dat not havin sex wont make a difference either.

Make him see reasons nd do it lovingly. If he loves u, he ll bring d date a lil closer, not run

u re talking nonsense,sex is just excercise-part of living.most girls have no sexual feelings because they are circumcised...white girls get turned on easily cos they dont do circumcision.we are created to be sexually active.

tpia1:


Gosh, that statement is shocking.

its true,cos most naija girls are dull-their mind is hardly on constructive things-too lazy for that.

gree-die:
. Lol..... In my defense, kitty wasn't d exact word I used but yea!... Or ve u ever heard dat any k***y has honey init?

some kitty got akamu,some got juice,some got peak milk and some got just dirty water...lots of difference girl.

all4Him: @ topic.I didn't have se.x with my wife until after our wedding.S.ex serves as a final bond that consummates the marriage. If you have sex with your fiancee or gf, what if you end up not marrying them you have tied your self with some one who will eventually not share your destiny with you. I dont have time to give other consequences of premarital sex apart from the most dangeruos of all: hell fire, unless you repent(believe it or not).let me say for the purpose of this thread that not everyone is doing it. Enough said.

fucking risky,what if the ish is filled with akamu or dirty water...omo abeg ooh.

Ayee Idris: To answer your question, my husband waited for me for a year and a half and we only did it after our wedding. Not because we are religious. We are not. But because I was not ready and he knew I am "unpersuad-able". Married over a year now, first baby almost here. Life is good. Doesn't mean life won't be good for those who are ready and up to it. But its not "everybody" that does it before marriage. So if u are ready, fine. If u are not, fine. But please, don't do it cos u think everyone is doing o. Abeg.

Ladies if you pussy aint good enough,your man wont tell you-he will silently look for some other girl with some sweet pussy to be fucking on the side.

Mynd_44:
I thought churches dont marry couple if the bride was pregnant. At least the anglicans and the catholic churches dont

guy you just messed up by mentioning those churches that allow gays...what is your point?

God gave a law and mere mortals stand not only to break the law but to teach others to do same.Be ready to prove your point on that day as to why your ideology should supersede that of the creator.

dederocs:
u re talking nonsense,sex is just excercise-part of living.most girls have no sexual feelings because they are circumcised...white girls get turned on easily cos they dont do circumcision.we are created to be sexually active.

dederocs:
some kitty got akamu,some got juice,some got peak milk and some got just dirty water...lots of difference girl.

ok. o

i think it's the opposite. you can't have sex to prove your love. you have to prove your love before you have sex jare

I will comment on the last part of ur article.

Don't you think if a man tries to bring the wedding plans closer than necessary, he's acting under duress? And for me its not normal. I know many guys that's done this only to rush out of the relationship eventually.

For me its what u make of the sex issue, its not a big deal at all. Sex after marriage or not, a perfectly engineered relationship will stand the test of time.

gree-die:
D assumption dat sex is a sign of love is often times a wrong one. Sex creates a certain bond nd perhaps dats wat some mistake to be love. Most ple believe love goes hand in hand wit sex but not necessarily. U can convince ur man dat u love him by doin tins ple in love do, go out of ur way to please him but stop short of sex. Tell him u want to wait til u wed nd give him reasons.

If he is worried abt ur ability to satisfy him, well all pussies r d same, its ow u use it. Tell him havin sex wont make urs magical, its ur ability to learn tru readin, watchin nd practicin in marriage.

If he argues dat he is sacred u may leave him, well sex wont make u stay.

If he is concerned abt ur fertility, well sex wont perform any miracle but medical examination nd treatment if necessary can fix d problem, drag him to a hospital

nd it he argues dat since u r goin to tie d knots soon so havin sex b4 wont make a difference, well argue back dat not havin sex wont make a difference either.

Make him see reasons nd do it lovingly. If he loves u, he ll bring d date a lil closer, not run

vandarsar: I will comment on the last part of ur article.

Don't you think if a man tries to bring the wedding plans closer than necessary, he's acting under duress? And for me its not normal. I know many guys that's done this only to rush out of the relationship eventually.

For me its what u make of the sex issue, its not a big deal at all. Sex after marriage or not, a perfectly engineered relationship will stand the test of time.

lyk i said sex is a big issue or that d plans should be brought closer than necessary??

190-the-clown:

190!!!! wetin carry u come here?

goofie:

some guys can kill u 4 saying that

Let them try it.

cold:
Bullshyt!Abstain from sex and eventually discover i've been dating a log or a 'it's a missionary or nothing' personality.Hell no!No sex,no marriage.Simples

Yeah, I feel you. What can we do? Life is a risk and two wrongs won't make a right. The sex thing is just wrong before marriage.

Mynd_44: While I am not part of the no sex before marriage crew or no sex no marriage sew, I think these days, sex has become over rated.
If you wanna have sex do so but dont do it to show that you love someone. Its just silly as a lot of people dont give an eff about one another and they have sex

Interesting.