mashnino:

and you think it's a must for the other captain to accept?

in marriage dey re both co-pilots

& y den shd she agree 2 hisabeg I dey go sleep,I do need my beauty sleep u know

50calibre:

I can't resort to violence against a woman, it's not my way of doing things.

There are many effective non-lethal ways of dealing with a stubborn wife that will have a bigger impact than being beaten up.

don't mind if you share..

could learn one or two things before i get there

Mynd_44:
which do I do first? Get a dictionary or check her profile

Pick up your face so that you can make the next move .

50calibre:

Africa is in poverty due to the effects colonialism, imperialism and most of all corruption has had on Africa.

Please remember that in Africa, a man pays a dowry on the head of a woman unlike western culture where no such exists, many men arent even bread winners in the family. That's what many people don't realize.

Im making efforts to be very successful so I can cater for my family in any capacity regardless of whether my wife chooses to
work or not. So I expect absolute silence when I tell her to shut up.

Wow! not like that nah. You called her wife. A 2nd half of you. Dont marry her if she is naughty. Take ur time.

I like you for your financial prudence. I dont need a woman's money either. Let her make up wit it if necessary.

cdamsel: in marriage dey re both co-pilots

& y den shd she agree 2 hisabeg I dey go sleep,I do need my beauty sleep u know

to save ya self the stress..

don't get married or better still look for a white man but as far as africa is involved..

my dear..you have no choice than to listen to what your husband have to say..

no let am turn u to mumu.. listen and reason

cdamsel: wetin u chop dis 9t,abeg e don do

Garri as usual.

Thanks for caring.

Mynd_44:
Well at least we now know you believe in being a dictator at home and yet when the government take away your right to free speech, you start making noise. At least they are also protecting you and giving you electricity and health care and other rubbish.

Hahaha! Are you speaking if the nigerian government? Because they don't provide security, health care or even electricity for anyone, and even if they did, it's the taxpayers money.

Mrs.Chima:


Many of your brothers have claimed to be christians and love quoting the bible while they have failed miserably when the same bible said...a house divided against thyself failed. Now if they are going to quote the bible...they need to quote everything in the bible not pick and choose what suits them.

What happens when the manager and assistant manager do not work together and communicate effectively? The company goes out of business!

We are all so quick to quote the Bible but we always forget that "God saw that it was not good for man to be alone and he created an helper for him"
can some please translate to the Bible folks what helper means?

Someone to help you make decisions

50calibre:

I can't resort to violence against a woman, it's not my way of doing things.

There are many effective non-lethal ways of dealing with a stubborn wife that will have a bigger impact than being beaten up.

u don't resort 2 phy violence bt u can resort 2 verbal?

Didn't d bible say our actions can cause others 2 sin?wat if 1day she kill herseld cos of ur chauvinism?think about dat dear

okpara ugo:

It does. Better tell urself the truth on time. Read ur bible. When your husband stamps his feet after a heated arguement, get up and stamp urs.

Not every man is Mr China..

You are right not every man is Mr. Chima because he is a man that knows his role and handles his house. He doesn't need to treat me like his child and treats me like his wife. He demands respect while he give respect. He doesn't need to quote bibles, korans, and torahs just to get his needs met. He simply inform me of his needs and ask me of my needs and we equally please one another.

When my husband speaks...I listen and when I speak..he listen and we come to an understanding of where we should go and no drama ensue for we have communicated our opinions and nothing beats an united front. If he makes a great point...he receive 100% support from me and if I see something that is not realistic...I will voice my opinion because any decisions my husband make...affect the whole family. I have every right to voice my opinion if I must accept the aftermath of his decisions.

So you are right...not all men are like Mr. Chima. Not all ladies can be blessed with such man.

50calibre:

Hahaha! Are you speaking if the nigerian government? Because they don't provide security, health care or even electricity for anyone, and even if they did, it's the taxpayers money.

Actually, its the same thing. The government works hard to generate these funds and works extra hard to provide these amenities you use and so, they have the right to tell you to stop up just as you have the right to tell your wife to shut up cos you provide her with amenities such as housing, food and clothing

the moment you bring religion into this thing..

the moment you get confuse

The Bible is the quintessential guide to morality, they said; the Bible actively supports the subjugation of the female, they never said.

"But I would have you know, that the head of every man is Christ; and the head of the woman is the man; and the head of Christ is God." (I Corinthians 11:3)
"For the man is not of the woman; but the woman of the man. Neither was the man created for the woman; but the woman for the man." (I Corinthians 11:8-9)
"Let the women learn in silence with all subjection. But I suffer not a woman to teach, nor to usurp authority over the man, but to be in silence. For Adam was first formed, then Eve. And Adam was not deceived, but the woman being deceived was in the transgression." (I Timothy 2:11-14)
“Wives, submit to your husbands as to the Lord.” (Ephesians 5:22)

cdamsel: whoever has d better soln,was dat so hard 2 figure outits chima 2 start wit

U sure u re ok?so because he stamps his feet I shd run under d bed abi??wat did he den marry me 4?baby machine abi cook abi slavepark well if u no get anytin reasonable 2 say

I didnt call anyone's name so dont quote me wrong but you will meet real life issues. I wont be there. Am talking about married women not you. (mrs china).

Mrs.Chima:


There is a ship captain and staff captain, there is a president and vice president, there is manager and assistant manager, and there is regional manager and a district manager. What does all of them have in common? They depend on each other!

What is supposed to happen during decision making time Teach me because I am dying to know the "African way" of making decisions.

I'm very glad you cited this example, at least this solves it all.

A president and vice-president can brain storm for ideas and solutions but it is up to the president to either take or discard his vice's opinion as the final decision lies with the president.

The president has the absolute right to impose his decision on his vice and a vice who chooses to rebel will be charged or impeached.

mashnino:

to save ya self the stress..

don't get married or better still look for a white man but as far as africa is involved..

my dear..you have no choice than to listen to what your husband have to say..

no let am turn u to mumu.. listen and reason

nd some1 liked dis?

Y wldnt I get marriedit def won't b a white man either

It wld b 1 who wld respect my views just as much as I wld respect his,he wld accept my views if it is d beta 1 & I wld step aside wen he is making a beta judgement

I wish u both d marriages u desire,4 me God knows wat I am looking 4,which by d way I ve found already
SHIKENA

claremont: The Bible is the quintessential guide to morality, they said; the Bible actively supports the subjugation of the female, they never said.

"But I would have you know, that the head of every man is Christ; and the head of the woman is the man; and the head of Christ is God." (I Corinthians 11:3)
"For the man is not of the woman; but the woman of the man. Neither was the man created for the woman; but the woman for the man." (I Corinthians 11:8-9)
"Let the women learn in silence with all subjection. But I suffer not a woman to teach, nor to usurp authority over the man, but to be in silence. For Adam was first formed, then Eve. And Adam was not deceived, but the woman being deceived was in the transgression." (I Timothy 2:11-14)
“Wives, submit to your husbands as to the Lord.” (Ephesians 5:22)

I guess you miss the part where someone said all those were the opinions of the writer ie John, peter, Paul etc and not God himself.
Heck those were their personal opinions so why should I live my live by what a guy who lived 2000 years ago wrote down?

mashnino: the moment you bring religion into this thing..

the moment you get confuse

I agree!

claremont: The Bible is the quintessential guide to morality, they said; the Bible actively supports the subjugation of the female, they never said.

"But I would have you know, that the head of every man is Christ; and the head of the woman is the man; and the head of Christ is God." (I Corinthians 11:3)
"For the man is not of the woman; but the woman of the man. Neither was the man created for the woman; but the woman for the man." (I Corinthians 11:8-9)
"Let the women learn in silence with all subjection. But I suffer not a woman to teach, nor to usurp authority over the man, but to be in silence. For Adam was first formed, then Eve. And Adam was not deceived, but the woman being deceived was in the transgression." (I Timothy 2:11-14)
“Wives, submit to your husbands as to the Lord.” (Ephesians 5:22)

The subheading of Esph. 5 speaks about Christian families. It is not applicable to those who aren't Christians. There are millions of married couples who are not Christians and seems to have a kick azz marriage. It is all about viewpoints and opinions.

Mynd_44:
I guess you miss the part where someone said all those were the opinions of the writer ie John, peter, Paul etc and not God himself.
Heck those were their personal opinions so why should I live my live by what a guy who lived 2000 years ago wrote down?

You shouldn't follow something that you do not support personally. It is mere hypocrisy.

Mrs.Chima:


Many of your brothers have claimed to be christians and love quoting the bible while they have failed miserably when the same bible said...a house divided against thyself failed. Now if they are going to quote the bible...they need to quote everything in the bible not pick and choose what suits them.

What happens when the manager and assistant manager do not work together and communicate effectively? The company goes out of business!

Exactly what is your point?

Mrs.Chima:


You are right not every man is Mr. Chima because he is a man that knows his role and handles his house. He doesn't need to treat me like his child and treats me like his wife. He demands respect while he give respect. He doesn't need to quote bibles, korans, and torahs just to get his needs met. He simply inform me of his needs and ask me of my needs and we equally please one another.

When my husband speaks...I listen and when I speak..he listen and we come to an understanding of where we should go and no drama ensue for we have communicated our opinions and nothing beats an united front. If he makes a great point...he receive 100% support from me and if I see something that is not realistic...I will voice my opinion because any decisions my husband make...affect the whole family. I have every right to voice my opinion if I must accept the aftermath of his decisions.

So you are right...not all men are like Mr. Chima. Not all ladies can be blessed with such man.

I said Mr China... But do you believe the Bible?

Husbands love your wives as Christ loved the church. A wife is a support and not a combatant. If the man says ''my decision is final, so be it''. A woman doesnt need to argue over everything the man does.

Moreover, a girl just asked me recently, ''are u sure u can stamp ur feet to control a woman''? I just smiled. What does that mean to you?

Mrs.Chima:


You shouldn't follow something that you do not support personally. It is mere hypocrisy.

Simple

cdamsel: nd some1 liked dis?

Y wldnt I get marriedit def won't b a white man either

It wld b 1 who wld respect my views just as much as I wld respect his,he wld accept my views if it is d beta 1 & I wld step aside wen he is making a beta judgement

I wish u both d marriages u desire,4 me God knows wat I am looking 4,which by d way I ve found already
SHIKENA

den what have i been trying to say since..

listen and don't let him turn u to a mumu.

shey you wanted to sleep before na?

warapund?

mashnino: the moment you bring religion into this thing..

the moment you get confuse

I dont agree wit ur assertion. God created man and woman and therefore marriage. Christianity is a way of life and not a religion. Moreover, your bible tells you never to maltreat or divorce your wife. So what do you say?

okpara ugo:

I said Mr China... But do you believe the Bible?

Husbands love your wives as Christ loved the church. A wife is a support and not a combatant. If the man says ''my decision is final, so be it''. A woman doesnt need to argue over everything the man does.

Moreover, a girl just asked me recently, ''are u sure u can stamp ur feet to control a woman''? I just smiled. What does that mean to you?

So eager to pull the bible outta the hat. Who made that quote in the bible? I can bet it was an apostle and not God himself or Christ which simply means I would take it as an advice and not a command.
What is wrong with people sef? It is the same as your pastor saying something in church. The words of the apostles are their personal opinions about the issue.

claremont: The Bible is the quintessential guide to morality, they said; the Bible actively supports the subjugation of the female, they never said.

"But I would have you know, that the head of every man is Christ; and the head of the woman is the man; and the head of Christ is God." (I Corinthians 11:3)
"For the man is not of the woman; but the woman of the man. Neither was the man created for the woman; but the woman for the man." (I Corinthians 11:8-9)
"Let the women learn in silence with all subjection. But I suffer not a woman to teach, nor to usurp authority over the man, but to be in silence. For Adam was first formed, then Eve. And Adam was not deceived, but the woman being deceived was in the transgression." (I Timothy 2:11-14)
“Wives, submit to your husbands as to the Lord.” (Ephesians 5:22)

How you interprete that passage in your family life depends on how intelligent you are. Thesame bible says, husbands, do not maltreat/subjugate your wives.

mashnino:

don't mind if you share..

could learn one or two things before i get there

First of all, I will relish giving her the silent treatment.

cdamsel: nd some1 liked dis?

Y wldnt I get marriedit def won't b a white man either

It wld b 1 who wld respect my views just as much as I wld respect his,he wld accept my views if it is d beta 1 & I wld step aside wen he is making a beta judgement

I wish u both d marriages u desire,4 me God knows wat I am looking 4,which by d way I ve found already
SHIKENA

The thing is: you are way ahead of your time.Slow down, these things take time! Marriage is all about concession. Cheers

okpara ugo:


I dont agree wit ur assertion. God created man and woman and therefore marriage. Christianity is a way of life and not a religion. Moreover, your bible tells you never to maltreat or divorce your wife. So what do you say?

Another silly comment. The bible clearly said that when your life is threatened in a marriage or in cases of infidelity, divorce is justified.
You are quick to pull the bible and yet you don't really know much in it

50calibre:

I'm very glad you cited this example, at least this solves it all.

A president and vice-president can brain storm for ideas and solutions but it is up to the president to either take or discard his vice's opinion as the final decision lies with the president.

The president has the absolute right to impose his decision on his vice and a vice who chooses to rebel will be charged or impeached.

HOMEWORK...

cdamsel: u don't resort 2 phy violence bt u can resort 2 verbal?

Didn't d bible say our actions can cause others 2 sin?wat if 1day she kill herseld cos of ur chauvinism?think about dat dear

No she wouldn't kill herself, she will learn that unconditional obedience and submission is very nice.