dagr8:
it means Clapping My Hand

dagr8:
Thank God it went well
...but your punishment is, the story wont come till when am appeased

ihedinobi2: Hi guys

So

ihedinobi2:
Before the Nairalandquake that destroyed many of the buildings here, there was a thread about a married woman who had a dream she once tried to pursue but which her husband objected to. The first time she listened to his nay-saying about how it was too big and whatnot and how she should not pursue it. Later she saw opportunities to actualize the dream and took necessary steps, linking up to dignitaries who bought into the idea and funding was all over the place. Still the hubby stood staunchly against it and her marriage became difficult.
Imagine that this is a Christian marriage, that is, both man and wife are believers. What would you advise?

sorry I left things unattended for so long. It couldn't be helped just then. I'm back now and we'll pick up where we stopped.

I understand that we don't see much to discuss in the economic rights of women. How about we look at through the Nairaland lens?

If you hang out at the Family Section just a little bit you'll find a few discussions focused on who should provide what, on how bills are shared, on inequality of economic opportunities between the two genders etc. These things are the sort of things I hoped we would examine.

Should a married woman work if and at whatever she wants? Does her husband have any right to dictate her career movements? How to reconcile the role of motherhood and the role of career woman? Bill-sharing? And, something we already touched on, how to protect women from economic exploitation when they have no man?

Could we work on those questions from now till Tuesday? Throw in any more you want.

dagr8: ujsizzle, salc, mynd44 .....enjoy your modified monikers

Bloomingbud: @ Ihedinobi. I'll say its the sole responsibility of a man to provide and take care of his home but a woman can always assist. Thats why we are helpmeet.

By the way, I like this thread.

yetseyi:
since no one has said anything about this let me start.

i am going to analyse this from the broader view:

A lot of guys actually do not want their wives to be more sucessful than they are. If there is any way it is going to happen they would most likely cut it off. But its supposed to be that success for one spouse means sucess for the other.
Some do not want their women to have financial independence
Some feel bad if their wife is a bit ambitious e.g she wants to go for a masters and maybe he still has his first degree

If you look down to the reason why husbands try to prevent their wives from being sucessful its quite a lot from selfishness to insecurity to ego .

But then there are guys that would support their girl/fiancee/wife to whatever level they want
lemme stop at that

SalC: Yeah thank God

Am not surprise cos there was no story in the first place your determination to get an answer then lead to the 'lie' you told anyway I believe I was able to give you a clear answer and now I won't have to be asked that question every now and then

there was actually a story

Mynd44:
I like your profile picture. Hot and sexy......you are awesomely beautiful

Is that your Job

dagr8:
Is that your Job

Mintayo:
Do you actually know that there are some women who does not want their husband to be more successful than them? I have seen two,if not three.
Let me too stop here first

dagr8: @Yetseyi, if you find yourself in that story, what would you do?

dagr8:
Is that your Job

Mynd44:
I like your profile picture. Hot and sexy......you are awesomely beautiful

Bloomingbud:


Are you sure? There is no picture on my profile.

Mynd44:
Well I might be a wizard na

Bloomingbud:


Even if you are, you are seeing doubles.

Bloomingbud: It seems some men feel threatened when their wives earn more than them, don't know why its like that but I'll definitely want my hubby to earn more than i do.

yetseyi:
hmmm

well its always easy to say this is what I will do when you re not in the situation so Da gr8 I may wont answer that question

lol,may be I should reframe the question. You have a dream you cherish so much, a time came for you to step out to achieve the dream, your hubby is not in support of it and knowing the Bible asks the wives to be submissive. Would you go against the husband's authority and still go ahead with the dream or you would give up the dream?

ujsizzle:
I can't help but wonder if you'll think the same way should your husband earn a monthly emolument that's not sufficient to cater for yours and the children's needs.

A lot of people need to grow up mentally. Marriage goes beyond what's good for me and my feelings to what's beneficial for us and our needs.
If a man's pride always gets in the way of progress foe the unit, then a woman's emotional response might just as well be validated too.
Certain feelings and emotions can be trained out of us if we even bother to try. Let's stop trying to validate childish behaviors please and start encouraging one another to grow mentally, physically and spiritually.
Take pride in the family unit. Take pride in your wife's success, because as long as she respects you as the head your ego should stay very much intact. What's the point of a help mate if you won't give her the chance of actually being useful if your domestic economy is low or literally nonexistent? How will she be helpful if you kept stifling every attempt for her to blossom in the past all because of your pride and ego?

I love it when you you post lady

@emboldened...this is where many wives have made mistake in the past and it is what I think many husbands are scared of.

ujsizzle:
I can't help but wonder if you'll think the same way should your husband earn a monthly emolument that's not sufficient to cater for yours and the children's needs.

A lot of people need to grow up mentally. Marriage goes beyond what's good for me and my feelings to what's beneficial for us and our needs.
If a man's pride always gets in the way of progress foe the unit, then a woman's emotional response might just as well be validated too.
Certain feelings and emotions can be trained out of us if we even bother to try. Let's stop trying to validate childish behaviors please and start encouraging one another to grow mentally, physically and spiritually.
Take pride in the family unit. Take pride in your wife's success, because as long as she respects you as the head your ego should stay very much intact. What's the point of a help mate if you won't give her the chance of actually being useful if your domestic economy is low or literally nonexistent? How will she be helpful if you kept stifling every attempt for her to blossom in the past all because of your pride and ego?

Mynd44:
You go tire. African men can't stand their women being more successful than them. it has being hardwired into their heads

Mintayo:
Do you actually know that there are some women who does not want their husband to be more successful than them? I have seen two,if not three.
Let me too stop here first

When a couple become competitors, it becomes like Germany playing Brazil instead of Thiago Silva playing alongside Neymar .

dagr8:
When a couple become competitors, it becomes like Germany playing Brazil instead of Thiago Silva playing alongside Neymar .

dagr8:
When a couple become competitors, it becomes like Germany playing Brazil instead of Thiago Silva playing alongside Neymar .