centje: lol...smokers a liable to this:

You try sha....

amacastel: My der dis may disrupt u bt I am tlng u dis 4rm ma character I am a vry hard type I cld hang out wit a guy 4 2yrs b4 sayng yes d truth is d 1st girl love bt she is being careful she doesn't want 2 be hurt n her friend who wil say yes witn 1 week is obvious a cheap girl going round n sayn yes 2 different men n 4rm ur discriptn "if u leave d 1st u wil be a loser implys a lot u really love her n want 2 be wit her d 2nd girl frm ur statement is a substitude.d 1st girl is d best 4 u she jst want 2 knw u mor dts y she restrain 4rm sayng quick yes.cal d 1st girl discus wit her on how 2 tlk 2 her friend.if u can't don't date any of dem find anoda girl let dem be ur casual friends cos itis defintly going 2 disrupt dia friendship lok 4 anoda prety girl n 4get dem cos d beautifl 1 ar nt yet born.tnks

So you keep a guy waiting for two years just to study him. So how long do you expect the guy to study you when you finally say yes? That your style can backfire. When you cross to late 20s, you will surely have a change of mindset.

Idowuogbo:
on to which levels?


Love? already? hahhahahaha! dis dude gat jokes!!!

You are not reasoning differently from the first girl.

elampiro:

You are not reasoning differently from the first girl.

i beg ur pardon?

dude, dont go dere! dont push any further!

sanb: Oh dear!!! Well, I’ll like to say don’t date either of them but on the other hand, I wouldn’t.....one thing you need to remember; they are friends; and this’ll certainly disrupt their friendship (saying this from my perspective as a woman) and I might be right or wrong. If I look at it from another angle, then you’re better off with the 2nd lady cos she seems to know what she wants and goes for it and I’m not saying cos of that, then she’s cheap; cos she ain’t.

The 1st lady was forming too much and now she’s got to pay the price; she probably remembered that this is the 21st century and she has suddenly woken up to smell the coffee. If she throws a tantrum, ignore her as she didn't know what she wanted from the start. Let her know you’ll rather remain as a friend which was what she wanted from day one and she displayed this for at least a full year.

But remember, it could turn really ugly and nasty; “TRY NOT TO DATE BOTH LADIES TOGETHER; WHETHER IN THE OPEN OR SECRETLY” cos “HELL HAS NO FURY LIKE A WOMAN SCORNED”....IMHO, I’ll say stick with the 2nd lady but let the 1st lady know the reason why you’re dating her friend. All the best and be careful ..cos we ladies sometimes hmmm I’ll say no more....

Best advice. Do not go for the first one(as I suspect you prefer) except if there are certain things you didn't tell us.

*singing*....this is super story....a life of strife and......abeg...what's d title of this movie....

Idowuogbo:
i beg ur pardon?

dude, dont go dere! dont push any further!

Oya vex and let me know what you are made of.

My own brotherly advice to you is that you search ur heart very well and ask urself some personal questions like do u really want a serious relationship?is either of them a wife material etc,but once d 2nd girl agreed 1st,I suggest you go with her,dat'll teach d 1st girl a lesson that you cant keep on playing a guy 4 a whole year expecting him to wait for you.Go for d 2nd girl bro.

My friend, stop this childishness and move on with the woman who accepted you first, its simple. just tell her the true so she can learn from it, one year is too much to wait, man wake up. Am a Calabar man be careful because after one year of begging, that girl is not coming to you for real but to destroy your relationship with her friend. she is jealous with regrets. What makes you think that after you lied to her friend that they both do not know whats up. Get on with her friend and leave her alone otherwise you will regret the day you where born. if you are calabar you will know what am talking about.

bank2k4real:

@op when she was rejecting you...it wasn't obvious,so why would u think rejecting her now would be obvious.....

Back to my cigar smoking contest...

I can see you are already high on that thing.

I said obnoxious not obvious. You can check back tomorrow when your eye don clear

Thank you.

Ok uv been on d chick 4 a year u obviousli didn't gt tired u actualli still wanted tu wait 4 a yes even wen u were told no wai in da world was it gonna appen.n den dis fyn oda chick comes along who by d wai iS d oda chicks bff or simpli friend n u lik ha she sends u a request on fb u guyz got talkin ,asked u questions bout ha frnd n u failed tu mention uve bn on ha frnd 4 a yr now du u honestli fink u were being truthful? u guyz kick it off from dere meanwhile obviousli ur stil on d oda chicks case which by d y I'd lik tu ask 4 wat Man? Anywaiz she says yes a week later.now wat du u fink datz 4? Obviousli she got word frm ha frndy. Guyz! Honestli?can't u not see dey wana mk a gud fool outa u? N y on earth r u confused? Like seriousli? Y even date two close friends or consider it?u clearli just wana b a playa I c no confusion here u wana simply date both when u shld date neither n save ur self from alota stress n discomfort.n if d situation were ordinary, ur not nice man. Coz u got sumone uv admitted u like n likes u bac yet u stil mega confused? Weird...

"that the plans i have for her is of good and not of evil..."

That's plagiarism Bra'v, it's in d bible & u shld reference it

Buh srzly, u askd d new gal out & she agreed. So I'd say u shld keep wt her. D old gal had d opportunity but chose to waste it.

Hv bin tru dis. D girl afta a long tym(close 2 a yr), sed yes wen she startd seein me wit sum girls(wich she's alwaz jealous @). Ofcus i didnt accept cos i blive it was out of jealosy(wasnt easy 4 me bt i hv 2). D fact is dat d 1st girl sed yes out of jealosy; cos she has bin noticin sum atractns b/w u n her friend. If nt y d yes imedatly afta d 2nd girl sed yes. If u cn remuv emotn n use reasnin; d 1st dosnt luv u! D trut is dat u got into a r/ship wit d 2nd girl wen she sed yes n u'll b breakin it if u go 2 d 1st.

@Idowuogbo, I really know now the kind of person you are. So you can actually descend so low as to write that nonsense? If it's a joke, you are at liberty to edit your post. Otherwise, I say back to sender.

I maybe late on this as I believe U may have gotten tons of advice.

The truth is the 1st babe had much hopes on some other guy somewhere. When that didn't work she suddenly came back to tell U 'YES'. Please, dont fall for that, she will leave again whenever another guy show. You will never be her priority!! She can cry U a river, her 'NO' should stand.

To the ladies, if U like a guy, don't wait for another babe to declare the guy 'date-able' before U make up your mind. It has caused many bleeding hearts.

My advice for you is straightforward, in your statement, you said you kept on with the first girl becos you don't want to be a loser. This has happened to me, its a way of getting a boost for yourself. There is really nothing special in not admitting to being a loser, its the lessons that makes you a winner. My point is, stick with the new girl, becos to be truthful to yourself, you have lost interest in the first girl,its only self pity and intimacy that still makes you believe you still like her. For the wise![b][/b]

life_style:


I can see you are already high on that thing.

I said obnoxious not obvious. You can check back tomorrow when your eye don clear

Thank you.

elampiro: @Idowuogbo, I really know now the kind of person you are. So you can actually descend so low as to write that nonsense? If it's a joke, you are at liberty to edit your post. Otherwise, I say back to sender.

Wot is dis one saying?

life_style:

I feel like keeping both of them, I find it difficult to drop one for the other that's why i am here to seek advice.

If i drop the stubborn girl, i will be at lost. And if i drop the "easy girl" she will think i lied to take advantage of her.

^ The above just confirmed that your story was made up; it"s nothing but fiction. If it was real, you won't be making such stupid statements. As if dating two responsible girls who are close friends at the same, is something that is USUALLY possible.

lanre_front:

^ The above just confirmed that your story was made up; it"s nothing but fiction. If it was real, you won't be making such stupid statements. As if dating two responsible girls who are close friends at the same, is something that is USUALLY possible.

You are entitled to your opinion.


Thank you and good night.

Mynd_44: Drop one. Is it that difficult?

U can see why I hate this playing hard to get thing.anyways stick with the second babe .u can f/uck the 1st girl if u like and move on with ur life ,if u are not that smart don't try it ooo

Lets check:

It seems you judge by looks only.

Its like you like to play games.

The first lady must have told her friends and then it made the friend wishy to have you.

Girls usually wish to be the recipient of any proposals forwarded to their friends at least for the fun of being chased...guys do it too.

Although its possible she did that cos she had to play fast to get you knowing that that could be her only opportunity to cure her Wishes.

Its possible she doesn't really love you.If she adores her friend alot , it would be very tempting for
her to fall for the man that chases her adored friend cos it makes her feel glorified...as if she too possesses the friends qualitiescos.Hmn, fantacy blinds our sense of reason when it comes to love and relationship.

The friend is not loyal or faithful,she cant be trusted.

She should have discussed your proposal with her friend...(it depends on how they understand themselves though)

You should have told the first girl that you have changed your mind about her and see what she would do before you strike love strings with her friend... but its not the best thing to anyway.

Some how, it could be that subconsciously or consciously you wanted to hurt her for punishing you that long.I bet you, it happens.
YOU INITIATED A PUNITIVE OR PLAY BOY "LAW OF POWER" by going after her friend.Ouch! Its bad business when it comes to the matter of the heart.

FINALLY,
Who do you really love among them? Who has the qualities of a wife that befits you? This does not necessarily mean you must marry one of them,infact situations like this create life time enemies and witch hunting from the losing party.

No mistake is beyond amendment.Talk to them seperately,then in group and appologize for what had happened.This could mean ending the relationship with both or settling to row on one boat cos two boats will drawn you. You deserve a safe sail in life.Marry the woman of your dreams and put games aside.

Cheers! You will be fine.

vivian chinaza: Ok, I'm gonna speak from a lady's perspective. Yes if she finds out you are dating her friend....she will be very disappointed in you. What were you even thinking asking her friend out? It is disrespectful considering the fact that you must have told her she meant something to you.

Well, if you wanna date her friend, get her consent first, you are not obligated to it but is just courtesy. If you wanna date her be completely honest with her, tell her that you asked her friend out too....if not you might be starting a world war III between these 2 friends.

I tire for some girls sef. Where is her loyalty to her friend? Why would I even say yes to a man that has asked my close friend out? Why would I even create an enabling environment for this? I think it is childish.

Just be careful ok, you are dealing with ladies and no matter how much we pretend to be cool with some certain things, the truth of it is we are never cool with them.

"WORDS ON MARBLE"

They ( both girls have discussed it ) are using you to play - see this jjc o
!!

Idowuogbo:

from a guys point of view.... Typical!!



from a gals point of view... u no get shame? so u gon go ahead and say yes knowing fully well dat d so called "yes" might get things messy between u and dat friend? kai! u never jam o! na acid u dey use play my dear!

wats messy and wat kind of acid is she playing with? Plz let me undastand u.

you have been kept as a spare . can the first girl say she had no man with her unknown to you all along? wake up!

@ poster.am already mad on their behalf.u are not serious.how in God's name can u not know how to drop anyone of them.I would drop both of them no matter whose oars is gored.

If I were you, I will choose the friend who said yes first. But since I’m not you, I will advise you chose the one you love most and show the other to the door. You are the man and the ball is in your court. No sentiments!
However, I would like you to bear two things in mind;

1. Your action (either ways) may cause these two girls their friendship (while the hell did you ask two friends out? Don’t you know the rule of the game?)

2. The friend already knows your story (THAT YOU ARE ASKING THE OTHER OUT), and the other quickly said yes, when she realized she was losing you to a friend she introduced to you; therefore both of them are not suitable for deeper friendship. If you are looking for a wife, look somewhere else please…

Phew! I’ve not replied a post in ages… aren’t you blessed !

life_style:

I feel like keeping both of them, I find it difficult to drop one for the other that's why i am here to seek advice.

If i drop the stubborn girl, i will be at lost. And if i drop the "easy girl" she will think i lied to take advantage of her.

Ogbeni,stop †̥ deceiving us нєяє,u ar a cassanova.why ∂i∂ u hv to propose to †ђξ stubborn girl again since †ђξ other had accepted Ƴυ̲̣̥.date both ☺Ƒ them aπϑ loose both.Ashewo

Did he propose 2 d 1st girl again afta d 2nd said yes? Mehn! if yes den u only knw wat u r lukin 4.!

chrisley024: Did he propose 2 d 1st girl again afta d 2nd said yes?

No, He did not.