Peterwins: I have been in the banking sector and this is a piece of cake.

She should simply go with a colleague. Case closed. Professional ethics demands this despite the pressure to meet targets.
If the "uncle" has no ulterior motive, then he would not mind seeing her with a colleague to pick the cheque during banking hours.

I have a friend who actually drove his wife (a banker) to a hotel to collect a cheque from a male customer on a saturday!!!. Guess what? The wife stormed back to the car from the hotel (husband was waiting in the car for her) without the cheque narrating how the customer was trying to manipulate her to sleep with him before collecting the cheque. She "thought" it will be professional for her to enter the hotel without her husband accompanying her to the hotel room.... husband also thought same, hence his willingness to remain in the hotel car park not even to wait in the lobby.

There is a female banker who recently got raped in a hotel here in Abuja. The rapist drugged her, raped her and stole her car. Thank GOD she came out alive.

Working in the banking industry some few years ago exposed me to the good, bad and ugly sides of the Nigeria banking industry.

The unwholesome deposit targets have actually driven some female bankers (even married ones) into corporate prostitution with or without their husband's knowledge. Quite sad.

armyofone: Aren't you being double standard eh? Here is a woman who is in need of money and someone is offering her the money-OP didn't say she will be collecting the money in the 'hotel bedroom' or at midnight.

that's why we pray to marry guys with real head on their shoulder. a real man with good and real head on his shoulder should be able to provide for his lady. maybe money for doing business etc madam here is working hard, spare her jo

chaircover:

Isnt this scenario much different from an uncle family friend?

My account manager picks up and delivers money to me in my shop. . . . .but it wouldnt even cross my mind to get him to bring it to me in my bedroom at home or a in a hotel room.

Anyway each to his own and if the poster feels comfortable sending his wife to the hotel to pick up the cheque, then that is his choice . . .. at the end of the day . . . . Its the system I blame.

Ujujoan: I intended to ignore coogar and his myopic views but then I have to comment again . . .

for those saying he had a hidden agenda for asking her to meet him in a hotel . . . Did he actually request the meeting be held in his room? What if he had the intention of meeting her at the lobby or bar or restaurant

I wonder why it's so easy for people to jump to baseless conclusions!

For those saying she could be molested, wouldn't that solve the problem if she went in the company of her colleagues or even husband
What exactly is this 7-page argument about

coogar:

you don't need to comment.....
my opinion still stands - it's insulting for any man to ask a married woman to meet him in a hotel. if you have been asked to do such, you have been insulted!



yes - meet her where her drinks could be spiked. she would then become unconscious and the fool would take her upstairs and the rest is history - while a mumu husband stays at home waiting for his "hardworking" wife.



because prevention is better than cure.....



wouldn't the problem be solved if she avoids the situation completely? can you not read peterwin's comments? husband going there or not makes no difference. she cannot go in with someone who has no business with the bank. its not professional so she must go alone or go with her colleagues......and i can bet if she goes in with her colleagues, the deal would be called off. nor be naija men?

chaircover:

yes the poster didnt mention hotel room but you and I both know that the odds of it being a room transaction outweigh the odds that it will be done in the hotel restaurant.

If he is a family friend, then why not just go to the house and use that opportunity to see the whole family?

. . . .and no it is very unlikely that I will be lodged in a hotel alone outside of my usual abode in Nigeria and even more unlikely that I will invite my account officer into my hotel/room . . .but I am speaking for me and maybe thats why I cant understand why it seems OK for a woman to knowingly walk into something like this without any fear for her own safety.

I am surprised sha; because we all know that if anything untoward does happen, its very unlikely that the woman will get any joy from the legal system and I would have thought that this alone, would make women a lot more careful when they find themselves in these kinds of situations.

Anyway like I said . .each to their own. I am not a banker and I dont need to see strange men in strange locations so there is no need for me to drink panadol for soneone elses headache and the most that I will say, when I read a "banker rapped" story on Linda Ikejis blog is to say eeeyaaaaaa! . . .and blame the husband for not doing enough to protect his wife.

Ujujoan:

Peterwins gave one scenario out of hundreds of cases which he decided to ignore!
Is he seriously saying that in all his years as a banker, he has NEVER seen a situation where AOs met customers in hotels/homes and didn't end up being molested

Sisi_Kill: That's the part I couldn't get past. . .when did hotel become room?

That's why I kukuma stayed away from the entire debate. If we can't establish an itty bitty detail like that. . .what's the point?

I'm laughing at people bringing poor Cynthia's case up as an example for why women shouldn't go to hotels. For Everyone one Cynthia, there have been a million non-Cynthias, so what does that prove? Besides, Cynthia met strangers, In OP's case this is someone his wife knows. . .how's he gonna kill, rape and kidnap her?

Me. . . I still have faith in men oh! Call me naive or Caucasian or Selena Gomez but I still have faith that there are men out there who aren't ruled by their libido, men who will only go as far as a woman is gonna let them (I know that can be a hard concept to grasp especially after reading this thread, I tell ya one is almost inclined to believe men don't have self control and will jump anything with a heartbeat and it is always money for hand, back for ground with them.

Even if that ends up being the case. . .that uncle wants a little sum'n sum'n does OP not trust his wife to look the man up and down, spit in his face and walk away? If he doesn't then they obviously have bigger issues to address than hotel or no hotel.

Finally to all the "Safety Inspectors", I wanna ask, are you telling us there has never been stories of men killed and kidnapped in the cause of doing business? I is jest aksing oh because the way y'all are going on and on and on and on about kidnapping, raaaping, killing. . .one is once again inclined to believe it is ONLY women go get the wrong end of that stick (Okay that didn't come out right, there is obviously no right end of that stick. Abeg jare, It's friday and I am too tired to think of another idiom or whachumacallit. Y'all get what I mean. . .

coogar:

why should i take such risks?
if there's a 1% chance my wife could be molested in a hotel i would rather avoid the situation completely. how do i explain myself if she gets molested in a hotel?

Ujujoan:
Do women only get molested in hotels

There's always at least 1% chance that a woman may get molested. We've heard cases of women getting raped in churches during vigil, special prayers e.t.c.

Goodluck caging your wife!

coogar:

why should i take such risks?
if there's a 1% chance my wife could be molested in a hotel i would rather avoid the situation completely. how do i explain myself if she gets molested in a hotel?

dayokanu:
Theres a 1% chance your wife can have an accident driving a car, So stop her from driving,

Theres a 1% chance her brothers or father can rappee her, So she shouldnt visit her brothers and family

Theres a chance her Boss, pastor, driver etc can drug her and rapppee her. So she shouldnt go out.

Theres a 1% chance Boko haram might visit her church next Sunday so she shouldnt go to church. Just sit at home all day.

Heck theres a 1% chance a trailer might lose control and even come and kill her inside the house so where she go stay now? maybe on the tree. tree sef might fall
i taya oo

Ujujoan:
Goodluck caging your wife!

dayokanu:

Theres a 1% chance your wife can have an accident driving a car, So stop her from driving,

Theres a 1% chance her brothers or father can rappee her, So she shouldnt visit her brothers and family

Theres a chance her Boss, pastor, driver etc can drug her and rapppee her. So she shouldnt go out.

Theres a 1% chance Boko haram might visit her church next Sunday so she shouldnt go to church. Just sit at home all day.

Heck theres a 1% chance a trailer might lose control and even come and kill her inside the house so where she go stay now? maybe on the tree. tree sef might faill

i taya oo

Baby mama: Ok it is in a hotel but can the wife go with her husband to pickup the check?
If the answer is no,then forget it.
Thanks Coogar,babe and chaircover for being reasonable in this conversation

BABE!:

If "caging" is what you call my husband reasoning, warning and protecting me from pot-bellied uncles, then I'm happy being caged.
Tenks.

BABE!:


If "caging" is what you call my husband reasoning, warning and protecting me from pot-bellied uncles, then I'm happy being caged.

Tenks.

Baby mama: Ok it is in a hotel but can the wife go with her husband to pickup the check?
If the answer is no,then forget it.
Thanks Coogar,babe and chaircover for being reasonable in this conversation

maclatunji:
Hehehehe... thank you, you have been terrific on this thread! Freedom ko Freetown ni. #Nonsense

Sisi_Kill: Lmao! Oooh! I like the sneaky slip in of word there. . .Of course anyone who is GULLIBLE is gonna get taken advantage of where they may be but OP hasn't said his wife is gullible now has he? Or y'all automatically think she is because. . .she is not cowering in fear somewhere, afraid of her own shadow because it is a big bad world out there??

Oy Veh!!

BABE!:


Welcome.
It amuses me that some Nigerian women have been so westernized, they're insensible.

I'm happy to be led my husband. If I don't trust his decisions, then why are we even married ?

Ujujoan: I intended to ignore coogar and his myopic views but then I have to comment again . . .

for those saying he had a hidden agenda for asking her to meet him in a hotel . . . Did he actually request the meeting be held in his room? What if he had the intention of meeting her at the lobby or bar or restaurant

I wonder why it's so easy for people to jump to baseless conclusions!


For those saying she could be molested, wouldn't that solve the problem if she went in the company of her colleagues or even husband

What exactly is this 7-page argument about

BABE!:


Welcome.



It's amuses me that some Nigerian women have been so westernized, they're insensible.

I'm happy to be led my husband. If I don't trust his decisions, then why are we even married ?

Rule of thumb
Check any woman telling you how she is all that and does not need any man blah blah blah,I am a superwoman blah
Most of the time they don't have a man

No be today persin begin see aboki with bow and arrow
That is just the cold na.ked truth
This subject has absolutely nothing to do with caging women
Any woman that has a man knows to run such a suggestion by her man and any man that loves that woman knows it is an inappropriate suggestion because he is thinking like a man and knows exactly what that other man is capable of doing
Safety from molestation entails being one step ahead of your possible attacker and that also involves preventing being found in vulnerable situations
The incidence of rape in Nigeria is now 84% according to a recent study and people are arguing about a woman taking precautions
I would rather err on the side of over reaction than being naive,you can't unbreak an egg.
It is a better place to be
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chaircover:

Kobo you sometimes make me laugh . . . .. Nigeria is so very different from the west and I dont know about banking in the US o! but here in the UK, you take your money to the banking hall and pay it in, No one comes to meet you in your office, hotel, club wherreva!

For the record, I havent got an issue with hotels in Nigeria, but I certainly wont let down my guard in a Nigerian hotel as I would do in the UK. . . . and if I were a banker in Nigeria, I will have it at the back of my mind that any man asking me to pick up money from his hotel room may have something else on his mind and it will be very very naive and silly of me to go on there not having an escape plan just in case.

This is the Nigeria that I know. . . . I am NOT an Internet Nigerian as coined by John Doe.