sadeiyare: @ topic I sense manipulation. Ladies wanting to manipulate guys, don't let them get into your head guys and another five years from now they cook-up newer and different definations for the masculine gender.
My advise guys just be your self and leave the women to be thinking about alpha, omega, nice and un-nice males and stop fitting into their categorisations.

baby_123:

Not in this lifetime or in the next. All this bragging. You will do the bending.

Tgirl4real:

May be dis I won't agree with using myself as an example. Me like dem bad since when I was young, still like them bad and will continue to like them bad.

Of course, 'bad is used in context. Nice guys are good for BFF.

baby_123:

He will have to drop all the concubines and wives, then be washing my pant every morning. Saga needs training and taming.

I no dey ile olorogun.

to+by:
All 'm goin to say is that in my own lil life, i'll treat everyone as humanly best as the love of God as possible. Whether ladies like me or not, play me or not, i know my own better half is somewhere out there being preserved for me by God. The whole thing destroying the world is because of what the entertainment industry's painting into our mind thereby shaping our lifes indirectly. If you like destroy all the ladies you meet jus to claim ALPHA guy, or explore as many guys as possible to claim ALPHA woman, jus know that DO NOT BE DECEIVED, GOD'S NOT MOCKED, WHATEVER A MAN SOWS, HE'LL REAP. Gal 6:7

shymexx:

Basically, I don't think chics like arrogant, controlling, and self-centred guys... They prefer confident guys who can act like a man with authority... However, there's a thin line between confidence and arrogance vis-a-vis authority and controlling - you just have to know not to cross that line... Once you do, it becomes problematic..

You don't necessarily need to be a "bad guy" to smash as many chics as possible, as long as the chics know where they stand and there's mutual respect... To be honest, bad guys don't really pull that many chics if they show their true colours from the beginning, most fake it till they get the chics in their chokehold... No one wants a heartless jerk...

Being there, done that - being a bad guy just breeds hatred, it's a lose lose situation...

coogar:

you probably haven't figured chics out yet then.....
from my experience, chics actually like the arrogant, controlling and the self-centred guys. mind, what chics say in the open is a stark contrast of what they want. shymmex, a man like you should know that. being a bad guy is the surest way to score chics - it's a win-win situation. even if the chic leaves you, no regrets cos you were never there for her anyway. however, if a chic leaves you after playing "bobo nice" to her, then you are done! little wonder men carry acids and all sorts because their women cheated on them. you think a bad guy has time for such nonsense? one door closes, another 6 open!

Sagamite:

GBAM!

They can lie so convincingly to the point even they themselves believe what they are saying is the truth and that makes it more convincing when they say it.

Don't listen to what women say, watch what they do.

"If he calls me, I will tell him to fck off".

He calls, she picks up: "Hi, how are you? I really miss you. Come down to my city and have cake and meat pies".

Sagamite:

GBAM!

They can lie so convincingly to the point even they themselves believe what they are saying is the truth and that makes it more convincing when they say it.

Don't listen to what women say, watch what they do.

"If he calls me, I will tell him to fck off".

He calls, she picks up: "Hi, how are you? I really miss you. Come down to my city and have cake and meat pies".

Sagamite:

GBAM!

They can lie so convincingly to the point even they themselves believe what they are saying is the truth and that makes it more convincing when they say it.

Don't listen to what women say, watch what they do.

"If he calls me, I will tell him to fck off".

He calls, she picks up: "Hi, how are you? I really miss you. Come down to my city and have cake and meat pies".

coogar:

you probably haven't figured chics out yet then.....
from my experience, chics actually like the arrogant, controlling and the self-centred guys. mind, what chics say in the open is a stark contrast of what they want. shymmex, a man like you should know that. being a bad guy is the surest way to score chics - it's a win-win situation. even if the chic leaves you, no regrets cos you were never there for her anyway. however, if a chic leaves you after playing "bobo nice" to her, then you are done! little wonder men carry acids and all sorts because their women cheated on them. you think a bad guy has time for such nonsense? one door closes, another 6 open!

y me:
Yeah . . . . And they end up getting married to the DEVIL
good thing there are women out there giving these guys a good run for their Alphamism

coogar:

the alpha male simply moves to the next available catch - no regrets! unlike the "nice" men who would start crying over the phone and generally constitute a nuisance by stalking, threatening to harm, etc.

y me:
O_o God is watching you in 3D sha
1/0
How does the fact you say something in the heat of it makes you not trust women?

y me:
The bottom line is, if being an Alpha male jerk is all a guy can offer me just because I want excitement and challenge in a relationship, i will kindly pass because I am too fly for that ish (yes I am )
As I stated earlier I do not want Mr completely nice guy nor Alpha male, if you are completely nice you will kindly join the friend zone and if you are completely badt you join the list of getting admired and fantasized about for a minute without accomplishing what you came for

maxwello.yg:
yeah ! hahaha ! D'banj as you put it-pride. Tuface from the way I see him- can never leave ladies(always impregnates). So you'd rather have an unfaithful guy than have a proud bf ?

coogar:

you probably haven't figured chics out yet then.....
from my experience, chics actually like the arrogant, controlling and the self-centred guys. mind, what chics say in the open is a stark contrast of what they want. shymmex, a man like you should know that. being a bad guy is the surest way to score chics - it's a win-win situation. even if the chic leaves you, no regrets cos you were never there for her anyway. however, if a chic leaves you after playing "bobo nice" to her, then you are done! little wonder men carry acids and all sorts because their women cheated on them. you think a bad guy has time for such nonsense? one door closes, another 6 open!

Sagamite:

Women have always proved me right about doing the exact opposite of what they say they will do. I have learnt not to believe them and go by experience of what they tend to do in such situations.

For example, I know baby_123 is going to bed me one day despite all her bravado that "Not in this lifetime or the next".



Thank you for telling them what happens to Nice guys.

As for bad guy, he would at least get laid before he gets sacked by most women. Stop lying!

coogar:
you probably haven't figured chics out yet then.....
from my experience, chics actually like the arrogant, controlling and the self-centred guys. mind, what chics say in the open is a stark contrast of what they want. shymmex, a man like you should know that. being a bad guy is the surest way to score chics - it's a win-win situation. even if the chic leaves you, no regrets cos you were never there for her anyway. however, if a chic leaves you after playing "bobo nice" to her, then you are done! little wonder men carry acids and all sorts because their women cheated on them. you think a bad guy has time for such nonsense? one door closes, another 6 open!

shymexx:

Fam. it depends on how you lot define a "bad guy.".... A bad guy to me means a rude, uncouth, abusive, arrogant, controlling, and self-centred guy... I don't know any chic who wants that type of guy, except the desperate ones... You don't have to be a "bad guy" or a "nice guy" - I prefer being in the middle and being a realist.. [s]Not showing too much love, affection, and care [/s]- and also not doing the extreme on the other side of the aisle... I've done the bad guy thing, and I ended up losing the best chics..

Personally, I think it's better to be a realist without showing/having too much affection - and also not hurting the other party... I think everything comes with maturity, experience, and outlook to life...

BTW, I've never been "Mr. nice guy" - I prefer the straightforward and normal approach without putting everything into it... And that's what an alpha male represents...

coogar:

the alpha male simply moves to the next available catch - no regrets! unlike the "nice" men who would start crying over the phone and generally constitute a nuisance by stalking, threatening to harm, etc.

Tgirl4real:

What a depressing and hearthbreaking comment!!!

Sagamite, u sef second this. Too bad!!!

Are u guys saying the so-called alpha male can't be in love? And can't be a one-woman man?

Goldieluks:

Sagamite:

And so?

So it is guys that should bare all the risk and take all the hits while you girls sit pretty and say "Go, girl"?

So guys should come and chat you up, burn credit calling you, take you out, buy you small token gifts for Xmas etc, show you you are special and then you conclude "Mmmm, well, you know what? I don't think I really fancy you that much. I am not really into you and I don't think it would work out".

Life is beautiful innit when you have can let something go because you have not invested much in it. Well we the smart bad boys have learnt to join you in that life.

We can be in love, at the right time, to the right girl, with the right stuff to offer.

y me:

abegii, na today? enough of this "Women have always proved me right about doing the exact opposite of what they say they will do" I have seen men going back and forth on their words so this is not only applicable to women.

being sexually attracted/wanting to bed a bad a man has got nothing to do with being 'mr nice or alpha male' (that kicks in when it goes beyond sexual attraction)in other words He only goes down there because I want him to and I am expecting nothing else from him (so mr nice/alpha means nothing to me)
my own definition of mr nice (frail, yes ma'am kinda man, 100% predictable, needs my opinion in absolute everything he does, scared to voice out when I wrong him but intead beats around the bush because he is too scared to say "you are wrong" in plain) definition of alpha male(jerk, feels the world revolves around him, feels he can get any woman of his choice (n*gga pls), feeling too dam.n important, having an annoying dominating spirit)
God better nor push any of these guys my way, mr nice I might end up angry at but mr alpha male I might end up killing
if you know what you want as a man and know the kind of woman you are attracted to work on it and be moderately nice/bad

you don't bring the alpha male quality at me thinking I will fall for that, oh please I am not attracted to peeps that are full of themselves and show no iota of care (na craze)

shymexx:

Fam. it depends on how you lot define a "bad guy.".... A bad guy to me means a rude, uncouth, abusive, arrogant, controlling, and self-centred guy... I don't know any chic who wants that type of guy, except the desperate ones... You don't have to be a "bad guy" or a "nice guy" - I prefer being in the middle and being a realist.. Not showing too much love, affection, and care - and also not doing the extreme on the other side of the aisle... I've done the bad guy thing, and I ended up losing the best chics..

Personally, I think it's better to be a realist without showing/having too much affection - and also not hurting the other party... I think everything comes with maturity, experience, and outlook to life...

BTW, I've never been "Mr. nice guy" - I prefer the straightforward and normal approach without putting everything into it... And that's what an alpha male represents...

y me:
ofcourse he moves on to the next babe, because he is too proud to hold a good woman
what would the empty proud sac emotional disabled Hombre like that achieve in the end of it all if I may ask?
boosting of F-ing countless women abi?

y me:
is that what this is about?
blessThunder fire those babes wey empty your account without leaving any for me

Sagamite:

Whooo!

Fcking Fantastic!

I am very happy to be the type of man that you want to go down there and expect nothing from him. Rather than the fooool that spends all his time and money chasing a girl and ending up in the friend zone (yet still doing favours) because he made the stewpid mistake of being nice.

My families' worst enemies in Sagamu (The Ajakas) never get the juju to curse me reach the point I wey I go want the second.

Sagamite:
A bad guy is well described for you here:

https://www.nairaland.com/1108764/ladies-date-nice-guy/4#13060962

shymexx:

Lmao... That's an unwritten rule!!

Personally, too much affection, care, and love will just make the guy look like a stalker, or a wimp...

Just be normal and keep the chics guessing...

Show interest but let the chics run after you..

However, you have to be respectful and decent..

Sagamite:

Don't worry, the girls would come and look for you when their looks is up.

Good boy.

y me:
okay so now I am getting a clearer picture of what this is all about
its not about being the mr nice/alpha male but about babes that chop and clean mouth? una for tell me since na, why covering it up with all the topic BS? na wa oo

anyway I am not to be linked with the kind of woman that wants a mans molla
I am rare, valuable, unique and I am worth It (yes "I am fantastic" according to sagamite )and if a man fails to notice that, then that is plain stu.pidity in his part
the world will be a better place if the real deal can be separated from the fake deal

Goldieluks:
I kinda agree with the too much affection bit, making the guy seem less of a man.
But affection should be shown to a woman, at the right time, rather than making her
guess whether the man is into her or not. Suspense in a relationship is not healthy, especially to us women.