I call her witch for a reason cos I have never seen a girl as heartless as her.
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1. U may be right abt wat guys av said in oda threads. But not all gurls like d suspense tingy. My point is gurls are unpredictable and we sucumb to change because we wer created like dat. Gurls change easily, our tinkin, our body, our mind etc. So u can't generalise dat point. We wer created like dat, even from a gurls cycle, ha mood can b seen to swing frequently. wat u need is patience to undstnd us and change as we do. Wen/if u enta a new relationship and u want it to work, it takes hard work especially if u want it to lead to marriage.
2. @ ur ex, u don't av to do payback. Letting go means hurting no more, u r still hurting from wat u said. U need to fashy dat babe. Som gurls ar crazy n u r ryt abt dat but frustratin ha psychologically is uncalled for. Why don't u tink abt good tins u learnt from d relationship and try to imbibe dem in u. If we don't make mistakes, ow do we learn from our experiences? I was once hurt too, 6yrs relationship tossed in d bin, buh if u see d guy u wont bliv because of d way we still relate wit each oda. No one is perfect and der has to b som pipu whu wil make u feel sad or happy in life. Letting go means being happy again (90/10 rule)

Relationship is abt give and take, mutually parallel. It doesnt mean boy give money, gurl open laps. It saddens me wen I see d money/sex issue. If am gona sleep wit a guy, it has to b cos I want to not money. If a guy wana gimme money, it has to b cos e wants to, not cos I opened my legs. Plus what stops me from bein d one givin him money? My point here: it's not money or sex dat matters, it is ow we sincerely feel inside. Do u love him/her or usin him/her to pass time?
3. Gurls, we need to slow down too. Our own sef too much. U see a guy trippin for u, u no u aint interested buh u'll lead d guy on cos of attention or maybe money. Just tell him off. Plus u guys don't hear word, she says NO, u now assume she meant YES. Ar u a learner? Or u tink our generation still do 'hard to get' SMH for u peeps sef.
4. Relationship no b easy tin, r we (male/female) ready to give it wot it takes? Na 10 unit course o...lol. Me sef still dey learn n pray for understanding a man. Dey ar as complicated as women. It is easy to say men want dis and women want dat buh na d practical go determine if dat is really d truth.

Idowu, i don forgive her... But i still need to pass a message across her likes.

Abeg, i no dey kill person ooh. Biko.

She just got to see me rise sky her high!

Idowuogbo:
But y? If such frustration leads to suicide, will you seat dere and whisper d words "mission accomplished" to yourself? Enough already young man! Let it go! Let what is past flow away downstream.Let her b! Hian!!

@carmelion.But it was official,kind of, because at a point in the relationship she was askin 'questions' and i gave her definite answers. Because of her i set up my business, so that i can provide for her without breaking a sweat. Even the thought of my future with her kept me strong during the lean days of my enterprise. As a young man of 23 back then, i pegged 27 as the age that i will be married to her and she knew all my plans. I have been to her family home in the village on three separate occaisions,most of her extended family know and like me (because i dey bring brekete for them). I just feel that maybe somewhere, somehow somebody poisoned her mind towards me. The point is that there are guys who believe in buildin, resuscitating and empowering their 'girl-friends' even when they dont have much it is in their nature to nurture.They believe in the beauty of love and romance, so they wait a long while before consumation (in my own case,nothing). Maybe you dont believe in the longterm,but i believe that longterm couples bond very tightly thus they have a better chance of a quality married life. Now my eyes don tear finish, though i am stil who i am except that i might want to shine that congo before marriage. After all, i learnt from you that If you 'truly' love someone sex cannot take that love away

Well said bro... well aid.

ichidodo: @carmelion.But it was official,kind of, because at a point in the relationship she was askin 'questions' and i gave her definite answers. Because of her i set up my business, so that i can provide for her without breaking a sweat. Even the thought of my future with her kept me strong during the lean days of my enterprise. As a young man of 23 back then, i pegged 27 as the age that i will be married to her and she knew all my plans. I have been to her family home in the village on three separate occaisions,most of her extended family know and like me (because i dey bring brekete for them). I just feel that maybe somewhere, somehow somebody poisoned her mind towards me. The point is that there are guys who believe in buildin, resuscitating and empowering their 'girl-friends' even when they dont have much it is in their nature to nurture.They believe in the beauty of love and romance, so they wait a long while before consumation (in my own case,nothing). Maybe you dont believe in the longterm,but i believe that longterm couples bond very tightly thus they have a better chance of a quality married life. Now my eyes don tear finish, though i am stil who i am except that i might want to shine that congo before marriage. After all, i learnt from you that If you 'truly' love someone sex cannot take that love away

Really sorry to hear this,If you actually did those stuffs and this babe treated you like this.Take it from me,She will come to beg you one day.

It might not be soon,it might be in 20yrs time.But she will come.

There is something called law of nature.You can't cause someone damage and then progress in life.No, it does not work that way.

Leave it to God.Your wife would come.

carmelion:

Really sorry to hear this,If you actually did those stuffs and this babe treated you like this.Take it from me,She will come to beg you one day.

It might not be soon,it might be in 20yrs time.But she will come.

There is something called law of nature.You can't reap cause someone damage and then progress in life.No it does not work that way.

Leave it to God.Your wife would come.

I agree with you 100%. Mine came back begging but with pride sha... But one day she realised that I still hadnt forgiven her despite the fact we still talk or communicate(That is me for you when you take my gentleness for granted and play on my intelligence, rubbish me as if I am a fool.) she had to beg me 'in the name of God'... Na that 'in the name of God' make me let her go.

I could tolerate so many things in my life but not when my intelligence is being played on just because I am the gentle type... If done, what may follow after maybe very surprising...

Na God save her...

You have spoke well....

Just that I have learnt my lessons and hide that good part of me. If I dont see the need, no time to reveal the real me

virgin ice:
I call her witch for a reason cos I have never seen a girl as heartless as her.

1. U may be right abt wat guys av said in oda threads. But not all gurls like d suspense tingy. My point is gurls are unpredictable and we sucumb to change because we wer created like dat. Gurls change easily, our tinkin, our body, our mind etc. So u can't generalise dat point. We wer created like dat, even from a gurls cycle, ha mood can b seen to swing frequently. wat u need is patience to undstnd us and change as we do. Wen/if u enta a new relationship and u want it to work, it takes hard work especially if u want it to lead to marriage.
2. @ ur ex, u don't av to do payback. Letting go means hurting no more, u r still hurting from wat u said. U need to fashy dat babe. Som gurls ar crazy n u r ryt abt dat but frustratin ha psychologically is uncalled for. Why don't u tink abt good tins u learnt from d relationship and try to imbibe dem in u. If we don't make mistakes, ow do we learn from our experiences? I was once hurt too, 6yrs relationship tossed in d bin, buh if u see d guy u wont bliv because of d way we still relate wit each oda. No one is perfect and der has to b som pipu whu wil make u feel sad or happy in life. Letting go means being happy again (90/10 rule)

Relationship is abt give and take, mutually parallel. It doesnt mean boy give money, gurl open laps. It saddens me wen I see d money/sex issue. If am gona sleep wit a guy, it has to b cos I want to not money. If a guy wana gimme money, it has to b cos e wants to, not cos I opened my legs. Plus what stops me from bein d one givin him money? My point here: it's not money or sex dat matters, it is ow we sincerely feel inside. Do u love him/her or usin him/her to pass time?
3. Gurls, we need to slow down too. Our own sef too much. U see a guy trippin for u, u no u aint interested buh u'll lead d guy on cos of attention or maybe money. Just tell him off. Plus u guys don't hear word, she says NO, u now assume she meant YES. Ar u a learner? Or u tink our generation still do 'hard to get' SMH for u peeps sef.
4. Relationship no b easy tin, r we (male/female) ready to give it wot it takes? Na 10 unit course o...lol. Me sef still dey learn n pray for understanding a man. Dey ar as complicated as women. It is easy to say men want dis and women want dat buh na d practical go determine if dat is really d truth.

carmelion:

Really sorry to hear this,If you actually did those stuffs and this babe treated you like this.Take it from me,She will come to beg you one day.

It might not be soon,it might be in 20yrs time.But she will come.

There is something called law of nature.You can't cause someone damage and then progress in life.No, it does not work that way.

Leave it to God.Your wife would come.

I have. You cant keep a good dog down. But anyway where the parry at?!. Why wasnt there any e-party this weekend?, i wanted to show you my party-trick. Hmmm?

ichidodo: I have. You cant keep a good dog down. But anyway where the parry at?!. Why wasnt there any e-party this weekend?, i wanted to show you my party-trick. Hmmm?

May be because am not really into parties.online and offline.I do it once in a while. Besides,parties are best attended when there is something to celebrate,you know,everyone would be in the mood.

So what are we gonna celebrate?

I can feel the hatred and bitterness coming from 2sexy.net and I honestly can't blame him

But my dear, the sooner u let go, the happier u'd become.
Frustrating her psychologically would mean you remembering how she hurt u over and over again and then strategizing on what to do to her return. That's not good for ur health.

As much as u'd hate to admit, u haven't forgiven her. Please let it go. Stop keeping in touch as it will help forget her before u end up hurting urself even more

Happy to be back






Was only gone for 5 minutes tho

carmelion:

May be because am not really into parties.online and offline.I do it once in a while. Besides,parties are best attended when there is something to celebrate,you know,everyone would be in the mood.

So what are we gonna celebrate?

Yah, So no parry till further notice? Since everyone is in a dour mood, There is really nuffin to celebrate. I justed wanted an atmosphere to lift the spirits up in here, you know. #whereispassionate?#

Ok ladies,this is to Simayanki4real and all the sweet guys who has in one way or the other supported us in this thread

In the spirit of the weekend,just wanna say that in my previous relationships,it was not always bad,as in very bad.

There were sweet moments too.


I have never really had surprises like someone covering my eyes and then leading me outside to see a car parked outside, decorated with ribbons,

Neither have I received expensive gifts like gold ornaments or gadgets lilke ipad,galaxy tab,e.t.c


But there were little things that mattered to me.

CARING


One of my ex(es)had his own flaws but he pampered me like a doll. He does not allow me do a thing!.

When he confirms that am coming over to his house,he perpares food for me,serves me,removes the plate.

If I offer to join him in the kitchen,he says no,even to sweep the room,later na problem.

In our 2yrs of dating,I never did any strenous work for him,apart from......,ok,I know you guys understand.lol

When he is doing his laundry,he aks me to bring mine or if am sleeping he will just look for it and wash for me.

He likes attending family occasions with me,anything they are doing in his family. I am always invited.

I rarely attend cos on few occasions I obliged him,I ended up staying alone ,just looking around or pressing my phone; cos he would be busy tending their visitors. I hate crowd sometimes,am shy

Though the only person that knew we are dating was his immidiate elder sister.

We were still doing some hide and seek stuffs for the parents,you know just out of respect.

I also remember occasions when I will get so tired from hanging out. Once I complain that I can't climb the stairs,he bends to carry me on his back. He is very huge though,and very very handsome. He was a ladies man

I don't want to write why we parted ways so as not to contradict the purpose of this post.

But I know that early followers of this thread,would understand when I say "he was the one that landed me in the hospital"

My second ex was somehow the opposite of the other one. I do his laundry. He did not ask me to,any ways. I just felt like.

But when it comes to cooking,he does not even allow me drop my bag,he will start listing out all the dishes he has been craving for.hahahaha.

If there is no interesting programme to watch,he stays and gists with me in the kitchen while I cook.

But he is a habitual buyer. Once he drives out of the gate to somewhere,am so sure of getting something from him.

Though nothing big,but I appreciate anyone who gives me anything without me asking for it.

He might go out and then the next minute,he would just send airtime to my phone. Most times 1,500,sometimes 400,but I just like the fact that he had me in mind even when we are not together.

Sometimes it might be just cake and biscuits ,or red wine. He would just come back home and say"baby take this is for you"

Ok,maybe am not supposed to write this ,but .......... ,I hope you understand when I say HE IS VERY GOOD. Please save ne the stress of explaining.

Just so that I won't also contradict the purpose of this post,I won't say why and how we parted.

I just hope you understand it when I say "he is the reason why I'd on't like listening to 'SOMEONE LIKE YOU by ADELE'".It's seems I wrote that song with her.

nbright: That's the Gospel truth... There's nothing like love at first sight.. I just don't know how people compare attraction to love or spark... I read how the real maria in "sound of Music" fared when she was with the Von Trapp family... She said she married the Captain initially because of the kids, that she wasn't even in love with him then, though she did liked him but later on the love materialised.. For you girls, I know you are good at hiding somethings, I will advice you to marry the guy that truely loves you even if you don't love him back (as long as you like him).. Later on with his love and devotions, your own love for him will come to the fore..

Hitting the nail on d head jare. U r so right

For me, I can't marry a man I don't like because I tink like a man (am d only gurl n look more like my dad in terms of xter). I'd b so disgusted and irritated wit such man even if e does heaven n earth for me, it will never last!

bukkylois:
Hitting the nail on d head jare. U r so right

pretim: Am so hrt broken ryt nw am even shading tears,
wat have i done wrong dat i loved a guy, he hardly call me, i call him always, text him but no reply, he traveled without telling me wen he came bk he dnt wana see me

before dis guy became something i suffered wit him, i gave him my 6months salary to start a business, look @ hw he is paying me bk, he never buy anything for me, am so tired i need to brk up because i can't take it anymore God why me, or is it a crime dat am a gurl in love?

*Cries*

So sorry dear, I no dt feeling. I want u to understand dt when a man loves u he doesn't hav to say it. His deeds will speak on his behalf. But b4 u conclude, try and find out wat is rily wrong. The guy might be going tru emotional stress, or der is sometin abt ur relationship dt aint right.
But wen u finally conclude dt he is indifferent abt u and ur feelings my dear, walk away and dnt look back. The pain fades with time, trust me.

carmelion: Ok ladies,this is to Simayanki4real and all the sweet guys who has in one way or the other supported us in this thread

In the spirit of the weekend,just wanna say that in my previous relationships,it was not always bad,as in very bad.

There were sweet moments too.


I have never really had surprises like someone covering my eyes and then leading me outside to see a car parked outside, decorated with ribbons,

Neither have I received expensive gifts like gold ornaments or gadgets lilke ipad,galaxy tab,e.t.c


But there were little things that mattered to me.

CARING


One of my ex(es)had his own flaws but he pampered me like a doll. He does not allow me do a thing!.

When he confirms that am coming over to his house,he perpares food for me,serves me,removes the plate.

If I offer to join him in the kitchen,he says no,even to sweep the room,later na problem.

In our 2yrs of dating,I never did any strenous work for him,apart from......,ok,I know you guys understand.lol

When he is doing his laundry,he aks me to bring mine or if am sleeping he will just look for it and wash for me.

He likes attending family occasions with me,anything they are doing in his family. I am always invited.

I rarely attend cos on few occasions I obliged him,I ended up staying alone ,just looking around or pressing my phone; cos he would be busy tending their visitors. I hate crowd sometimes,am shy

Though the only person that knew we are dating was his immidiate elder sister.

We were still doing some hide and seek stuffs for the parents,you know just out of respect.

I also remember occasions when I will get so tired from hanging out. Once I complain that I can't climb the stairs,he bends to carry me on his back. He is very huge though,and very very handsome. He was a ladies man

I don't want to write why we parted ways so as not to contradict the purpose of this post.

But I know that early followers of this thread,would understand when I say "he was the one that landed me in the hospital"

That's so sweet to hear. Reading this...one tear dropped from my eyes, trust me: leaning on a memory like this just gives you sweet smiles.

I have always loved to create precious moments in a relationship. However and whatever so someone can smile when she remembers.

Its one of the attributes of the ultimate GENTLEMAN. Thanks for sharing @ carmdoll.

carmelion: Ok ladies,this is to Simayanki4real and all the sweet guys who has in one way or the other supported us in this thread

In the spirit of the weekend,just wanna say that in my previous relationships,it was not always bad,as in very bad.

There were sweet moments too.


I have never really had surprises like someone covering my eyes and then leading me outside to see a car parked outside, decorated with ribbons,

Neither have I received expensive gifts like gold ornaments or gadgets lilke ipad,galaxy tab,e.t.c


But there were little things that mattered to me.

CARING


One of my ex(es)had his own flaws but he pampered me like a doll. He does not allow me do a thing!.

When he confirms that am coming over to his house,he perpares food for me,serves me,removes the plate.

If I offer to join him in the kitchen,he says no,even to sweep the room,later na problem.

In our 2yrs of dating,I never did any strenous work for him,apart from......,ok,I know you guys understand.lol

When he is doing his laundry,he aks me to bring mine or if am sleeping he will just look for it and wash for me.

He likes attending family occasions with me,anything they are doing in his family. I am always invited.

I rarely attend cos on few occasions I obliged him,I ended up staying alone ,just looking around or pressing my phone; cos he would be busy tending their visitors. I hate crowd sometimes,am shy

Though the only person that knew we are dating was his immidiate elder sister.

We were still doing some hide and seek stuffs for the parents,you know just out of respect.

I also remember occasions when I will get so tired from hanging out. Once I complain that I can't climb the stairs,he bends to carry me on his back. He is very huge though,and very very handsome. He was a ladies man

I don't want to write why we parted ways so as not to contradict the purpose of this post.

But I know that early followers of this thread,would understand when I say "he was the one that landed me in the hospital"

@carmelion:: what do you he landed you in the hospital?were you depressed after you guys parted ways or was he abusive?i don't wanna imagine it tho,its scary..i'm sorry

Was it the guy that, erhheem? O.k my sweet moments was hearing the voice of my ex, talking and encouraging me durin my bad times, hearing her squeal with joy when i 'surprise' her. And i want to believe that her moments was the day i travelled over 400km to get to her on her birthday with her gifts after i had made her to believe that i couldnt make it cuz of work, had to go back that day though but boi, i cannot forget the look on her face that day, she almost died of shock. I stil get goosebumbs thinkin bout it.

carmelion: Ok ladies,this is to Simayanki4real and all the sweet guys who has in one way or the other supported us in this thread

In the spirit of the weekend,just wanna say that in my previous relationships,it was not always bad,as in very bad.

There were sweet moments too.


I have never really had surprises like someone covering my eyes and then leading me outside to see a car parked outside, decorated with ribbons,

Neither have I received expensive gifts like gold ornaments or gadgets lilke ipad,galaxy tab,e.t.c


But there were little things that mattered to me.

CARING


One of my ex(es)had his own flaws but he pampered me like a doll. He does not allow me do a thing!.

When he confirms that am coming over to his house,he perpares food for me,serves me,removes the plate.

If I offer to join him in the kitchen,he says no,even to sweep the room,later na problem.

In our 2yrs of dating,I never did any strenous work for him,apart from......,ok,I know you guys understand.lol

When he is doing his laundry,he aks me to bring mine or if am sleeping he will just look for it and wash for me.

He likes attending family occasions with me,anything they are doing in his family. I am always invited.

I rarely attend cos on few occasions I obliged him,I ended up staying alone ,just looking around or pressing my phone; cos he would be busy tending their visitors. I hate crowd sometimes,am shy

Though the only person that knew we are dating was his immidiate elder sister.

We were still doing some hide and seek stuffs for the parents,you know just out of respect.

I also remember occasions when I will get so tired from hanging out. Once I complain that I can't climb the stairs,he bends to carry me on his back. He is very huge though,and very very handsome. He was a ladies man

I don't want to write why we parted ways so as not to contradict the purpose of this post.

But I know that early followers of this thread,would understand when I say "he was the one that landed me in the hospital"

*Clears throat* Interesting flashback.

carmelion: But when it comes to cooking,he does not even allow me drop my bag,he will start listing out all the dishes he has been craving for.hahahaha.

If there is no interesting programme to watch,he stays and gists with me in the kitchen while I cook.

I literarily learnt to cook to give a lady a treat & fill my tommy atimes *winks*

carmelion: But he is a habitual buyer. Once he drives out of the gate to somewhere,am so sure of getting something from him.

Though nothing big,but I appreciate anyone who gives me anything without me asking for it.

He might go out and then the next minute,he would just send airtime to my phone. Most times 1,500,sometimes 400,but I just like the fact that he had me in mind even when we are not together.

Sometimes it might be just cake and biscuits ,or red wine. He would just come back home and say"baby take this is for you"

WooooOoooow

carmelion: My second ex was somehow the opposite of the other one. I do his laundry. He did not ask me to,any ways. I just felt like.

But when it comes to cooking,he does not even allow me drop my bag,he will start listing out all the dishes he has been craving for.hahahaha.

If there is no interesting programme to watch,he stays and gists with me in the kitchen while I cook.

But he is a habitual buyer. Once he drives out of the gate to somewhere,am so sure of getting something from him.

Though nothing big,but I appreciate anyone who gives me anything without me asking for it.

He might go out and then the next minute,he would just send airtime to my phone. Most times 1,500,sometimes 400,but I just like the fact that he had me in mind even when we are not together.

Sometimes it might be just cake and biscuits ,or red wine. He would just come back home and say"baby take this is for you"

Ok,maybe am not supposed to write this ,but .......... ,I hope you understand when I say HE IS VERY GOOD. Please save ne the stress of explaining.

Just so that I won't also contradict the purpose of this post,I won't say why and how we parted.

I just hope you understand it when I say "he is the reason why I'd on't like listening to 'SOMEONE LIKE YOU by ADELE'".It's seems I wrote that song with her.

Few words, many proverbs... Not everyone understands proverbs.

This topic is getting really interesting, I'm comin back with how my ex wowed me while dating him, I really misses him sometimes sha, wish I could turn bk d hands of time.

Lol. I have moved on ooh. may be when I talk about it, I do feel the whole scene happening all over again. But trust me, I have moved on.

Offline, I am too gentle... I could be in a place without uttering a single word from morning till night. That is my kind.

But this particular girl felt she was dealing with fool simply because of my nature. She felt I dont know anything and that she is way smarter...

I stopped talking about her on nairaland because people don even tire to hear am... ask idowu if na lie I dey talk.


Like I said, my kind is very rare and I am proud of who I am even if this world does not fit my kind and the last thing I want is someone thinking I am a fool just because I am too gentle, that person will definitely be surprised by the time he/she sees the other side of me. It does not apply to just my ex but generally.

but if you insist, I will find time to write about her or simply provide links to old threads...

anitank: I can feel the hatred and bitterness coming from 2sexy.net and I honestly can't blame him

But my dear, the sooner u let go, the happier u'd become.
Frustrating her psychologically would mean you remembering how she hurt u over and over again and then strategizing on what to do to her return. That's not good for ur health.

As much as u'd hate to admit, u haven't forgiven her. Please let it go. Stop keeping in touch as it will help forget her before u end up hurting urself even more

Is it wrong to use ur dad xter as a standard in judging d men u date. As for me I do dt a lot. Doesn't work out sha. Guess good men r hard to find.

Is it wrong to use ur dad xter as a standard in judging d men u date. As for me I do dt a lot. Doesn't work out sha. Though I am not saying my dad is perfect.

Wrong wrong wrong! Every1's got unique charateristics. U can't even use ur ex or best guy u dated to rate oda guys talk less of ur dad (who is from a different generation). To me, I wud never do dat. My dad may be my role model buh shud e b my guy's role model too? Lol. Rememba we r all from different backgrounds wit different experiences so u shudnt even do dat.

bukkylois: Is it wrong to use ur dad xter as a standard in judging d men u date. As for me I do dt a lot. Doesn't work out sha. Though I am not saying my dad is perfect.

Now, ladies are talking. They can really be sweet at times, just that most times, their head dey spark

@2sexy.net, people have said it all. I think I must have seen ur story before and i'm not saying this to you alone but to everyone also, relationship is not a business deal or agreement. It's a relationship. As much as I believe in justice, I don't believe in justice in a relationship. You just gotta enjoy and flow with the tide. What i'm trying to say is that if you've been hurt in one way or the other, mourn your loss and move on. The concept of trying to seek justice with an 'ex' is just not it. Someone with whom you've shared your time, money, emotions, love and probably body! If the other party were to also tell their story, they might have a more convincing story to tell. Therefore, let the other party go in peace. It might take time to get over the emotions but time, they say heals all wounds.

It's not only Nigerian ladies dt're evil as many guys have always painted on this forum, every human being has evil and wickedness inside of them one way or the other. We all just try to keep it away and bring out the good of us to show to the world. The fact that a Nigerian lady hurt you does not mean that Somalian ladies are better. Please, let's stop generalizing. GUYS ARE BAD, LADIES ARE BAD, NIGERIANS ARE BAD, AMERICANS ARE BAD, GHANIANS ARE BAD, EVERYBODY IS BAD!!!!!!!! On the other hand, GUYS ARE GOOD, LADIES ARE GOOD, NIGERIANS ARE GOOD, AMERICANS ARE GOOD, GHANIANS ARE GOOD,,, EVERYBODY IS GOOD!!!

Api Sunday, everyone!!!

bukkylois: Is it wrong to use ur dad xter as a standard in judging d men u date. As for me I do dt a lot. Doesn't work out sha. Guess good men r hard to find.

As impossible as it is, try to view every person you meet as a blank sheet...let he/she write on it who or what its personality is or can be. Why humans are impossible to really predict is that sometimes when you least expect the person can change for the better or worse.

Let the persons behaviour and character write or create an impression on the invincible blank sheet of your mind!

@carmy, maybe you didn't get what he was trying to say... Maybe he trained her through school hoping to tie the knot maybe after or before her NYSC but she dumped him.. True some girls are married while in schl (my sis did it) but not all girls like that, maybe he decieded to wait for her (respect her wish like a true gentleman) after completing her scholling, she now noticed (or voiced out) the flaws in him... But 9 yrs!.... Jesus Christ!.. That guy is Santa Claus... Just see it as if she is an orphan that was in your orphanage, after maturity, she decieded to see the world or according to you as you didn't "touch" her and maybe someone was "touching" her outside she thought you might be im*p0t/3nt or you are taking her as a sister so she decieded to look elsewhere for some fun... But still 9 yrs!.... O my GOD... Chai.. This is heart breaking.. Thank God you didn't deciede to jump off a bridge or in front of a moving lorry..