I wonder how long I've got to apologize. The annoying part is, I don't know where we stand right now. I'm tired of talking about it with all the time. Last time I told her we gotta end this and she busy asking me if that's what I want. I think she's just trying to hear something else from me. I've never apologized to anyone like this in my whole life. Smh

Serves you right . . .

corazoni: I wonder how long I've got to apologize. The annoying part is, I don't know where we stand right now. I'm tired of talking about it with all the time. Last time I told her we gotta end this and she busy asking me if that's what I want. I think she's just trying to hear something else from me. I've never apologized to anyone like this in my whole life. Smh

Lol. No need to keep apologizing. Have you gone to see her? How was your Val's day with her? My suggestion? She asked you what you really want, why not just say all you want and what you are feeling directly from your heart. End with asking her to give you another chance to prove you can both make it work. Then give her time to think about it and get back to you. Send her some flowers and romantic cards during this wait period. If after this, she is still unsure or unwilling to recommit then maybe it's time to say goodbye for now.

The fact that she asked you if that's what you want when you tried to break up suggests she still wants you. If she already had another lover like some are suggesting she would have taken that out when you offered it.

Ujujoan: Serves you right . . .

corazoni: I wonder how long I've got to apologize. The annoying part is, I don't know where we stand right now. I'm tired of talking about it with all the time. Last time I told her we gotta end this and she busy asking me if that's what I want. I think she's just trying to hear something else from me. I've never apologized to anyone like this in my whole life. Smh

dude this attuitude of yours sounds defeatist
I thot the plan was to see her (move ur flight from thursday)

Let her with her own mouth say she no wan do na
Why are u begging ceaselessly
have u spoken to the friend in Brazil

I don dey tire o.. e be like say u sef no wan do again

Ujujoan: Serves you right . . .

Meanie

armyofone: now i'm liking your lady, she got 'em
going to Brazil to go cool off 'your i diotic cuss', that's a new generation lady.
Not sit at home crying and wasting tissues

don't forget to carry jollof rice and fried goat meat and shiken go.
Ije ewere

LOL!

I think there's more to this story than the Op is telling.

@OP this isn't your first time of insulting her is it?

biolabee:

dude this attuitude of yours sounds defeatist
I thot the plan was to see her (move ur flight from thursday)

Let her with her own mouth say she no wan do na
Why are u begging ceaselessly
have u spoken to the friend in Brazil

I don dey tire o.. e be like say u sef no wan do again

ileobatojo:

Lol. No need to keep apologizing. Have you gone to see her? How was your Val's day with her? My suggestion? She asked you what you really want, why not just say all you want and what you are feeling directly from your heart. End with asking her to give you another chance to prove you can both make it work. Then give her time to think about it and get back to you. Send her some flowers and romantic cards during this wait period. If after this, she is still unsure or unwilling to recommit then maybe it's time to say goodbye for now.

The fact that she asked you if that's what you want when you tried to break up suggests she still wants you. If she already had another lover like some are suggesting she would have taken that out when you offered it.

I rescheduled the flight to first week of march which is her birthday. Yeah I know it's far but I've got things to take care of.

When she ask me if that's what I want I said NO. Can you imagine I typed over 40 words on text message to her on valentines day since she wasn't in the country and all I received in reply was "happy Vals babe" wow.

I am not choking her with apologies rather I'm just reassuring her everyday that I've learned my lessons and promise to do better. It's hard knowing out stands in this situation because I don't want to be in a baseless angle.

She told me she wanted a red convertible chevy Camaro
For her up coming birthday, I've made plans on getting it for her as surprise on her birthday but my bro said I shouldn't do it cuz she might think I'm trying to buy her out of the situation.

I just want our sweet communication back. I send bunch of text messages and all I get back will "K, fine, sup, no, what do you mean, what are you trying to say" how annoying could that be.

Oh now she's trying to use this opportunity to be in charge lol. By yelling up my voice on every little thing with me acting like her pu ssy

But one thing I know for sure is, she is not seeing anyone !

Her communication with my family especially my baby bro, mom and my sister was 4/5 but for a while now I don't think the communication is there anymore and I don't want to get them into it.

What does this young woman want?

StateOfMind:

LOL!

I think there's more to this story than the Op is telling.

@OP this isn't your first time of insulting her is it?

Not really! Maybe I should make out a list of things I've said to her in the past and post it here. Will that help?

your brother has given u the best idea ever dont buy any gift for her at all
if she is yours again, gift na small matter

good to hear you still have plans to go

DOnt forget even if u guys reconcile, its like it almost u start again becuase many things will still be tender and raw
So temper your expectations

Expect less from her

Go see her as planned
Dont be irritable

Talk to her confidant/lady friend to get a glimpse of her mind if she is still down
As i said earlier, if it does not work u tried ur best

I just want our sweet communication back. I send bunch of text messages and all I get back will "K, fine, sup, no, what do you mean, what are you trying to say" how annoying could that be.

Oh now she's trying to use this opportunity to be in charge lol. By yelling up my voice on every little thing with me acting like her pu ssy

But one thing I know for sure is, she is not seeing anyone !

Her communication with my family especially my baby bro, mom and my sister was 4/5 but for a while now I don't think the communication is there anymore and I don't want to get them into it.

What does this young woman want?

corazoni:

Not really! Maybe I should make out a list of things I've said to her in the past and post it here. Will that help?

Lol.. Not at all. I was just curious because I honestly do not understand why she's proving too difficult.

Give it up bro...From your last lengthy post, I think she's probably tired of the relationship or maybe she has an unforgiving spirit.

Either way, Let her be abeg. Forget about the number of years you've been together, it doesn't always matter. If you are meant for each other, she'll find her way back to your life.

chaircover: sounds like she has had enough

I dont also know if I am speaking for other women when I say that when apologies go on and on for too long they become annoying and it makes the man look like a sissy. No one wants a sissy man. Apologise genuingly, make amends and move on. cant stand whining men especially when its something that was done deliberatly in the first instance.

the op is a joke....

Lol @ happy Val's day babe!

So what are your plans now before march? Do you plan to keep begging and reassuring everyday till then? I think you could have one short, final non begging conversation about this issue just to remind her that everything you've said so far is the truth. Then back off a little. Not too much, but maybe instead of calling everyday try every other day. ( I doubt you can go longer anyway, d love too dey shack you ). Absolutely no more begging/ reassuring/ apologizing etc!! And like someone said adjust your expectation, don't expect her to go from zero to ten overnight. I think you want things to immediately go back to how they were but you need to be patient with that.

jidegirl12: God why is my own way of seeing things / reasoning different from most folks on NL? this is shocking !

@genius.. My thots exactly !

Just IDI OT and the world wan end? What if you're married nko? Best of the bestest nagging chei

Now all married folks ( that cuss out people here like crazy everytime) now have a perfect marriage with parental control PG14 mouth
Abegii give me a break jor!

OP, she probably already found another guy with constant and great service and looking for excuse to cut you off and she just got it... there's nothing like being together, getting to know each other while courting, except you're already married with kids which always cuffs most women from infidelity.
Even if you guys get back together eventually, I wish you best of luck handling such attitude. Very strange.

whoever your parents are, God will bless and enlarge them. Your husband will celebrate you daily. You will be a shining light amongst your peers. The works of your hands shall multiply beyond your imagined expection. Your children will forever bring joy to your heart. Madam you are a human being with a good rationale. Tolerance, Forgiveness, Endurance, and a Strong sense of commitment are attributes you possess despite being in the U.S. God bless you again Madam. I can forever worship and be a mumu for a woman like this after God despite my short temper.

A heart that cannot forgive. Jesus!!!!! Ogbeni that is your path to eternal hypertention sir, no one here can hold claim to not saying or even acting ill one or a few times in his /her life. heck no impossible. And for the ladies talking about how James bondish they are, it's a big fat lie someone has said something not too nice to you before and the world did not stop revolving. Peeps pls learn to adopt a heart of forgiveness and tolerance. No one and I reiterate no one on earth is even near perfect hence the very disturbing deception I see in most folks here. You can never claim your spouse is perfect or will or has never gotten on your nerves, it's a lie, it's a big robust lie. If this conforms to reality why then are you still in the union. Stop trying to mislead peeps. Just a mere i diot in the heat of the moment. What about a woman who outrightly cheated and the man forgave. Haba let us take it easy now. @OP the girl simply doesn't love you that's the cold hard truth

$25 million:
whoever your parents are, God will bless and enlarge them. Your husband will celebrate you daily. You will be a shining light amongst your peers. The works of your hands shall multiply beyond your imagined expection. Your children will forever bring joy to your heart. Madam you are a human being with a good rationale. Tolerance, Forgiveness, Endurance, and a Strong sense of commitment are attributes you possess despite being in the U.S. God bless you again Madam. I can forever worship and be a mumu for a woman like this after God despite my short temper.

Amen! and thank you bro.

The apology period is over. I'm gonna be calling her once a day or once every other day.

I realized that talking about this matter all over with her irritates her and she feels pressured just like some of y'all said. Lets just pretend like everything is ok and try as much as possible to have a normal conversation btw we didn't break up or anything.

I love her and all and as well can get any chick I want anyone. So I'm not gonna bother myself anymore.

I will update you guys as we go lol!

good one bro

biolabee: good one bro

Yeah sir

corazoni:

Her friends, I know all 3 of them.



Tu loco walai!



If she had called my mom out do you think there have been a thread like this from me? No I can't deal with a raze chick. Yes I've really learned my lessons. I can do anything to have her back. If all fails I will take it to mobbed tv and that will be the final move.

Ol boy, shine your eyes. Her behavior is not because you called her an i-diot. There is wayyy more to her behavior than that. I'm pretty sure she is not ready to settle down with you. Perhaps she wants to see what else is out there or she already is getting serviced by someone else. Someone whose priority is going to the Brazil carnival is not wife material yet. Believe me, you are 100% setting yourself up for a heartbreak if you marry this woman.

Read between the lines. I will advise you to considerably reduce the amount of times you call her. Is she even calling you abi you are the one doing all the calling. Guy, if she does not shape up, you better start the process of finding someone else... I'm rarely wrong about these things.

^^^ that's why you're Genius right? :

jidegirl12: ^^^ that's why you're Genius right? :

Lol

Genius100:

Ol boy, shine your eyes. Her behavior is not because you called her an i-diot. There is wayyy more to her behavior than that. I'm pretty sure she is not ready to settle down with you. Perhaps she wants to see what else is out there or she already is getting serviced by someone else. Someone whose priority is going to the Brazil carnival is not wife material yet. Believe me, you are 100% setting yourself up for a heartbreak if you marry this woman.

Read between the lines. I will advise you to considerably reduce the amount of times you call her. Is she even calling you abi you are the one doing all the calling. Guy, if she does not shape up, you better start the process of finding someone else... I'm rarely wrong about these things.

Thanks bro. I appreciate it

I think the lady is tired of the relationship and she is looking for someone else. How long did the issue arise? The distant is part of it. You know at times when we have been in a relationship too long, we tend to take the other person for granted which I think that is what you are doing. Just call her and you guys have a heart to heart talk, face to face. Her facial expression will say it all.

coogar:

move on with your life!
you called her an idiöt cos she acted like one in the first place - she got offended and you re-weighed the gravity of the word and you have apologised and she's still fronting - think about it, do you think the word "idiöt" spoken out of a moment of anger should undo a relationship of 3 yrs? are you such a tool?

women are funny animals - she's obviously tired of you and any excuse would do. when women are tired, they would use anything as an excuse to move on. what makes you think what got you annoyed wasn't a set up in the first place. she must know you would get annoyed and she knew you would say things out of line and she would then capitalise on that.

you are letting a woman do this to you in the 21st century. there must be an acute shortage of women in your county. tell her to buzz off, dust yourself and find yourself someone who would love you regardless of the things you say in anger. unfortunately, when a woman is fed up, you are on a long thing - not even the most expensive diamond ring can bring her back. for all you know, she's cheating on you as we speak while you are on NL crying like a fücking sissy.......

arrant nonsense!

Gbam!! Exactly my thought'....move on with ur life dude!

Think its time you stopped begging. It is infact a turn off at this point.

andromida: Think its time you stopped begging. It is infact a turn off at this point.

begging period is over honey! I will go see her, go on a romantic dinner at one of her fav restaurant then have a hot sssex with her. After that we gonna know what's up.

Lol@ hot sex. In your dreams abi. Person never forgive u, u dey talk of hot sex. Pray she doesn't cut off ur d.ick while u are at it.

bettymafy: Lol@ hot sex. In your dreams abi. Person never forgive u, u dey talk of hot sex. Pray she doesn't cut off ur d.ick while u are at it.

Lol. . Trust me we gonna do it lol. We didn't breakup you know?

chaircover:

You are the one sounding like an idiottt now Hot sex ko cold kiss ni

You havent got out of one problem, you are now looking for another one!

Lol it's ok sweetheart haha! I just know the right button to press. I hope the button remains the same by the time I get there lol. I miss that girl ahhhhhhh