bukatyne:

Dear,

I think this is where we are missing it.

The OP is not talking of providing finances. Don't you see men who provide for their families and still sleep around or beat their wives? He was talking of connecting with one's woman esp. wife emotionally. He was talking of cherishing, respecting and loving one's wife which can be achieved with little or no finances. He was talking about listening to her and not just telling her what to do.

He was also talking about women esp. wives helping husbands become better by cherishing, loving and respecting them too.


Men should learn to increase their value proposition: a man that has only finance to offer his wife has failed as women are now earning equal or more, financially independent and contributing financially to the household. He should learn to love her, respect her, be her greatest fan, cherish her, be her pillar and support and be her best friend. He should also be a loyal, trustworthy and faithful friend. He must not CHEAT on her. These things have nothing to do with financial muscle

Women should learn to increase their value proposition: a woman that has only house chores to offer her husband has failed. In this age where men are now as domestic or more domestic than women. she should learn to love him, respect him, be his greatest fan, cherish him, be his pillar and support and be his best friend. She should also be a loyal, trustworthy and faithful friend. She must not CHEAT on him. These things have nothing to do with domestic skills

lorretta u: I don't see how your post connects with what the OP is talking about.he/she is apologizing for the men's bad attitude and u r saying men don't have anything to be sorry about? if u want to say the bad things women are doing or their bad attitude maybe u can help me create the thread: APOLOGY LETTER FROM WOMEN TO MEN.that's a different issue in itself.don't mix them up

Pedro JP:


My dear, i guess i shud say u just narrated a fantasy rather than an ideal thing. Watch every successful family, u'll always see a patient and understanding wife. There must be times of fall outs in marriage,a woman detects its state(mild or rage). Do i xplain further ? Not saying cos i'm a man but saying out of xperience

Babzilla:
THATS THE POINT TOOTS NUTHING 2 B SORRY ABOUT. THAT ISH WAS WRITTEN BY EITHER A WOMAN OR A HOMO SO I GOT NO QUALMS WIF IT
APOLOGY FROM WOMEN? NAH TOOTS, THAT WONT BE NECESSARY WE'RE NOT THAT 'SENSITIVE'

Pedro JP: @Lorreta


When u write apology letters u don't make suggestions. U acknowledge ur guilt totally. I'm not against men writing apologies to women but Mam. This is more than an apology,more like venerating,worship,obeisance,adoration. Mam, Women no deserve dis type i beg

lorretta u: this part I totally agree with.God bless Bukatyne.

bukatyne:

And for this supposed success, a husband doesn't need to be patient and understanding? A man cannot detect the state of fall out and fix it?

I am not narrating a fantasy but an ideal thing. What is fantasy in husband and wife should make their home work? Am I missing something?

Anyways, successful marriage mean different things to different people

bukatyne:

And for this supposed success, a husband doesn't need to be patient and understanding? A man cannot detect the state of fall out and fix it?

I am not narrating a fantasy but an ideal thing. What is fantasy in husband and wife should make their home work? Am I missing something?

Anyways, successful marriage mean different things to different people

Pedro JP:



U are trying to make me deviate from the topic. Women have influencial emotional powers that men can't build through out their whole life. Powers that emanate from their mind. Once a woman gets hold of this potential, u hardly notice a fall out btw her and her man hence a successful union. I'm not saying men do not have their roles to play but i think 80% of the burden falls on women

lorretta u: baby are u a visitor here?
A successful marriage by them standards means a wife who can endure cheating,nonchalance,maybe some battery(like three or four slaps a week),works like horse to keep the home(this one's good anyway) contributes equally financially(good too).and understands his philandering as his nature and still loves him with her Whole heart(dream on guys)

bukatyne:

God bless you. May He bless you with a real woman.

Pedro JP:



That is it. With such notion, u can't last long in a union cos u'll read disgusting meanings into every of his actions. But shud u decide that u are going there to tolerate some characters, u may end up not having much to bother about in ur marriage. All u listed above make it seem like men invented everything bad. Lol

Texas.Cowgirl:
I want Nigerian men to read this letter to me (esp first and second line) while prostrating.

lorretta u: well speak for yourself alone.their are a few sensitive men out there.and your attitude alone is something to apologize for.trust me on this.

Ama28: Why do I feel this writer is a woman? Is it just me or does anyone else feel so?
I didn't see many characteristics of male writer in this!
I saw a whole lot of female characteristic like humility, loads of love and romance, admitting guilt and enough empathy to fill a car trunk!

The empathy was my give away character!

jadelyn007: Real men will read dis and learn frm it while boys will read this and cuss d Op.real men r doers,boys r talkers(talk is cheap)!!real men make sense frm dis write up dat boys call 'nonsense',boys can't even read between d lines.real men dnt hv to call demselves men,their action speaks for dem, boys claim dey r men n yet can't pay their own house rent.#My own humble opinion

Damon03:
I like how 'most' women are predictable. They mau write an epistle about who a real man is but it will always come down to money

Babzilla:
U DEY MIND THEM
IT ALWAYS IS ABT THAT PAPER YO
U HAVE IT U MAKE UR RULES
WATCH THEM GO MEEK
THEY'LL LET U WALK ALL OVER THEM
IT WORKS LIKE A CHARM MAN

Mobsync:

We're not guys, we're men. Besides, we don't remember writing this.

Mynd_44: I am a man and I don't remember agreeing to this. OP must have been sleep typing again

bbexcel: who cares nitwit? It was sha written by a man