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Re: Confessions Of A Fat Girl by lasunray(m): 7:25am On Jul 17, 2013
biggirloya2:


i wana. but how? please give me tips

In addition to what others have said, I'd advise you watch your diet, take a lot of water & eat fruits. it will definitely stabilize. "Diet& lifestyle" is an audio you'd love to listen to. inbox me if u can't get it. i'd know how to get it across to u.
Re: Confessions Of A Fat Girl by Kellychukadibbs(m): 7:26am On Jul 17, 2013
Loose some kilograms...and u will get younger guys
If you don't wish to loose weight...remain the way you are, enjoy ur self and stop complaining!!!
Re: Confessions Of A Fat Girl by Decolonel(m): 7:26am On Jul 17, 2013
biggirloya2:


i wana. but how? please give me tips
buy a skipping rope and skip 100 times morning and night.i tink dat wil help
Re: Confessions Of A Fat Girl by steffans(m): 7:28am On Jul 17, 2013
biggirloya2: ooh i forgot to mention that when someone my age approaches me i am also too judgemental and i will be scared of what people will say when that person is my bf so i just say no MAINLY BECAUSE I WILL BE TOO SCARED

Atleast u get ppl dat Approach u... Meaning u are nt dat Bad...

I had frnds bck den in d University.. Dat don't date.. Slim Chicks only XXXL so am sure u will. Find ur dream man Soon... Just Hold on and stop Hating!!!

By d way hwz ur eatin habit?
Re: Confessions Of A Fat Girl by Nobody: 7:32am On Jul 17, 2013
biggirloya2:



do big girls find love? is there someone out there who is big and has gotten real love or is this how we big girls are always treated? cry


Learn to love yourself. If you don't, why would anyone else? Stop seeing yourself as the “big girl”, I'm sure you have so much more to offer. You need to grow your confidence and get your sexxy back! Trust me, everyone has got the potential to be stunningly beautiful, just discover what makes u special and flaunt it.

Being big isn't the issue. You've got to let your essence come through, don't put a lid on it. There's this friend of mine, she's BIG but that's not the adjective that comes to mind when ppl describe her - she's got a GORGEOUS smile! She's bubbly and major fun. She carries herself well and gracefully. And she's got guys drooling all over her. Let's just say if you're thinking: I'm going to take my fat friend along to play gooseberry on a date, you might end up being the escort yourself.

If you're low on confidence, you're not automatically going to get it back by loosing all the weight. Loose the “big” label and define yourself totally, you're: smart, kind, friendly ( bla bla bla, keep filling in the blanks). Engage yourself, work to your strengths and let others see the good that you have seen in yourself. Keep improving yourself, nothing boosts one`s confidence like achievement.


There will always be those people who want to take advantage of you. They look for the slightest crack thinking: she has one leg; or she was molested as a child; or she's ugly; or she's fat; and so she's got to be greaful to have me. But if you show them that these “weaknesses” they perceive do not define who you are and you are not limited by them in any way, they would park well.

If your boyfriend is not treating u right, end it with him. You will find someone who will love you like u deserve.
Re: Confessions Of A Fat Girl by mikkhon(m): 7:34am On Jul 17, 2013
@op look around u....are all d lepa gals of ur age married! Of cos No. Means it takes something more than weight size to get a man. I knw guys dat love gat gaals. So pray n go meet ur guy. U ll get ther. B optimistic dear
Re: Confessions Of A Fat Girl by sambrow(m): 7:34am On Jul 17, 2013
biggirloya2: I have always been a big girl. Bigger than my age that is. I have a very beautiful body and personality but a bit too big for my age. I have always been like this. Now i am 26 but you would swear i am 29 or more. Now i have always attracted older men or bad guys and now i finally thought i had met the one. He is turning 25 in August and i am ( for once in my life) the older one in a relationship. I sometimes hate him coz i get the feeling that because i am fat he wants to treat me like a sugar mommy. but i am only 1 year older than him.I am tired of him hurting me. I get the feeling that he has a younger skinnier lover and me i am just the for sex and do him favours. The dude has never invited me to his home or to meet his people but he knows my home and people like hell. When i dump him he declares his undying love for me but when i decide to stay in the relationship he never has time for me and makes me feel as if he is doing me a favor by spending time with me. Will i ever feel good about myself, will i ever be happy like other people, or am i going to be his dirty secret forever? i am scared of ending things compeletly coz i am a coward and i cant stand to one day see him with a better girl coz i am just a fat worthless ugly girl who looks older than she is.Do you feel my pain?
I understand ur plight, u jux av 2 accept ur sef 4 hu u r, buh also work on ur sef, d ryt man wil com. Stp seeing ur sef a second fiddle
Re: Confessions Of A Fat Girl by Alexk2(m): 7:35am On Jul 17, 2013
what you don't have, you can't give. my dear, learn to love yourself first and you will see those lovely and nice guys who will love you for who you are. you are uniquely beautiful and that very guy will see that in you and appreciate you...cheers.
Re: Confessions Of A Fat Girl by nosike3(m): 7:35am On Jul 17, 2013
yuzedo: I feel your hurt, i can't even troll on this thread. I am sorry hun.. I think confidence in yourself and exuding a positive aura at all times might attract THE man (note: not A man)..

Can you lose weight through exercise? Easier said than done but if you can discipline yourself and put in effort, you might start to feel sexier and your new-found self-esteem will radiate and pull people towards you? Good luck, miss.
what? Is this yuzedo speaking? shocked what happened to my nairaland mentor cry
Re: Confessions Of A Fat Girl by Ninilowo(m): 7:41am On Jul 17, 2013
FICTION.
Re: Confessions Of A Fat Girl by mkoabiola: 7:41am On Jul 17, 2013
I love fat chicks bt dey ar nt gud on beeeeeeeddddddd.
Re: Confessions Of A Fat Girl by 2nedo(m): 7:42am On Jul 17, 2013
Confidence,good virtue and free spirit will turn things around for good not with men alone.
Re: Confessions Of A Fat Girl by Onyegecha(f): 7:43am On Jul 17, 2013
My dear, you are tormenting yourself with a negative and defeatist attitude. Do what you can to lose some weight but accept yourself the way you are.

Again, i think you need to work on your mindset. Happiness does not depend on finding a man to love you. That is the kind of thinking that drives some ladies into crazy desperation, and guess what, unscrupulous men take advantage of them. If you learn to live a life that exudes love to people generally, you will find true love even when you are not searching desperately for it.
Wake up and live your life joo. Look at the sunny side of being big and most importantly, teach yourself to be happy.
Re: Confessions Of A Fat Girl by lefolksy(f): 7:44am On Jul 17, 2013
My dear I read ur piece it jst put a smile on my face,u're my sista u knw why?I'm PHAT too,2 me PHAT means pretty Hot attractive babe.what I want u 2 do is,plsss knw how to carry ursef well,always luk good @ all tym,and be positive,evry man has his own spec of girls they like,so good man will like and appreciate u the way u're,plz I'm unique no one can be like me,dat shud be ur watchword.allow that ur boyfrd of urs because he was not mearnt 4 u.

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Re: Confessions Of A Fat Girl by teaangelleo(m): 7:45am On Jul 17, 2013
biggirloya2: this is me.

biggirloya2: this is me.


seen your pics!!!
dearie, u are not too big.
i've seen bigger ladies dating slim young guys, even married.
don't look down on ursef.
Sign up on facebook, snap lots of pix; u are a lady; carry ursef as one.
u don't av to register in a gym, go for long walk for say 15/30mins @ least 3 times/week.

put on nice tops + Jeans, get ursef a good fashion designer, carry ursef with confidence; trust me sweatie - mature guys will approach you.
#do not be desperate for a relationship.
Re: Confessions Of A Fat Girl by FinanceFitness: 7:45am On Jul 17, 2013
Hello dear
I think you need to decide on what you want. Do you feel bad about your weight? If yes, trust me, you can change that. With proper guidance and determination, you can be the size you choose to be. I have done it, so have many others. Please look up this website - www.africanweightloss.com. You won't regret it. I don't own it, they helped with my journey last year.
Re: Confessions Of A Fat Girl by blackbeau1(f): 7:46am On Jul 17, 2013
biggirloya2:



do big girls find love? is there someone out there who is big and has gotten real love or is this how we big girls are always treated? cry
yes ,they do.I have 'big' friends who have true love in their life and still have a lot of men asking them out.
Re: Confessions Of A Fat Girl by horlabhympey: 7:47am On Jul 17, 2013
Am a fat gurl also,pls if yu continue looking down at yurself..yu won't find love..I had 2 think big of maself and now I am in a very good relationship..stop looking down at yurself..not all guys loves slim gurls..so says my bf..if e s nt intrested in yu..move on gurl..don't beg 2 me loved..am proud 2 say am big,bold and beautiful
Re: Confessions Of A Fat Girl by zolajpower: 7:50am On Jul 17, 2013
biggirloya2:



do big girls find love? is there someone out there who is big and has gotten real love or is this how we big girls are always treated? cry
Am presently wth a big lady wth evrythn big,say laps, bosom & butt. Can i say we r just d oposite of each oda in statur. But my inbtw n big. So bein big is not a sickness. We even hav a beautfl girl. But i hv learnt somthn on nairaland i wount be quick 2 judg, since a slowpoke came here wth a news tht gbenga Aruleba has been fired by AiT. So u check wht u do wrng atimes. Does he ask 4 sex tht u refuse? I also hv d problm wth my spouse b4 nw. Cos mst big ladies dnt like sex. I lov ladis big laps &bosom 2 go wth t. So dnt let any one who is nt ready2 marry decieve u. Flunt wht u hv got bby u bein fat is nt by mistake. I wuld lov 2 ce but i alrdy hv one. Infact,i ce skinny ladis as sickns. How on earth wil i b makin lov wth a bony lady. I supot Fatlady 4 lif my dear. Dnt let d skiny ladis intimade jare.

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Re: Confessions Of A Fat Girl by Nobody: 7:51am On Jul 17, 2013
[size=16pt]op, i saw your pics, you r great, no one gets what we want just the way we want it, slim or fat or what ever, love still throw punches at us all. your size has nothing to do with this, its your mind set.....well, alot of comments and most peeps v said it all but let me say dis i dont care about your size but its you tht matters, pls live healthy, junk foods and all the calorie filled foods, you shld reduce the intake to the minmum level if possible zero... dont hate yoursef, just try to tighten up your skin, use google to your advantage and get wat to eat and not to and a little exercise to it, i bet you wil look shinny/chubby....i bet you will feel beta after whats [/size]
Re: Confessions Of A Fat Girl by Ehizze(m): 7:51am On Jul 17, 2013
Eyaa, your situation quite calls for concern. However u can overcome d feelings.. Get more involved in social activities and function, u must love yourself n let people knw n see dat u do! Lastly and importantly, get involved in a weight loss program, consult rightly n commit to it and forget everyother worry, especially d guy who likes 2 believe he is doing u a favour, cos actually, he's not! (u cn cntact me on weight loss consultatn via email gmail.com @ my username here..)
Re: Confessions Of A Fat Girl by Zeetry: 7:55am On Jul 17, 2013
Well i am just reading your story, i am single and luv chubby ladies,it depends on your character and the way u luk at yourself. My last relationship was wit a phat lady . People laugh at her each time we go on a date, but i told her to turn deaf ears on them, we broke up because she' s greedy and too jealous.
Re: Confessions Of A Fat Girl by omo1doll(f): 7:56am On Jul 17, 2013
seedord247:

Being fat is a disease in north america. If you are fat, your chances of getting a job is very slim unless you wanna become a correctional officer overnight. grin
of wot gud is ur comment,pls think b4 talkin,dumb heaad
Re: Confessions Of A Fat Girl by BashToks: 7:59am On Jul 17, 2013
biggirloya2:


i wana. but how? please give me tips

A fact that you need to know..
You hit the gym... And work on yer diet.
Its difficult.. Very difficult.
Be dedicated to it
Do not slack up in the process
Give it all you gat and then push harder.
A short story. I have an Aunt.. She's 40+. She was really big. She's worked her socks off in the gym and gradually it paid off.
Hit the gym... And work on yer diet.
Re: Confessions Of A Fat Girl by PureOhio(f): 8:01am On Jul 17, 2013
Ha? These motivational speech givers should be banned. angry They are not keeping it real and their advice may hurt OP in the long run.

Girl, keeping it real, these so called men that love "big girls" run after "portable girls" after 5 yrs of marriage when you start adding more pounds and folds. No be men? I'm sure your current boyfriend said a lot more than what the guys here are saying, "you're the beyonce of my life" etc.
I have several obnoxious and over-confident plus sized friends. They secretly cry to me how awkward and uncomfortable they are in bed with their men. Some say they are even too shy to put the light on. They want to "work it" but they just can't. So I have some empathy for you.

The number one thing now should be taking care of your physical heart. Healthy BMI is $exy.
Re: Confessions Of A Fat Girl by Testerfuze(m): 8:03am On Jul 17, 2013
horlabhympey: Am a fat gurl also,pls if yu continue looking down at yurself..yu won't find love..I had 2 think big of maself and now I am in a very good relationship..stop looking down at yurself..not all guys loves slim gurls..so says my bf..if e s nt intrested in yu..move on gurl..don't beg 2 me loved..am proud 2 say am big,bold and beautiful
Oya naw....awon ti biggie smalls ati junior mafia #team fat gals.
Re: Confessions Of A Fat Girl by Twinsyndrome123: 8:04am On Jul 17, 2013
Screwface: I feel your pain but there's almost nothing anyone can do for you right now. Whatever has to be done, has to be done by you.
For a start, stop looking down on yourself. You are big, so what? Am not exactly sure being big is a criminal offence. And if it isn't, start enjoying being big!

Take a stand in the relationship. Tell him it's ALL or nothing. If he ain't serious, cut the chase and move on. You sounded like someone who's being 'managed', or like you are an option in a sea of many.
My dear, stop taking shitts and stop seeing yourself a
s being disadvantaged abeg.

You nailed it,right on point
Re: Confessions Of A Fat Girl by Twinsyndrome123: 8:09am On Jul 17, 2013
Alexk2: what you don't have, you can't give. my dear, learn to love yourself first and you will see those lovely and nice guys who will love you for who you are. you are uniquely beautiful and that very guy will see that in you and appreciate you...cheers.

U are spot on,right on point
Re: Confessions Of A Fat Girl by Testerfuze(m): 8:10am On Jul 17, 2013
PureOhio: Ha? These motivational speech givers should be banned. angry They are not keeping it real and their advice may hurt OP in the long run.

Girl, keeping it real, these so called men that love "big girls" run after "portable girls" after 5 yrs of marriage when you start adding more pounds and folds. No be men? I'm sure your current boyfriend said a lot more than what the guys here are saying, "you're the beyonce of my life" etc.
I have several obnoxious and over-confident plus sized friends. They secretly cry to me how awkward and uncomfortable they are in bed with their men. Some say they are even too shy to put the light on. They want to "work it" but they just can't. So I have some empathy for you.

The number one thing now should be taking care of your physical heart. Healthy BMI is $exy.
D realest comment so far,kipin err'tin legit....tellin d truth instead of tryin 2 console d OP.

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