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Re: My Husband Has Turned Me To A Punching Bag by dokunbam(m): 6:35pm On Jul 21, 2013 |
I think u should let your family be aware, get out of that house fast and stay with your parent until he's cool down. Then see if things can be straighten up. Givee it another shot and see if it can work again cos u guys have come a long way. This time if things are not going well, see your lawyer and just walk |
Re: My Husband Has Turned Me To A Punching Bag by danny301: 6:36pm On Jul 21, 2013 |
Popowaa: What are u waiting for? That's a very devilish advice |
Re: My Husband Has Turned Me To A Punching Bag by Rhemmymatician(m): 6:37pm On Jul 21, 2013 |
If this story is true(likely) and portharcourt boy is the husband(OP hasn't come out to refute) Then, any body that posts advice and abuse/cuss for the guy and doesn't do same for OP is being insincere, double standard-ed(?), and a sexist. Be objective when making ur opinions. |
Re: My Husband Has Turned Me To A Punching Bag by Dgbem: 6:38pm On Jul 21, 2013 |
About a year ago, you posted on this same forum "My Fiance is verbally Abusive". You talked about how hot-tempered he is, how he calls u names and how he has pushed u several times. At the time, you were not married to him and fellow nairalanders(almost everyone that made comments) strongly advised you to leave.To refresh your memory,here is the link: https://www.nairaland.com/957132/fiance-verbally-abusive . Now you are back here,one year later,in a marriage u were advised against on this same forum, seeking for help.....ain't that confusing? My opinion: I believe you need to resolve a very private problem, because that reason that made u marry him despite seeing all the wrong signs will still make you stay in the marriage,regardless of how bad he becomes.... Doctorazz: I never thought i would be saying this ,but here i am. 4 Likes |
Re: My Husband Has Turned Me To A Punching Bag by benzion72(m): 6:39pm On Jul 21, 2013 |
Get alawiye iwe kefa and read how a woman milk a lion with patience and learn to control your tongue. That you grow together and feed him does not give you a license to disrespect him. No matter what he says just keep your mouth shut. If you divorce him, how many men will you leave to divorce 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Has Turned Me To A Punching Bag by WildChild00(m): 6:39pm On Jul 21, 2013 |
xandy84: Am kind of confuse with the whole story... @PortHarcourtBoy are you the husband? If yes then make i arrange fight for you nah with may-weather nah You want make madam come open thread 2morrow "how my husband was beating up by an arranged weather frm a nairalander" ![]() ![]() |
Re: My Husband Has Turned Me To A Punching Bag by Rhemmymatician(m): 6:40pm On Jul 21, 2013 |
That said. Portharcourt boy, just 1 Question: you have 'known' OP for a very long time before marrying her, its not possible for her to hide her flaws for 8 yrs. WHY DID YOU STILL MARRY HER despite all these shortcomings u mentioned? |
Re: My Husband Has Turned Me To A Punching Bag by Zither(m): 6:42pm On Jul 21, 2013 |
Texas.Cowgirl:beats me ![]() 2 Likes |
Re: My Husband Has Turned Me To A Punching Bag by Rhemmymatician(m): 6:46pm On Jul 21, 2013 |
So let's be real now. If you ask me, I think doctorazz is prolly on punishment( stool down, kuru maga, ijoko idera etc) atm. She posted stuff on here, her 'brute' husband saw it, and she hasn't posted again since then. If u av her number call her to make sure she is alive o. 6 Likes |
Re: My Husband Has Turned Me To A Punching Bag by gugus1(m): 6:46pm On Jul 21, 2013 |
Am sorry he hit you. but women are trible after marriage I just got myself one after 5years of dating I can't believe I just miSsed it myself..... 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Has Turned Me To A Punching Bag by dasparrow: 6:48pm On Jul 21, 2013 |
@Post This is what happens when you people rush into marriages with 'boys' instead of men. Portharcourtboy is your husband right? You knew he was abusive even during your courtship days yet you chose to marry him because you were/are pregnant. You see why it is good to abstain from sex until marriage? If you had not allowed Portharcourtboy to defile your body for 8 good years all in the name of boyfriend and girlfriend, maybe by now, the guy will have more respect for you. You ladies think that giving a man access to your private part will lead to a happily-married-ever-after but that way of thinking is wrong. My father King Daddy Jehovah was not crazy when he created sex for married folks only and not singles who are dating. As long as we human beings refuse to obey God's instructions, we will continue to reap the consequences. You better divorce that boy because REAL MEN don't hit women and know how to keep their tempers in check. 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Has Turned Me To A Punching Bag by Rhemmymatician(m): 6:48pm On Jul 21, 2013 |
Texas.Cowgirl:They are ONE COUPLE ma. 4 Likes |
Re: My Husband Has Turned Me To A Punching Bag by franca30(f): 6:50pm On Jul 21, 2013 |
Hmmmm wonder shall nver end, the wife beater even has d guts 2 reply his wife on social media, ahha dis is serious ooo nd some are even advisn her 2 pray. My dear, ur hubby's mind is made up u beta run 4 ur dear life b4 it's late oooo. 3 Likes |
Re: My Husband Has Turned Me To A Punching Bag by Rhemmymatician(m): 6:51pm On Jul 21, 2013 |
dasparrow: @PostHaba bros. C as u just run curve the topic to Sex before marriage. I'm sure you know there are pros and cons to it. Tho as xtians we shouldn't do it, but......hmmn *sigh* there r sha advantages and disadvantages |
Re: My Husband Has Turned Me To A Punching Bag by kabba7(m): 6:52pm On Jul 21, 2013 |
[quote author=Doctorazz]I never thought i would be saying this ,but here i am. My husband whom i dated for 8 years and have been married to for under 1 year has turned me into a punching bag.i went through his phone and confronted him via bb msg for a chat he had with a certain female friend and there and then he started landing slaps on me,my head,ear,face etc for more than 6 hrs i have been feeling intense headache. He apparently has a problem with his family,which he refused to disclose to me about which seems to be annoying him.He beat me mercilessly in the presence of our maid. I've been of great assistance to him before we got married. Right from our university days, i always shared my pocket money with him,etc. been extremely nice to him even though i have my own human errors. Looking back now,he always had the signs of wife battery,but in a way,i blame myself,because when i should have left,i discovered i was pregnant thereby being trapped in such a terrible situation. My parents think i have the best marriage because they are aware of only his good sides,but at home, behind closed doors,he is a demon. I am living in a nightmare,don't know what to do. I feel like running away. pls nairalanders help ,i don't want to be the woman her husband killed.!!! ttttttttttttttttttttttttttttttttt So U̶̲̥̅̊ have been sleeping with men B4 marrige ĄЙd̶̲̥̅̊ Ɣ☺ΰ̊ don't think U̶̲̥̅̊ need some beatings (not much sha) enjoy your beatings Ɣ☺ΰ̊ need it If U̶̲̥̅̊ are in Lagos ur mates are all over go to Ipodo dem boku !!, |
Re: My Husband Has Turned Me To A Punching Bag by joeace2020(m): 6:53pm On Jul 21, 2013 |
Rhemmymatician: Thank you... Unmarried ovasabi dat wants to fall off 3rd mainland bridge bcus of anoda mans palava |
Re: My Husband Has Turned Me To A Punching Bag by johnstar(m): 6:55pm On Jul 21, 2013 |
PortHarcourtBoy: This is the problem with Nigerians...u must b flogged 64 strokes if u r d husband ![]() ![]() ![]() 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Has Turned Me To A Punching Bag by Rhemmymatician(m): 7:00pm On Jul 21, 2013 |
joeace2020:Erm...I'd hope you aren't cussing me. |
Re: My Husband Has Turned Me To A Punching Bag by preshygal23(f): 7:07pm On Jul 21, 2013 |
Ask God for great strength n beat him blue black, then take him to the hospital and pack out 1 Like |
Re: My Husband Has Turned Me To A Punching Bag by nneh1(f): 7:11pm On Jul 21, 2013 |
2goodbobo: Never ever worry about what people will say. Especially if it has to do with life and death. One thing I have come to realize in this life, is that no matter what you do, whether good or bad people must talk. Right now your life is more important than what people will say.guy who told you God joined them together? The God I know can not give you with left hand and collect with right hand.his gifts don't bring pain ,d sorrow but love and peace. My dear sister Christ paid the prize of all our pains so if you are experiencing any pain called domestic violence plsssssssss God did not sign that one. |
Re: My Husband Has Turned Me To A Punching Bag by Nobody: 7:13pm On Jul 21, 2013 |
Rhemmymatician: I said: FIRST let your family talk to him IF he then doesn't stop .... well, then he asked for what he will get. And honestly, from a sister's and future mother's perspective, I will make sure ANY man who lays Hand on my sisters or my daughters will receive the beating of his life. Who doesn't want to hear, must feel. Have YOU in return asked yourself what her family will feel like when HE "overbeats"? Anyway, the story has taken a turn, we have heard the husband's perspective now and I think the best is they go seperate ways, for the sake of the child, it shouldn't grow up in this crazy environment, 2 Likes |
Re: My Husband Has Turned Me To A Punching Bag by Rhemmymatician(m): 7:21pm On Jul 21, 2013 |
carefreewannabe:You have spoken well. Seperation it is. Its obvious that the bridge has burnt, everybody go back to your house. But I sense the lady will want to still harbour a hope of saving d marriage. That's almost a decade o! |
Re: My Husband Has Turned Me To A Punching Bag by Meringe(m): 7:25pm On Jul 21, 2013 |
PortHarcourtBoy: This is the problem with Nigerians... MR MAN, be a man and control ur family. 2 Likes |
Re: My Husband Has Turned Me To A Punching Bag by Nobody: 7:25pm On Jul 21, 2013 |
I wish to Slap tat Man! ![]() |
Re: My Husband Has Turned Me To A Punching Bag by Rhemmymatician(m): 7:27pm On Jul 21, 2013 |
carefreewannabe:Lol @ who doesn't want to hear must feel. On a serious note. I wnt to believe u r nt being objective or sexist(forgive me if I'm wrong, most ladies are that, wen it comes to these kind of issues) what if the husband is ur broda, will u get him beat for beating his wife?(Honest answer pls) 2. If he was ur broda, even as a wife-beater, will you pass the same judgement yu passed? |
Re: My Husband Has Turned Me To A Punching Bag by GatJokez(f): 7:32pm On Jul 21, 2013 |
Abuse is wrong regardless if you are a man or a woman. If your partner hits you, leave. Retaliating is not a valid excuse!! What kind of a relationship/marriage is this if both beat each other up? Definitely a bad environment for the child. It is time to get out and move on. |
Re: My Husband Has Turned Me To A Punching Bag by GooseBaba: 7:32pm On Jul 21, 2013 |
Rooneyboy: Bros dead body no dey swallow pill... She needs to choose from been a divorced woman, damaged woman (physical & mentally) or dead woman. Either way, people go still talk... |
Re: My Husband Has Turned Me To A Punching Bag by GooseBaba: 7:33pm On Jul 21, 2013 |
mbulela: Lmao.!!!! |
Re: My Husband Has Turned Me To A Punching Bag by GatJokez(f): 7:35pm On Jul 21, 2013 |
Rhemmymatician: You ask a valid question, but I have a counter question. If one of your relatives is abusing his/her spouse, would you just look the other way? What if its one of your relatives being beat up by his/her spouse? What would you do in either situation? |
Re: My Husband Has Turned Me To A Punching Bag by andyanders: 7:40pm On Jul 21, 2013 |
PortHarcourtBoy: This is the problem with Nigerians... Are you the man in question? I believe that you are. Is like there is a big problem here as I think two of you needs counselling here as both of you cannot be here exposing yourselves. There is a big problem here which requires urgent attention from close family members. |
Re: My Husband Has Turned Me To A Punching Bag by Rhemmymatician(m): 7:41pm On Jul 21, 2013 |
GatJokez:Nice move! But don't you think its fair I get answers to my questions? Else I would come up wiv a counter-question and we won't learn anything from this debacle |
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