bukatyne:

Which culture are we importing?

bukatyne:

Does scraping totally and evolving dynamically mean the same to you?

Is it how the British monarchy was that it is now?

Is kate from the royal family?

pri3stess: I don't think the trad should be held at any specific place, I think it's all about preference. Now if the father is not contributing anything to the wedding except his blessings, I will just advice the bride to go ahead with the trad with the trad anywhere if he chooses not to attend that's his own cup of tea.

NL member: @Ileobatojo,

God bless you jare for your wonderful arguments on this thread.
May you live long, iseeeeee

I have been arguing many of the things same you are saying on this thread for years and doing that can get so tiring sometimes, honestly.
A person needs to have plenty of patience to deal with the blockheads in this country that have vowed to make sure the lot of females never improves.

Anyway I just came to commend you and give some words of encouragement for your good work on nairaland.

Keep it up

bukatyne:

Really?

[s]I guess you have nothing against polygamy, female circumcision or wife battery and dehumanization.

Like you said, you are either for it or against it[/s] .

Afam4eva:
Foreign culture...First, it's that we mustn't hold our traditional wedding in our ancestral home. Very soon, it will be that, we mustn't invite elders from the village. We can make do with the elders that are where we're based. Whether or nor they're from our village or tribe. Then very soon, it will graduate to, why must we even wear our traditional attire in our traditional wedding, why not a suit or evening gown. Afterall the world is a global village...Is it not better to just not do a traditional marriage than to make a mockery of it. Afterall, a lot of Nigerians have come to embrace White Wedding as the main wedding while the Traditional wedding is peripheral.

jidegirl12: .

See this woman

How bout Sarah Fagurson and Di , are they from Royal families?

bukatyne:

So you know other examples of commoners who married/had relationships with the royal family and yet their culture has not evolved?

lady gogo:


@ile. well said! To the people comparing Us with the British Monarchy. Do you think Prince William would have married Kate Middleton(Commoner) if it were to be during the Industrial Revolution? abi why are you all following oyinbo man religion sef? Why you no dey worship Amadioha, obatala and sango? Now thats a good one.

ileobatojo:

Who are you and why do I love you so much already?

Thanks!

As to the bolded comment, standing freaking ovation!!

armyofone: about time Nig do away with all the freaking culture and live their lives.

NL member:
Uwelcome. This is another username and no I can't tell you the other one is

pri3stess: I don't think the trad should be held at any specific place, I think it's all about preference. Now if the father is not contributing anything to the wedding except his blessings, I will just advice the bride to go ahead with the trad with the trad anywhere if he chooses not to attend that's his own cup of tea.

jidegirl12: .

See this woman

How bout Sarah Fagurson and Di , are they from Royal families?

yellowpawpaw:
I never wanted to join in this argument but I will indulge u.
What r the freaking culture?
It seems u don't know much about white pple cos they r more cultural than us. We evolve and emulate others, they hardly do. I can vividly remember a british royal that wedded a yoruba gal.
An assignment for u;go and check what the royal family did to that guy.

Simple to go to ur root and tie the knot, pple r arguing back and forth but u can comfortably wear wedding gown that u don't know its origin. Nobody said go to the shrine or whatever but only go home and tie the knot.
In my place, any man that decides to do abuja wedding for his children should forget home either living or dead.

What kind of lv is that


Either u hv a secret to hide or u r an outcast. PERIOD.

yellowpawpaw:
I never wanted to join in this argument but I will indulge u.
What r the freaking culture?
It seems u don't know much about white pple cos they r more cultural than us. We evolve and emulate others, they hardly do. I can vividly remember a british royal that wedded a yoruba gal.
An assignment for u;go and check what the royal family did to that guy.

Simple to go to ur root and tie the knot, pple r arguing back and forth but u can comfortably wear wedding gown that u don't know its origin. Nobody said go to the shrine or whatever but only go home and tie the knot.
In my place, any man that decides to do abuja wedding for his children should forget home either living or dead.

What kind of lv is that


Either u hv a secret to hide or u r an outcast. PERIOD.

unmask: what the eff is it with traditional marriages and even burials........

What is the use of traditional marriage anyways....get a judge and get married for the women its better, that way your husband won't throw you out at a whim.....customs my foot.....

Is the dowry and all the others going to your God in heaven? Isn't it going to one god or the other.....

Only God can bless your union whether you do 1million trads, it won't matter


so if the lady says she doesn't want to go to the village, what happens the papa refuses to give her out in marriage?......I trust the gal nah she knows her stock is drying out fast, so when she sees a mugu willing to waste his life by getting married she won't want to let go

life na jeje o......u can't serve God and serve mammon.....

Jesus' blood has deleted all those from our lives

shikena

lady gogo:


[/b] So if I dont go to Igbo-Itoku in Abeokuta for my trad wedding it means i have something to hide. Still laughing o! Why do we like making life difficult for ourselves in Nigeria? If these rites can be carried out where i reside why do i have to go down to the village for it just so i could please some yeye kinsmen?

vivianc: The man for kukuma come carry me for free na. Ah ah since tradition na babash.......... In fact, as onye obodo oyibo wey I be, he doesn't even need to pay my bride price. Just buy ring carry me go church.

After all we are in the 21st century.

Ada Nri1: Mind you in Igbo land it is not only her father that owns her o. She is the child of the whole community.
This will teach her father a lesson in his next life. Marry a woman who is willing to accept your culture and tradition and embrace your people. "kita ndi ozo ga ekeli nnwa oso nwelu" ngwanu ndi na nu di na nwunye na mba, ike dikwa unu

famousurch:
Don't mind the man a real nwa afo Igbo will not marry ndi ofe m, no matter d pressure. It is a lesson to the intending to be ndi ofe m inlaws

vivianc: YYP Nne m, aru na eme na this nairaland, I swear!

vivianc: I can't imagine myself having my trad in BY, Phc, Abj, London, or any place other than my father's compound in my hometown. Tufiakwa!!! Chineke ekwena ka ngwere gbaa achii! Ada di ka m? My trad won't even happen in an uncle's compound o, ama nna m echiri echi? Ashi gbagbuo kwa ihe ojoor! What then would be my pride? Or I should tell a man "eh, my umunna are evil, after all they didn't contribute a dime to what i am today so let's forget about those witches and wizard at home and their stupid tradition?" hehehehehe maka na adara m na elu? If they are witches and wizard, i'm one of them, any man that would marry me would have me given to him by these wizards and it wouldn't made me a little proud.

Like I said earlier, the Igbos that do this otherwise were either ostracised by their umunna, or they are osu, etc.

Infact, its even humiliating for a man to stand alone without being backed by his umunna in any traditional thing he does. So any father who can stand this humiliation indeed has something to hide, period.

Ok, let me picture another scenario where you would hire a bus and tell your umunna to enter, they are going to their daughter's traditional marriage in Lagos or Abuja.

Wetin I no go hear for nairaland?