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Re: Traditional Marriage In The Village, Is It Compulsory? by COOLDUN: 11:54pm On Sep 19, 2013 |
vivianc: I can't imagine myself having my trad in BY, Phc, Abj, London, or any place other than my father's compound in my hometown. Tufiakwa!!! Chineke ekwena ka ngwere gbaa achii! Ada di ka m? My trad won't even happen in an uncle's compound o, ama nna m echiri echi? Ashi gbagbuo kwa ihe ojoor! What then would be my pride? Or I should tell a man "eh, my umunna are evil, after all they didn't contribute a dime to what i am today so let's forget about those witches and wizard at home and their stupid tradition?" hehehehehe maka na adara m na elu? If they are witches and wizard, i'm one of them, any man that would marry me would have me given to him by these wizards and it wouldn't made me a little proud. Ezigbo Nwada Igbo ka ibu nne m, ya dikwara gi na nma ruo mgbe ebighiebi, iseeeeee !!!, Nne nwata nwayi ana ekwu okwu ya ebe a abughi anu oriri n'ala ndi yoruba, ga kwa juo ajuju. Nna ya amaghi mgbe ojiri luo onye aka ikpe yoruba, ya mere ajo nwayi ahu jiri kpachie umu ha n'ile. Kee ihe na achu nwayi a oso n'ala ndi umu di ya? obu maka na obughi ndi ezigbo ya, omara go na ndi obodo di ya amatago na obu osu ndi yoruba, ya mere ojiri choo ka okee umu ha ndi nwayi di n'ala ndi ozo. The mother of the girl is the main problem here, if the helpless man cannot bring them home for the traditional marriage let him stay back and let the wife marry the girl out, because he lost his children from the day he married the spy who love him. The pride of every girl is to bring her husband and his kinsmen to her home town, even if her father has no house, it is only a day ceremony. Thank you my dear for standing for the truth. God will make you proud the day you will bring your husband home to your kinsmen, if is during the raining season, sun will shine throughout the ceremony period for you. Your guests will come peacefully and get back to their home peacefully in Jesus name. Amen. 1 Like |
Re: Traditional Marriage In The Village, Is It Compulsory? by Ngodigha: 11:56pm On Sep 19, 2013 |
Phiozy: Please I need an answer ASAP. My cousin is getting married soon, and this has been bothering her seriously. She happens to be Igbo, but with a mother from Kwara state(yoruba).Am sure you are making up this idiotic story. Only few days ago, someone asked a similar thing in another thread, now you have turned to your thread with Igbo in it so that it will attract traffic. What a silly thread. They hate Igbo, they despise Igbo and you are still asking about their trad wedding in Igboland. Will the same people they hate come to eat and drink with them?. Change your story poor girl. Its rare to see Igbos saying they hate Ndigbo. They may hate their fathers brothers or cousins may be because of land or money but not the entire Ndigbo. This is unbelievable. 1 Like |
Re: Traditional Marriage In The Village, Is It Compulsory? by vivianc(f): 12:04am On Sep 20, 2013 |
manny4life: My dear its shocking how some people reason, i wonder if they reason with their azzes, instead of their brains. I understand alot of them are kids anyway but..........ah ah, is common sense so scarce now? Imagine a poster saying that the lady should call her dad bluff, if he doesn't want to attend the trad no biggie. So this begs for this question; if the lady's father doesn't attend the trad, who would they (the husband's people) pay the traditional rites to? Me? Honestly, common sense is not common at all. 1 Like |
Re: Traditional Marriage In The Village, Is It Compulsory? by Nobody: 12:19am On Sep 20, 2013 |
vivianc:D lady's dad is obviously just a spam donor. If not for strict rules concerning things like this two grandchildren would hv married in usa from my town. Thanks to pple with no root. They only knew they r from d same town and as d parent of d groom insisted they come home for the trad, that was how they were traced to our late king who has many wives. Meanwhile they were cohabiting but no wedding yet. Abomination! |
Re: Traditional Marriage In The Village, Is It Compulsory? by vivianc(f): 12:27am On Sep 20, 2013 |
COOLDUN: Nwannem, ya dikwara gi na nma o. Olisa bi n'elu ekwekwana ka anyi muta umu ga akpo ala nna anyi asi, ma obu puo na mba menye anyi ihe ihere, machuo anyi uhu. Olisa bi n'elu, biko wepuru anyi ajo di na ajo nwunye. Mgbe ha ga abia ilu anyi, ma obu anyi ga aga ilu ha, ka udu mmayi anyi dawaa na uzo. Iseeeeeee!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Yes o, the joy/pride of every nwa ada igbo obula wey suck better br..ea...st belle full na to drag man wherever he is from to your hometown. Even if road no dey motorable, make them carry their palm wine kegs for head use leg dey match am. Ije love atogbuo onwe ya biko If my umunna na get seat, make everybody sit down for ground. If my papa no get house, abeg make him show me his empty land, i go clear the bush, mount my canopies. Ubochi ahu, m na agba egwu, ukwu esie m ike na ala. I go come even do my shakara join am. Odiro easy biko, odiro fecha fecha at all. 3 Likes |
Re: Traditional Marriage In The Village, Is It Compulsory? by amacastel: 12:33am On Sep 20, 2013 |
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Re: Traditional Marriage In The Village, Is It Compulsory? by Lincolnburrows(m): 12:36am On Sep 20, 2013 |
What's the need for traditional marriage when you don't want to do it in your village. Simply ignore it and proceed to the white wedding. If u must do traditional, it has to be in the village. Anyway there might be some few cases which the umunna has to approve. 1 Like |
Re: Traditional Marriage In The Village, Is It Compulsory? by Nobody: 12:37am On Sep 20, 2013 |
Marriage for village? Which one? My mom's village or dad's village? or my grandmother's village? or my hubby's village? Una get too much wahala. Is village marriage going to sustain my marriage? abeg abeg jor.... who go pay everyone's ticket to travel to Nigeria? And who wants to get kidnap in that jungle called Nigeria all because of wedding? e se n o. Ko n se pelu agidi lati se igbeyawo ni village. Village wey winshes dey await your return for proper chopping 1 Like |
Re: Traditional Marriage In The Village, Is It Compulsory? by Nobody: 12:39am On Sep 20, 2013 |
Seriously, I want a proper, well organized Yoruba wedding. I be proper proud omo Yoruba pelu proper Yoruba tradition ati culture. Sugbon, na terrestrial power go bring me back to Naija wey dem dey bomb pesin like chicken |
Re: Traditional Marriage In The Village, Is It Compulsory? by Ngodigha: 12:44am On Sep 20, 2013 |
Dallas Cowgirl: Seriously, I want a proper, well organized Yoruba wedding.Boy, take your time, it's about Igbo trado marriage. What affects Ndigbo doesn't affect the Yorugbas. We are not same. Igbo people here who were breast properly by their mothers have condemned the act of not doing it in their village. So stop seeking cheap attention here. |
Re: Traditional Marriage In The Village, Is It Compulsory? by Ngodigha: 12:46am On Sep 20, 2013 |
How would a bonafide Igbo want this sort of thing to be done in Lagos or Abuja etc. Only Igbos breast-fed by ape milk will want it in the city. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2lUFM8yTtUc |
Re: Traditional Marriage In The Village, Is It Compulsory? by Nobody: 12:47am On Sep 20, 2013 |
Ngodigha: Well, that explains the backwardness of this thread. Carry go. Yorubas all the way...... Dallas Cowgirl: Seriously, I want a proper, well organized Yoruba wedding. |
Re: Traditional Marriage In The Village, Is It Compulsory? by Ngodigha: 12:53am On Sep 20, 2013 |
Dallas Cowgirl:This sort of thing is not done in the city. Ndigbo do it in their villages to show their roots and connections with their kins. Moreover, you dont have villages and kins. This thread is not for your likes. Once again, quit the thread poor boy. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2lUFM8yTtUc 1 Like |
Re: Traditional Marriage In The Village, Is It Compulsory? by Nobody: 12:56am On Sep 20, 2013 |
Ngodigha: unnecessarily trying to deter the thread from its Yoruba awesomeness. Kini problem e? Speak my sexy Yoruba to me, my friend. So fun mi problem e |
Re: Traditional Marriage In The Village, Is It Compulsory? by Ngodigha: 1:02am On Sep 20, 2013 |
Destination Alaigbo. For those who want to turn Igbo culture upside down, may you all perish unsong. 3 Likes
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Re: Traditional Marriage In The Village, Is It Compulsory? by Ngodigha: 1:03am On Sep 20, 2013 |
Destination Alaigbo. 1 Like
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Re: Traditional Marriage In The Village, Is It Compulsory? by Nobody: 1:24am On Sep 20, 2013 |
Dallas Cowgirl: My belle oh... I'm rolling on the floor. Dem boku for here dey happily tie sari for body dey do East indian trado wedding and chop indie's rituals but run and trash their own when they ask them to come to their own village, shior shame on them....Abeg let the poor Ngo boy purge himself... I'm loving those pictures jare |
Re: Traditional Marriage In The Village, Is It Compulsory? by Nobody: 1:27am On Sep 20, 2013 |
Dallas Cowgirl: Lol! By the way, I finally read the original post. (I only came to answer the people that were calling my name before . I stand 100% behind every thing I said but I was discussing general principles not a specific scenario. Blindly screaming culture and tradition without pause for thought does not an intelligent person make) The people that want to do their traditional wedding in the village should do it there. The people that don't want to do it there should not do it there. It's that simple. With that being said, if my father had insisted that my traditional wedding be in our village, I would have wondered if he had been imbibing some cheap wine or something. It's simply not something I've seen happen around me at all so it would be quite strange for him to come up with that out of the blue. But if it happened to be a well known tradition, I would have no problem with it as long as there are no major hinderances. What difference does the location of the ceremony make in the grand scheme of things? Do it where you live if you want, do it in your village if you want! People should do whatever personally works for them as long as it's not harming anyone else. |
Re: Traditional Marriage In The Village, Is It Compulsory? by Nobody: 1:41am On Sep 20, 2013 |
Dallas Cowgirl: Onye bukwa onye ara nkea bikokwanu 2 Likes |
Re: Traditional Marriage In The Village, Is It Compulsory? by Bliss4Lyfe(f): 1:45am On Sep 20, 2013 |
Please I need an answer ASAP. My cousin is getting married soon, and this has been bothering her seriously. She happens to be Igbo, but with a mother from Kwara state(yoruba). Dis is the type of rubbish a yoruba forum like nairaland will be quick to Front Page. It depicts the mental disposition and bigotry of nairaland as an anti-igbo and pro yoruba site. Marriage between both group do not even account for 1% of the Igbo population but nairaland would love to make it seem like marriage in Nigeria, is an affair strictly between igbos and yorubas and a tug of war between the participating couple of diverse origin, with the kids adopting their yoruba culture and despising their igbo half and culture. How delusional can nairaland admin and mods get. Well, wateva rocks ur boat as the world carries on. Like I said earlier, the Igbos that do this otherwise were either ostracised by their umunna, or they are osu, etc.On Point. Though i take the things i read on nairaland with a pinch of salt becos some are rumours or make believe |
Re: Traditional Marriage In The Village, Is It Compulsory? by igboboy1(m): 2:06am On Sep 20, 2013 |
Dallas Cowgirl: what kind of english are you speaking? so fun mi problem e? Are you trying to say "my problem is so fun"....hmmm akara school |
Re: Traditional Marriage In The Village, Is It Compulsory? by haminac: 2:42am On Sep 20, 2013 |
pazienza: Are you ibo? I am Ibo, from mbaise. The village peeps actually have a list that they give ur husband or his people. The dowry is negotiable during the trad wedding, but you must bring everything on the list, if not, the village folks will tell your husbands people that they are not ready to marry their daughter. So they do not consider what you can afford or what you cannot afford. This tradition we all talk about is man made, just like how laws, legislation, rules and regulations are created. If you believe in tradition, no one is saying you should throw away your heritage. Life as we know it evolves. In the past, there are communities that forbid going to hospital. That is not the case anymore in most communities I hope. This is a change in tradition for better. Just because it is tradition does not mean it is the right thing to do. It is tradition in some places to eat human flesh. is that right, no. in some traditions a wife is supposed to drink the water used to wash he mother in laws corpse, if they were not in good terms, is that right, no. Look at technology, why are using computer, Internet, instead of following the ways of our ancestors. I can go on and on, we can all have tradition, but not to the detriment of the people. 2 Likes |
Re: Traditional Marriage In The Village, Is It Compulsory? by Nobody: 2:49am On Sep 20, 2013 |
haminac: Mwah! |
Re: Traditional Marriage In The Village, Is It Compulsory? by Nobody: 3:18am On Sep 20, 2013 |
pazienza: I don't know the Igbo land you come from but I am from Abia state and I told my hubby( fiancé then) to make sure his pocket is over flowing because the list my village give to suitors? To be honest, my dad is a very traditional man and that was the only reason why I did not drag my husband out of there and fly back to Lagos. Even my dad complained after the wedding and told his people to cut down on their demands. Hubby did all that was required just because he wanted to do it the "right way".... The list alone cost hundreds of thousands of naira, then the traditional wedding and their demands was a different ball game entirely.... As per bride price, my dad never collected a dime from our partners. Truth be told the law is man made, he made that rule not to collect money from his sons inlaw but others still collect bride price till date.....meaning this nonsense law can stop if people want it to, it's man made for heavens sakes 1 Like |
Re: Traditional Marriage In The Village, Is It Compulsory? by omonnakoda: 4:02am On Sep 20, 2013 |
Afam4eva:How traditional is this attire. Are those baby hats Ibo made Most of the so called traditional Ibo attire is "imported" just like much of what is seen in the Niger Delta like GEJ's hat |
Re: Traditional Marriage In The Village, Is It Compulsory? by Tonae: 4:42am On Sep 20, 2013 |
A Yoruba woman who despises the Igbo but went ahead all the same to find love and marry an Igbo man. They started bearing children and the woman went on to infect the children with her Igbo hate while the Igbo father looked the other way. He never cared to periodically take the children to their roots for acquaintance nor did he care to pay attention to the attitude / perception of his kids towards their tribe. He never bordered to look into how his Igbo hater wife influences his children. Well what this story tells is that this father is a weak father controlled by a woman who despises his tribe. He will most probably die a coward and be buried by this Yoruba wife and children in a foreign land. Generally a despicable and confused family who cares less about their roots. A lost family. |
Re: Traditional Marriage In The Village, Is It Compulsory? by igboboy1(m): 5:00am On Sep 20, 2013 |
omonnakoda: How traditional is this attire. Are those baby hats Ibo made Most of the so called traditional Ibo attire is "imported" just like much of what is seen in the Niger Delta like GEJ's hat All this ijebu boys sef.... Nna oginidi? Ijebu ways no pure so no come here dey display ijebulity for here abi na the mark dem tear your face with dey worry you? onye ara |
Re: Traditional Marriage In The Village, Is It Compulsory? by MyTeenCity(f): 5:35am On Sep 20, 2013 |
I say, "Chunk it" Throw a white cloth over the tradition and marry in the traditional wedding that the father desires. If not, you are setting yourself up for a world of hurt. What if Dad does not get over it? |
Re: Traditional Marriage In The Village, Is It Compulsory? by ronia(f): 7:51am On Sep 20, 2013 |
Anyway as for me, it dose not look right to do trad outside ur father's land, its a woman's pride for a man to know you have ppl and will not mess up wth you. Maybe they do not have a presentable houz in the village a lot of Igbos don't lik doing occasion in the village when dey r using moulded houses lol. Why did you call it traditional? Wen u don't wan to do it in trad way, change the name plsss |
Re: Traditional Marriage In The Village, Is It Compulsory? by chiogoezubem(f): 7:56am On Sep 20, 2013 |
My people! Every land, place, race has its traditions and culture. We shouldn't adopt other people's traditions and culture in place of ours all in the name of modernization(if that word is correct). I don't know about other places, but in igbo land, traditional weddings are done in the village most importantly, for the benefit of those peole some of us think don't matter; THE UMUNNA/UMUADA, not even the immediate family per se. Then after that, you can go to the moon, if you like for your white wedding, etc. But if you are from one of those place where it no longer matters or your father says its ok, or some form of 'aru' has been committed, then you can even hire uncles and aunts, and so on to represent, and then have you traditional wedding on the moon or sun or wherever. Just saying... |
Re: Traditional Marriage In The Village, Is It Compulsory? by abdulkodir: 8:01am On Sep 20, 2013 |
is good if your parent dey stay in d villiage: but not a sin, to do it anywhere u like. |
Re: Traditional Marriage In The Village, Is It Compulsory? by ronia(f): 8:04am On Sep 20, 2013 |
Anyway as for me, it dose not look right to do trad outside ur father's land, its a woman's pride for a man to know you have ppl and will not mess up wth you. Maybe they do not have a presentable houz in the village a lot of Igbos don't lik doing occasion in the village when dey r using moulded houses lol. Why did you call it traditional? Wen u don't wan to do it in trad way, change the name plsss omonnakoda: How traditional is this attire. Are those baby hats Ibo made Most of the so called traditional Ibo attire is "imported" just like much of what is seen in the Niger Delta like GEJ's hatAnyway as for me, it dose not look right to do trad outside ur father's land, its a woman's pride for a man to know you have ppl and will not mess up wth you. Maybe they do not have a presentable houz in the village a lot of Igbos don't lik doing occasion in the village when dey r using moulded houses lol. Why did you call it traditional? Wen u don't wan to do it in trad way, change the name plsss |
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