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Re: Traditional Marriage In The Village, Is It Compulsory? by chiogoezubem(f): 8:07am On Sep 20, 2013 |
vivianc: I can't imagine myself having my trad in BY, Phc, Abj, London, or any place other than my father's compound in my hometown. Tufiakwa!!! Chineke ekwena ka ngwere gbaa achii! Ada di ka m? My trad won't even happen in an uncle's compound o, ama nna m echiri echi? Ashi gbagbuo kwa ihe ojoor! What then would be my pride? Or I should tell a man "eh, my umunna are evil, after all they didn't contribute a dime to what i am today so let's forget about those witches and wizard at home and their stupid tradition?" hehehehehe maka na adara m na elu? If they are witches and wizard, i'm one of them, any man that would marry me would have me given to him by these wizards and it wouldn't made me a little proud. Gbam!!! Ezi okwu bu ndu! Adannaa, you are an authentic daughter of the land... No illegitimate tins |
Re: Traditional Marriage In The Village, Is It Compulsory? by bellong: 8:08am On Sep 20, 2013 |
COOLDUN: Where did you get the bolded statements from? Will you please stop spewing thrash and misinforming people here. How comfortable was it for you to confidently type the BS above. Half education is worse than ignorance. 1 Like |
Re: Traditional Marriage In The Village, Is It Compulsory? by pickabeau1: 8:10am On Sep 20, 2013 |
correct You see should the asians.. They are at home with their culture and modern ish In afrika, we call it backward yet we are not even as developed as the asians jidegirl12: |
Re: Traditional Marriage In The Village, Is It Compulsory? by pickabeau1: 8:15am On Sep 20, 2013 |
beautiful afican queen Ngodigha: Destination Alaigbo. |
Re: Traditional Marriage In The Village, Is It Compulsory? by Neddyogu(m): 8:16am On Sep 20, 2013 |
vivianc: Ama m nke mga ekwu kita oputa okwu Most igbos wey dey do their trad for mba (outside) no get strong kinsmen relationship, or them no even dey in good terms with their kinsmen.GBAM! |
Re: Traditional Marriage In The Village, Is It Compulsory? by Nobody: 8:19am On Sep 20, 2013 |
vivianc: I can't imagine myself having my trad in BY, Phc, Abj, London, or any place other than my father's compound in my hometown. Tufiakwa!!! Chineke ekwena ka ngwere gbaa achii! Ada di ka m? My trad won't even happen in an uncle's compound o, ama nna m echiri echi? Ashi gbagbuo kwa ihe ojoor! What then would be my pride? Or I should tell a man "eh, my umunna are evil, after all they didn't contribute a dime to what i am today so let's forget about those witches and wizard at home and their stupid tradition?" hehehehehe maka na adara m na elu? If they are witches and wizard, i'm one of them, any man that would marry me would have me given to him by these wizards and it wouldn't made me a little proud. Story 5 Likes |
Re: Traditional Marriage In The Village, Is It Compulsory? by chiogoezubem(f): 8:22am On Sep 20, 2013 |
yellowpawpaw: Exactly! They keep talking about globalization and all but they forget that a people or the other are the owners of that culture they call 'modern'! Some people talking here and supporting trad wedding in the city don't even know where they are from, much more knowing the roads that lead there. Its appalling! |
Re: Traditional Marriage In The Village, Is It Compulsory? by Nobody: 8:44am On Sep 20, 2013 |
COOLDUN: My dear, ppl have different opinion, after all you married because the girls parents are wealthy so you can get a better life. I did my traditional online now am OSU abi na UNE. Am not the broke guy that married for better life. I wonder too if your wife is an OSU...does it matter. As far as her money is keeping you in check. You better start making your pay check before she kicks you out. Tribal warlord spewing bull crap |
Re: Traditional Marriage In The Village, Is It Compulsory? by Nobody: 9:05am On Sep 20, 2013 |
COOLDUN: You're a liar. |
Re: Traditional Marriage In The Village, Is It Compulsory? by ozor333(m): 9:23am On Sep 20, 2013 |
If mary yuroba woman, 1. she will never like her children to know their papa village. bcoz they believe igbo people are moral bad. 2.forget about igbo language, all their life living activities will base on yuroba cultures 3. they fall in categories of those who always says my papa say I be Igbo. so what do you except from dis kind of UMU EFULEFU ? |
Re: Traditional Marriage In The Village, Is It Compulsory? by mezzyp(m): 9:34am On Sep 20, 2013 |
yellowpawpaw: If I were the guy, I will back off. Love will not make me to marry a gal that hates her root. That's how we will give birth to children that will equaly hate mine eventually.Guy you don't even bother to consider the gal point of view before spitting trash |
Re: Traditional Marriage In The Village, Is It Compulsory? by mazidalima: 9:34am On Sep 20, 2013 |
i want to correct a wrong impression created here by someone that does'nt have an idea on how Arochukwu traditional marriage is conducted. what u see in festac; i want you to quote me is a charrade of stupidity, that is not a marriage and can only be seen as a mare introduction, which can b accepted only in that context. Any marriage in Arochukwus tradition is done in the village, we have what we call ibu aju imai nwanyi n etu aju imai, that is the only done in the village. these process can only be seen were the inlaw of the woman that will carry a wrapped leave use in carrying a pot of drink, dropped in the father inlaws home n also the home of the girls mother (maternal parent) in their ancestral home before a marriage can said to b conducted in Arochukwu. so go back n tell that ur friend that told u she is married that somene from Arochukwu on Nairaland, says she is not married, rather she is co-habiting. A marriage is when the a father gives out is daughter in the presence of family members in consonance with all laid down customs n tradition. tank u kreami diva: I attended someone's trad wedding in Festac while she's from Arochukwu. Well,its compulsory according to ibo tradition to at least pay the dowry and other traditional things in the village.unless as bellong said,u can convince the father to shift ground for you. |
Re: Traditional Marriage In The Village, Is It Compulsory? by Nobody: 10:11am On Sep 20, 2013 |
@ vivianc, I am with you on this one, it is called a traditional wedding for a reason, my cousin's father unlaw from umuchu even refused the introduction here in Lagos without his umunna in the village. How will I tell my umunna that I have given out my daughter in marriage at their back ? was his exact words, my cousin the americanah have to bow to tradition and take his butt down to Anambra. He had wanted to do sharp sharp here in Lagos and head back to base. I don't know what the problem is, it is not like this is one bad culture, if we continue to put away all our culture, soon we will be left with nothing,no Identity. I never finish lol, my uncle threatened his warri in law with law suit because that one refused to come to the village to do the trad, he wanted it done in Lagos and my uncle will not bulge, the girls in question went and started living with the man, even pregnant self lol, my stubborn uncle contacted his lawyer and was heading to court, seriously , oh my God. No one told the young man to pack his people onward to Anambra. This is a true life story, you should have seen our warri in-laws face the day they came but we no send. Infact una for don read am for paper, according to my uncle, the allegation is kidnap and not marriage lol.no try us oh. Hey don say under age, both are graduates. 1 Like |
Re: Traditional Marriage In The Village, Is It Compulsory? by COOLDUN: 12:12pm On Sep 20, 2013 |
haminac: You are not an Igbo, because no Igbo fellow would write Ibo as his/her tribe. There is no tradition in Igbo land that permits Cannibalism; you are one of those Efulefus that go about spewing rubbish about the Igbos in order to score cheap marks. Mbaise i know and where my senior brother married from, i mean Nguru Mbaise, no one exploited my brother for any reason, they accepted what my brother had and gave to them. Today my brother is carrying his wife like an egg, a well educated intelligent girl for that matter. I am from Orlu Imo state. No village in Igbo land obliges any suitor to do more than his purse, Traditional marriage is never compulsory in Igbo land, but very necessary. It has been happening before your forefathers, but nowadays people have modernized it and added some fun into it. You do the ceremony as you can. Even if you don't have anything to give to your wife's kinsmen, they will gather that day and know their son in-law. Marriage is not finished in one day. You and your Ibo lost fellows should not come online to claim the knowledge of what you are ignorant of. I have seen an Igbo friend that marry an Igala girl, both of them left Amsterdam to the girl's village to do the traditional marriage. Traditional marriage is not only an Igbo thing as some people are trying to make it look here. Any girl that likes let her take her husband to her home town, who doesn't like should go and marry in Mars planet that is her cup of tea. But we have the Igbo bu Igbo. 2 Likes |
Re: Traditional Marriage In The Village, Is It Compulsory? by Afam4eva(m): 12:31pm On Sep 20, 2013 |
omonnakoda: How traditional is this attire. Are those baby hats Ibo made Most of the so called traditional Ibo attire is "imported" just like much of what is seen in the Niger Delta like GEJ's hatYou may be right but those attires have come to become Igbo culture whether or not they originated from Igboland or not. It's the uniqueness of those attires that make them recognized as an Igbo attire. 1 Like |
Re: Traditional Marriage In The Village, Is It Compulsory? by Nobody: 12:43pm On Sep 20, 2013 |
See as the Osu word is flying around. So why the lies on nairaland the culture has been done away with? You people are not even ashamed to say it. It means truly Osus are still discriminated against if in this day and age only people like them don't do their weddings in the villages. 2 Likes |
Re: Traditional Marriage In The Village, Is It Compulsory? by Nobody: 4:18pm On Sep 20, 2013 |
Chillisauce: if u like, argue it btw now and tomorrow, u are not igbo. |
Re: Traditional Marriage In The Village, Is It Compulsory? by Nobody: 4:28pm On Sep 20, 2013 |
ngozievergreen: Did you read my comment before spewing your trash Now go back and read slowly. Mgbeke |
Re: Traditional Marriage In The Village, Is It Compulsory? by Nobody: 4:31pm On Sep 20, 2013 |
stillwater: See as the Osu word is flying around. So why the lies on nairaland the culture has been done away with? You people are not even ashamed to say it. It means truly Osus are still discriminated against if in this day and age only people like them don't do their weddings in the villages. First time am hearing the word OSU after a bed time stories told by parents those days , maybe it's still existing in their primitive villages. I wonder how the OSU looks like,.maybe the one that actually married a girl because of her wealth can talk more about it. |
Re: Traditional Marriage In The Village, Is It Compulsory? by Nobody: 4:33pm On Sep 20, 2013 |
And to those confusing issues here, In igboland,u must cum to the village to do the traditional tnz. Period! Anything short of that is for Ofekes. . To d mo. ron from d west talking abt igbo hats/caps not originating from igboland, i wont even go into dat kind of talk with u. We are not talking abt omo onile here, so u can as well back off. |
Re: Traditional Marriage In The Village, Is It Compulsory? by Nobody: 4:34pm On Sep 20, 2013 |
Chillisauce: just dont derail this thread with ur trash. Peace |
Re: Traditional Marriage In The Village, Is It Compulsory? by Nobody: 4:36pm On Sep 20, 2013 |
ngozievergreen:Just move aside, mgbeke, next time don't quote me if you will spew thrash! |
Re: Traditional Marriage In The Village, Is It Compulsory? by Nobody: 5:02pm On Sep 20, 2013 |
Chillisauce: If you see the way they pretend on those Osu threads ehn you would think they have changed. Apparently NOT! I actually find it embarrassing that location of a wedding is what is giving some people sleepless nights. 1 Like |
Re: Traditional Marriage In The Village, Is It Compulsory? by bukatyne(f): 5:18pm On Sep 20, 2013 |
stillwater: Wake up to NL! Everyone changes to whatever suits them at every thread. |
Re: Traditional Marriage In The Village, Is It Compulsory? by Nobody: 5:29pm On Sep 20, 2013 |
stillwater:They even have OSU thread. Lol... See them forming James bonds, trying to put others down to satisfy their e rection. Rubbish I say. People should use their head, if something is not acceptable to you, get a workable solution. Tradition my yellow as s. most of dem live in city for years, na when dem die, dem go transport their dead bodies to their primitive villages ...that is if money dey sef to carry their dead bodies Orishirishi .... ** sipping my red wine *** 2 Likes |
Re: Traditional Marriage In The Village, Is It Compulsory? by Dannylux: 5:35pm On Sep 20, 2013 |
Westernization has doomed us all!! Never forget where You're coming from, never forgo your tradition!! |
Re: Traditional Marriage In The Village, Is It Compulsory? by bukatyne(f): 5:38pm On Sep 20, 2013 |
Dannylux: Westernization had doomed us!! Never forget where You're coming from, never forgo your tradition!! What is westernization? |
Re: Traditional Marriage In The Village, Is It Compulsory? by Nobody: 6:03pm On Sep 20, 2013 |
The Question is, Is it complusory to have a traditional marriage? The answer No! Nigeria has two legal binding agreement between two consenting male and female, that when carried out, they will be viewed as husband and wife 1: Customary marriage act, or so-called traditional marriage, What constitutes customary marriage? (1) Dowry demanded by the bride family, which is negotiable,and accepted paid in full, by the bridegroom's family, (2) The bride is handed over to the bridegroom,his family or his reprensentative. (3) Bride's immediate family consent may play a role, to enact this marriage, Umunna or umuada's consent is not neccessary. (4) This marriage act maybe conducted or held at anytime of the day, even at midnight. This marriage gives room for polygamism and polyandry. In summary. Bride or dowry makes this marriage acceptable as contracted, if they bridegroom present,s kekenapep to private jet, this doesn't count. Parents consent may play a role, Umunna or Umuada or any group that may arise consent is null and void, Where the bride or dowry was paid doesn't matter. 2: Statutory marriage act or so-called low or high court marriage, in summary A: Dowry or brideprice is not neccesary. B. Parental consent does not matter. C: The two persons must be of marriageable age.D: Does not admit polygamy or polyandry.E: A twenty one days public notice must be posted, at the expiration of this twenty one days notice the marriage shall be enacted within or not more than 30days, and a marriage certificate is issued. Under this marriage act, the woman and her children is protected under the inheritance law. IT IS NOT NECCESSARY to conduct or have these two types of marriage, they all honorable before God, and man |
Re: Traditional Marriage In The Village, Is It Compulsory? by Dannylux: 6:08pm On Sep 20, 2013 |
bukatyne: Modernity. Ask again. 1 Like |
Re: Traditional Marriage In The Village, Is It Compulsory? by Nobody: 6:23pm On Sep 20, 2013 |
bukatyne: 21st century Liberation *Oyinbo ilu * |
Re: Traditional Marriage In The Village, Is It Compulsory? by bukatyne(f): 6:59pm On Sep 20, 2013 |
Dannylux: Lol! I knew you would say that. Do you think that the whites were always this way? They too became 'modernized'. Some American pastors still pray that Americans can go back to their culture of old. The moment we all realize that the world is evolving, the better for us. There is nothing like 'westernization' the way we use it. In the past, whites wore wigs, corsets, ridiculous gowns, gloves, sweeping gowns, bonnets, hearts, bodices, fought with swords, called everyone Maám, Sir, etc. How many did Nigerians copy? How many Americans do we know still do them? 1 Like |
Re: Traditional Marriage In The Village, Is It Compulsory? by ladygogo: 7:05pm On Sep 20, 2013 |
Chillisauce: i cant believe some people are still talking about the OSU caste system in 2013. Seriously? How primitive. 2 Likes |
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