We live in a world these days full of unhappy people, many of these people are particularly dissatisfied with their love lives. Divorce rates are at an all time rise all over the world and there is almost no family these days you can’t find a broken marriage. Young people too are also reporting alarming rates of relationship breakups, unhappiness and loneliness. Why this the case? Several researchers explain that several people interviewed or used as case study did not show adequate understanding of the difference between love and lust. Several when asked consider love to be something like having a strong attraction for someone and finding that person overwhelmingly desirable, being preoccupied with thoughts of the person and constantly wanting to be with that person. But this does not describe love at all. It actually describes lust instead. What is the difference between these two L words?

Lust is an immediate overwhelming physical attraction for someone which is primarily driven by our hormones. Lust leaves you overwhelmed by someone’s physical appearance or body part. It makes us find someone so irresistible we just have to have that person for just that selfish reason. For example that beautiful girl with the big boobs, you can get so filled with thoughts of how she must look without her clothes that you don’t care about anything else. You know next to nothing about her, how she thinks, talks or behaves and honestly you don’t care to know. You finally get into a relationship with her or even marry her and suddenly everything crashes. This is because your relationship had no basis in the first place. There are lots of people that feel that way about someone they met. A lot of office love affairs developed that way or campus love affairs or people we met at a party or a club. It is usually Instant attractions that usually fizzle out once the initial curiosity is satisfied.

Love on the contrary is far deeper and develops much more slowly than lust. With love there is a deeper connection. You actually see a future with this person she is just not a person you pick up for sex after a drunken spree on Friday night with your guy friends. She is someone you respect and have special consideration for. Someone you feel protective about. It is not a flash in the pan emotion. Love is a long term affection for someone which has taken a long time and a lot of tests to build. Love always stands the test of time and events.

A girl dating her immediate superior in her office is thinking seriously of ending her relationship complaining so bitterly to her friends, “ He never seems to have any time to talk, not that we ever had much to talk about right from the beginning anyway other than get into bed and get out.”He seems to have more time for his guy friends and drinking pals than he has for her. She was getting tired of his excuses. He always had such good reasons why he has to get away fast. He loves her, or at least he loves the way she looks or maybe he loves the things they do when they are together. She wasn’t sure she knew anymore. Now she is regretting leaving someone that truly adored her for him. But then in the beginning she could not resist the way he looked either. This is lust. Lust always comes with lots of regrets and it never lasts.




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On point.
Love starts with lust too,only time wil tell if it would end as love or meer lust.