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TV01:thank you for taking your time, will be expecting the completion of your reply sir. |
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InformedLola:temodent, VikingsOO7, there's no use for me to troll on NL... I would have loved to see what your view is... Abt about my english (writing has been one of the ways i use in expressing myself when am sad) i write in empty books and papers and i discard them (i cry on them and sometimes i talk to my mom and sis through writing)... I dont confide in friends either thats y i came here anonymously. Tritri.. Yes i know he'll have his part to say and i can bet my life that all he'll complain about is around sex, i have preached to him but he only see me as been too holy (and i would say am not). All i know is (i stand to be corrected tho) when you do something and you realise its wrong, you dont continue in it cos i believe the consequence will be more greater than when it was done out of ignorance... Secondly, i ran away with him to spite my family, (because i felt those that love me truely are gone) but i never knew i was only doing myself more harm and contrary to your opinion that i abscond when everything was rossy (that's a big fat lie) he had absolutely nothing!!! Even his family are not wealthy (i dont want to go into that)... Yes he cared from the first date ( i saw his number on a tv and i foolishly joined the wagon of my friends) and was more of a bragger and more on my body (which my friends find okay and called it love). But then i didnt have a mind of my own till i moved in with him and his real identity showed up (but it was too late cos i dont want to be mocked so i joined him in his braggin) even when he beats me i pretend to my friends when we talk on phone like am been treated like a cinderella... Because your friends gf left when the woes befall them (i will assume you mean when they went broke) you missed where i wrote i want him to make money for himself then i leave?! Even if he has a billion naira today i will still want to leave. I just want him to make money for himself so that he wont say i left him because he is not rich ( i am wiser now and i will chose peace of mind, sanity, progress, freedom and unconditional love over dangote's bank acct)... Thank you and God bless.. Thanks to everyonelse, may God watch over your paths and lead y'all in his ways. 2 Likes |
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DesChyko:not for now, but his family gave me 50k to start something (but as usual of him) i cant go out.... He'll have to do the biz for me (bt aslong as i can save somthing enough to cater for myself and my child for a while after i leave. |
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eph12:sir, i try no to seek pity in my post that's y... I just need biblical advice on my case... Is my decision wrong? |
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DesChyko:yes, i will rent a place for myself and go into farming to raise my child and send myself back to school too when am more stable. But aboveall, i want God's will to be done. 2 Likes |
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alegbeleye:I pray someone dear to you dont wear my shoes |
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Hi Everyone, I brought this here because I need the advice of matured minds and preferably christians... Kindly read through pls, pls pardon my blunders too (i created this new acct to be anonymous). I am 21,with a 4year old child. Am in a dilemma now and am so confused and scared for myself. I met my baby daddy when I was 15 (he was 21) i was just finishing waec then and started living with him at 16 (in his parents house). Lost my mom and sis when I was age 11&12 respectively. My dad had another wife so it was impossible living with him then. I got preggy 3months after I moved in with my baby daddy (he is my only body count till date). Well, even though he is caring (helps with chores and our child) but has serious trust and insecurity issues and am scared he will only grow worse having lived with him for 5years now (). I know deep down I dont love him. I was only acting on my hormones then but the teenage shakara ended after I had my child and I realised what I have gotten myself into and the responsibility of being a mother I had on my hands. I hated myself because he also started maltreating me (slut-shaming, peeing and defeacating in a bucket in the room( stopped this after having my baby), am always at his mercy cos i have nowhere to go, he became overprotective and got to a stage he raised his hands on me a few times). He later apologised (and his family will say am suffering for my child, i should endure that evryman has his own baggage - i.e, bad attitude) but after giving him sex and all lovey-dovey he'll start again (I dont go to church, I dont go out at all, and I cant even talk to certain people because he'll get angry). I want to leave with my child, I want to start life afresh, I have my aspirations and I want to pursue them. I have zeroed out marriage from my plans cos I cant stand my child being maltreated. Now the issue is ever since I had my daughter, I became closer to God and I realised what I did was wrong (left home to co-habit and fornicated). It is eating me deep and i beg for mercy daily so that i can do the will of God for me(i have fasted nd pray but i know this sin is what is holding my prayers back) but my baby daddy doesnt see anything wrong in the fact that what we are practising is a sin (to him, aslong as he is having a good sex he doesnt care). I pretend during sex and am even tempted to curse him in my mind while he is at it (now he has also made me addicted to porn (no porn no libido for me), cos he wants crazy sex). I have begged him to let me go but he'll involve his family (they think i am an ingrate for wanting to leave) and they will say i cant take their child away either. Am at his mercy because he knows i try to avoid us fighting in front of our child and for the fact that he knows i have nowhere to go. Aside the sex issue, i feel empty, i feel alone, i feel like am wasting away, i always cry (not in front of my child). Even when am bathing and i look at my body i only feel like a sex object (cos that is my baby daddy definition of love i cant say NO when he wants sex cos it always ends up in a fight and i dont want my child to see us quarelling ). I cant make my personal decisions because he is so insecured (he thinks and accuse me of cheating most times). The house is a bungalow with gate( we live alone with his mom) and now it has gotten to a stage where i cant even walk around the compound (after been banned from going out of the gate) because he thinks we would be harmed or i will sleep with the next guy on the street (its making me lose my sanity, been depressed and suicidal for a while now). The both of us cant boast of anything positive in our lives except our child, we are stagnant and he doesnt care. Our child is cared for by his family. He wants another child but i know i dont and i keep playing him to think i just want us to make money so that he wont cum inside me. I feel all we are going through is a result of our sins (because now we know its wrong and we are still at it). I have a plan to push him to make some money for himself (cos he is always quick to say i ruined his life forgetting i also wasted my time with him) and leave him but pls, is my decision right? Considering the fact that we were never married... I want to return to God, raise my child in the ways of God (everything my child knows abt God is learnt in school, sometimes she tells me her classmates talks about going to church and i feel sad). I want to raise some money myself enough to rent accomodation for my child and myself. But, i just need your biblical views of my action(past&present)... A large part of me feels i will find peace if i walk away and return to the feets of Jesus... And a smaller part feels i will be lonely (like popping up marrriage and relationships issues in me) which i dont care abt aslong as i know am pleasing God with my daily living. But i just dont want to continue in this sin and i dont love him either (peer pressure pushed me into this relationship). Pls y'all should help me state your views and if anyone has been in similar situation as mine kindly tell me what you did. Cc: TV01 OLAADEGBU Cococandy Dyt Mindfulness Kingebukasblog 3 Likes 1 Share |
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