A-40:

Giving sex for free? This is an ashawo state of mind I'm sorry to say! Sex is an act not a transaction (ashawos I no dey talk to you) so when you say "giving sex for free" one starts to wonder! Is it rice,cement or gasoline?

cdekj: May God help us all from every 'Jezebel in rebecca" skin.
It is not a right for a guy to give you something.
Every sensible guy who knows the true value of his girl friend. The moment you start demanding. You have limited yourself.
That was how i bleeped a gal, and the next thing i heard was "hope you are ready for the expenses that would follow".
Omo na so i delete her quick quick. But not before i told her what was on my mind. So she doesn't miss her opportunity with the next unlucky[s][/s] sorry lucky guy.
She never asked about my dreams nothing, she was already counting her chickens.
Don't get me wrong, i am not the stingy type. I am a cheerful giver. Once i observe, and notice where you are lacking. I would gladly do the needful with all pleasure.
But if you assume that because limpopo is the in thing, and the song was made for me.
Then you are in for a rude awakening.

jadelyn007: who is dis one again?:-/did u fall 4rm pluto? Abi u no dy see all d numerous threads frm guys on niaraland titled my"my galfrd has refused 2 gv me sex afta 6mths of dating" or "my wife refuse 2 gv me sex bcs she is pregnant"
in naija givin sex or havin d act of sex is synonymous so 4gt dis ur grammar

lirusehn: hey son if all ladies ar great. Where lies d OP? Smh

Emmadani: thats y i wish most guyz were casanovas,all this rubbish no for dey.and from the look of things,its like the op's bf is a submissive and 2 caring type.Girlz need guyz who are decisive in their opinion,guyz who dnt care(guyz who dnt give a fvck),guyz who have many gal-friends,guyz who women can not control anyhow.if u dey pet women 2much like baby,sori 4 u,d day she go dump u trowey e go be like DREAM.

Emmadani: thats y i wish most guyz were casanovas,all this rubbish no for dey.and from the look of things,its like the op's bf is a submissive and 2 caring type.Girlz need guyz who are decisive in their opinion,guyz who dnt care(guyz who dnt give a fvck),guyz who have many gal-friends,guyz who women can not control anyhow.if u dey pet women 2much like baby,sori 4 u,d day she go dump u trowey e go be like DREAM.

kaboninc:

Honestly am just sad. Wicked set of humans. When you dey do them...them dey shout "baby...baby...you will kill me ooh". Or they'll say "oh baby..pls make me feel like a man". So who'll pay for "making you feel like a woman"?

@rman...I think you contradicted yourself. That's why they say relationships are for adults...not just any adults but one that knows how to spell "responsibility"

@Lord_Reed...I agree with you. If a woman loves you, and she truly does, then she would feel so ashamed to tell you that her love is "monetised". Worse still is when she's a friend of ignorance.

mizzocho.cinco:
No nonsensical contributions, thank you
Advice from matured people

Yield:
A right time to have sex and cook for him before marriage? There's no right time to have sex and cook for a guy before marriage!

The right and only time to do those things is after marriage.

Sex? Again, should be after marriage, personally. No exceptions. But you have the right to make your own decision for yourself, which you have already done.

Cooking? I will make a lil' exception here: If you want to cook for him to show him you can cook ..which is what you've been aiming for or to maybe surprise him with his favourite meal, then do that only once or twice. But don't make it your duty to be cooking for him all the time. That ain't your duty! You're doing these things -having sex with him and cooking for him because of the benefits you think you will reap (he will have respect for you, love you more, not leave you and of course, give you money). Stop trying to sell yourself and prove your worth to this man. Your worth is not determined by your cooking and bedroom skills. The way your treat others, what you have going for yourself, the way you treat him and talk to him (and I'm not talking about sex or cooking for him here), how emotionally connected you are to one another are some things that will make a man stay. How in the world do you expect him to respect you when you're always giving him sex and giving in to what he wants? Where is your self-worth? You think turning yourself into a housewife for a man you've been dating for 4-months will make him stay? No. If a relationship is meant to be, it will be. You don't need to break your back for a man to prove your worth.

And saying because you're having sex with him and cooking for him, then you can ask him for rent money is silly. He is not forcing you to cook nor have sex with him, you're doing those things to meet your own selfish ends. And if you're asking a man to pay your rent just 4-months into dating him, you think he will be impressed? Make your own money and pay your own rent.

mizzocho.cinco:
I have been dating my boyfriend for 4months now and since men play the role of a provider when is the right time to ask him for rent money, or should i move in with him to save him the trouble?

mizzocho.cinco:
You still have your girlfriends asking you to do them favours after they cook, clean or spend a good time with you, i believe the same label you are stamping on me is the exact same label you should be stamping on your girlfriend

Men want a woman who can prove themselves worthy before they take her to the alter, a good cook and someone who can make him have a great time in bed, a good and hygienic wife and mother. why can't i have a man prove that he is a good provider before accepting to walk down the aisle for?

Does this mean women have to accept whatever comes their way, whereas women have to be put through some tests before they are considered to be wife material?
Food for thought

shymexx:

Where are you at, the adorable one?

Yield:
Hey Sugar.

A-40:

Giving sex for free? This is an ashawo state of mind I'm sorry to say! Sex is an act not a transaction (ashawos I no dey talk to you) so when you say "giving sex for free" one starts to wonder! Is it rice,cement or gasoline?