borax sexy: Truth is, its easiest to fall for sum1 online cuz u get to know the person's personality more b4 the luk tin complicates issues

Are u for real??
You can NEVER know someone's true personality online! If we're being honest,most of us pretend to be what we are not! It is easy to play out ur imagination online and nobody would ever detect!
So anybody who falls in love with a faceless personality is taking a terrible risk!

DailyNews: Why must u guys make Sexkillz and Ogugua the centre of discussion on this topic? That's uncalled for pls give them some space.

Before u come attacking me, I have once criticised them but stopped after I noticed that they are serious and really want to make it work, so y shud be be pulling them down instead of encouraging them in ways we can? Pls have a rethink.

Back to the topic:

I think its possible but most times it doesn't end well, why

1. Too much expectations from both parties- the guy usually believes he has found an angel while the girl usually believes she has met a saint and always expecting a perfect partner which usually don't occur when they finally meet in person.

So my advice to people wishing to fall in love online is to never expect too much from the other partner- he or she is same with other people u meet everyday in real life, nothing different, just that both of u are still acting your character.

This too much expectation is the major reason online relationships fail most times.

Guys always expect to meet cinderella (physically and characterly, lol perfect girl) who wouldn't cost them a thing and the girls expect a Romeo (handsome, buoyant and perfect in character).

But we all forgot that before a guy or a girl makes the decision to find love on the internet, that person must have some shortcomings like:

For guys:
1. May not be good looking and may have failed to attract his kind of girl or dream girl in real life.
2. Usually not financially balanced and looking for free love or a platform to find love based on neutral ground.
3. Maybe shy to approach girls or restricted by parents/guardian (usually teenage boys still under parental guidance and control)
4. Loners

For girls/ladies:
1. May not be all that physically attractive to attract her dream or kind of men in real life, hence resulting to internet as a means of finding blind love.
2. May have been repeatedly heartbroken by guys she met in real life and decided to try meeting a perfect or better guy online.

Note: its same guys offline that's also online...so don't expect to meet a monk just cos its online, be wise and don't expect too much cos u met him online

3. Age- obviously, when a lady starts advancing in age, suitors and toasters usually reduce, except she's exceptionally beautiful. So most ladies in this category usually run to internet as a means to find love.

4. Shyness and lack of opportunity. Some girls (teenage girls) usually are usually restricted by their parents/guardian from mingling with boys in real life, so most who are internet savvy usually run to internet platforms to find blind and online dates and usually fall in love with any guy that shows them attention and acts like the guy they like on movie or read about or hear about.

That's it. In conclusion, people can fall in love online without meeting, but its not advisable cos history has showed that it doesn't always end well cos of the aforementioned reasons

In all, if u wish to fall in love online and also make it work in real life, be open, be honest and pls don't expect too much from the person u met online! Don't expect to meet a perfect guy who has money, handsome and have a wonderful character, that will be your mistake number one cos such a guy won't even have d time to start searching for love online cos he will have plenty girls to chose from in real life.

Same way, as a guy, don't expect to meet a very pretty, sexy-looking, financially stable with excellent character girl online who is also single and searching, cos such a girl or lady won't even have time to come online to search cos she wud have lots of men coming to her in real life to make her choice from.

Expect less...and if it happens to be big, u thank God and smile
Long as usual

with all you have written, i'm stoping that intending online relationship straightaway

Acidosis: If I can fall in love with God... by mere believing his existence... then I'd be a f00l to say I can't fall in love with someone I've never met..


I am not a hypocrite

What're your reasons for placing 'falling in love with God' on the same level as 'falling in love with someone' you have never met?

Ishilove:
Aha!! I now understand Logicboy's obsession with Yours Truly. He's in love with me!!

Congrats!!

It does happen.a girl once fell for me

As she no fine again na, how she no go come "lousy". Very funny

coolandcute: I swear to GOD the character online was different from her character offline,offline she was a very lousy girl but online she was this cool calm girl and that attracted me more to her.

bonetalk: with all have written, i'm stoping that intending online relationship straightaway

pls don't stop it, she may be ur soulmate, I didn't wrote that to discourage people but to make people understand how they can meet someone online and make it work- simply by not expecting too much!

When internet dating started in Nigeria, most girls that went online to find love went there with too much expectation: to meet a celebrity, to meet a handsome rich guy with pope character, and most regretted it if they can open up and confess.

Same with guys, they trooped into all dating websites hoping to meet Cinderella, a very pretty girl from Dangote family who wud offer them free love without demanding for kobo and at the end, most failed.

If people seeking for love online can stop fantasising and dreaming to meet someone with all the qualities they never met in real life, believe me, there will be more success in online dates than we have presently.

So pls don't stop urs, just be realistic with your expectations, that's all and goodluck in ur search for love

Chai! Had i fallen in LOVE Before?

The Prince of Wales actually shudders at your own "grammer".

troy20:
the queen of england disagrees with your grammer and cupid is certainly disapointed with your meaning of love.

xynerise:
Congrats!!

Obviously you don't wish me well

I laff @all of u! Nd cryin in my hrt. So dz exam go hold 4 real

fall in love online? no I won't try it in my life

2009 I met d most luvable girl of my life thru mtn funchat...she was in calabar..I was in lag..so honest,innocent girl..I later saw her pics.. she was OK. but after dating her online for 1year I told her I cudnt cope with the long distance and wasn't ready to go to Calabar. after dat we turned enemies and I started understanding why online love doesn't work

she still remains one of the best girl I have ever dated tho

now I fit just dey play with girls online but I wud never develop any feelings

Sowhizy: I laff @all of u! Nd cryin in my hrt. So dz exam go hold 4 real

Lolx...FUTO student ?

Goodluck....and av patience incase of carry over

Deschil: The Prince of Wales actually shudders at your own "grammer".

that's why he is welsh i guess.

50calibre:

Hey bro! What will it take for you to disclose this person's ID

u already know the chick

coolandcute: Let me share this story!!!last five months as a guest I saw a thread of one famous female nairalander advicing someone on relationship matters then I started having crush on her since that day then went to her profile and she was very pretty then got her twitter handle,I added her on twitter and we started talking and from there I got her bb pin,through chatting on bbm we got very close and I started believing that am falling in love and she was feeling the same way too,then after two months of chatting we finally decided to meet each other,@op when I finally met her DAMN!!!I was very disappointed,she saw the disappointment on my face,she was not as beautiful as she was on pictures,I did not know that everything I saw when we were chatting online na wetin dem dey call make-up film trick!!!!she is UGLY!!!!that day she started discovering the way I was acting and asked me that am I not happy to see her I just smiled mischievously,but after that day I said to myself "I will never fall in love with someone have not seen"but what shocked me more was that this same chick do insult so many chicks on nairaland saying they are ugly,so ever since then i discovered that for anyone is having crush on anyone online make sure u see the person first before u start having any funny feelings for the person.

I know who the nairalander is.

Yes! I love Selena Gomez.

xynerise:


@op. Very much possible. It is even easier to fall in love with someone online than reality.

How?

There is this courage to express your feelings online. Everyone is an extrovert online .
You can't actually know the real attitude of a person online and sometimes, our minds trick us and we imagine how lovely a person is online even when we can't see them. It makes it easier when the person is lively when chatting with you. It becomes a piece of cake when you are obsessed with the person's comments . Do you know you can easily have an urge when you are communicating with someone on phone than a face-to-face conversation?

Ogh my goodnes!

lertee: You don't fall in love with someone you' ve not met,you can only crush on him. If you eventually meet,you begin to grow love. Love doesn't develop in a day.

Exactly.........

abdolleez: Can you fall for someone you've never met? Maybe you met on social networks , but you've never met the person

Yes you can! I have once had the experience.

I think it's possible ,but most times both parties lie to each other like on that MTV show called cat fish ,enuf things i don watch for that show. so people should just be very careful when it comes to these things

I just started one few days ago.

I actually did fall for some one I never met and he is now my husband!

Can i comment

It is crazy but women do it. And some guys (the women among men) do it too. Seriously Love Has Been Abused.

coolandcute: u already know the chick

Hahahaha! I don't, many people come to mind, c'mon give me us the gist, don't call names, but whittle it down for us.

You say she's a popular NLder?

yes i can

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