Communication is the life-wire of any relationship. It is the backbone of your relationship; the more you talk, the closer you become.

Diminishing communication is a sure sign of a declining relationship. Your relationship will surely die without it. Communication will actually help you maintain an understanding of each other's needs.

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By Faithful Iyobosa

Communication is the life-wire of any relationship. It is the backbone of your relationship; the more you talk, the closer you become.

Diminishing communication is a sure sign of a declining relationship. Your relationship will surely die without it. Communication will actually help you maintain an understanding of each other's needs.

A woman needs to understand the effect her words have on a man's performance; her words can motivate or disintegrate his self-esteem. In fact, the words of a woman can influence a man more than anything else. Men deeply appreciate a woman who is full of kind words. If you are going to truly enjoy a wholesome relationship, there must be communication between you and your mate. In order to communicate effectively in relationships, there's a need for a basic understanding of the differences in the communication style of the man and woman.

Men need to understand that it's in the female nature to talk, and they tend to go into details of issues. Men on the other hand are headliners, they just want only the summary (headlines). The way a woman is wired is completely different from the way the man is wired.

Men use words to communicate facts, while women on the other hand use words to communicate emotions. The woman is primarily an "emotional feeler", while the man is basically a "logical thinker".

Men in general think in terms of facts and in a linear fashion. They think like a straight line- which gives them the ability to see the goal (the vision) and to focus their energies on reaching it in the most straightforward and direct way. Women on the other hand, tend to think more like a grid than a straight line.

A woman is designed to pick up more details that men don't "see", things that go beyond the mere facts, such as the personalities, motivations and feelings of both herself and others.

What communication between women and men actually comes down to is feeling, thinking and self-expression. Women and men both feel, women and men both think. However, it is their manner of looking at the world and their self-expression that makes all the difference.

A woman's first reaction will generally be an emotional one followed by a thinking one. The man's first reaction on the other hand will be a thinking one, but he will also feel. Because of the way the woman was created, she tends to be more attuned emotionally, she feels everything- from the way a person looks at her, speaks to her, to what a person is actually saying or doing. This is a natural response for her, because she was made to feel the world around her and within her. When women and men have the basic understanding that the female is an emotional feeler and that the male is a logical thinker, they can understand how to use their differences for the betterment of both of them.

The way women and men are designed is for their own good. They just need to exercise patience and understanding and to value the other's contribution.

The woman is again designed to communicate what is going on in the inner recess of her heart and mind. Because a man talks less than a woman does, he can sometimes give her the impression that he is not doing much thinking. Men think quite a bit; however, they often don't express their thoughts and when they do, they express only the most salient points because they are interested in facts rather than details. Also, men don't always express or show their expression- either because it is more difficult for them to or because their thinking rather than their emotions is at the forefront of what they are engaged in. Since a woman is an emotional feeler, she is generally led or motivated by her emotions, even though she also thinks. Yet, a man is led or motivated by his thinking because of his leadership and provider responsibilities. In order for men and women to communicate meaningfully and effectively, it is expedient that the man learns to tell the woman what he is actually thinking or feeling, so as to avoid misunderstanding.