What Is Your View On ‘Arranged’ Marriages?

An arranged marriage for those who may not have heard of it before simply means bringing two people who have never dated each other before together for the purpose of getting married.

Such people do not always have the opportunity to know each other, but eventually get married relying on mostly the information provided by people who brought them together. Most times you hear of parents arranging marriages for their children because they feel they know better and believe in the family they want the child to marry into. Is it right for someone to marry another just based on what you hear about the other party?

What is your personal opinion on this? Do ‘arranged’ or ‘arrangee’ marriages as most people on the street call it ideal in the society today?

Can such marriages stand the test of time as well as the trials that affect marriages? What if they don’t succeed, who takes the blame? Is it the people responsible for bringing both parties together or those who mutually consent to such arrangements?

Do such arrangements render the concept of courtship not so important than the arranged marriage?

If you found yourself in a situation where a parents are trying to pressure you into marrying a particular person, would you give in to their pressure or simply say no?

Would you be able to love that person the same way you would have loved someone you dated and courted on your own?

Regarding this issue of 'arranged marriages', no outcome is set in stone.
Some can last, others may not...it really just depends on the individuals involved.

Depends...

I wouldnt recommend it to a friend

crackhaus: Regarding this issue of 'arranged marriages', no outcome is set in stone.
Some can last, others may not...it really just depends on the individuals involved.

I agree with this fella.

just like evry oda relationship both married n not married..it s a game of luck.....most of it, might end up really bad n catastrophic....minor cases usually end up with a happy ending but with several ups n downs.....i honestly dont buy d idea n will neva enta into one......its an old thing dat old pple do..its not for pple like us who loves adventure n to chop chop arnd first

UjSizzle:
I agree with this fella.

This lass is right to have agreed with me.

It works for some but I aint comfortable with it.

1. Arranged or not, the choice is ultimately yours therefore, the responsibility to make the marriage work is yours as well. Nobody but yourself can be blamed for the outcome of your choices.

2. Arranged marriages fail. So do "unarranged" ones. Marriages fail for any or both of two reasons: bad pairing and irresponsibility. If you make a bad choice of a partner, you're not doomed but you will have difficulty.

3. Love is the choice to put someone else's well-being, at least, on a par with yours. It has feelings, yes, but it is a function of intellect and will as well. So you will have the same ability to love your arranged partner as you will to love your "unarranged" partner. It may even be easier in the former case because the choice precedes the feelings making a sure foundation for enduring romance unlike the latter where the departure of the feelings may leave you confused as to how to carry on with your partner.

nothing wrong with it, if the couple are okay with it.