nerodenero: Most women hate every letter in the word 'SUBMISSIVENESS'.I think I'd prefer a balance between intelligence and gentility

andromida:

Ok going through my address book. Looking at shapes, sizes, character, wetin wetin. Which type do you like

kennygee:

Submissive to everything you say even if it is a bad idea?

That is why women are there to help, to contribute their suggestions and advice. If you have a totally submissive woman, that marriage will be boring and that man will make many mistakes that the advice and suggestions of his wife could have averted.

jayseehe:
Nope, opposite attracts, so such marriage will break

@topic, the both are attributes of a wife material...
I prefer intelligence though, but a typical definition of a wife material, gentleness will come before intelligence

dmcdad:
Okay let's see... Character must be great, shape doesn't really matter so does height. size must not be on the big side to avoid stories that touch. Lol. Then with a pretty face.

Abi I ask for too much?

GentleMimi: Intelligent woman all the way,no argument there.
I'll choose intelligence over gentility. Gentle peeps could be wickedly dangerous,you know? The intelligent woman knows how to handle situations as it deems fit. The man can go out and confidently leave his home in the intelligent woman's care.
The intelligent woman influences the children too. Makes them smart and active.
God forbid,but if the man passes away,the intelligence of the woman is needed for her children to make it in life with the few available resources.
The intelligent woman is not necessarily bossy or arrogant,just a lady who knows what she wants and then goes about achieving it in the easiest ways possible.
The man cannot be at his peak at all times in terms of mental capability. Sometimes,he needs a mentally strong woman to give him the required push.
Note: it is only strong men that take up the challange of an intelligent woman. Weak men want ''gentle'' pushovers,whom they can control like puppets on strings.

McWhillion:

My point exactly!
*shake my hand*
Are you responding to defend yourself by the way?

daryoor:
we've all heard about how the whole temperament thing,
and the conclusion that there is no perfect personality, that all
has their pros and cons.

there are intelligent women that are aware of their potential, they are
their opinion without fear, the are very active individuals. these
women can make strategic decisions in the absence of their husbands.
but the down side of this type is that the emasculate their husbands
because the believe very well in their opinions and the can easily
point out when the hubands leadership is far away from ideal, and this
leads to a lot of instability.


on the othe hand there are very obedient women who just nuture you
and your kids, no ambition or crave for control, they just want peace
and stability, i know you can be intelligent and choose to be
submissive but im refering to those ones that got you shocked when
you heard they are graduates, the ones that actually cant
contribute anything logical or thoughtful, the kind of wife that you
cant discuss your problems with an be sure she cant ever give u a well
thought out advise or suggestion, women like this have no interest
in politics, culture or basic philosophy, she can only talk about
fathiah balogun and p. square.

i know these two cases are extreme but which is better?

andromida:

Nah,

Infact you are very minimal. *Rolling up sleeves* lemme get to work.

Before i start whats great character to you?

Amusaopeyemi:
Me I no gentle o.

mkoabiola: Some intelligent girls can sometimes b over sabi and troublesome

dmcdad:
Great character for me entails but not limited to: being down to earth, homely, very good manners, not lousy, good sense of understanding, and maybe having a good sense of humour.

GentleMimi: Intelligent woman all the way,no argument there.
I'll choose intelligence over gentility. Gentle peeps could be wickedly dangerous,you know? The intelligent woman knows how to handle situations as it deems fit. The man can go out and confidently leave his home in the intelligent woman's care.
The intelligent woman influences the children too. Makes them smart and active.
God forbid,but if the man passes away,the intelligence of the woman is needed for her children to make it in life with the few available resources.
The intelligent woman is not necessarily bossy or arrogant,just a lady who knows what she wants and then goes about achieving it in the easiest ways possible.
The man cannot be at his peak at all times in terms of mental capability. Sometimes,he needs a mentally strong woman to give him the required push.
Note: it is only strong men that take up the challange of an intelligent woman. Weak men want ''gentle'' pushovers,whom they can control like puppets on strings.

TRADELYN: SEE...

There's GREAT intelligence in being gentle!!!

GentleMimi:
Thanks babe.

GentleMimi:
Thanks babe.

andromida:

O.k.

I almost forgot whats pretty to you?

GentleMimi: Intelligent woman all the way,no argument there.
I'll choose intelligence over gentility. Gentle peeps could be wickedly dangerous,you know? The intelligent woman knows how to handle situations as it deems fit. The man can go out and confidently leave his home in the intelligent woman's care.
The intelligent woman influences the children too. Makes them smart and active.
God forbid,but if the man passes away,the intelligence of the woman is needed for her children to make it in life with the few available resources.
The intelligent woman is not necessarily bossy or arrogant,just a lady who knows what she wants and then goes about achieving it in the easiest ways possible.
The man cannot be at his peak at all times in terms of mental capability. Sometimes,he needs a mentally strong woman to give him the required push.
Note: it is only strong men that take up the challange of an intelligent woman. Weak men want ''gentle'' pushovers,whom they can control like puppets on strings.