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Re: Should I Have Allowed Her? by Nobody: 12:08pm On Jan 22, 2015
LordReed:


That's their own wahala. You cannot come and be boss in someone else's home.

Boss ke? On top N160 eggs lmao now I have heard it all
Re: Should I Have Allowed Her? by freecocoa(f): 12:08pm On Jan 22, 2015
annalong:
I think most of us making comments about the madam of the house been a lioness, aggressive and judging the girl cos she is single are just doing the exact thing they are accusing her of. We have already judged the madam too and dissected her with just the few lines written here forgetting that there might have been so much left unsaid.



This woman has clearly shown us that she is not hot tempered or aggressive seeing that her character has been analysed and drag through the mud by people who know absolutely nothing about her and she has held her peace. If the saying 'by their fruit you shall know them is true' then her silence tells me the kind of person she is.

This is page 9 already and she has not tried to defend herself or insult people back for calling her insecure and intolerant. WE WOMEN ARE REALLY OUR OWN WORST ENEMIES.


Lmao grin, no be OP open thread o.
Re: Should I Have Allowed Her? by edwife(f): 12:10pm On Jan 22, 2015
annalong:
I think most of us making comments about the madam of the house been a lioness, aggressive and judging the girl cos she is single are just doing the exact thing they are accusing her of. We have already judged the madam too and dissected her with just the few lines written here forgetting that there might have been so much left unsaid.

This woman has clearly shown us that she is not hot tempered or aggressive seeing that her character has been analysed and drag through the mud by people who know absolutely nothing about her and she has held her peace. If the saying 'by their fruit you shall know them is true' then her silence tells me the kind of person she is.

This is page 9 already and she has not tried to defend herself or insult people back for calling her insecure and intolerant. WE WOMEN ARE REALLY OUR OWN WORST ENEMIES.


ahahahahhaha,where you see the woman?

The story was culled from a blog my dear,MADAM is not here.....
Re: Should I Have Allowed Her? by Ewuro4: 12:11pm On Jan 22, 2015
annalong:
I think most of us making comments about the madam of the house been a lioness, aggressive and judging the girl cos she is single are just doing the exact thing they are accusing her of. We have already judged the madam too and dissected her with just the few lines written here forgetting that there might have been so much left unsaid.

This woman has clearly shown us that she is not hot tempered or aggressive seeing that her character has been analysed and drag through the mud by people who know absolutely nothing about her and she has held her peace. If the saying 'by their fruit you shall know them is true' then her silence tells me the kind of person she is.

This is page 9 already and she has not tried to defend herself or insult people back for calling her insecure and intolerant. WE WOMEN ARE REALLY OUR OWN WORST ENEMIES.



Hehe the thread isn't real oga, just a case study ish ... Cool temper oh grin
Re: Should I Have Allowed Her? by bukatyne(f): 12:11pm On Jan 22, 2015
moca:

Leave buky alone cheesy
She is high on ewedu leave cheesy cheesy

Moca,

I am not wink

Nobody is answering my kwestions grin

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Re: Should I Have Allowed Her? by Nobody: 12:11pm On Jan 22, 2015
freecocoa:
My dear no be small thing, the day I had it hot with a cousin she believe na, na for her husband front I dey clear her doubt, talking about why I go collect soup from pot when she never remove her husband own, like wtf? Untop soup wey no be you cook? For family house wey no be you and your husband get? Mschew.

Leave women jare, we no know wetin be our problem.

Ewwoo!
See gobe! cheesy
I don die today! cheesy

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Re: Should I Have Allowed Her? by LordReed(m): 12:11pm On Jan 22, 2015
aisha2:
She was pretending to sleep and setting a trap for the lady jare, so she could get up and go and attack and yet not get up to make breakfast for her guests

Maybe she was which is why Cassidy should have either gone to kitchen with or without the chic, asked chic to meet madam or given chic money to go buy breakfast.
Re: Should I Have Allowed Her? by Nobody: 12:11pm On Jan 22, 2015
bukatyne:


No, it's not

However no ill mannered guest will walk in to cook without prior notice or consent.

I asked two questions some posts up however no one has answered me.

Be honest, can you do what the guest did?

Walk into someone's kitchen you do not know and start making breakfast without prior notice or permission from the wife?

Yes or no would do

First it was " no right thinking Naija person" as a Naija person I corrected that, then it was no yoruba person, a Yoruba person corrected that now its ill mannered abeg oh the rules in your kitchen are not world laws

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Re: Should I Have Allowed Her? by Nobody: 12:12pm On Jan 22, 2015
LordReed:


Maybe she was which is why Cassidy should have either gone to kitchen with or without the chic, asked chic to meet madam or given chic money to go buy breakfast.

All this procedure on top N80/ N160 eggs. Hiannnnnnnnnnn oh

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Re: Should I Have Allowed Her? by Nobody: 12:12pm On Jan 22, 2015
bukatyne:


Moca,

I am not wink

Nobody is answering my kwestions grin

Okay, maybe gbegili? cheesy
Re: Should I Have Allowed Her? by bukatyne(f): 12:12pm On Jan 22, 2015
aisha2:


I don answer you taya. Okay I will, I have and I let guest do that in my house. I sleep late weekends, my maid comes week days, everyone is on their own on Saturday. I am hungry I will find what to chop, am thirsty I would find what to drink if you want me to ask you when to drink water or when to eat food you are on your own and I wont be in ya mansion in the first place

I never see your answer na grin

You will walk into the kitchen of someone you just met and start cooking?

Cool then.

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Re: Should I Have Allowed Her? by Nobody: 12:15pm On Jan 22, 2015
aisha2:


Boss ke? On top N160 eggs lmao now I have heard it all
I lv this thread cheesy

This is d situation on ground.
Okay let's reverse it.
Will an oyinbo lady behave like this woman?
Where d away people.
Will an oyinbo host behave like this? cheesy
Re: Should I Have Allowed Her? by LordReed(m): 12:17pm On Jan 22, 2015
aisha2:


Boss ke? On top N160 eggs lmao now I have heard it all

I was not referring to the eggs, I was referring to your saying some men don't want to have anything to do with the kitchen. BTW N160 eggs might be trivial but must you be rude because of it?

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Re: Should I Have Allowed Her? by Nobody: 12:19pm On Jan 22, 2015
bukatyne:


I never see your answer na grin

You will walk into the kitchen of someone you just met and start cooking?

Cool then.

Read well and digest slowly I have answered your question more than once self i humoured you by answering again no turn me to craze person wey go dey repeat one thing abeg. I clearly answered there abeg, and i guess it makes me " ill mannered and unright thinking Naija person "
Re: Should I Have Allowed Her? by LordReed(m): 12:19pm On Jan 22, 2015
aisha2:


All this procedure on top N80/ N160 eggs. Hiannnnnnnnnnn oh

Yeah Cassidy has too much money and decided to be thifty and stay in his friend's house instead of going to a hotel.

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Re: Should I Have Allowed Her? by edwife(f): 12:21pm On Jan 22, 2015
aisha2:


Read well and digest slowly I have answered your question more than once self i humoured you by answering again no turn me to craze person wey go dey repeat one thing abeg. I clearly answered there abeg, and i guess it makes me " ill mannered and unright thinking Naija person "

Choi Aisha shocked shocked shocked grin

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Re: Should I Have Allowed Her? by Nobody: 12:23pm On Jan 22, 2015
LordReed:


Yeah Cassidy has too much money and decided to be thifty and stay in his friend's house instead of going to a hotel.

Hence I have blamed stingy Cassidy and the babe blamed him too which fueled madams anger and some people's anger too. The audacity of her to say she never wanted to be in the mighty mansion

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Re: Should I Have Allowed Her? by Nobody: 12:24pm On Jan 22, 2015
Buka, if I were the guest and need to take my drink at midnight as I normally do, I won't bother the woman with a 7month child because I need a drink . I would go to the kitchen and fix myself a drink.

If a hostile situation exist of which I'm aware at our first meeting, I won't even bother to sleep in that house.

I don't take a guest in my house if I'm not comfortable with them. Once I welcomed them, they can as well feel at home.

So buka, would you have jumped on the girlfriend throat without hearing here out ?
Re: Should I Have Allowed Her? by Nobody: 12:25pm On Jan 22, 2015
Ewuro4:
Hmm Edwife, one good deserves another truly.

What about my own bros numerous side chicks grin one came to Toronto last month for conference and bought my kids tons of stuff. The channel mascara she gave me is still trending over my Mary Kay grin

I don't even know if they'll work out or not. But I know I've added a friend to few I already have. You don't know where kids will be in future. humility and patience is the key word here.
Humility and d future is d thing.
We don't know tomorrow.
Humility has paid so much for me cos this is a small world. U find out that u tend to meet those people u look down on b4 on ur way to d top at d top waiting for u.
This is d fact.
For d future not now.

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Re: Should I Have Allowed Her? by annalong: 12:27pm On Jan 22, 2015
Ewuro4:


Hehe the thread isn't real oga, just a case study ish ... Cool temper oh grin



grin My bad. I kept wondering how she could be so quiet. Me i would have fired everybody calling me names cheesy
Re: Should I Have Allowed Her? by annalong: 12:28pm On Jan 22, 2015
edwife:


ahahahahhaha,where you see the woman?

The story was culled from a blog my dear,MADAM is not here.....

Thank you for telling me.
Re: Should I Have Allowed Her? by freecocoa(f): 12:29pm On Jan 22, 2015
LordReed:


It seems you are making up assumed reasons to justify this action in this instance. As far as we know there was no life threatening situation or health reason. So yes there can be exceptions but none are evident in this instance.

I put the contempt in quotes because it is not really about contempt or otherwise, it's about self respect. I remember staying with family friends for my IT, I bought my own provisions and snacks not because of contempt, I did eat in the house but I didn't assume that because of that I could just walk into the kitchen and eat anything I like. I provided for myself the things I would like to eat when ever and how ever I liked. All guests should have a level of self respect and mind boundaries within their host home.

Ofcourse I'm assuming things that could happen in cases like this na, since madam wasn't patient enough to find out, or isn't any of those assumptions possible? We are all human and you don't need to be told, how a person is likely to react, when someone they already consider 'annoying' further does something to piss them off.

Again, you don't know why this lady entered that kitchen, emphasis on why, that's why you can't judge her based on what you did where you were staying for your IT.

She has crossed a line, okay we all agree, now find out why she crossed the line, the madam didn't do that, remember she was already angry, coupled with how she thinks the girl is annoying, she must have been harsh and rude to the girl in her approach, which made the girl reason "it's because I'm in your house na" and said to the madam "I don't blame you".

You and I weren't there, of a truth but if you understand human behavior, you will be able to see clearer what must have transpired, I don't support this girl but I need you to understand that, it's important to think before talking and concluding on people and that for every action, there is an equal and opposite reaction.

The girl went into her kitchen, which some people consider wrong(keeping in mind that we don't know why she did), is that enough reason to talk to her anyhow? Even after talking to her anyhow, you still expect her to be nice to you? Why please?

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Re: Should I Have Allowed Her? by annalong: 12:30pm On Jan 22, 2015
freecocoa:
Lmao grin, no be OP open thread o.

Thanks dear. I rest my case.
Re: Should I Have Allowed Her? by Ewuro4: 12:30pm On Jan 22, 2015
edwife:


Choi Aisha shocked shocked shocked grin


grin grin grin choi I don burn baby's waffle grin
Re: Should I Have Allowed Her? by Nobody: 12:30pm On Jan 22, 2015
annalong:




grin My bad. I kept wondering how she could be so quiet. Me i would have fired everybody calling me names cheesy

Madam the madam !

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Re: Should I Have Allowed Her? by edwife(f): 12:32pm On Jan 22, 2015
Ewuro4:


grin grin grin choi I don burn baby's waffle grin

grin grin grin grin,i beg i am out....i need to finish this report and i am here cheesy
Re: Should I Have Allowed Her? by Nobody: 12:32pm On Jan 22, 2015
freecocoa:
Ofcourse I'm assuming things that could happen in cases like this na, since madam wasn't patient enough to find out, or isn't any of those assumptions possible? We are all human and you don't need to be told, how a person is likely to react, when someone they already consider 'annoying' further does something to piss them off.

Again, you don't know why this lady entered that kitchen, emphasis on why, that's why you can't judge her based on what you did where you were staying for your IT.

She has crossed a line, okay we all agree, now find out why she crossed the line, the madam didn't do that, remember she was already angry, coupled with how she thinks the girl is annoying, she must have been harsh and rude to the girl in her approach, which made the girl reason "it's because I'm in your house na" and said to the madam "I don't blame you".

You and I weren't there, of a truth but if you understand human behavior, you will be able to see clearer what must have transpired, I don't support this girl but I need you to understand that, it's important to think before talking and concluding on people and that for every action, there is an equal and opposite reaction.

The girl went into her kitchen, which some people consider wrong(keeping in mind that we don't know why she did), is that enough reason to talk to her anyhow? Even after talking to her anyhow, you still expect her to be nice to you? Why please?

This woman you too sabi book.

Did you school at queens college?

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Re: Should I Have Allowed Her? by edwife(f): 12:33pm On Jan 22, 2015
Chillisauce:


Madam the madam !

grin grin grin

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Re: Should I Have Allowed Her? by Nobody: 12:33pm On Jan 22, 2015
Buky I have indirectly answered your question but since you want it in black and white here goes . .

No - I will not mind for someone who I have let sleep in my home goes into my kitchen and cook if I have chosen not to get out of bed in the morning to see that my guests are fed and comfortable.

Yes – I will only go to sleep in homes where I am welcome, hence, will think nothing of rustling something up to eat in the morning or opening their fridge and getting a drink if I was thirsty and even washing plates in the sink if I saw any . . . . . . . and I don’t even mind cooking for the whole house while I am there.

The issue is that you should not be opening your door for or going to people’s houses that you are not familiar with or you have issues with in the first instance.

My fridge is in my kitchen and when guests come, rather than this tray and glass malarkey I prefer to tell my guests to open the fridge and take whatever they want.

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Re: Should I Have Allowed Her? by Nobody: 12:35pm On Jan 22, 2015
Ewuro4:
Hmm Edwife, one good deserves another truly.

What about my own bros numerous side chicks grin one came to Toronto last month for conference and bought my kids tons of stuff. The channel mascara she gave me is still trending over my Mary Kay grin

I don't even know if they'll work out or not. But I know I've added a friend to few I already have. You don't know where kids will be in future. humility and patience is the key word here.
My dear, two of my exes mums were at my wedding, one couldn't stop crying she had to be taken out at one point, me and her have been through so much together it didn't work out with her son but she is still me dear dear friend whom I love so much. Christmas I no dey forget her and when she visits na so my fridge no dey get space too. Have I spent the night in her house? Lol yes when we dated and after we dated, have I gone scavenging in her fridge yes oh several times and when she catches me in the kitchen her response is to start asking me what she can cook for me at 2am lol. It takes so much to convince her to return to bed am just doing longer throat

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Re: Should I Have Allowed Her? by Ewuro4: 12:35pm On Jan 22, 2015
edwife:


grin grin grin grin,i beg i am out....i need to finish this report and i am here cheesy

grin grin me too. GoodNight and good morning...

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Re: Should I Have Allowed Her? by freecocoa(f): 12:41pm On Jan 22, 2015
Chillisauce:


This woman you too sabi book.

Did you school at queens college?
cheesy.

I didn't o.

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