Most people (Nigerians) are Christians or Muslims. They are supposed to stay virgins. If they are virgin, it's a sign of discipline and some form of eliteness. "I'm not one of them." It's like choosing to not be crass and use a curse word, or choosing to not fornicate. You can think "I won't debase myself to curse" or "I won't debase myself to fornicate". Virgins have a right to be proud in their "different status" which comes from being more serious and disciplined.

I agree with you. it is problematic to maintain this standard for only women. And there in I agree with you: society is partial and discriminatory in judging the violation, the way they can be with whites and blacks. But that's not enough reason to say the standard isn't right or logically consistent. The point remains that they uphold/expect a standard of Muslim/Christian intersection; and being a non-virgin makes you non-classy. What you should be arguing now is "men who are non-virgins are ALSO non-classy".
Yes, the virginity expectation has been used to oppress women but hell, everything has been used to oppress women - name change, shaving, dressing, education. From important things to non-important things. But we don't go about saying we want to scrap the obviously, generally accepted standards. What we go about saying is that women should not be worse off for breaking the rules and violating the standards of the society than men. They shouldn't be judged worse. Simple!

Shollypopzz:
What are your thoughts?

TV01:

I think one has to be a total slut to try and shame a virgin.
Although being one does not necessarily make you classy, it can certainly help.


TV

Shollypopzz:
This is a statement a female made on twitter when a guy was virgin shaming her. I am totally against virgin shaming but I thought her statement was absolutely ridiculous.
A male friend of mine actually agreed with it. His argument was,[b] in a Nigerian setting, the standard is virginity [/b]and anyone that falls below that standard is classless. As classiness is judged on the standard the society creates.

I agree with you. it is problematic to maintain this standard for only women. And there in I agree with you: society is partial and discriminatory in judging the violation, the way they can be with whites and blacks. But that's not enough reason to say the standard isn't right or logically consistent. The point remains that they uphold/expect a standard of Muslim/Christian intersection; and being a non-virgin makes you non-classy. What you should be arguing now is "men who are non-virgins are ALSO non-classy".
Yes, the virginity expectation has been used to oppress women but hell, everything has been used to oppress women - name change, shaving, dressing, education. From important things to non-important things. But we don't go about saying we want to scrap the obviously, generally accepted standards. What we go about saying is that women should not be worse off for breaking the rules and violating the standards of the society than men. They shouldn't be judged worse. Simple!

zeezahbee:
Being classy doesnt have anything to do with virginity

Being a Classy Woman Means Having Broad Formal and “Real Life” Education, Wit, and Sense of Humor
Being A Classy Woman Means Having Feminine Demeanor and Manners
A Classy Woman Knows that Success is More Attractive when Coupled with Modesty and Humbleness
A Classy Woman Understands When Showing Pride Is Appropriate

p.s so you can be a virgin and also be a biitch

BuddhaPalm:


Somebody please kill me now.

Mercy killing.

I read this twice and still couldn't comprehend.

crackhaus:
Being classy is an illusion created by women to make themselves appear better than other women.

Shollypopzz:



I just wanted to know what y'all think (especially women). Do you find the statement offensive? Do you agree or disagree? What are your thoughts?

BuddhaPalm:


Somebody please kill me now.

Mercy killing.

I read this twice and still couldn't comprehend.

alutacontinua:


somebody finally said what has been in my head all these years
Have you noticed how A thinks she is classier than B and B also think she's classier than A?
It's a very discriminatory word

5minsmadness:

Well of course those women who are not virgins are going to find the statement offensive! They are no longer part of the 'elite' or 'special' group and it can be hurtful to remember that something that special that they kept for so and so a time has been lost forever.

They mostly are the ones who say things like What's special in being a virgin sef?' 'how does it matter in this our modern society?' ' just cos she's a virgin doesn't mean she's any better than us!' Etc etc.

Flytefalls:

That's somebody's friend, behave

BuddhaPalm:


Hehe, I do not negotiate with terrorists .

@ Some of your posts from yesterday...I want to be like you when I grow up.

Flytefalls at her finest.

5minsmadness:

Well of course those women who are not virgins are going to find the statement offensive! They are no longer part of the 'elite' or 'special' group and it can be hurtful to remember that something that special that they kept for so and so a time has been lost forever.
They mostly are the ones who say things like What's special in being a virgin sef?' 'how does it matter in this our modern society?' ' just cos she's a virgin doesn't mean she's any better than us!' Etc etc.
Being a virgin in this morally decadent world is actually something to be proud of cos its not easy to remain so and yes it does show some sort of self control and classiness on the part of the female when all those around her are giving it up for iPhones and isi-ewu come Feb 14

5minsmadness:

Well of course those women who are not virgins are going to find the statement offensive! They are no longer part of the 'elite' or 'special' group and it can be hurtful to remember that something that special that they kept for so and so a time has been lost forever.

They mostly are the ones who say things like What's special in being a virgin sef?' 'how does it matter in this our modern society?' ' just cos she's a virgin doesn't mean she's any better than us!' Etc etc.


Being a virgin in this morally decadent world is actually something to be proud of cos its not easy to remain so and yes it does show some sort of self control and classiness on the part of the female when all those around her are giving it up for iPhones and isi-ewu come Feb 14


Then again being a virgin doesn't mean she will be good in other q like honesty or maturity etc etc. Those others are learned separately. A virgin girl may not actually make a good wife so to speak. She has to learn the other aspects of life as well.


Trying to push virginity on boys is a socio-political thing and I honestly don't think it will catch on anytime soon(sorry ladies).

aflyingbird:

true oo. virginity berra. d non-virgins r going to come in n hate, some of dem r alreeady here sayin virginity no be class, self-aggradize...mcheww.. dis one sef, u can use simple word but she too like forming. some of dem no b virgins oo but they will come in 2 support it forming virgin. too many hos parading nairaland abeg, men b careful. will neva take a ho for a wife

crackhaus:

Next time, attach the link where you got your definitions from