If you were so broke, or just relocated to a new city, like Lagos, renowned for its ridiculous real estate prices, will you move into your father in-law's house to stay, or will you rather, no matter the circumstances, look for accomodation elsewhere? I heard from one of my tribesman (ibibio) that it is insulting for a man to live in his father in-law's house, and I'd think that traditionally, it will be frowned upon, because it will portray you as incapable of providing for your wife/children.

God forbidd bad thing ! Can't stay in his house,even while on holidays !

It depends

With the size of egos men have? They will die first.

its not advisable but if push comes to shove you got to lay your head somwhere.

Well,it's african wahala and it's understandable.My wife and myself relocated from the UK some months ago and my father-in law just completed a duplex house which was very beautiful.He strongly persuaded us to take the house but i refused.
I did that because i had small change for my hand,if not i wouldn't have had any option.

But to be honest,if the two families are knitted together,i dont see any big deal there.

Never!
It's presume as being sleeping on a heap of junks,
if one sleep in his in law's house.

toba1909:

Never!
It's presume as being sleeping on a heap of junks,
if one sleep in his in law's house.

Rude!

house don finish?

Ben20001:

It depends

You are right

I can now see why my people, the Ibibios regard it as demeaning to their egos. As a man is the Head of the family, relocating to your father in-law's house means, you will be defering to him. And, boy oh boy, if your wife is the 'daddy's girl' type, that will be another wahala.

Has anybody read this novel, "The Narrow Path", by Francis Selormey? The protagonist's father was transferred to a new locale close their (and his mom's) hometown. Since they had no residence of theirs, the alternative was to move to their family compound. The mother refused to, because she realized that she would be at loggerheads with her sisters in-law. Her mother was willing to accomodate them, which would have been beneficial to the novelist, but his father refused, citing that he wants to be the head of his household. It's a very touching scene.