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Re: I Need Help! Its About Life And Death by Ligxy(f): 3:32pm On May 29, 2015 |
Miscellaneous: You can't even decipher if the Op is male or female in the post, how are we sure you read and understand the situation? smh And you kept demanding for pm or email. No go mislead the poor girl o. |
Re: I Need Help! Its About Life And Death by Nobody: 3:32pm On May 29, 2015 |
The first thing you and your mum shld do is to move out from that negatively charged house now! Self preservation is the first law of nature so move out quickly from that house with ur mum before your dad fulfills his death promises, then seek for legal remedies by reporting his abusive sorry a$$ to the law enforcement organs (NPF) who will in turn charge and prosecute him for domestic violence and threat to life. When they are done with him then u and your mum can also bring up a civil action against him were you can demand for damages but make sure you are not the aggressor here playing the victim! He who seeks for equity must not only come with a clean hand but must also be equitable. |
Re: I Need Help! Its About Life And Death by nitrogen(m): 3:34pm On May 29, 2015 |
Onegai: God bless you abundantly! |
Re: I Need Help! Its About Life And Death by AreaFada2: 3:36pm On May 29, 2015 |
scachy:. In 9ja, police will say "na family matter, couple wey don marry like 25 years, dem nor kill themselves, na now them wan kill themselves? Make dem go settle am for family." God forbid, until it's too late. That's the attitude of police. |
Re: I Need Help! Its About Life And Death by Islie: 3:37pm On May 29, 2015 |
@ redgem....... If your mum is not ready to leave the house..... Then you take the bold step of leaving first and after leaving, the vacuum you did fill when you were around will be empty and one of these days, she might come to her senses and say 'if I die now these children will live and be fine without them missing my presence but if am alive I will certainty witness their own time of uplifting and celebration' °Because am sure she won't want to miss the time you get married °She won't want to miss having to carry your first born °She won't want to miss your house dedication °She won't want to miss seeing your child taking the first step to walk It because you are still there, she sees a shoulder to cry, she see someone who can help her, someone who feels her pain but the moment you are gone...... Its becomes an empty space, a vaccum, a void..... By that time, she will come to her senses and run for her life. #am nothing talking in parables, am talking about what has happened. Happened to a relative. As for your dad........ Just know you have a dad and not a Father He is a beast and one who can kill Good luck as you fashion your way out of this mess 4 Likes |
Re: I Need Help! Its About Life And Death by scachy(m): 3:41pm On May 29, 2015 |
AreaFada2:Hmmm.too bad. Perhaps if something bad happens at last, they ll still come to make an arrest. NPF is pathetic though but we had to do d needful wen d need arises to avoid unnecessary blames n regret. |
Re: I Need Help! Its About Life And Death by cococandy(f): 3:43pm On May 29, 2015 |
jayedu108:why not offer your own advice instead of picking on other people's own? Wise adult with better ideas. So na your work be this. Going from thread to thread disturbing other posters when you have nothing better to offer yourself. Mtchew 1 Like |
Re: I Need Help! Its About Life And Death by MzCorleone(f): 3:45pm On May 29, 2015 |
This issue should not be handled with kiddies gloves,if you dont have any considerate suggestions for the Op pls just keep quiet and watch from the sidelines. ![]() thank you |
Re: I Need Help! Its About Life And Death by Nobody: 3:45pm On May 29, 2015 |
Lalasticlala...the op is a girl..pls amend the topic on fp |
Re: I Need Help! Its About Life And Death by cococandy(f): 3:46pm On May 29, 2015 |
lolly2pops:no be America be this o 1 Like |
Re: I Need Help! Its About Life And Death by Ligxy(f): 3:51pm On May 29, 2015 |
raumdeuter: Are you here at all? 1 Like |
Re: I Need Help! Its About Life And Death by ayox1(m): 3:52pm On May 29, 2015 |
Islie:wonder full u ave written d right tin. woow I doff my cap 4 u. Op u better heed 2 this advise 4 ur own benefit and dat of ur mom. |
Re: I Need Help! Its About Life And Death by xerotop(m): 3:54pm On May 29, 2015 |
Women suffering from what they turned their husbands to over the years. And finally finding solace in church. Op a few questions for u. Was ur dad born mad? Was he treating ur mum like dis from inception? Did u grow to meet him smokin weeds and having mistreses? Some men find it very difficult to let go and forgive. Only ur mom will be able to answer why dis man has become what he his now. She has the option of running or staying. But let her fix it. At least for the childrens sake. No point using the toilet and running only for another peroson to come clean for you. 1 Like |
Re: I Need Help! Its About Life And Death by Nobody: 3:58pm On May 29, 2015 |
[size=14pt]Listen up you low self esteemed piece of shiiit. Nobody online can help you. Your mom is a fuccking walking corpse and I will be surprised if she lives to see 60. If all you can do is beg and kneel.... then, beg and kneel.... Make sure u invite me to your mom's funeral loool. Foolish people and their wahala....[/size] 2 Likes |
Re: I Need Help! Its About Life And Death by Nobody: 3:59pm On May 29, 2015 |
xerotop: Marriage no be by force. If u dont want the woman, let the bisssh go... Or just murder her ans make it quick |
Re: I Need Help! Its About Life And Death by Nobody: 4:00pm On May 29, 2015 |
Miscellaneous:If there is anything you want to let her know must it be private since she already made it public in the first place? No ill feelings. I just want to understand. |
Re: I Need Help! Its About Life And Death by brownlord: 4:04pm On May 29, 2015 |
Onegai: Rubbish They should get out of the house and come live with you right? or better still go to a relations house that will throw them out tomorrow. |
Re: I Need Help! Its About Life And Death by Nobody: 4:05pm On May 29, 2015 |
brownlord: Then let them stay innthe house and stfu.... why complain if u dont wanna deal with the situation?? As a matter of fact, I feel the poster is trolling, |
Re: I Need Help! Its About Life And Death by brownlord: 4:08pm On May 29, 2015 |
icebeatz: Living the house is no good start especially if the woman is not financially independent. |
Re: I Need Help! Its About Life And Death by Nobody: 4:08pm On May 29, 2015 |
lolababe331e: I guess the kids don't matter that much |
Re: I Need Help! Its About Life And Death by Missmossy(f): 4:09pm On May 29, 2015 |
Aww this is saddening,may God not let me meet a man like this. 8 Likes |
Re: I Need Help! Its About Life And Death by Nobody: 4:13pm On May 29, 2015 |
Miscellaneous: If I ever find myself in a situation where a man is pummeling me,strangling me and threatening to kill me and my children and I become so dense and so foolish as not to leave, may all the children I birthed through this my womb find the courage to leave that home and never return. When my senses return I will look for them 5 Likes |
Re: I Need Help! Its About Life And Death by bigfrancis21: 4:15pm On May 29, 2015 |
redgem: How old are you? Are you the first son? You have to step in. Nobody will make your father stop except YOU, as a son of the family. Step up to him, he will mellow down. |
Re: I Need Help! Its About Life And Death by lolly2pops: 4:18pm On May 29, 2015 |
Billyonaire: Is there no law over there? ![]() |
Re: I Need Help! Its About Life And Death by Nobody: 4:18pm On May 29, 2015 |
lolly2pops: Nigeria has no laws 1 Like |
Re: I Need Help! Its About Life And Death by Phrank10001(m): 4:21pm On May 29, 2015 |
#Advise d old ones.. |
Re: I Need Help! Its About Life And Death by stonecoldcafe: 4:24pm On May 29, 2015 |
redgem: I'm sorry but i feel like slapping some sense into your head. Listen up young lady, it's time you went your own way. If you have a job in Lagos MOVEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEEE! Your mother has chosen to remain in such a toxic environment regardless. If you were not born perchance, she would not move an inch so ask yourself WHY SHOULD I PUT MY LIFE ON HOLD FOR HER? Are you telling me that if someone proposes to you tomorrow you will say no because you want to remain in your father's house and continue protecting your mum? What a shame! Listen, get on with your life and can i tell you that environment is toxic for you as well. Do you know there is a tendency for an abused child to marry (or date) an abusive man tomorrow? Go and check the statistics. Its in their psyche and they can't help but act out that script unless by some stroke of luck or grace. I see you already kneeling and begging for what is not your fault or business. If you aint careful, you will accept abuse like that tomorrow and fall on your knees and beg (God forbid though). Please you need to have good friends (not rude friends) that will BOOST your ego and remind you this thing (abuse) is not right. Abuse is a cycle; don't remain in it if there is a clear way out. Your younger sister is still in school and she needs his help; thats a different thing. If you have a job or an opportunity, MOVE IT! Your mother has chosen to remain, that is her decision. You make your own decision. Good luck to you. 6 Likes |
Re: I Need Help! Its About Life And Death by onlyson16(m): 4:29pm On May 29, 2015 |
redgem:op u av many problem no 1 is dat ur very lazy no 2 is dat ur still a kid no 3 is dat u dont think twise b4 talking no 4 is dat u dont no ur duty no 5 is dat dont no ur right in the family u belong.so correct all dis faulty of ur life nd save ur mother fast |
Re: I Need Help! Its About Life And Death by shrekandfiona: 4:36pm On May 29, 2015 |
Onegai:op please go with this advice. Leave that toxic environment with your siblings. Weed smoking actually makes one mentally unstable. If your mum chooses to stay back, you can do nothing about it. she is an adult and has made her choice. My worry now is the psychological damage domestic violence can have on you and your siblings. Please leave and seek professional help |
Re: I Need Help! Its About Life And Death by redgem(f): 4:40pm On May 29, 2015 |
Thank you all for your advices I seriously don't know what to say again, some advices gives me strength and some weakens me. But all the same, I will do what I feel is the better from the advices given and hope for the best. Thanks I'm a female and not a male 4 Likes |
Re: I Need Help! Its About Life And Death by stonecoldcafe: 4:43pm On May 29, 2015 |
MarvellousGod: Unfortunately when i read that part of your statement i was pissed off as well. I know you mean well but sometimes (especially in Nigeria) we tend to make excuses for the oppressors and rapi.sts. e.g are you mouthed? did you wear a tight dress that's probably why you were ra.ped. I'm not sure you respect your husband thats why he beat you and the kids. I see it all the time. Very few people say 'hey that's wrong. You should not be repay violence with violence even if the Mrs was rude to you' we are too quick to ask the woman 'what did you do wrong that made your husband beat you?' I'M SICK AND TIRED OF READING STUFF LIKE THAT! its quite sad and i see it all the time on Nairaland. From what you've just written i can see you didn't mean it like that but that your sentence didn't sound like that to begin with. 8 Likes 1 Share |
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