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Re: I Need Help! Its About Life And Death by andyanders: 4:48pm On May 29, 2015 |
Op, your profile pix doesn't say good about your person. Is your mother violent hence the abuse from your father. When did your father's attitude change? You said you do not want to involve the police, go to any human right commission within your area and report the case. |
Re: I Need Help! Its About Life And Death by lolababe331e: 4:49pm On May 29, 2015 |
abbey621: Read through the comments she already involved family, Pastor and others and the man has refused to listen he has even threatened to pour hot water on the Pastor. The Mother has also refused to leave so who else should she call? Or she should watch till he strangles her to death one day What will happen when he kills her? He will be hung! Better the police talk some sense into his head now than later Honestly I despise weak mothers who stay with abusive men see what rubbish she's exposing her children to 3 Likes |
Re: I Need Help! Its About Life And Death by abbey621(m): 5:04pm On May 29, 2015 |
lolababe331e: It's not her place to call the police, no matter how wayward parents maybe it's not the children's place to get them in trouble. What she can do is to try and talk sense into her mother, she's old enough now to be able to influence her mother, what you are asking her to do is called relationship suicide and once its done there's no going back. She mentioned it's not the first time this has happened and yet they resolved it, I refuse to believe involving the police is the best course of action! Unless we all want to deceive ourselves and act like this issue is rare in the Nigerian society, we should all know by now that you can't help someone that does not want to help his or herself, let the woman come to her senses! 1 Like |
Re: I Need Help! Its About Life And Death by smsdigito: 5:09pm On May 29, 2015 |
redgem:Has he any history of mental disorder? sorry to ask. |
Re: I Need Help! Its About Life And Death by Imagineers: 5:18pm On May 29, 2015 |
This type of situation is very common everywhere you go. The so called female independence has turned the family social structure upside down. Imagine a family you struggled to maintain: at times borrow money from the cooperative to pay school fees, only to wake up and realise you the man of the house is now a nuisance. The house is divided to two and the husband is alone with the wife and children on the other side! It is a test on the man's strength of character. I pity him if he is the one owning the house they will kill him to inherit the property. Lobatan. Lady if you believe your father is wicked and if it is true he is your father, Holy spirit will take control.The man is reacting to a stimulus. Stop stoking the fire, his family may not like him if anything happens to him they will take sides. 2 Likes |
Re: I Need Help! Its About Life And Death by Obynolee(f): 5:27pm On May 29, 2015 |
redgem: That man will kill your mum oooo,i hate when some churches fail to use common sense in interpreting the bible thereby endangering the lives of their member,so,your mum should stay and die just because,"God hates divorce"?,.Op your dad will do the unthinkable sooner or later,since he is telling people that you called in police to arrest him and pretending to be sleeping when you went to his room to apologise,he is still angry oooo.There is no different between a mad person and a smoker(weed especially),Op you,mum and sibilings should run for una life oooooo,it is better to be alife and an illiterate than to be educated and in grave.He is preventing you from getting a job so that you wouldn't be indipendent financially.Op know that if your mum dies in the hands of your dad (God forbid) that it is a careless death because the signs were boldly written.No justification to still remain in that house.I wonder the type of church that will encourage her member to be in an abusive marriage If you get ear hear,you no go talk say i no tell you. Goof luck to you. 6 Likes |
Re: I Need Help! Its About Life And Death by Nobody: 5:31pm On May 29, 2015 |
babyosisi:...pay that oaf no attention, biko. He's a duplicate of Op's father, obviously from all his comments here 1 Like |
Re: I Need Help! Its About Life And Death by afortress(m): 5:34pm On May 29, 2015 |
whoever you are... goto your local government council secretariat look for SOCIAL WORKS department... tell them you want to see their HOD report the matter to him or her... na you go beg them to drop the case when them don start... let me know how far you have gone. 08077810045 |
Re: I Need Help! Its About Life And Death by youngies(m): 5:35pm On May 29, 2015 |
abbey621: What is it about this archaic "culture" that one cannot report an abusive and violent parent to the police? When has the roles and duties of the police changed from maintaining law and order in the society? Your police-phobia attitude in this case is not only backward thinking, it actually feeds the high rate of preventable crimes that we experience in our society. A very attempt or act of violent crime should be reported to the police or other security agencies. 7 Likes |
Re: I Need Help! Its About Life And Death by pomsky: 5:37pm On May 29, 2015 |
redgem: [size=14pt].......my friend, any other time he rough handles your mum, get a pestle and break his hands with it(make certain you break it), then warn him that if anything happens to your mum, he should count himself a dead man. Don't be afraid, be mad. As you talk to him look him straight in the eye, no shaking![/size] 4 Likes |
Re: I Need Help! Its About Life And Death by Onegai(f): 5:43pm On May 29, 2015 |
redgem, please where are you? What state are you, are they some sensible people on NL who may be willing to help you with a plan that will include your two siblings? I'm appealing to those who are close to her area. |
Re: I Need Help! Its About Life And Death by baybeeboi: 5:43pm On May 29, 2015 |
redgem: bros,if u believe u are Man enoff, call ur fada to order,talk to him,calling ur mother's relatives doesn't make u a mam.... Talk to him urself |
Re: I Need Help! Its About Life And Death by thelish(f): 5:48pm On May 29, 2015 |
babyosisi:I just love this woman. one of d reasons am a member of nairaland, after being a guest for yes now. my kinda woman. 3 Likes |
Re: I Need Help! Its About Life And Death by delpee(f): 6:04pm On May 29, 2015 |
To avoid stories that touch the heart, you,mum and siblings should leave the house. Separation is not divorce. Your mum should know that it is sometimes necessary to save your life so you can look after your children. Many churches are beginning to face reality. Life has no duplicate and its clear your father wants you out even if he will regret it later. The man will always find another wife and move on if he wants no matter what you do. Please tell your mum to talk to her pastors in case she's been faking a happy married life. I wish you the very best and pray that your mother opens her eyes clearly to see reality. |
Re: I Need Help! Its About Life And Death by abbey621(m): 6:05pm On May 29, 2015 |
youngies: You can continue talking in high fancy language that only works in theory or you can become a realist like me and see the situation for what it really is. After calling the police, what do you expect to happen next? Jail? The father stops his ways? What exactly does involving the police actually achieve besides complicating matters? Or can't you read that the mom is unwilling to leave the dad? 1 Like |
Re: I Need Help! Its About Life And Death by Drabrah(m): 6:19pm On May 29, 2015 |
my dear, I think it's high time u kept ur credentials & other valuables away frm dat house. Who knows, 1 of these days u may not b opportuned 2 pick them. |
Re: I Need Help! Its About Life And Death by Nobody: 6:26pm On May 29, 2015 |
jayedu108: What advice do u av for the Op |
Re: I Need Help! Its About Life And Death by thoth: 6:45pm On May 29, 2015 |
scachy:You haven't changed a bit. |
Re: I Need Help! Its About Life And Death by thelish(f): 6:48pm On May 29, 2015 |
babyosisi:u kip saying my mind. 2 Likes |
Re: I Need Help! Its About Life And Death by Esdb3: 6:56pm On May 29, 2015 |
redgem: Get a club, tap him and tell him the next time he touches your mum he'll get it!! That is if your mum is a saint. |
Re: I Need Help! Its About Life And Death by bamidele029: 7:01pm On May 29, 2015 |
lolababe331e: Are you minding them, after he kills the woman they will ask what she was watching since it has happened before and she should have known that one day things will escalate. Most people don't plan to murder their wives, one day in the middle of beating she will hit her head against a wall and that is. That someone has been beating her before doesn't mean one day it won't end in death. OP call the police and they will give him serious warning . Also let your Mum know that if she dies she has failed he children because she chose to stay in a dangerous environment and expose her children to that 4 Likes |
Re: I Need Help! Its About Life And Death by Nobody: 7:06pm On May 29, 2015 |
Missmossy:Amin o. Me too |
Re: I Need Help! Its About Life And Death by sketcherJ(m): 7:08pm On May 29, 2015 |
redgem:op i beg u.stay away from him. and when u do..be wary of him,dont give him full details about ur whereabouts....he said he will kill and sooner or later he will...i know he is ur dad..but there are just some evil men in this world who will never be satisfied with wat their wives do until she is dead..pls be alert..u can be alert wen u are awake but what of wen u are asleep?redgem pls run for ur life with ur mum ...ur days in dat house are counted...i know its not easy..justvstay clear off him |
Re: I Need Help! Its About Life And Death by sketcherJ(m): 7:10pm On May 29, 2015 |
babyosisi:i swear i read ur comment and fell in love with it 1 Like |
Re: I Need Help! Its About Life And Death by Nobody: 7:15pm On May 29, 2015 |
What is ur father's problem? I Hate men that beat their wives, sorry for that, sit ur father down and talk to him. |
Re: I Need Help! Its About Life And Death by sketcherJ(m): 7:18pm On May 29, 2015 |
[quote author=redgem post=34199499]I know begging and Kneeling is not the solution but my mum does not believe in leaving her matrimonial home... She prefers to stay and face whatever comes her way like how she's being doing since they married. Sometimes I even blame my mum for her silence all these years, she gets hurt and keeps on protecting him.. We went to his room this morning and he acted like he was asleep, so we left. Dad is currently calling people from the village telling them that I called police for them to arrest him, changing the truth and spoiling mum's name. About taking the job if I leave her alone in the house, I fear for what will happen to her... She's not young any more, my mum's siblings stays in bayelsa, she has no one around my younger sis is still in the uni and she's scared of talking to dad cos he had threatened her for not funding her fees. My younger bro is still a boy and he can't say anything. The only people she has ar her pastor and church members who dad swore that if he sees any of them in his house, he will pour them hot water. [/quotei know ur mum wants to be d good christain wife..but u know wat a good experienced pastor will tell her?..."run for ur life" but if ur mum dont agree.and it worsens..u have to arrest ur dad with d police..its hard to do...but if u dont.. pls u run for ur life...since ur dad thinks u are working for and with ur mum..any crazy punishment he wqnts to mete out will be sharer equally btwn u and ur mum... something is really happening in dis world...its only those who befells dat knows |
Re: I Need Help! Its About Life And Death by sketcherJ(m): 7:23pm On May 29, 2015 |
abbey621:I DISAGREE WITH U SIR!!!ur level of superstition is high...there are some dads in dis world dat will frustrate u,gice u high bp'curse u for no good reason....and u mean the curse will actually work for no good reason |
Re: I Need Help! Its About Life And Death by Danhumprey: 7:31pm On May 29, 2015 |
redgem:Red code! Red code!! Red code!!! Hello? How far? How's the situation now? |
Re: I Need Help! Its About Life And Death by redgem(f): 7:46pm On May 29, 2015 |
Danhumprey: He is still not back...every where is calm |
Re: I Need Help! Its About Life And Death by abbey621(m): 7:53pm On May 29, 2015 |
sketcherJ: No matter what your parents do to frustrate you, shouting at them, calling the police on them or hitting them is a taboo. I don't know about any other situation but this particular case, the child involved is at the age where she should be wise enough to influence her mother, there are ways to do things without making it look like she's the one creating chaos! 1 Like |
Re: I Need Help! Its About Life And Death by IYANGBALI: 7:54pm On May 29, 2015 |
I no go comment until the thing happen,because if it be say all dis yarn na lie |
Re: I Need Help! Its About Life And Death by NiceHans: 8:08pm On May 29, 2015 |
There are two solutions i will profer here. 1. Part ways: your mom and your dad need to live seperately which i think is the best for now. 2. You and your siblings esp the boys should beat the hell out of him any time he tries rubbish. By the time you do this once or twice to him he will begin to respect himself and realise that he is not the only one with fists that can get violent. |
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