olanajim:

If she ask for marriage.

olanajim:

Let me introduce to a Rule that may be of help to you in future, not just in relationship, but in every sphere of life.

I think it is wise to share with you. I am tired of reading about that gal just as everyone else.

The Rule is STOP-LOST ORDER.

Basically, you assume that you are always in control. You place order for whatever pleases you. You can order for trouble, or peace, good or bad.

Now, consider yourself to be in business (and relationship is a form of investent), you will want to make profit, not lost. Even though you know that business can be bad, like the on going global crunch. So if you are wise, you put a peg on the allowable lost. What that mean is that, you have a particular boundary of lost where you put a halt to your investment and move into a new venture or call it a day before you are reduced to ashes by debt. That is when you place your STOP-LOST order.

You are going to apply that rule to this your gal and do away with her once and for all.

1. Determine the allowable level of tolerance you can accept from her and then resolve that once she reach that mark, you are out of her life FOR GOOD.
2. If she has not visit you in Lagos since her departure, invite her and volunteer to pay her fare back to school. Then watch her reaction. If she refuse to come, then the alarm bell is about to go off. Start preparing to dump her for good.
3. Stop sending her recharge card and lie to her that money is not flowing as before. Though you may still call her, or text if you wish. Observe her reaction. If she is unconcerned about your "financial state" and stop calling or asking after your welfare, press the alarm button. You are dealing with someone who care for nothing but your money.
4. Stop texting, stop calling. Push her out of your subconscious and find a better mate. If she still don't bother, PLACE A STOP LOST order. Don't bother about her, close her chapter and move on.

I hope this help you?

Archilles:

@Eyo my man,
Do u, in your heart of hearts, believe dat dis girl thinks abt u except when she needs something? Have u thought abt wht would have happened if u hadnt given her the ipod for her b/day gift. A 17 yr old shld not b giving u sleepless nights, this is wen they are most vulnerable to lies from guys. Trust me, one bobo don pack her head full of lies so tey, she no wan hear ur voice again.

y me:

@poster
if she talk say she don be born again, then you go make am born again again
hope you get my drift

topup:

Seems to me like you're making yourself suffer.

Someone who loves you, should not cause you so much pain, especially when you've already made it clear that you don't like her ignoring you.

I think you two need to talk, I think stop contacting her for a good while (if she is coming back to Lagos soon - this is perfect timing).

Ignore her and don't wait until she calls you, take control of your life, you don't need to be tied down to any person right now, you can still get away, there are no children, no in laws and all the warning signs are there that this is not a healthy relationship.

Though, we do not know this girl, we know that she is very smart and mature, sometimes people change, and we may not be able to believe that they have but let me tell you; "Actions speak LOUDER than words."

Would you honestly treat her the way she treats you, if you did, what would be the reason, dislike - no more romance or affection?? You'll find your answer as soon as you start being honest with yourself.

eyonigger:

topup, I just dnt know what to say, I dnt treat her the way she treats me, ignore is just one major problem that occurs, and she always start it.

topup:

Yes, and it's making you unhappy, the relationship is favoured in her direction and you're not benefitting.

I hate to give people false hope, but another way of looking at this is to make her see your worth, as a great catch.

If you two take time apart, and you actually don't contact her despite her initiating the ignoring, she will notice that she no longer pulls your heart strings (even if that is the case - don't let her know that). This way she will be able to evaluate whether you are worth holding onto or not. If she tries to contact you, you can rest assure that to her you are worth keeping around - for what reasons I cannot say.

In the time you are apart, you can think, and maybe get over this attachment. Being attached to such a person can lead to you doing a lot of things that jeopardise your chances of finding a woman who will truly appreciate you.

Why waste time with her, you are not one of her priorities, whatever she's getting from you is.

C2H5OH:

Old boy, in as much as I want to feel sorry for you in this position, I can't help but laugh. You put yourself in this mess. I guess it's true that love is irrational. You are conscious and fully aware of the fact that this girl is behaving like a nuisance, yet you are rewarding her bad behavior with gifts. How do you expect her to fully realize her mistakes or even feel remorseful about them if you keep treating her like a royal queen? Mind you, I think it's safe to say that you are her "mugu" or "golugo" or whatever other name is used these days. When they say "the boy is good" remember that APA lo nje be. Think twice and think fast. Love with your head, don't be a fool.