@legry very, very dramatic , just get the hell outta the place. Why give them the pleasure?!!

Legry is assuming that the slap was delivered by a girl/woman. I have it on good authority that women of all ages are lovers of drama.

I think this is a very serious issue..but if my boyfriend should slap me I think I'll walk away gently and never again will I allow him into my life.If he comes back I'll accept his apology but we cant just continue the relationship..infact I cant just imagine it cos a guy that will have the gurt to race his hand and slap me is not a man enough so tell me how will I continue a relationship with someone who is not a man enough to control his anger.God forbid if we finally get married then I'm his real punch bag not his wife...and a lady that slaps his boyfriend is not a wife material cos she will slap you again in the public...
I think we need to have respect for our partners!

tayotina:

I would just walk away 

sade:

I think this is a very serious issue..but if my boyfriend should slap me I think I'll walk away gently and never again will I allow him into my life.If he comes back I'll accept his apology but we cant just continue the relationship..infact I cant just imagine it because a guy that will have the gurt to race his hand and slap me is not a man enough so tell me how will I continue a relationship with someone who is not a man enough to control his anger.God forbid if we finally get married then I'm his real punch bag not his wife...and a lady that slaps his boyfriend is not a wife material because she will slap you again in the public...
I think we need to have respect for our partners!

yes, that's is just the thing, i would not only walk away from him,i will also walk away from is life.That's just the end of the whole thing.

I'm curious...

For the ladies in the house...

Why the hell ... Why would you want to slap your lover anyway 

seun:

I have said it before, but nobody listens to me.

If a woman slaps her boyfriend, it's no big deal. It is just disrespect. Disrespect affects your ego, but it's no big deal. Unless the woman is trained in the martial arts or something

However, If a man slaps girlfriend, it's a more serious matter. It is a sign of worse things to come. Women never listen when this thing is being said, then they end up in abusive relationships.

A family member who is a marriage counselor once mentioned it in my presence that that 50% or more of Church-going husbands (Pentecostals o) beat their wives from time to time. Think about that.

Seun, i concur! If i am not married to u and u slap me, its over between us-go get urself a punching bag.

So, please, boyfriends and husbands, violence is not an option. Remove violence from your bag of relationship tools and the world will be a better place.

As for me oo, if she slaps me....best believe that I'm slapping her right back - because she has lost her right to be treated like a woman.

4 Babadudu:

Bro...

Right to be treated like a woman or right to be treated as a lady or right to be treated as a human being

What comes round goes round, if we want respect we have to give respect...

It's not a right, it's a privilege...

But really there are times when you men deserve to be slapped.

tayotina:

But really there are times when you men deserve to be slapped.

Really? when??

When you start proving to the ladies that you are nothing but goats.

Someone said that, "a lady who behaves like a thug does not deserve to be treated like a lady". If a lady raises her hand to slap a man because she feels "he's a goat" and he gives her the beating of her life I'm not going to take her side.

If you want to be treated like a lady, you need to behave like a lady.

Meaning what Seun? That we should take all manner of insults from you men? I would never raise my hand to slap my man but please there are times when some men need to be beaten up, not only slapped.

tayotina:

Meaning what Seun? That we should take all manner of insults from you men?  I would never raise my hand to slap my man but please there are times when some men need to be beaten up, not only slapped.

so tayo, if you decided to beat up a man and he over powered you, you will say he is not man enough abi, you said you would never raise your hand to beat/slap you man but from your words here you can do that to any other man right?

Bolasho, don't get me wrong. I would never raise my hand to hit any man, whether he is mine or not.

women hit thier husbands/boyfriends lots of time.

when a woman hits a man, the man is expected to walk away as it is just a woman.

I have received a dirty slap during an arguement with an ex-girlfriend.

I was so surprised by it that I could not even retaliate, so I jsut took it and was fuming all day.

afterwards that one went then another day she did it again, this time in doors, this time round I was in a bad mood anyway, I turned round and grabbed her by the throat and at that point I came to my senses, so I pushed her away and left the house.

If I had not curbed myself at the last minute I might have killed her there and then, but thank god that I came to my senses in time.

What I am trying to say is that it is easy to know the right thing to do but when it happens you cannot predict your reaction.

@Vieira jeez! dude, u just had to reach for her neck. Anger management

ezinne1212:


@Vieira jeez! dude, you just had to reach for her neck. Anger management

The thing just angered me o!

But we thank god that it no pass that.

i will never give him my face again untill he comes looking for me and then i will ask him to forgive me because this is a man's world you do not put up with them easily if you love them very much. love is for better and for worse so bear the pains is for jaut a while then he would come to pass

Love4ever,

Some people (usually men) are physically abusive and they will keep beating you until the day you die. The beating will not stop because there is no way one can be in this life without getting angry from time to time. Anger is no excuse for physical abuse, but if you allow it the man will continue until the day you die or finally leave him.

If your boyfriend is in the habit of hitting you it is better to break the relationship. This may motivate him to get help for his condition. If your boyfriend is hitting you, then he would start beating and boxing you if you finally get married. Even if you're a masochist and you enjoy being beaten, you also have to consider the effect of this environment on your children.

It is better for a lady to leave a man that shows the sligtest tendency towards physical abuse. Of course ladies won't listen when they are 'in love' but I don say my own.

Seun.

I will make sure he regrets raising that hand to my face! Men are always saying how devious women are, but some forget that if pushed to the limit, we can do dangerous things with no remorse.

After that he will definitely not be a part of my life!

Anyone who uses physical abuse to get their point across is not worth knowing in my opinion, be them male or female. So if my man hits me, i'll most definitely do him some harm, be it the same day or some other time and make sure i leave his ass. I don't know how to turn the other cheek...not yet anyway.

Well, I pray we all endure and do what you have written here. Because some men will show the woman the hard way to grave, while some women too will lock the man up ready to tear his clothes and even bite him.
And if still feels not satisfied she goes ahead and probably shatter his wind screen if he has a car or break his TV set.
All the same be all ready to exercise patient as your own may not be a physical slap per se. May caught her/him on bed with your best friend or double dating.
So the offence will surely come one day, though I don't pray so but the Bible says "offence must come"
So gird up your loins with plenty patience.

Rape is a crime and I cannot say this strongly enough, it has no place at all, anyone engaged in the act of rape is the lowest of low, pure scum.

I always imagine if someone raped my sister or my daugher! I will kill the person simple.
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This quote is from Vieira. What did I say? It might not be a physical slap from your loved one but something terrible from someone else. Vieira wants to kill now rape crime.

Seun, could you tell us what your 1st reaction was when your classmate slapped you in JSS 2? I can bet you didn't slap  her back but how did you take it?

As for me, I have never ever been slapped by a man before, but if my boyfriend slaps me, I'll quit the relationship ASAP and of course not holding him in unforgiveness.

If my fiance slaps me, notwithstanding ongoing wedding plans, I shall reconsider going ahead with the plans. ( it may sound unreasonable and too strict ) but I tell you, "a broken courtship is better that a broken marriage"

If he could slap me before  marrying him, then I must be doubly ready for the main dish which I am certainly not ready for as I'm allergic to battery. My body is too precious to be manhandled by an irresponsible being.

Bottom line: I GO PICK RACE, but of course forgiving the person. Our friendship will now be from afar.

Dablessed, are you using this forum to announce your wedding and inviting all Naira landers to the wedding?
I beg tell me the date and venue, surprisingly if I'm not on duty I shall be there with my gifts live and direct.

No, Great Peter! The right man has not showed up yet o! Join me and fast Abi u no be my brother in Christ and for Nairaland.

Dont worry! When he shows up, rice and stew will be too much for every member of the forum, including 'take-away'

Did i hear anyone's AMEN?

dablessed, when girl Yetunde Olajumoke Jacobs slapped me during I walked out of the classroom in shame and returned for the next class a few minutes late. That's me sometimes.

Any cool-headed guy would do same. well done!

Ain't no Nigga gon raise his hands up on me. Infact raise your voice, and heaven will know some people are fighting. Seriously it's just total abuse when someone raises his hands on someone else.

Personally, if a guy raises his hands on me (better yet, not my husband..just a fucking lover), OH me gosh, he's gon regret doing that (Noo....noo, i ain't gon beat him back, i am not as strong as that). When he slaps me, i will look at him and walk out of his house, pick up my cellphone and dial 911. The police will come and get him, and then he can start bailing himself out. Between that's the end of me and him. (i could go behind him and break the galsses of his car).

hot-angel:

Ain't no Nigga gon raise his hands up on me. Infact raise your voice, and heaven will know some people are fighting. Seriously it's just total abuse when someone raises his hands on someone else.

Personally, if a guy raises his hands on me (better yet, not my husband..just a fucking lover), OH me gosh, he's gon regret doing that (Noo....noo, I ain't gon beat him back, I am not as strong as that). When he slaps me, I will look at him and walk out of his house, pick up my cellphone and dial 911. The police will come and get him, and then he can start bailing himself out. Between that's the end of me and him. (I could go behind him and break the galsses of his car).

Hot Angel,

Na real hot Angel you be o! Abeg cool down small ehn! Cool down my sister.

Abeg mind how u use the 'F' word in the forum ehn, thanks. You are the one and only cool Angel.