^ my post meant Oprah has kids she is catering for even if they are not her biological ones.

Not sure why you are using her as an example of what you're trying to say?

christaddicted:
Marriage is for a PURPOSE and that's one of God's rudiments for designing & establishing that SACRED institution. All those backlashes people get in their marriages is as a result of following the rudiments of the world before setting out for it and thereafter.

Friends, from my own stand point, I can tell you that marriage is a mystery and the decision of remaining single is God-intervened decision.

But is good you marry and marry for a PURPOSE. For a purposeful marriage has a strong foundation. Founded on God's plan & purpose for it.

Every human is created for his/her own kind, for his/her own missing rib, for his/her own true love.

May you find yours some day.

what is the purpose. you are just beating sound the bush

amicable09:
I have a little ish troubling my mind whenever this topic about older ladies and marriage is raised. One of such question is, is the lady supposed to marry herself?

It takes two to tango after all. A lady interested in marriage and there's no eligible suitor, what should she do? There are some ladies who have only married men approaching them for relationships, what are they to do? Run to the streets and marry any guy who is single because they are above 30 and nearing 40?

Let's stop and think for a minute about such situations, rather than jump into conclusions, calling successful single ladies, bitter.

na by force to marry ready made husband?

cruzita:
even those that has turned punching bag to their husbands even have the guts to insult single ladies when their case is in Amadioha's hand

you think they want to suffer alone. they gats console diasef na

amicable09:

Lol. Linda's case is peculiar to her alone. I believe also that if the ladies are bitter they have a right to express the bitter emotions. That she isn't married doesn't mean she can't get pissed or vent her anger publicly.

They are still humans with full fundamental rights.

then they should accept the public rebuke. public bitterness won't solve the problem

joseph1832:
Pardon me creme de la creme. I believe its a two way thing. Just like amicable09 said, some ladies want to mingle, but nobody wants to mingle with them, may be they're successful and drive fancy cars, now such things scare lilly livered men away, and sometimes, attracts the gigolos.

Some despite the fact that they're not successful, just have genuine bad attitude, now that also scare men away.

So, I believe being single is a status as well as a situation.

all na bad attitude

Creamish:


Ok...so what d'u call women who get married and get battered/butchered by their husbands? isn't that more of a situation? I could take a poll and ask women what they'd prefer.. Be single at 40 or battered at 40. Ur guess on the vote is as good as mine.

Sometimes it's not about the attitude. Some women just don't want to be married...some are scared of commitment and would rather raise a child alone..so they opt to have a baby daddy.

My issue here is with the stereotypical ideology society gives single ladies. It is not always about her attitude. Men who run from successful ladies should remain on the track..running. They cannot handle them. There are men who can comfortably handle successful women who have no qualms with settling down.

I still maintain that being single is not a Situation but a status. It only becomes a situation to those who have allowed the societal influence to get them desperate. There are women who know where best to channel their time, energy and resources to make better of themselves..rather than die of depression. It all depends on the lady and how she sees herself....not how the society sees her.

you lie
women will pick 40 and battered (forget the lying on the survey)
even baby daddy we no see.
99% of us cannot but react to society so stop deceiving yourself. very few really don't give a Bleep (why we don't walk about naked, why we drive the latest and keep up with trends) it's just human nature

amicable09:

Lol. Very funny! The Nigerian society's choice is rather lopsided. Everyone at one time or the other under constant pressure have flared up in Public. Now, this is not something we attribute to singles alone, married people react to things in Public as well. To say because a lady is getting old and still unmarried, she should bottle up her emotions, she should never speak out, she should conceal, not feel and do not let the world know she's been chocked by their unnecessary demands and expectations from her, would make her "a woman of virtue" as you put it. Hilarious!

Women, I mean real women are not known for weakness. They exude strength. Show me one weak woman and I will show you 10 women who are down because a man, a weak man pulled them to the ground.

For one weak woman out there, there are 10 weaker men existing.

and you think fighting and shouting makes you strong abi

mikolo80:

you lie
women will pick 40 and battered (forget the lying on the survey)
even baby daddy we no see.
99% of us cannot but react to society so stop deceiving yourself. very few really don't give a Bleep (why we don't walk about naked, why we drive the latest and keep up with trends) it's just human nature

I must not conform wit ur opinion cos we both don't have same experience. So be matured with ur response next time and don't start wit "U lie" or "Stop deceiving urself". U don't know me.

Creamish:


I must not conform wit ur opinion cos we both don't have same experience. So be matured with ur response next time and don't start wit "U lie" or "Stop deceiving urself". U don't know me.

no you musn't
same way I will not conform with yours.
if you don't want ppl to call you out, don't make public comments.
that's why you should guard your statements so that ppl will not 'know ' you. otherwise we will make assumptions. meanwhile you de find guys upandan nairaland come de talk say you no worry, no be deceit be dat. abegi park well. una go de follow follow foolish dogma (feminism) without being able to handle the consequences and that is why y'all feel pained when ppl call It out. you go write check wen una no fit cash. if you don't need a man don't knock on others who do. otherwise you will be replied

mikolo80:
what is the purpose. you are just beating sound the bush

The purpose is KINGDOM PURPOSE. And that will be the basis of your judgement before the judgement seat of Christ.

Individual purposes operate on different grace.. Your purpose on earth is designed by God & known by you & you alone, and is different from mine.

Knowing your primary reason(purpose) on earth determines who you marry so as to MEET your HELP.

God called her HELP MEET meaning there is a PURPOSE why she created her just for you. And if you abuse that purpose of her in your life, you must account for it.

mikolo80:
no you musn't
same way I will not conform with yours.
if you don't want ppl to call you out, don't make public comments.
that's why you should guard your statements so that ppl will not 'know ' you. otherwise we will make assumptions. meanwhile you de find guys upandan nairaland come de talk say you no worry, no be deceit be dat. abegi park well. una go de follow follow foolish dogma (feminism) without being able to handle the consequences and that is why y'all feel pained when ppl call It out. you go write check wen una no fit cash. if you don't need a man don't knock on others who do. otherwise you will be replied

Hahahaha...u think I feel pained because I Dint insult u like u did me? F00l ur mistaken. I was just in a good mood. Still am.

Truckpusher:
People that uses marriage to insult single successful people are not properly exposed and before you say otherwise about my comment you should always know that being exposed isn't about travelling the world and meeting people but opening your eyes to the changing dynamics of the entire human race as it concerns what is happening around us and all over the world.

The world is changing and if you don't change with it you'd be left behind and God forbid you should pass on the same mentality to your offspring - they will look odd even as religion supports being odd which I find really disappointing to an extent.
Cc
Doveda

I think the marriage institution is very important however for people who do not give a damn about religion, it is stupid to project your fears and retarded logic to debase their choice.

joseph1832:
Hmm. Yea right. LOL. So can we take this little discourse of ours somewhere else?

You are a very illogical and irrational. I am not surprised given your misogynistic attitude.

Creamish:


Hahahaha...u think I feel pained because I Dint insult u like u did me? F00l ur mistaken. I was just in a good mood. Still am.

Oh really. Now I'm wondering how I'll exploit you being in a good mood. Thus far, my mind is blank.

daretodiffer:


You are a very illogical and irrational. I am not surprised given your misogynistic attitude.

You think!

Puhlease, shove your opinion up your narrow ass!.

joseph1832:
Oh really. Now I'm wondering how I'll exploit you being in a good mood. Thus far, my mind is blank.

Joseph go mark attendance for church jor..

joseph1832:
Puhlease, shove your opinion up your narrow ass!.

I suggest you shove your retarded opinions down your throat.

Nonsense!

daretodiffer:

I suggest you shove your retarded opinions down your throat.
Nonsense!

I'm not prone to take your suggestions simpleton.
Now piss off will you.

joseph1832:
I'm not prone to take your suggestions simpleton.

Now piss off will you.

Not prone? WTF!

You daft bro, really daft.

Creamish:


Joseph go mark attendance for church jor..

LOL. I don't go to church. But I'm religious too you know. I'll be marking my attendance in the nearest viewing centre shortly.

Wanna come?

joseph1832:
LOL. I don't go to church. But I'm religious too you know. I'll be marking my attendance in the nearest viewing centre shortly.

Wanna come?

For the ManU and Arsenal game?

daretodiffer:


Not prone? WTF!

You daft bro, really daft.

LMFAO! And this is someone who said I'm illogical and irrational when she clearly do not even know neither does she understand the meaning of 'prone' and the message I was trying to convey.

Good lord! LMFAO hehehe hohoho hahaha hehehe.

Sometimes I love Christians and sometimes I can't stand them, but don't get it twisted other religions aren't exempt from my wrath!

If we are going to use any religious books to validate our pkints, we first need to ensure that it agrees with our points! The bible states that marriage isn't for everyone and it also states if you can't control the fire (desire to mate) then it is better to marry than burn. I find that a bit troubling because if a person who doesn't analyze dictions will assume that marry for sex.

We shouldn't marry for sex and we should marry because we love the person and willing to commit to a fight until death do you part.

Some of you should know that some people aren't willing to commit neither do they want to be married. I would rather people who has no abilities to commit to stay single than to be with a relationship with someone who may actually love and willing to work the non-committal person.

We as a society needs to stop forcing what we think others should do with their life. I am not into homosexuality, but I will not waste my time telling fay people how to live their lives! It is their choice and it is not our place!

Statistically, there are more women than men and not all women will be wives if every woman is made to marry. Just because someone is single doesn't mean they are bitter or torn, the same thing can be said that married couples are bitfer.

I think people who insult single people with marriage are insecure with themselves and made a bad decision to be married wither generally or with the spouse. If you are content with your life married or single, you won't have time to worry yourself of other irrelevant people.

Focus on your life and find your own happiness regardless of your marital status!

joseph1832:
LMFAO! And this is someone who said I'm illogical and irrational when she clearly do not even know neither does she understand the meaning of 'prone' and the message I was trying to convey.

Good lord! LMFAO hehehe hohoho hahaha hehehe.

I don't understand and I don't want to.

You are misogynist. Misogynists aren't known to be bright. They are just a bunch of insecure mofos.

Creamish:


For the ManU and Arsenal game?

For all the game gurl! What's the fun of watching one game when we can watch all 'game' together, gaming all the way...

MrsChima:
Sometimes I love Christians and sometimes I can't stand them, but don't get it twisted other religions aren't exempt from my wrath!

If we are going to use any religious books to validate our pkints, we first need to ensure that it agrees with our points! The bible states that marriage isn't for everyone and it also states if you can't control the fire (desire to mate) then it is better to marry than burn. I find that a bit troubling because if a person who doesn't analyze dictions will assume that marry for sex.

We shouldn't marry for sex and we should marry because we love the person and willing to commit to a fight until death do you part.

Some of you should know that some people aren't willing to commit neither do they want to be married. I would rather people who has no abilities to commit to stay single than to be with a relationship with someone who may actually love and willing to work the non-committal person.

We as a society needs to stop forcing what we think others should do with their life. I am not into homosexuality, but I will not waste my time telling fay people how to live their lives! It is their choice and it is not our place!

Statistically, there are more women than men and not all women will be wives if every woman is made to marry. Just because someone is single doesn't mean they are bitter or torn, the same thing can be said that married couples are bitfer.

I think people who insult single people with marriage are insecure with themselves and made a bad decision to be married wither generally or with the spouse. If you are content with your life married or single, you won't have time to worry yourself of other irrelevant people.

Focus on your life and find your own happiness regardless of your marital status!

I disagree with you

What is wrong in marrying for sex?

daretodiffer:


I don't understand and I don't want to.

You are misogynist. Misogynists aren't known to be bright. They are just a bunch of insecure mofos.

Please, feel free to expire any time and kill yourself.

LMAO hehehe hohoho hahaha yohoho

joseph1832:


Please, feel free to expire any time and kill yourself.

LMAO hehehe hohoho hahaha yohoho

You are more likely to kill yourself than I am.

daretodiffer:


You are more likely to kill yourself than I am.

"Ignorance is bliss"

so please remain in your peaceful state of being ignorant and rant all you want.

joseph1832:
For all the game gurl! What's the fun of watching one game when we can watch all 'game' together, gaming all the way...

I'll watch mine from home. I intend to rest d whole of today before another busy week.

joseph1832:
"Ignorance is bliss"

so please remain in your peaceful state of being ignorant and rant all you want.

You have no right to use that phrase.