0hsisi:

Sefago, take a poll here
You don't need to be insulting,I grew up in naija
I experienced it and so did my friends and we talk about it now as adults and shudder at a country that doesn't protect it's young girls.
There are little girls hawking bananas that get fingered by these pervs and nobody says anything.
Men can grab and grope a girl and nothing will happen
Such a charge will ruin a man here but it means nothing in Naija

Sefago, take a poll here
You don't need to be insulting,I grew up in naija
I experienced it and so did my friends and we talk about it now as adults and shudder at a country that doesn't protect it's young girls.
There are little girls hawking bananas that get fingered by these pervs and nobody says anything.
Men can grab and grope a girl and nothing will happen
Such a charge will ruin a man here but it means nothing in Naija

Men can grab and grope a girl and nothing will happen
Such a charge will ruin a man here but it means nothing in Naija

0hsisi:

Sefago, take a poll here
You don't need to be insulting,I grew up in naija
I experienced it and so did my friends and we talk about it now as adults and shudder at a country that doesn't protect it's young girls.
There are little girls hawking bananas that get fingered by these pervs and nobody says anything.
Men can grab and grope a girl and nothing will happen

Such a charge will ruin a man here but it means nothing in Naija

I don't know if that [b]Yaba or Tejuosho [/b]market is still open in Lagos. You can't pass there without these men groping you. There was one day I shouted at a man because he just grabbed my hand. One mumu had the guts to tell me I should take it easy that they can just despoil you here, that I should just quietly go.

oyinda.:


t she had marks all over her thighs from the struggle. it was horrible man. upon all the police didn't do nada they let the rapist go and beat the girl because she was being too hysteric. t

oyinda.:


that reminds me of my pry school yrs. there was this big commotion in the neighboring house n apparently, this "omo odo" or househelp had called the meat seller to buy some meat from him and he apparently dragged her into the house and despoiled her. she had marks all over her thighs from the struggle. it was horrible man. upon all the police didn't do nada they let the rapist go and beat the girl because she was being too hysteric. then i didn't think anything of it 'cause i was young n that was the only system i knew. but it's soo messed up now that i think back.

those street hawkers n "omo odos" are the worst victims i must say.

They really are. Did my research on them this summer. . . .  they're the most vulnerable to HIV/Aids too

stillwater:

Really? I knew it won't take that long before someone said this. If you run errands for your parents, go to the market or run to the store to get something in Nigeria, there's always a man lurking around to chat you up. He probably must have been monitoring your movements. Only a girl who is chauffeured or have housemaids that is exempt from their leering.

I remember a scenario where a street nearly closed down because two beautiful girls were passing. Most Naija men no care whether you be beyonce or Sikira, he will pursue you till he dies.

WOW, I DON'T EVEN KNOW WHAT TO SAY. beating the girl for what?!?!?! is it her fault? they should have beaten the man!! i dont blame her for being hysteric. gosh, what a world.

This is so untrue.
Naija men are not animals.

SEFAGO:

Its a man's world in Nigeria deal with it. But Yeah, I guess, I was never molested so I can't empathize anyways.

But the thread is about girls refusing this poor guy from getting their numbers and then insulting him after that.

Tell me about it. These gals have some warped sense that makes them exaggerate all their experiences.

What can one do? Born with them, you have to live with them.

What is your problem. . . . ever so eager to go on a "Nigerian Man vs. Nigerian Girl" battle

Sigh. . . . NL is really getting boring

~Sauron~:

This is so untrue.
Naija men are not animals.

SEFAGO:

Its a man's world in Nigeria deal with it. But Yeah, I guess, I was never molested so I can't empathize anyways.

But the thread is about girls refusing this poor guy from getting their numbers and then insulting him after that. How did child molestation come into play?

Tell me about it. These gals have some warped sense that makes them exaggerate all their experiences.

What can one do? Born with  them, you have to live with them. 

FL Gators:

What is your problem. . . .  ever so eager to go on a "Nigerian Man vs. Nigerian Girl" battle

Sigh. . . . NL is really getting boring

0hsisi:

Not at all
The so called higher class ones are even crazier
Many of you folks are too aggressive and can't handle rejection
a girl saying No is like a dent on your manhoods

we see it on this forum all the time
they YIM and YAM and the girl say im no want or sees the psycho in them and tears race
before we know it,the eediot comes on as different handles and starts harassing the girl or spewing things she told him in confidence

H2O2:

wow 12 repleis while you were posting
Yes, rejection is hard to swallow and all you said is true, but
far too many of these girls are quite frankly too quick to insult and they lack home training.
[b]Imagine a boy saying "ha ngozi you are a fine girl o" to which ngozi replies with an "are you mad?"
[/b]Such crass blows are responsible for fueling men's agression.
LOL   There is a duality! The girls do this too.
From what I see splattered all over nairaland, the reverse is more rampant.
How many times have the likes of whitelexi been defamed and harassed by girls who have failed in trying to monopolize him.

stillwater:

Never said they were. But it's pathetic if you can't walk freely on the streets.

What is your problem. . . .  ever so eager to go on a "Nigerian Man vs. Nigerian Girl" battle

Sigh. . . . NL is really getting boring

tell me about it, I'm out.

stillwater:

Really? I knew it won't take that long before someone said this. If you run errands for your parents, go to the market or run to the store to get something in Nigeria, there's always a man lurking around to chat you up. He probably must have been monitoring your movements. Only a girl who is chauffeured or have housemaids that is exempt from their leering.

I remember a scenario where a street nearly closed down because two beautiful girls were passing. Most Naija men no care whether you be beyonce or Sikira, he will pursue you till he dies.

Not that I'm encouraging rude behaviour, is this Ngozi your friend? Does she know you from Adam?

~Sauron~:

Men get harassed too on the streets of Lagos.
U don't want me to share ma experience. . . . .Lagos girls are worse.

Were you not here when someone said Lagos chics now harass Naija men becos of pop-corn @ Silverbird?

H2O2:

wow   12 repleis while you were posting
Yes, rejection is hard to swallow and all you said is true, but
far too many of these girls are quite frankly too quick to insult and they lack home training.
Imagine a boy saying "ha ngozi you are a fine girl o" to which ngozi replies with an "are you mad?"
Such crass blows are responsible for fueling men's agression.

stillwater:

You want to compare "uncle buy me popcorn" to being groped and dragged like a puppet?

SEFAGO:

Do you want me to stop? I will do anything for you.

But seriously you know these type of thread leads to 8-9 pages, of course I like to play advocate. Moreover, I actually agree with you guys 100%, that girls get molested a lot- but then that isnt the topic of this thread.

But your posts never get boring to me.

Not trying to be holy or what not. . . .  but can we actually discuss logically on NL without pointing the blaming finger.

The topic is targeted at Nigerian women being rude to their potential toasters. .  . . and the women are telling stories to explain the possible reasons why some Nigerian women verbally assault their admirers.

This has absolutely nothing to do with bashing Nigerian men. . . .we wouldnt mind if you tell your own stories. But blaming these women and nigerian women because of those audacious acts is very ridiculous.

Can we for once just attack the target instead walking around the circle.

Anywayz. . . . before they call me mama holy again, let me hush. I'm just saying, pointing fingers is becoming the new thing on NL. No intellectual discussion

stillwater:

Not that I'm encouraging rude behaviour, is this Ngozi your friend? Does she know you from Adam?

~Sauron~:

Crass mentality and this is so prevalent with Naija chics.

U can easily tell many of them lack home training!!!
What has being mad gotta do with Ngozi, you are a fine girl.
The normal answer should be THANK YOU but trust those Mgbekes to front.

SEFAGO:

But that's the point of toasting, talking to a girl you have never met b4. Like everyone does it. Don't you eye guys a lot youurself? So what makes your style more moral than ours? Because you don't have the same impulses that boys have, doesn't mean you have to act so ethically yourself.

stillwater:

I'm telling you my experiences and you're saying I'm acting ethical. See the time I go out for errands is the only time I find myself outside on my own because my parents locked us up in the house, obviously for good reasons. It's not as if I want to be walking up and down looking for a 'guy' I want to curse. And no I don't eye guys a lot. They don't call me a snob for nothing. Anyways, the location matters when you want to toast a girl. I'd rather you come as a friend first.

~Sauron~:

Crass mentality and this is so prevalent with Naija chics.

U can easily tell many of them lack home training!!!
What has being mad gotta do with Ngozi, you are a fine girl.
The normal answer should be THANK YOU but trust those Mgbekes to front.

Get some perspective, Ify.

If you are talking about Yaba/Tejuosho. . . . . . .Those boys grab men too.
It's their own way of advertising their wares. They don't grab women ONLY. They will grab an animal if possible.
Na Lagos mentality.

Women grope men in Lagos.
I have witnessed a babe groping a man's nether region in broad day light in Victoria Island.

Princek12:

How can you come as a friend if that guy is meeting you for the first time, say at the supermarket?

How can you come as a friend if that guy is meeting you for the first time, say at the supermarket?

Sorry, I don't do supermarket love.

stillwater:

The man is her boyfriend!!!

So these tejuosho men say "come to me sweetie pie" to you too?

Have you been hugged by them before?

Have they tried to make you sit on their thighs?

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How can you come as a friend if that guy is meeting you for the first time, say at the supermarket?

stillwater:

Sorry, I don't do supermarket love.

Except, the large majority of these girls are not beyonces - they are slum monkeys.
A hoodrat expecting a yahooze boy to court her like a CEO is simply way over her head and living fantasies she's seen on TV.

LOL @ People tryna defend this obvious inherent [/b]behavior.

It's not even about the "toasting" or what not. Of course, it's very easy to ignore and keep walking if it were just words. [b]But they just can't keep their hands to themselves. Grabbing and what not, like seriously get a life.