royalfly:
The op lied. .. read btw the lines you will see she is just that kind of woman who does things anyhow..field gym with thugs. airport hotel job. i guess your husband should work as an agbero... i guess you will be okay. woman comport yourself. .

ominirajj:
Hi matured minds
I need an honest advice here. My husband has become a stumbling block for me, whenever i bring any opnion to him he sees the negative aspect only . i told him i want to learn hair dressing he goes against it, there was a time i got a job in airport hotel went against it.
Now why am so depressed and sad is that i have went to field to train because i cannot afford money to attend GYM house what he have to say is that that place is not secure becos of thugs.
This is a kind of man who doesnt contribute to my getting a befiting work, all he does condemn anything i do
Am a Gospel artist , he wont allow me go for outings especially night vigils. Am i not in trouble already or what can i do?
He is also violent and a bully

ominirajj:
Hi matured minds
I need an honest advice here. My husband has become a stumbling block for me, whenever i bring any opnion to him he sees the negative aspect only . i told him i want to learn hair dressing he goes against it, there was a time i got a job in airport hotel went against it.
Now why am so depressed and sad is that i have went to field to train because i cannot afford money to attend GYM house what he have to say is that that place is not secure becos of thugs.
This is a kind of man who doesnt contribute to my getting a befiting work, all he does condemn anything i do
Am a Gospel artist , he wont allow me go for outings especially night vigils. Am i not in trouble already or what can i do?
He is also violent and a bully
U can e-mail me . jummyjj1983@gmail. Com

Billyonaire:


I see no problems here. You are creating those problems cos all the careers you mentioned there are somehow.

1. You want to be Gospel Artist ? Its a part time work. Gospel Artists do not have shows as much as others, so you need a real job.
2. You want to work in Hotel ? For Christ's sake, you are married.
3. Hair Dressing ? If your husband is an educated intelligent man, then the type of Saloon you need has to be Grand, nothing less than 10m can set it up, that is a standard, anything less than that could be too petty for his wife. (That might be going on, in his brain). Some men prefer their wives to be housewife until something good comes up.
4. Now you want to gym at a public field ? Common mam, It is unsafe, and you are gonna meet people who do not value marriage and it will erode your principles.

I know this is harsh, but someone has to tell you the truth. Your husband does not know how to love himself, so he loves you and expects you to love him, he is insecure and losing love to his mind sounds like losing his life. He is just a control freak. He is afraid of losing his wife, his life.

Solution:
Ask your husband to suggest the best thing you can do to help generate finance. And give him time to think about it. It seems he will be better at making a good decision.

Obey your husband, all marriages are unique. Everyone is trying to live together in a very hostile union we came to meet.

I do not even think there is need for people to be married these days. The wahala is just too much.

Sansa143:
Searched for the channel but no match!

femolacqua:
This serious, I think you should see your Pastor to intervene and check what the cause of the issue.

sekundosekundo:



Pls it is not about how many years you dated b4 marriage. A pretender can date you 100yrs pretending to be good. I don't believe in long dating but I believe in sincerity. It took me 14 days after meeting my wife to ask for her hand in marriage, one month after we did our trad. two months after we did Church wedding. Yet I didn't see her pants until our wedding night and we are living happily.

I think the problem with some people is insincerity in marriage. A lot of men and women are not sincere to their spouses and once the man or woman discovered that you have lied to him or her, forget it.

In this case, I think the man is afraid maybe from past experience hence he's behaving this way.

Until I hear from the man.

Shalom.

IhateAfonjas:


Invite her pastor ??

This is why i will never marry a dumb woman

Invite a stranger into your matrimonial problem ?? To do what exactly ?? To pray to his imaginary non existing God to intervene in their marriage ?? And Chris Oyakhilome who is a pastor couldn't save his marriage

I would break up with a girlfriend who thinks like you

ominirajj:
Hi matured minds
I need an honest advice here. My husband has become a stumbling block for me, whenever i bring any opnion to him he sees the negative aspect only . i told him i want to learn hair dressing he goes against it, there was a time i got a job in airport hotel went against it.
Now why am so depressed and sad is that i have went to field to train because i cannot afford money to attend GYM house what he have to say is that that place is not secure becos of thugs.
This is a kind of man who doesnt contribute to my getting a befiting work, all he does condemn anything i do
Am a Gospel artist , he wont allow me go for outings especially night vigils. Am i not in trouble already or what can i do?
He is also violent and a bully

todaynewsreview:


Good points ONLY IF she will learn from it. Thanks for raising these salient points.

Praktikals:

And which fool will enter a relationship with you? Mad man.

ominirajj:
Hi matured minds
I need an honest advice here. My husband has become a stumbling block for me, whenever i bring any opnion to him he sees the negative aspect only . i told him i want to learn hair dressing he goes against it, there was a time i got a job in airport hotel went against it.
Now why am so depressed and sad is that i have went to field to train because i cannot afford money to attend GYM house what he have to say is that that place is not secure becos of thugs.
This is a kind of man who doesnt contribute to my getting a befiting work, all he does condemn anything i do
Am a Gospel artist , he wont allow me go for outings especially night vigils. Am i not in trouble already or what can i do?
He is also violent and a bully

sekundosekundo:



Pls it is not about how many years you dated b4 marriage. A pretender can date you 100yrs pretending to be good. I don't believe in long dating but I believe in sincerity. It took me 14 days after meeting my wife to ask for her hand in marriage, one month after we did our trad. two months after we did Church wedding. Yet I didn't see her pants until our wedding night and we are living happily.

I think the problem with some people is insincerity in marriage. A lot of men and women are not sincere to their spouses and once the man or woman discovered that you have lied to him or her, forget it.

In this case, I think the man is afraid maybe from past experience hence he's behaving this way.

Until I hear from the man.

Shalom.

sekundosekundo:



Pls it is not about how many years you dated b4 marriage. A pretender can date you 100yrs pretending to be good. I don't believe in long dating but I believe in sincerity. It took me 14 days after meeting my wife to ask for her hand in marriage, one month after we did our trad. two months after we did Church wedding. Yet I didn't see her pants until our wedding night and we are living happily.

I think the problem with some people is insincerity in marriage. A lot of men and women are not sincere to their spouses and once the man or woman discovered that you have lied to him or her, forget it.

In this case, I think the man is afraid maybe from past experience hence he's behaving this way.

Until I hear from the man.

Shalom.

ominirajj:
Hi matured minds
I need an honest advice here. My husband has become a stumbling block for me, whenever i bring any opnion to him he sees the negative aspect only . i told him i want to learn hair dressing he goes against it, there was a time i got a job in airport hotel went against it.
Now why am so depressed and sad is that i have went to field to train because i cannot afford money to attend GYM house what he have to say is that that place is not secure becos of thugs.
This is a kind of man who doesnt contribute to my getting a befiting work, all he does condemn anything i do
Am a Gospel artist , he wont allow me go for outings especially night vigils. Am i not in trouble already or what can i do?
He is also violent and a bully

IhateAfonjas:

Great job standing up for a girl
Thirsty ass nigga

ominirajj:
Hi matured minds
I need an honest advice here. My husband has become a stumbling block for me, whenever i bring any opnion to him he sees the negative aspect only . i told him i want to learn hair dressing he goes against it, there was a time i got a job in airport hotel went against it.
Now why am so depressed and sad is that i have went to field to train because i cannot afford money to attend GYM house what he have to say is that that place is not secure becos of thugs.
This is a kind of man who doesnt contribute to my getting a befiting work, all he does condemn anything i do
Am a Gospel artist , he wont allow me go for outings especially night vigils. Am i not in trouble already or what can i do?
He is also violent and a bully

Praktikals:

that was for calling God imaginary.

Reference:


I prefer to use the word 'court' rather than date. Dates don't perform any meaningful function. Courtship on the other hand is where issues of marraige are settled before hand. It is not a matter of insincerity or not. It is a matter of records and evidence. A proper courtship will have settled the fundamental issues amongst other things, of work, career, visons and aspirations. If he denies you simply bring out the agreement. Can he deny that. If the marraige heads to court you present your evidence. People think courtship is a joke or just talkshop. It is conference of committment and anyone who is not prepared to court is not prepared to marry. No woman should marry a man who is not comitted. Who hasn't answered all her questions. But it takes a quality, knowledgeable woman to handle a proper courtship and ask the right questions. Most are just blown away by the ocassion and are just looking for relief. How will you toy with a person that has power over you till your grave. People sef.

missyadorable:


Well said..I dont also believe in long dating!
Always told myself 3 months into dating and no plans for marriage,I withdraw.

Met my husband in July,Sept he proposed,dec we were married....We are doing fine.
Prolonged dating/courtship is not criteria for successful marriage
If both parties could be sincere and open minded

Lloydfolarin:



It's only a fool that ll not see that you are the problem of that marriage.

Trust my gut, you are not really into that man. From all indication, you don't really dig him. You might have digged him in d past but all gone now.

Look me in the eyes and tell me you are not cheating or cheated on him before

Any smart and Xperienced man ll know that you are the problem of that marriage.

Before your marriage, do you attend or go to gym? If your answer is yes, then you ll need to speak with him but if your answer is no, then he may just be surprised at your sudden appetite for adventures.

You are depressed and the next thing to do to get over your depression is paying for a gym session abiii? I shake my head for you.

From what you wrote up there and all indication, you seem to be the problem of that marriage.

It's normal in a any relationship where there is love for a husband or wife to raise some issues about safety and security.

It's normal for a man to express his displeasure about certain sector of economy where they don't really want their wives to work but with your woman cunning skills, you could get him to like the new job if you play or know how to rub his ego a little bit.

I have seen loads of women who chose different fields of discipline cos heir husbands didn't like Nursing or Social Workers jobs.

We have seen actresses who stopped acting as a result of being married to someone who doesn't like the profession. That doesn't mean the husbands didn't want his wife to succeed but for their privacy and other reasons known to him.

I know some people here who couldn't hold their homes together, people who are already at the verge of losing their marriage would tell you here that he doesn't have any right to do so but trust me, go and see all d proper homes where things are really working.

Go back home and rub his ego a little bit and ask him what he would like you to do. Come back here and give testimony.

missyadorable:


Well said..I dont also believe in long dating!
Always told myself 3 months into dating and no plans for marriage,I withdraw.

Met my husband in July,Sept he proposed,dec we were married....We are doing fine.
Prolonged dating/courtship is not criteria for successful marriage
If both parties could be sincere and open minded

awa:
I wish you mentioned how long you have been in the marriage. Is this the first time you are noticing all these about your husband?

I am asking because it looks as if you have a complete opposite of you as husband. Ordinarily I don't understand why he doesn't want you to do work to support him. Is it that he is earning so much cash and supporting the entire family financially that he doesn't need your help as his helpmate?

Something is wrong somewhere help me to find out.....