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Troll syndrome?

reminds me of sumone -cud it b coincidence but me tinks i knw ur alter-ego on NL.
ur giveaway- "Lazarus Sydrome"

tai2,

What you've said here in your posts is TRUE! People can be really naive and even go the extent of lying to themselves about what the real issues in relationships are.

If you're a man, and you didn't read tai2's post, sorry for you. You just missed out on exclusive education and info that would have had you in yes, CONTROL! Only the man who controls his relationship with a woman wins and maintains a sane mind. I learnt that by HARD experience.

The only woman who will REALLY love you for better or worse is your mother and your sister. If you're dealing with any other woman, seek, enforce and maintain CONTROL!

(throws keyboard out the window)

just buy lead & padlock her in the boys quatter

Take it or you leave it, this post is on point, chicks are just d way d poster informed wiv d exemption of very few of them, but they will never agree, the notion of a supreme being is d only reality in life, so forget d issue of being real, we all r guided by our interests in one form of degree or d other, all guys reading this should skemp d way nd manner u came in contact wiv ur by d side chicks (not d main 1 ooo) it's either u r financially bouyant than her boyfy or u r her boss in d office or she feels u r more endowed than her boyfy, they always want what their hand cannot reach, thats y a 100level chick will always go out wiv a 400level guy, then after being dealt with, she'll come bk 2 date her level g's, but no matter what, a guy will always go thru d 3 stages of control, it nw depends if d guy decides 2 grow or remain on d same spot, i thank God say i be sharp guy sha,

GBAM!, that is the whole truth and nothing but the truth!

@POSTER

REAL TALK, I'VE NEVER HEARD ANYTHING MORE TRUE. IT'S ABOUT TIME US MEN REGAIN CONTROL OF THE SITUATION

@poster could not help laughing as i went thru this thread kudos to u on ur newly found philosophy, least it makes sence

Could be useful information for small pilkins , but guys, first of all, learn to control yourselves

nihun:

Could be useful information for small pilkins , but guys, first of all, learn to control yourselves

did u read the post? what has this got to do with controlling one's self. you must be dumb. please go back and read the post and try to make sense out of it instead of talking rubbish here.

frank3.16:

did u read the post? what has this got to do with controlling one's self. you must be dumb. please go back and read the post and try to make sense out of it instead of talking rubbish here.

I speak as I find, lots of the guys on this thread should learn to control themselves before trying to control a decent woman.

Bite me if you do not like what I have to say

hello, great post.

I think women are designed, i mean created to follow,
,
, so they will always start and remain

with the man who can LEAD them, we are to "dOMINATE" not to be" DOMINEERing"

so always take the lead and she will die for you, lol

just my opinion!

either the guys against this are christians, heavy romantics, or don't really get the point.
If u have taken the time to notice, women, save for a few, always want to be in control.
the exceptions are those that just see u as a demi god or are easily influenced and are contented to take the back seat(no successful woman can be in these positions).
If your own approach works for you better than this, keep working with it.
there is no text book approach to it.

its still just my opinion

Okay, for those guyz always complaining here on Nland, walk up to your chics and tell them, "from today, I'm in CONTROL!!!" _{*if una chop slap, i nor dey oh}

Nice post, All true!!!

@poster nice post and i hope all the wussies would read this and learn something.

@topic i think some people are getting the whole title confused with what the poster actually meant in his post. i see y some ladies are getting mad. i believe when he says "how to maintain and control a waman" he is not saying we should drag our women by the hair or beat em up with clubs like cavemans to control women. To put in ma terms he asking guys to display alpha males qualities(control guy) and should avoid sugar daddy (artificial control) and ass kissing/wussy(no control) tendicies, Being alpha male is all about condifence and being in control of yourself,life, emotions and being dominant especially when it comes to women. when i meet a girl i see her really as her coming into my world and not the other way around therefore as the captain of my world i lead the way. two drivers cannot drive a car or we will crush. i dont try to lead i just lead. i dont control her only insecure guys do . and from my esperience the women in my life actually like that in even tho they usually wont admit it. there is a reason y women r attracted to stars and celebrities. i believe women are natuarallly attracted to status and confident man. women are not attracted to guys they consider as having lower status or confidence and therein lies the problem of asskissers/no control guys. they are afraid of losing their women so they buy and do all kinds of stuff for their women. they are always the one saying sorry for everthing and let their women get away with all kinds stuff and then complains about how he did everything for her but she still left him to be with a bad boy bla blah. ( i just described one of ma friends because he doest get it at all. he coming around tho lol). women actually tell me they look at nice guys as manipulators because they feel they women wouldnt like them for who they are so they try to buy their way into their pants. wussies know that money spent does not equal leg openning its ur swag/confidence bit.ches,
anyway ima stop here. first post on nairaland by the way , hope to have more fun i see i be poping here

Great essay, its just a twist around of advice given from a famous american psycologist- for women! Women should read this and take to it, its great to know how men thing even better to beat them to it!
The one and only rule women should religously follow is #never be afraid to let go! there are soo many men in this world, dont get hung up over one!

many positive points from this post, thank u so much for posting this thread

@poster , dah haa

Control is the only way. The way of mugu is no way. Those who have eyes should read.

This post is awesome!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

well said! tai2, you are a genius. I had a similar experience in 2009 and the girl got deflowered by another guy, She did another nasty thing in my present and I ended it all.

Today? I am learning to control my emotion in between this thing called LOVE,DATING,ROMANCE, I LOVE YOU AND WHAT HAVE YOU! It all irritates me now.

I wonder if any girl ever feel that thing called love from me. gosh! this girl KILLED everything inside me such that when i see girls this days, I smile, knowing that very soon they will be kissing my feet

True control starts from self-control and restricting your impulse to give and say everything because you're in love with one woman.

Tai2 can I have your email please? cos this girl that dealt with me wants me back. i KNOW she has been with other guy who she finally realized that they just s3x with her and then she remembered that I never treated her that way and also hoping that we would settle down, FOR WHERE? That will never happen. Even if I go back it is just go back and eat what she initially refused to give me then I move on.

2sexy, my yahoo mail id is femi.subair@yahoo.com

Tai2,
whats the best way 2 deal wit a lady that u once dated and u guyz broke up years ago~

since u be HITCH!

well i think this guy is making some sense. may not agree with every single thing but on the whole, i think he just might have a point.

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Tai2,
whats the best way 2 deal wit a lady that u once dated and u guyz broke up years ago~

since u be HITCH!

It depends on the situation, is she back begging or what?

@Tai2,

Yo, while I agree with you on most points I think theres a little problem with the 'artificial control' bit. If a guy keeps spending lovingly & foolishly 'cos he wants to maintain a woman's love for him, well that may be the 'artificial control' bit. But if the goal is to METHODICALLY create an illusion of generosity and financial buoyancy as a strategy to gain entrance into the punanis, then that is effective 9/10 especially for Nigerian girls. After phorking them you can then reduce or stop the spending and move on to "true" control (that's if you want to continue with the love-peddler sef). Naija girls rarely open their holes for broke asses that's for sure, lets not get it twisted.

pro01:

@Tai2,

Yo, while I agree with you on most points I think theres a little problem with the 'artificial control' bit. If a guy keeps spending lovingly & foolishly 'cos he wants to maintain a woman's love for him, well that may be the 'artificial control' bit. But if the goal is to METHODICALLY create an illusion of generosity and financial buoyancy as a strategy to gain entrance into the punanis, then that is effective 9/10 especially for Nigerian girls. After phorking them you can then reduce or stop the spending and move on to "true" control (that's if you want to continue with the love-peddler sef). Naija girls rarely open their holes for broke asses that's for sure, lets not get it twisted.

Spending money especially for someone who has it in limited quantity is a short-term solution to the problem. This is why men pay for prostitutes because money does the talking and gets you want you want, which is a solution to your need for some Behind. If you are spending for short-term gain it is still artificial control, because any girl that was attracted by your rate of spending will continue to expect that spending or require it periodically.

Whether she stands on the street corner or not, if you're paying to get it, it's artificial control. Why pay for it when you're giving her the chance the be with the best thing since Adam was created?

justv realized that this is the best post on nairaland.

Lol, I'm glad it helped