Sky Spirit:

For your husband to stay 2weeks without calling you shows you ve a problem
with him that you are yet to realize. His mistress has more information about you,
& she is acting based on what ills your husband would ve told her in confidence.
Y[b]ou aoure the real enemy to yoursel[/b]f, try to find out what he likes that your are not
doing for him & what he doesnt like that you are doing. Learn to massage his ego
& never tamper with his pride. Try to be friendly with his mistress, he will run from
her, I assure you!

Sky Spirit:

For your husband to stay 2weeks without calling you shows you ve a problem
with him that you are yet to realize. His mistress has more information about you,
& she is acting based on what ills your husband would ve told her in confidence.
You are the real enemy to yourself, try to find out what he likes that your are not
doing for him & what he doesnt like that you are doing. Learn to massage his ego
& never tamper with his pride. Try to be friendly with his mistress, he will run from
her, I assure you!

Omalichanwa:

@ agitator, i didn't force myself on him.

Radiant:

Some men are good at spending on a woman but that doesn't equal respect.

Radiant:

Some of them do it just to shield your mind from his wicked acts.

Radiant:

Anyway, let me ask you. Could you say you were happy with this man before this incident? Can you proudly testify that you've found happiness and not just a man to shelter and feed you?

A man leaves his family for weeks and doesn't call and the only time his number shows up is a woman's voice calling to tell his wife off and you guys say "be calm" ? He didn't even bother to call to know how his baby was doing let alone how his wife was coping alone.
How would you guys have reacted if it were the woman who did this? It's death sentence straight up!

Why are we so calm and 'understanding' of the wrong situations? I can even understand if she suspects her husband is cheating but holy hell for a man to be gone for weeks and not care about his family? What sort of man is that? Why would a man old enough to be her father treat a child like this? This is wickedness and he sure does it 'cause he knows she ain't going nowhere!

Someone said don't divorce your husband under any situation. You must be having a laugh for real!

Stop acting like you're nothing without this man

Honestly dear, you might see the money, live in a nice house, wear nice clothes but underneath, your scars might be too many. If you really insist on staying in this marriage just fasten your seat belt, fix your shock absorber real tight and live your life!

Mimicole:

If i wasn't on a public forum i'd have called u downright sick & sexist, oooops! there i said it. what the f** is wrong with u. How can u be so mean? So in other words men always have genuine reasons to cheat and it's always the fault of the woman. My dear poster my advice to you is that you need to boost your self confidence and stop acting like the 23 year old u are, u are now both a wife and a mother, and u need to start acting like it. Men don't like women that think and act like kids, they might fancy that during courtship in marriage it's an entirely different ball game, i'm not saying that's the cause of your problem but it's just what i noticed from the few statements u've made here. they need u 2 act like the woman of the house. That aside what your husband did is inexcusable, but this is your chance to make an indelible mark of respect on his mind, when he gets back don't scream or shout nomatter what,just act normal do what you ought to do4 him, let him sleep and when he's fast asleep like arnd 2am, give him a gentle tap, and when he wakes up, talk with him about what happened, the dangers his acts will cause to your family, you can go ahead and shed a few tears, i assure u thre'll be no sleep 4 him 4 d rest of the 9t. You'll get an "i'm sorry'', ''i don't know wot came ova me''card. But for real it'll awaken his sense of responsibility and respect for his marriage and ultimately 4 u. i hop this is not late and will be useful to u. good luck girl.

Outstrip:

Oh be quiet. Honestly do you even have a heart. It is so obvious from your post that
you are either a horrible husband or you will make a horrible one.


@ poster you have to make your husband see that you are not a fool because he
obviously takes you for one. How can he possibly leave you with a baby for so long
and not call. The age difference, the fact that you are entirely dependent on him tells
me that he picked you out for those reasons.
I am not saying leave him now but I want you to start thinking independently and start
acting like an adult. You also need to handle the issue about the woman now. Do not just
let it go. It will not fix itself. Do not let him bully you out of him acknowledging that it happend.
You also need to make sure he uses protection from now on. There is no if and or buts about it.
Not only is he sleeping around but the woman or women for all you know have reached the
level of calling you.
As for your younger ones how old are they? You cannot sell yourself into slavery for your siblings.
Plan your life and empower yourself. Do it for you and your child. Set a good example

Sky Spirit:

Take it or leave it,its a man's world, next time when you see my post just pass.

You are just demonstrating how HORRIBLE you are as a wife or as a future wife, I can really imagine how miserable you & your unfortunate husband are leaving or would leave in future. You lack respect for men that is why you would come up on a forum like this to insult a man you dont even know. Let me tell you, your type would make the perfect slaves to men, rags whom they would use to mop rubbish from their husbands mistresses. Its your type that will sleep on the floor while their husbands would be digging it out in the bed. my post was not direct to you for your foul mouth to start ranting rubbish, swine, slut. Hissssssss!!!!
Just be intimate with Off

Sky Spirit:

Try to be friendly with his mistress, he will run from
her, I assure you!

Omalichanwa:

Pls pple, never marry just to escape 4rm hardship, pray that God helps u 2 be succeed by your hard works. I have 3 fancy cars, i have too much material things much more than i ever thought i'd have but my husband have no respect 4 me, i dnt even think he loves me. I have suffered alot in this marriage, both physically and emotionally bt i cnt leave now becos i have sold my soul, i have been judged and now i must pay the price.

Omalichanwa:

Pls pple, never marry just to escape 4rm hardship, pray that God helps u 2 be succeed by your hard works. I have 3 fancy cars, i have too much material things much more than i ever thought i'd have but my husband have no respect 4 me, i dnt even think he loves me. I have suffered alot in this marriage, both physically and emotionally bt i cnt leave now becos i have sold my soul, i have been judged and now i must pay the price.

mama-gee:

Is this even a discussion?

this people are making me tired of NL, dumb threads everywhere u go

Omalichanwa:

Pls pple, never marry just to escape 4rm hardship, pray that God helps u 2 be succeed by your hard works. I have 3 fancy cars, i have too much material things much more than i ever thought i'd have but my husband have no respect 4 me, i dnt even think he loves me. I have suffered alot in this marriage, both physically and emotionally bt i cnt leave now becos i have sold my soul, i have been judged and now i must pay the price.

Outstrip:

I am happy that you think of me in this light. If you thought of me favorably I would be embarrassed. You are trash. You have no morals. You do not deserve to walk around civilized people. I can bet that in real life you are nothing. It shows in the way you talk. You are probably a dead broke man that needs a woman who will stroke his ego when he wakes up in the morning and farts. You are a loser. No woman of quality will ever tie herself to you. I know. I have read you like a book.

Sky Spirit:

Take it or leave it,its a man's world, next time when you see my post just pass.

You are just demonstrating how HORRIBLE you are as a wife or as a future wife, I can really imagine how miserable you & your unfortunate husband are leaving or would leave in future. You lack respect for men that is why you would come up on a forum like this to insult a man you dont even know. Let me tell you, your type would make the perfect slaves to men, rags whom they would use to mop rubbish from their husbands mistresses. Its your type that will sleep on the floor while their husbands would be digging it out in the bed. my post was not direct to you for your foul mouth to start ranting rubbish, swine, slut. Hissssssss!!!!
Just be intimate with Off
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Sky Spirit link=topic=434065.msg5959878#msg5959878 date=1272379257:

I really like this war of words. So, you are one of those silly women that detests Nigerian men? I equally studied you, you are one of those ladies that would willingly open their legs for the nearest highest bidder. You want to portray your cheap self as being holier than thou. You lie! No rational thinking man would perpetually tie himself to your frustrations. You are of no good to the society & should be recycled in the remotes parts of your sewage.
Am sure that like your mom you will certainly carry on the PROSTITUTION she was practising in your fathers house. I just pity your husband, because you have fallen in the category of "women liberationists" and think or deceive yourself with "What a man can do a woman can do better" (figurative).
I wont advise you to get back your lost morals, because you never ever had one. FOOOOOOOOOOLLLLL!!!!!!!!!!

uote]Jesus Christ!! Young man u need 2 do somtin abt ur name quickly, it ought to be sick spirit, stupid spirit, u know somtin in dt line. Pls what are u doing in d family session wt ur dad's PC,are u sure u're above 15? Don't go arnd insulting doz fit 2 be ur parents, go bk and finish ur homework or u'll never leave d bottom of ur where u're currently occupying ok, be a gd boy n stop fooling arnd. Jeez!! U really got dem here in NL.    **shakes head**