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Re: Wives: Would You Submit Your Paychecks To Your Husbands? by Rhodalyn(f): 11:20am On Feb 17, 2006 |
looks 2 me as if u didnt knw wht u weren't supposed 2 say either |
Re: Wives: Would You Submit Your Paychecks To Your Husbands? by allonym: 11:24am On Feb 17, 2006 |
are you sure? |
Re: Wives: Would You Submit Your Paychecks To Your Husbands? by Rhodalyn(f): 11:25am On Feb 17, 2006 |
dnt ask me dat! |
Re: Wives: Would You Submit Your Paychecks To Your Husbands? by sumbo(f): 3:39pm On Feb 17, 2006 |
What is Kolawole feeling like? me give or show my husband my paycheck. i dont think that is possible, i dont mind borrowing him money he must definately return, or contributing to the house keep especially when he's using his own money for a project that affect both of us. but doing the girl is good and give my pay at the end of each month, dearies NO WAY! |
Re: Wives: Would You Submit Your Paychecks To Your Husbands? by Rhodalyn(f): 11:40pm On Feb 17, 2006 |
exactly, no way |
Re: Wives: Would You Submit Your Paychecks To Your Husbands? by nikinash(f): 2:56pm On Feb 20, 2006 |
thank you ma sisters alheri and bagoma, you really are da sistahs. meanwhile you guys should check out the thread on spicing up your marriage https://www.nairaland.com/nigeria/topic-7013.0.html#msg212659 and lets have some ideas so we can do the wrestling thing more often |
Re: Wives: Would You Submit Your Paychecks To Your Husbands? by mikun(f): 8:17pm On Feb 20, 2006 |
As allonym said, there can be plenty of reasons why a person would do that. They could be: 1) better at managing money 2) they won't get stressed out about paying bills and taxes 3) they make better investment decisions 4) they are better at enforcing they couple's rules when it comes to money 5) more reasons a person could think of Ladies I'm sure your husband will not ask for your money so he can squander it. If you married a responsible man then you will trust him to manage the household money. Someone mentioned they can lend their husband money and but he must pay back.Marriage I am afraid is not like that . I am sure most of the ladies saying this are not yet married. At the end of the day this is only money, our marriage I believe is more important |
Re: Wives: Would You Submit Your Paychecks To Your Husbands? by DivineOke(f): 11:23pm On Mar 05, 2006 |
4 wetin? give my paycheck to my husband care? I can't even imagine it happening. Yea, we can discuss bout our finances. I have my account, he has his and if we like can still open a joint account but d way i spend my money is fully my business. @ alheri. na dat kind ur man i like marry |
Re: Wives: Would You Submit Your Paychecks To Your Husbands? by Consultant(f): 10:10pm On Mar 10, 2006 |
It breaks my heart when i see how money easily can divide a family. The bible says that when a man and a woman get married "the two shall become one". In Nigeria, we seem to say, yes Lord, except for money. Even when my husband and I were dating, we both knew how much the other was earning, we made plans for our money together. Once we got married, we opened a joint account. All our income goes into it. Every month, we sit down and do a spreadsheet to budget our spending for the month. Out of our joint income, each of us gets a fixed amount as "pocket money" to spend as we wish. All other spending decisions are made jointly. As far as i am concerened, this is the way marriage should be. This was my goal when i was looking for a man to marry. I would never have married anyone who feels that a part of their lives is a no-go area for their spouse. My husband and I share everything, with God as our head to direct us. |
Re: Wives: Would You Submit Your Paychecks To Your Husbands? by nikinash(f): 4:46pm On Mar 13, 2006 |
Consultant: you are right when u say money divides families but i do not agree that it is because a couple do not share their money. not everyone is capable of having joint accounts with their husbands, in fact joints accounts ahve caused divorces in many families. i think what is important however is that couples reach an agreement as to how their finances will be managed, not necessarily having joint accounts. |
Re: Wives: Would You Submit Your Paychecks To Your Husbands? by nawah(f): 5:01pm On Mar 13, 2006 |
I give my husband my paycheck and he is also in control of all the finances. I always ask him when I need any money. We have always done it this way since we got married and it was actually my sugestion. Since my husband is very reasonable with money, it has been only to my advantage. |
Re: Wives: Would You Submit Your Paychecks To Your Husbands? by Seun(m): 5:09pm On Mar 13, 2006 |
Since my husband is very reasonable with money, it has been only to my advantage. According to some marriage counselors in my family, what nawah has described is advantageous if one partner is more thrifty and accounting-inclined than the other. According to them, that thrifty partner should be the one keeping the money and they should both decide on how to spend it. So if the wife is more responsible with money, she should be the one keeping the money. It would be stupid to submit your money to a man who is a gambler, for instance. It works for nawah only because of the kind of person her husband is. You cannot assume all husbands are like that. 1 Like |
Re: Wives: Would You Submit Your Paychecks To Your Husbands? by chy(f): 3:09pm On Mar 14, 2006 |
Did i hear 'submit' no way o i can williingly on my own 'show' m husband but not submit afterall his not the one that paid 4 m education so why submit he met me already made but will tell him how much and also be aware of his to avoid misunderstanding |
Re: Wives: Would You Submit Your Paychecks To Your Husbands? by nawah(f): 4:10pm On Mar 14, 2006 |
An education does not make a woman ready made. That is just a foundation and one of many options. |
Re: Wives: Would You Submit Your Paychecks To Your Husbands? by chy(f): 10:40am On Mar 15, 2006 |
@ nawah in the nigerian society it makes u my dear esp in marriage and we are talking of paycheck not income |
Re: Wives: Would You Submit Your Paychecks To Your Husbands? by nawah(f): 10:56am On Mar 15, 2006 |
MY dear Chy I do not understand how an education makes a woman in a marriage. I got married and lived in Nigeria several years and I have a solid education but I think that it sometimes even brings problems into a marriage when women lay so much emphasis on it.They think that because they are eduated they no longer have to comply with our tradition as regards the rights and duties of a wife in marriage. They just get brainwashed with colonial ideologies. I also studied in Nigeria and I know what it is all about. Studies at day time and in the night legallised prostitution with all the big shots in town. IS that what increases the womans bagening power? PLease you have to clear me up on this one |
Re: Wives: Would You Submit Your Paychecks To Your Husbands? by chy(f): 1:19pm On Mar 16, 2006 |
@nawah i still maintain that is necessry esp if your hubby is educated and in niga it depends how u got ur own certificate i suffered 4 mine and wasnot a party to nite prostitution or whatever u call it i no that my man will respect m own wishes and right to m paycheck [quote][/quote]Education is acquired knowledge and very important |
Re: Wives: Would You Submit Your Paychecks To Your Husbands? by chy(f): 1:20pm On Mar 16, 2006 |
@nawah i still maintain that is necessry esp if your hubby is educated and in niga it depends how u got ur own certificate i suffered 4 mine and wasnot a party to nite prostitution or whatever u call it i no that my man will respect m own wishes and right to m paycheck [quote][/quote]Education is acquired knowledge and very important |
Re: Wives: Would You Submit Your Paychecks To Your Husbands? by nawah(f): 2:24pm On Mar 16, 2006 |
Now don´t take that personal but what goes on in our university'sis no secret at least not to us that grew up there. I know very many highly educated men married to women that did not study and vice versa and it works out perfect. Education in the senseof a Degree is irrelevant. Anyway when money talks, we forget about education don´t we. |
Re: Wives: Would You Submit Your Paychecks To Your Husbands? by madam: 11:50am On Mar 29, 2006 |
nawah: Yes we do, Ride on gals i think i am enjoying this |
Re: Wives: Would You Submit Your Paychecks To Your Husbands? by Bhola(f): 1:29am On Jun 13, 2006 |
Threads like this, always get to me. Mehn, lots and tons and tons of respect to Ono, Mikun and all that have the fear of the Lord in you. Me for one, I don't want to get married, just for the fact that I can not do all that the Good Lord set as a guide line for a wife to be. I am totally in support of the submission part. It is a lot easy to be submissive to a loving husband. There is no point in getting married and just fulfilling a portion of the roles that God has strategically stated for women and men. I am highly educated, but I know when and if I get married, I will do all the roles that God wants for me to do. Like someone already pointed out, the "kids" saying no and what not, they are like what, 17, 18 yrs old. They don't know crap about life and think they know it all. Just like someone rightfully pointed out, when u all get married and ur marriage is half as good as Ono and Mikun and all the virtuous women that posted here, then come back and let us know. Once again, I really drop my hat for Mikun, Ono, Nawah, Gospelman!!! You guys rock! You make me believe that there are still people out there during the right things!!!! To topic: Submit my paycheck, I use direct deposit, so no need to submit paychecks! |
Re: Wives: Would You Submit Your Paychecks To Your Husbands? by DaHitler(m): 9:44am On Jun 13, 2006 |
Darlin, it is that time of the month. ![]() Where is your paycheck? *collects money from wifey* ![]() |
Re: Wives: Would You Submit Your Paychecks To Your Husbands? by Rhodalyn(f): 9:44am On Jun 13, 2006 |
lol ![]() ![]() ![]() |
Re: Wives: Would You Submit Your Paychecks To Your Husbands? by beyunce(f): 10:58am On Jun 13, 2006 |
Defoly nt. |
Re: Wives: Would You Submit Your Paychecks To Your Husbands? by chinani(f): 6:57pm On Jun 13, 2006 |
So Bhola, you don't plan to get married but you know what being a good wife entails ![]() |
Re: Wives: Would You Submit Your Paychecks To Your Husbands? by IAH(f): 7:05pm On Jun 13, 2006 |
Bhola: Hmmm it's easy to sit one's fat ass behind a [i]compurr[/i]a and claim wealth, maturity, experience, good marriage etc. Have you been to their houses and seen that they've got good marriages worth brandishing the way you've done in this quote above? |
Re: Wives: Would You Submit Your Paychecks To Your Husbands? by gentleaura(m): 7:47pm On Jun 13, 2006 |
Thats such a big no, No way about that, why shld a wife be showing the husband how much she earns?, Seen the same scenario with my mumsie and step-father, she wont give in to all his yellings o, she earns the money and she doesnt have to tell anyone how much she earns! |
Re: Wives: Would You Submit Your Paychecks To Your Husbands? by SirKay3(m): 9:05pm On Jun 13, 2006 |
My wife doesnt work for anybody, instead she's into business and has a shop for various kinds of gift items, household items, kitchenwares and some other stuffs. I gave her money to start the business 7years ago and it's grown so big, beyond our imagination. Thank God for this Reasons? Here are they. Made her to realise that I have to help her with stocktakings in the shop regularly, while not interested in how much she makes per week or on daily basis. Gave her money whenever I noticed she needs to introduce some new items into the shop that are in demand. Never allowed her to spend money from shop sales to buy anything we need at home. Sitting her down always to advise her on ways to invest well in business. She talks of how much she makes and how she spends regularly, but am not the wanting to know how you spend type of man. I make sure i provide for everything at home through normal regular budget monthly and gives money every week for home running, cos I travel a lot on official assignment and it could be anytime. I do borrow money from her, which must be paid back whenever am buoyant or when salary is paid. Even if she is working, am not interested in her money, but please our wives and wives to be, let your husband know your paycheck for peace sake, he may be the not bothered type like me. It helps to be open to each other please. My wife knows how much am earning monthly and it helps in knowing your boundary in terms of expenses, so that you dont end up in debt. I've been married for 10years now and by God's grace, we've never disagreed on money issues for once |
Re: Wives: Would You Submit Your Paychecks To Your Husbands? by Bhola(f): 9:21pm On Jun 13, 2006 |
Posted by: chinani So Bhola, you don't plan to get married but you know what being a good wife entails ![]() Chinani, I do respect u a great deal, so I know you intended that as a question, so here is the answer. If you go through my post really well, I said, I do know what the Bible says a good wife shld be and that is the reason why I do not want to get married now. So, really Chinani, like I said, I have mad respect for you, at least from what I have read so far, no need "mis-reading" what I typed. Much love! |
Re: Wives: Would You Submit Your Paychecks To Your Husbands? by shawna(f): 9:37pm On Jun 13, 2006 |
thats BS why do i have to give my husband the money i worked my a** for |
Re: Wives: Would You Submit Your Paychecks To Your Husbands? by chinani(f): 10:29pm On Jun 13, 2006 |
Well it seems there is more than one question on this thread. For one, I'd tell my husband how much I earn. I have a big mouth ![]() @Bhola It seems I misunderstood your post. I'm sorry. But now I'm not sure where you stand on this thread's question. Are you submitting or no? I think you are & that you're saying this is endorsed by the Bible. |
Re: Wives: Would You Submit Your Paychecks To Your Husbands? by edygirl(f): 10:35pm On Jun 13, 2006 |
Iwouldn't mind having a joint account with my husband but I will still have my own savings account but giving my husband my check is wut I will not do. HE can give me his I wouldn't mind either. |
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