mr.official:

Marriage no be by force nowadays, cos most of this naija babes no get brain.

At the end she go dey find person wey she go marry even if na 1 room the man dey live. By den she go dey 35y

Isabella89:

Official sweetie who is that jab directed at, me? With how things are in our country,will you blame a young female banker who was pressured out of Nigeria by her superiors (who don't care what she does as far as she brings deposits)and the banks customers(who want something before they can deposit).  Don't laugh at ladies like that okay Baby.

Nwaka that's no act of desperation dear, didn't you just mention,stigmatization. When everybody back home stresses your life and and your fellow Nigerians out there are looking down on you all for being single, you will be tempted to settle and have peace. You do agree that our system do have a problem when it comes to ladies and marriage,don't you? I mean sometimes I wonder about this?
The same society that does not permit a lady to propose to a man,looks down on a lady who was unfortunate to be married off the same time as her mates, the same society laughs and gossip wt elderly unmarried lady. Here I am trying to shine my eye a little (please laugh cos I am having fun here)
and Mr. Official will not allow me kuru mmiri togbo iko biko nu my people.

Whoever it may concern. 

Don't get that part.

Keep having fun. Remember say no time.

I do say, when i was a kid, I thought everyday would end in the field with me. 

Isabella89:

I mean when will you guys stop being hard and somehow oppressive on us women in the name of culture, norms and what we should do and the box to fit into to please the whole Nigeria. Even the most confident of us still get boxed in by all these stigmas and stuffs just like I am almost doing. The posters fiancee is not left out too, the lady is only being influenced by the expectations of friends and is trying to live it up. There you are reminding me of the ticking clock too, should we marry ourselves or go marry men,so don't be too hard and judge me Baby.

davidylan:

Maybe you shld read Aisha's comments. Sounds like you are not much different from the girlfriend in this issue.

zap2:

Everybody likes comfort, especially women. thier most basic need is housing. I mean a flat, then a car is secondary. One wouldnt blame them. Who wan suffer- even u like beta tin. Where i disagree is going above your means to please her. She is supposed to plan with u. THis kind of woman , u can neva satisfy her, even u get a mansion in lekki and buy her a hummer jeep. She still will believe u avnt done enough. I can tell u she is seriously considering other men that are quite more comfortable than u. i can bet a million naira on that.

tony.c:

[b][color=#990000]i had a very deep thought and had to be back on this thread
i think the posteer is not telling us the  whole story and truth!

How comeyou work in a 1st generation bank for 5 years  and cant afford the fund
these could be the reason to the posters predicament
the poster is an average income earner but he spends money on the lady lavishly all the years ,proberbly when ever he receives hismonth end package he take s her shopping and spend almost everthing that he has nothing to save ,all this have been happing through out tghe years and now he made   her believe there is more in his kitty, now things done set you cannot afford to leave her because you have spenta futune on her ,and she cannot accept your cuurent plan because she brags  with you amoungs her friends ,collegues and family member,

poster i have 3 solutions for u

1.tell her the truth of who u are ,what you are and what you have if she loves u she will accept but if she dosent
2.Dump Her but if you cannot afford to dump her
3.pick up a loan from your bank and do the wedding and then both of you will pay  for the rest of your lives  Heheheheheheheheheheheh [/color]Monkey love[/b]

harakiri:

Emmm (***clears throat***)

He might be making good money as a banker but you might want to consider that he may have other financial constraints tapping into his funds e.g taking care of siblings,relatives and others.Also, the woman in question may be digging deep into his pockets.Take into consideration that he might be investing a large chuck of his earnings in stocks/shares or some other investment.On top of that 9ja is a very expensive place to live in and there are expenses you make each month that make your salary seem pointless e.g i don't know about you but i spend at least N3,000 to fuel generators in my office and home each day.Calculate 3k times 30 days = N90,000 on generators alone minus servicing.A lot of bankers don't even make that much in a month.Unless he lives in his momma's house,feeds from there,doesn't drink and smoke heavily like i do and doesn't spend a dime for his girlfriend, and wears his dad's old clothes. . .he has bills to pay.

Free the guy.

badoomusoo:

IMO the poster would have saved more if he didnt have a liability for a baggage
and now he wants to make that load permanent

*shakes head in dismay*

Isabella89:

How about this young man! I want to settle down too but does not need all that gliterrati, A small reception for 10( ten is even a crowd, I don't have time for all that crowded stuff, like it unpopulated and cool) in a seaside restaurant. It won't even cost up to a 100k, the corolla is just fine and you can even check out for something less expensive than that. We can still keep your momsie company in her house and for honeymoon,a weekend at the eko meridian with all those seaview will be the bomb! I am already getting excited.
    We will have fun investing all the remaining millions in real estate,we will buy land in two locations in lagos to be developed and rented.
    We will invest a bit in wall street stocks.
    Set up a business, selling designer wears, I will get contacts in the US that will be suppling us clothes that way we won't spend much air fare
    We will open other smaller businesses
This sounds jokey but I am a bit serious while trying to make a joke out of it.

Tell me how can you be that besotted to somebody who only cares more about living up to the joneses than she cares about you? I don't give a damn about the joneses that is the difference I am trying to make you see. She has nothing and wants to live up,maintain faces and make people clap for her for nothing, better get yourself out of her silly grasp and find yourself a real domesticated woman who is down to earth and can help you build yourself. She doesn't even care about what happens to you and your mamma after the wedding and you are caring about making her happy and fulfilled in the eyes of her friends and family.I am really interested o-o (if you like laugh) and I can be contacted for real at ogizina@yahoo.com, the only problem is that I am not in Nigeria right now and the only thing that can drag me home is seriousness from your end because as it is I don tire for Obodo oyibo sef and is missing Naija badly. Another hitch is that I am not wealthy too, if you don't mind,now smile everybody!

Ujujoan:

Yea free the guy  . . . blame it all on the girl!

It's her fault the guys doesn't know how to cut his coat according to his size!

It's her fault the guys spends money on irrelevant things he can't really afford!

Oh, let's not also forget that it's her fault the guy, after all these years, still doesn't understand the concept of one thing at a time!

Yea, let's curcify her, she's a terrible terrible person!