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Re: Chat Between A Mom Whose Child Is On Life Support And Her Boss by pocohantas(f): 12:03pm On Jul 03, 2018
erico2k2:

She can take an Unpaid leave, there is provision in the law for that.

Then she should ask for it professionally/politely, and stop the emotional blackmail.
Re: Chat Between A Mom Whose Child Is On Life Support And Her Boss by Donopsiano(m): 12:03pm On Jul 03, 2018
will she be the one holding the life support machine or will she be the one manually controlling the machine? The child is in probably the best hands. she can just ask to leave earlier than usual and not ask to be off work. my opinion tho
rottennaija:


The man can have the luxury of going to work while his son or daughter is sick. Because the wife will be there. But not so with the woman... It is completely different.
Re: Chat Between A Mom Whose Child Is On Life Support And Her Boss by Nobody: 12:04pm On Jul 03, 2018
It's obvious from the chat that so far this very boss has been covering for this lady and being human we tend to abuse privileges

Nigerians are way too emotional to be objective hence I just laughed off alot of comments here

The boss is very right ..

The lady in question sounds entitled and is trying to emotionally blacail the boss who will have none of that

The child has been in this condition for a while clearly and the company has given her alot of time off but it seems it's getting beyond reasonable hence her boss had to step in

Mind you like some smart users pointed out she can do nothing for her child but sit and stare , hut working would.helo her get emotional support and even take her mind off the situation temporarily

But instead she sounded like an entitled cunt and chose to even threaten to call corporate? (head office)

She doesn't deserve anymore sympathy
Re: Chat Between A Mom Whose Child Is On Life Support And Her Boss by 1930revival(m): 12:05pm On Jul 03, 2018
[quote author=Rhozabeth post=69042615]
My sister, you are the only one that made sense in all of the comments I read! I can't but wonder if some people on this platform knows what it is to be a mother! Let alone one that has her child on life support![/quote
Sometimes I think devil is no longer dwelling in hell,,,.he lives in Nigerians. What an inhumane people.....i know what I'm saying.....there's so much degeneration of human values and lives. Hmmmm

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Re: Chat Between A Mom Whose Child Is On Life Support And Her Boss by oscarpet: 12:06pm On Jul 03, 2018
If ur president don't care for life of citizens being slaughtered every day in this country. who is that man to care.. human life is valueless in this country... that is the new constitution. but is only God will see us through. She should quit de job her son's live is more important than the job.
Re: Chat Between A Mom Whose Child Is On Life Support And Her Boss by efembaba(m): 12:06pm On Jul 03, 2018
You can't have your cake and eat it. If she wants to stay with d child then she should know she is sacrificing her work simple. The way people bring emotion and sentiments into everything is highly sickening to me.
Re: Chat Between A Mom Whose Child Is On Life Support And Her Boss by Sirbobowen(m): 12:06pm On Jul 03, 2018
So if his stays on life support for 6six month you expect the boss to keep pay there bills. Have you ever work in a private firm before?
What exactly will she be doing sitting and crying? If she can't work at optimum then its now left for the boss to consider a leave or something for her.
As insensitive as the story might sound am with the boss
rottennaija:


And what will she be able to do in her office with such an emotional state? Besides, there are a big if in your statement. Nothing in the chat reveals the situation is in the US.

Besides, what is the current state of health of the child? There are so many big if in your statement which does not account for the situation in ground
Re: Chat Between A Mom Whose Child Is On Life Support And Her Boss by Nobody: 12:08pm On Jul 03, 2018
webincomeplus:


I think what the boss meant was that the son is already receiving the best of care and attention, hence no need for the mother to be with him for a long stretch of time.

But all the same, it's an insensitive statement.
I wonder o.

A worker asking permission off work on social media instead of physically appearing in office or writing a letter of request..how can her permission be considered seriously
Re: Chat Between A Mom Whose Child Is On Life Support And Her Boss by efembaba(m): 12:09pm On Jul 03, 2018
efembaba:
You can't have your cake and eat it. If she wants to stay with d child then she should know she is sacrificing her work simple. Why should another person suffer because u are going through personal issues. Is d boss the one responsible for the state of the child.?The way people bring emotion and sentiments into everything is highly sickening to me.
Re: Chat Between A Mom Whose Child Is On Life Support And Her Boss by Nobody: 12:09pm On Jul 03, 2018
This is why my first preference when I start hiring is to hire through an employment agency.

Once the business is known it’s as good as dead if it’s here in the US.
Re: Chat Between A Mom Whose Child Is On Life Support And Her Boss by Nobody: 12:11pm On Jul 03, 2018
RadicallyBlunt:

I wonder o.

A worker asking permission off work on social media instead of physically appearing in office or writing a letter of request..how can her permission be considered seriously

It’s not social media, it’s text.

You’re thinking of the inefficiency of Nigeria. Unless it’s a prescheduled vacation, most of my off work requests are through test messages.
Re: Chat Between A Mom Whose Child Is On Life Support And Her Boss by Nobody: 12:15pm On Jul 03, 2018
pp802:
As painful as it may seem, the boss is right anyways!

How will she get money to pay for the hospital bills if she doesn't go to work. The son is being taking care of in the hospital. What difference will she make if she stays in the hospital with him? Is she the doc or the nurse?

I know some emotional people will support her, but hey.........how do you pay bills if you don't work?



you speak as tho you have basic knowledge of the corporate world ,, there is something called leave @least a month , when unprecendent incident arises the personnel dept & management agrees let the staff use his/her leave period to cover for that.
a distracted mind is of no use anyday anytime especially when effeciency is paramount

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Re: Chat Between A Mom Whose Child Is On Life Support And Her Boss by Sanchase: 12:20pm On Jul 03, 2018
As usual comparing UK and Nigeria talk don start, my hand no dey !!!
Re: Chat Between A Mom Whose Child Is On Life Support And Her Boss by Amhappy(f): 12:29pm On Jul 03, 2018
What i dislike is how this boss kept hinting on drama. Except the woman is the devils wife,i don't see how she can use something as grievous as life support for drama. I agree that this woman is not polite and feels entitled but ordinarily someone in her position will not be in a good state of mind. She doesn't want to lose her job because that's what bring the money but at the same time she cannot work. Even if she goes to work,her productivity will be very low.I once left my baby on admission with my sister in a Nigerian hospital to meet a deadline on a non working day and it took a lot of courage for me to do that. Nevertheless i was so restless. I tried to put her in my shoes because i am an employee that holds a sensitive post for my organization to run.
I think the boss suggesting outright sack is inhumane. It could have been anyone. Better options will be half pay,pay as you go(pay for only work done) while getting someone else to temporary take her shift on days she wouldn't come,leave without pay etc. Sacking someone in this position will definitely attract emotional bad blood whether in Mars or Jupiter. And if the name of their store leaks,expect some buyers to boycott chikena.

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Re: Chat Between A Mom Whose Child Is On Life Support And Her Boss by LabUdegbe(m): 12:37pm On Jul 03, 2018
jomoh:
Wow



Your son is in the best place he can be......on life support.

That wan just weak me ooo... That boss deserves some KNACKING..
Re: Chat Between A Mom Whose Child Is On Life Support And Her Boss by Born2Breed(f): 12:38pm On Jul 03, 2018
HeWrites:
A chat between a mother whose son is on life support and her boss has led to a debate on social media.

The mother sent a message to her boss explaining she couldn't come to work because her child is on life support. But the boss said that was no excuse to miss work and warned her she will be sacked if she doesn't show up to work the following day.

The chat was met with mixed reactions by social media users. Some said the boss was just being professional and it's wrong for the mother to let another person's business suffer because of her personal issue. While others said the boss was wrong to have reacted the way she did.

Read the chat below;A chat between a mother whose son is on life support and her boss has led to a debate on social media.

The mother sent a message to her boss explaining she couldn't come to work because her child is on life support. But the boss said that was no excuse to miss work and warned her she will be sacked if she doesn't show up to work the following day.

The chat was met with mixed reactions by social media users. Some said the boss was just being professional and it's wrong for the mother to let another person's business suffer because of her personal issue. While others said the boss was wrong to have reacted the way she did.

Read the chat below;

https://www.torimill.com/2018/07/read-the-shocking-chat-between-a-mom-whose-child-is-on-life-support-and-her-boss.html


It seems the woman has being lying with one excuse or the other.
Re: Chat Between A Mom Whose Child Is On Life Support And Her Boss by erico2k2(m): 12:38pm On Jul 03, 2018
pocohantas:


Then she should ask for it professionally/politely, and stop the emotional blackmail.
People in distress are not reasoning straight, the Boss is not in that situation, the Boss should be the one saying stuff like, take care of ur Son, keep us informed if anything changes. Then book an Agency, to be honest, if that was the US and UK, the Boss is gone as we speak .Unless they own the company.

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Re: Chat Between A Mom Whose Child Is On Life Support And Her Boss by erico2k2(m): 12:40pm On Jul 03, 2018
Sanchase:
As usual comparing UK and Nigeria talk don start, my hand no dey !!!
This case was in the West def not Nigeria, we have nothing like coperate in Nigeria, we have Personal or HR, so probably the US.
Re: Chat Between A Mom Whose Child Is On Life Support And Her Boss by giga02(m): 12:46pm On Jul 03, 2018
As much as it hard for a woman to leave a child on a life support for work, the boss already gave her an option that she should quit.
She refuse quitting and also doesn't want to show up at work?? I won't support the woman on this at all and defiantly excepting some pay.
Re: Chat Between A Mom Whose Child Is On Life Support And Her Boss by Nobody: 12:48pm On Jul 03, 2018
rottennaija:


And what will she be able to do in her office with such an emotional state? Besides, there are a big if in your statement. Nothing in the chat reveals the situation is in the US.

Besides, what is the current state of health of the child? There are so many big if in your statement which does not account for the situation in ground

So in conclusion, d boss should have told her to stay with d son while he looks for another staff that can do d job then whenever she comes back she gets her pay while d boss also sack d staff dat filled in for her. Since it is a charity organization..
Re: Chat Between A Mom Whose Child Is On Life Support And Her Boss by Pitokwe(m): 12:48pm On Jul 03, 2018
People just come here and talk trash. Well it there mb sha.

Dey say person wey drive motor with mouth no dey get accident.

Most folks here fall in the category of people that drive car with mouth.

If the woman had left the child in the hospital,and continue her work, Same folks would crucified her.

Which mother whose child is on life support will ever concentrate at work?

No multinational will ever do so .I pray God gives all good jobs.

I work in company where if your child is sick ,every one will be calling to ask how the child is doing including the GM who is white. They give u excuse duty.

The business will not crumble because one person is absent. Common

Some persons are saying the boss is being professional. Nonsense.

You work in companies that do not factor family in its policy and come here and be saying professionals. Professionals my foot.

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Re: Chat Between A Mom Whose Child Is On Life Support And Her Boss by Ellixlimswag(m): 12:48pm On Jul 03, 2018
dominique:
The mom actually sounded condescending and entitled. A simple apology for her continued absence from work could have melted the boss's heart. Businesses are not run on emotions, sorry to say. Her son is on life support, there's nothing she can do for him other than sitting there and watching him sleep. Why not while away time by getting some work done, it will even help clear her head a bit. This might sound cold but I'm with the boss on this one.
what kind of work will she offer with her child on life support... probably she will do bad job with mixed feelings... if in her job she have to meet people will she be forced to smile when she is hurt...
Re: Chat Between A Mom Whose Child Is On Life Support And Her Boss by obailala(m): 12:59pm On Jul 03, 2018
erico2k2:

Just out of curiosity, how long do you think is too long in the uk?
That definitely is not a Nigerian BOSS..A Nigerian BOSS would even be more passionate cos we are more family oriented. Than the WEST, Hence these Employment Laws where brought in.Some places ie civil service you get your Sick leave calculated to the amount of years spent. working
I'm not really sure about the statutory minimum number of sick days an employee is entitled to in the UK, but I think it's somewhere about 8 days when the employer is required by law to pay the employee his full rate; afterwards, the employer is required to pay a statutory token amount (something about £90 per week for a further 28 weeks) as long as it is proven that the employee is really ill and unfit to work. Most companies/organizations however have their own policies; I once worked with a company whose sick leave policy stated a full month of full pay, followed by a second month at half pay, after which they now fall down to the statutory £90 per week. After the expiration of the first 2 months, the fate of the employees employment then falls on the discretion of the boss/company; in other words, the employee can be dismissed if the company thinks he is a burden.

In the case of the Op, the woman isn't even the one who's ill, so even if it were in the UK, the boss has the right to ask her to return to work immediately of risk a termination.
Re: Chat Between A Mom Whose Child Is On Life Support And Her Boss by obailala(m): 1:04pm On Jul 03, 2018
Pitokwe:
People just come here and talk trash. Well it there mb sha.

Dey say person wey drive motor with mouth no dey get accident.

Most folks here fall in the category of people that drive car with mouth.

If the woman had left the child in the hospital,and continue her work, Same folks would crucified her.

Which mother whose child is on life support will ever concentrate at work?

No multinational will ever do so .I pray God gives all good jobs.

I work in company where if your child is sick ,every one will be calling to ask how the child is doing including the GM who is white. They give u excuse duty.

The business will not crumble because one person is absent. Common

Some persons are saying the boss is being professional. Nonsense.

You work in companies that do not factor family in its policy and come here and be saying professionals. Professionals my foot.
I think the point most people are making on this thread is that the boss is within his rights to ask the woman to return to work or risk a termination. The boss may be said to be mean, but he's within his rights, business must continue. Moreover, I think the woman's tone was rather arrogant; she spoke as if it was her right and entitlement to be off work and not lose her contract.

Like you said above, may we all work with good bosses and in good companies.
Re: Chat Between A Mom Whose Child Is On Life Support And Her Boss by adidison(m): 1:09pm On Jul 03, 2018
No matter the outcome ... the boss should just forget anybody going out of their way to help the company ... no matter what in business your 1st customer is your workers, well if you want to keep a healthy company ... we don't know the work the woman has put in before, maybe she had many sleepless nights she didn't get paid or so ... we just see the conv ... if my child was on life support I'll come to work and piss on the computer by mistake because my mind isn't there ... the boss can temp get somebody to fill in for her until she is fit to work ... arrangements can be made ... nobody said he is wrong but be considerate.

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Re: Chat Between A Mom Whose Child Is On Life Support And Her Boss by kidsam: 1:14pm On Jul 03, 2018
I gather from the conversation that the employee has previous episodes of not coming to work due to other probable excuses. Even though her boss kept the chat going on for too long, however, he was right. In his shoes, i would have asked her to send an official email and shown some empathy. The boss took it a little too personal which could have been due to the employee's past records.
As an employee, you don't need to blackmail your boss or employer with your personal problem. Leave room for people to empathize with you, don't force your problem on people.
The employee in this case is exploitative.
Re: Chat Between A Mom Whose Child Is On Life Support And Her Boss by erico2k2(m): 1:15pm On Jul 03, 2018
obailala:
I'm not really sure about the statutory minimum number of sick days an employee is entitled to in the UK, but I think it's somewhere about 8 days when the employer is required by law to pay the employee his full rate; afterwards, the employer is required to pay a statutory token amount (something about £90 per week for a further 28 weeks) as long as it is proven that the employee is really ill and unfit to work. Most companies/organizations however have their own policies; I once worked with a company whose sick leave policy stated a full month of full pay, followed by a second month at half pay, after which they now fall down to the statutory £90 per week. After the expiration of the first 2 months, the fate of the employees employment then falls on the discretion of the boss/company; in other words, the employee can be dismissed if the company thinks he is a burden.

In the case of the Op, the woman isn't even the one who's ill, so even if it were in the UK, the boss has the right to ask her to return to work immediately of risk a termination.
Im entitled to 1 year full sick pay at work
Statuary SSP one you talked about is 28 weeks, this is paid by the Government via the employer.
If one get injured during work, You are paid until you are well or the put you in a different role. In the EU, you get paid same years you have put in service.
Re: Chat Between A Mom Whose Child Is On Life Support And Her Boss by Paentera(m): 1:17pm On Jul 03, 2018
HeWrites:
A chat between a mother whose son is on life support and her boss has led to a debate on social media.

The mother sent a message to her boss explaining she couldn't come to work because her child is on life support. But the boss said that was no excuse to miss work and warned her she will be sacked if she doesn't show up to work the following day.

The chat was met with mixed reactions by social media users. Some said the boss was just being professional and it's wrong for the mother to let another person's business suffer because of her personal issue. While others said the boss was wrong to have reacted the way she did.

Read the chat below;A chat between a mother whose son is on life support and her boss has led to a debate on social media.

The mother sent a message to her boss explaining she couldn't come to work because her child is on life support. But the boss said that was no excuse to miss work and warned her she will be sacked if she doesn't show up to work the following day.

The chat was met with mixed reactions by social media users. Some said the boss was just being professional and it's wrong for the mother to let another person's business suffer because of her personal issue. While others said the boss was wrong to have reacted the way she did.

Read the chat below;

https://www.torimill.com/2018/07/read-the-shocking-chat-between-a-mom-whose-child-is-on-life-support-and-her-boss.html


Her sense of entitlement is sickening. So the business should stop running because of your son who is already where he's getting care?

This is how many ladies also blackmail their spouses but because this is a transactional relationship, the boss can afford to tell her his true feelings without mincing any emotions.
Re: Chat Between A Mom Whose Child Is On Life Support And Her Boss by princeade86(m): 1:18pm On Jul 03, 2018
pp802:
As painful as it may seem, the boss is right anyways!

How will she get money to pay for the hospital bills if she doesn't go to work. The son is being taking care of in the hospital. What difference will she make if she stays in the hospital with him? Is she the doc or the nurse?

I know some emotional people will support her, but hey.........how do you pay bills if you don't work?
they will beg online. what d boss said was true, because nowhere to get money if u don't work, unless u will turn urself to online beggar. ur staying there doesn't change the situation. u can be going there after ur work. but some people like making their boss bad person to other people.
Re: Chat Between A Mom Whose Child Is On Life Support And Her Boss by erico2k2(m): 1:19pm On Jul 03, 2018
obailala:
I think the point most people are making on this thread is that the boss is within his rights to ask the woman to return to work or risk a termination. The boss may be said to be mean, but he's within his rights, business must continue. Moreover, I think the woman's tone was rather arrogant; she spoke as if it was her right and entitlement to be off work and not lose her contract.

Like you said above, may we all work with good bosses and in good companies.
There is such thing AS entitlement to be off work, Something we do not have in Nigeria but the western world had recognised long ago hence laws are in place to protect employer and employee rights at work. Each company has its own policy as to how they manage absent from work. We are not talking about AWOL here.
Re: Chat Between A Mom Whose Child Is On Life Support And Her Boss by Amhappy(f): 1:28pm On Jul 03, 2018
I just read the post again and saw where the woman said until 'the child is out of bad' she can't come. So i assume this incident just happened (2-3 days) and the child state is 'critical' not stable. Speaking to corporate is a way to go. If this incident have been weeks,then corporate would have been informed before now. That's a hell of a mean inhumane boss.
Re: Chat Between A Mom Whose Child Is On Life Support And Her Boss by obailala(m): 1:33pm On Jul 03, 2018
erico2k2:

Im entitled to 1 year full sick pay at work
Statuary SSP one you talked about is 28 weeks, this is paid by the Government via the employer.
If one get injured during work, You are paid until you are well or the put you in a different role. In the EU, you get paid same years you have put in service.
1 full year, that's a very generous company, must be a reasonably large organisation that cares about staff welfare. Different companies have different policies, some of which are negotiable before you sign the contract.

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