daclemx:


If he refuses to accept Mr. and Mrs. then I am afraid your husband has hidden agenda. You can suggest changing the name to your kids' so the two of you know it is in your children's name. MAKE him understand that you want it to be in the kid's name. If he refused, then take the bold step. Move on with your life. What if he renders you homeless or sells the house after changing the name to his? What will you do? Be wise. I am a man. And no man will ever tell his wife to get out of the house and leave with innocent kids.

divinelove:
you are his wife so building the house with your name alone is a big red flag, moreso without his knowledge what type of wife does that? It shows you are preparing for divorce.

There are two sides to a story and I know you are not telling us the whole truth. In the building of the house there is no way the man could not have made a lot of contribution n sacrifice (may be not financial) to see it completed believing it's our house, complete betrayal.

If you are a Christian then always Know that your husband is your head.

He asked you to leave the house but believe me he doesn't mean it, it's just a way for men to show they are in charge.

There is alot of trust issues already but the only way out is to have joint ownership that allows him 60% if you still wants him as your husband. There is no way he will stay in a house u own alone as the wife.

HEseesall:



He doesnt want that, i suggested it he said no, he has to be in charge fully not jointly

ShenTeh:


Very correct.

I am reading this from page to page and all I see is that THE ANSWER TO THIS ISSUE IS IN THE TITLE.

I have seen very intelligent posts and not-so-bright ones. @ Heseesaall, The person destroying her marriage because of pride here is you and not your husband as you'd like us to believe.

# You've always had your way with your "good" husband and are very shocked that he is not being a sucker this once. You initially thought it was a joke and that he'd come around like he's always done.

# Your action portrayed you as one of those women who think money is everything (our Yorubas call it "ojuorolari" -someone not accustomed to wealth, literally).Properly put - Greedy. Your words suggest that your family has repeatedly warned you about this. It is the reason you know they'll condemn your action over a "mere property".

# You have brought the symptoms of your failed management to the www, and conveniently left out the main reason your "good" husband asked you and 'your children' out of your matrimonial home. Why would a good man do that? Infidelity? I know good men stop being good when conversations get to that.

# It is obvious your husband doesn't need the property. Let me shock you - He probably even knew this a long time ago and never thought much about it. He is shocked that what was important to you during that moment of his anger was the ownership of the house instead of showing remorse for your action (which led to his sending you out, which we still don't know yet).

# One of the goods and ironically the biggest danger of social media, is the plurality of uncensored opinions. You'd rather be left more confused with the amount of information thrown at you on here. Interestingly however, go back to yourself. The answer is with you.

# Don't change the name to his. Yes. I"d rather in the children's name like some suggest here. But in the heat of this moment, tell him you have agreed. When peace has been restored, tell him you have a much better idea. Then throw the idea of the children's name. A good man should buy that.

#Ultimately, I have read from memoirs of the dying and aged and their caregivers that at the end it is family that matters. Not marriage. Not properties. But I see the one that is closest of the two.

It is your call.

HEseesall:



He doesnt want that, i suggested it he said no, he has to be in charge fully not jointly

JoannaSedley:
Christian blackmailer. Tell that to billions of other people that adheres to other faith.

HEseesall:
I had to open this account for anonymity
I'm in a dilemma, let me start like this, when i and my husband first got married we did a joint business that fetched us a huge amount of money, the aim was to build a house, when we got the money, he decided to use his' for his parents (i had no problem with that) then mine for what we wanted to use it for

Two weeks ago we had a major misunderstanding, it was soo intense to the extent that he told me to park out of the house, in the heat of things i told him that cannot be possible that the house is in my name, he was shocked, saying it is impossible we built it together that it's in his name, i had to remind him what happened then, he was furious saying it was wrong of me to use my name, that he cant believe he has been staying in a house that does not belong to him, he told his family what i did claming victim, then he packed out saying he wont come home till i change the name to his full name, i begged him to no avail, i dont even know how to tell my people, imagine if it was in his name, i and the kids would have been out of the house by now, he has requested for transfer from his office to another state cos of this, who does that?? He cant expect me to change it to his name.

Pls i need other advise to go about this, he is a good man but he feels his ego has been bruised, i need other options.


MODIFIED For those viewing this, i have made some clarifications down to page (1),

ShenTeh:


Very correct.

I am reading this from page to page and all I see is that THE ANSWER TO THIS ISSUE IS IN THE TITLE.

I have seen very intelligent posts and not-so-bright ones. @ Heseesaall, The person destroying her marriage because of pride here is you and not your husband as you'd like us to believe.

# You've always had your way with your "good" husband and are very shocked that he is not being a sucker this once. You initially thought it was a joke and that he'd come around like he's always done.

# Your action portrayed you as one of those women who think money is everything (our Yorubas call it "ojuorolari" -someone not accustomed to wealth, literally).Properly put - Greedy. Your words suggest that your family has repeatedly warned you about this. It is the reason you know they'll condemn your action over a "mere property".

# You have brought the symptoms of your failed management to the www, and conveniently left out the main reason your "good" husband asked you and 'your children' out of your matrimonial home. Why would a good man do that? Infidelity? I know good men stop being good when conversations get to that.

# It is obvious your husband doesn't need the property. Let me shock you - He probably even knew this a long time ago and never thought much about it. He is shocked that what was important to you during that moment of his anger was the ownership of the house instead of showing remorse for your action (which led to his sending you out, which we still don't know yet).

# One of the goods and ironically the biggest danger of social media, is the plurality of uncensored opinions. You'd rather be left more confused with the amount of information thrown at you on here. Interestingly however, go back to yourself. The answer is with you.

# Don't change the name to his. Yes. I"d rather in the children's name like some suggest here. But in the heat of this moment, tell him you have agreed. When peace has been restored, tell him you have a much better idea. Then throw the idea of the children's name. A good man should buy that.

#Ultimately, I have read from memoirs of the dying and aged and their caregivers that at the end it is family that matters. Not marriage. Not properties. But I see the one that is closest of the two.

It is your call.

obstead200:
what the wife did was wrong. But it turned out to be the best decision.
A man that can ask his wife to pack out for any reason short if infidelity is a dangerous man. I can never do that, (,)

I support the lady. She shud not change the documents abeg

KlasysTech:
If he doesn't want Mr. & Mrs please go for divorce.

If they point gun on your head, never change the name to his name.

And you need to stop bordering yourself about his disappearance.

Just know that you change the name to his, then you just signed your own death outcast warrant

lovingyouhun:


Goodness me! Were is your brain?

HEseesall:



He doesnt want that, i suggested it he said no, he has to be in charge fully not jointly

lala45:
Why should she change it ti his name,so in future,the guy will tell her to move,neveruote author=HRHQueenPhil post=69371645]wow, dis is serious
1. invite ur pastor or someone he highly respects and a lawyer.

2. kneel down and beg him in their midst and ask d lawyer 2 change it 2 his name.( this is if u want peace}

now, if u are scared he would turn around and throw u out l8a,
1. call a lawyer and file for a divorce
2. sell d house, invest d money and move 2 a smaller house

It is well with u

obstead200:
what the wife did was wrong. But it turned out to be the best decision.
A man that can ask his wife to pack out for any reason short if infidelity is a dangerous man. I can never do that, (,)

I support the lady. She shud not change the documents abeg

tiredoflife:


Really kneel down
Wonders shall never end
Best she should do is either put it in the kid's name or let him go
Abi u no born for am
Let him go

yipata:
Want peace ke... We don't oh. I'm a man and I'm sure he will do it again. And this time ur out.

HEseesall:



Thanks, i am thinking of telling our pastor, i dont want to tell my family cos they may antagonise him, thanks for your imput

HEseesall:



You dont understand, we have kids, i am working but i cant do everything on my own, how will i tell them we are no more together because of property

madridguy:
You both should settle this amicably but don't change the properties document to his name otherwise you will cry over it.

Amberon11:
She owns at least 75% of the house since she also bought the land.

sacramento1212:
Except you guys had a disagreement from the onset, where i fault you was using your name as the sole owner of the property from the onset.

Even if he used his own share of the money for the parents as you indicated, i see no reason why you shouldn't have used Mr & Mrs XYZ as the property owner since you never had any issue with him using his own funds for the parents.

Your husband is upset and i wouldn't advise changing the name at this time since he has refused joint names for the change as that would be dangerous. I suggest you involve families since he told you to pack out of the house which further triggered all these problems.

Finally, your husband's version of what happened might be different from this thread you created but my advise is based on what you have written here.

ShenTeh:


Very correct.

I am reading this from page to page and all I see is that THE ANSWER TO THIS ISSUE IS IN THE TITLE.

I have seen very intelligent posts and not-so-bright ones. @ Heseesaall, The person destroying her marriage because of pride here is you and not your husband as you'd like us to believe.

# You've always had your way with your "good" husband and are very shocked that he is not being a sucker this once. You initially thought it was a joke and that he'd come around like he's always done.

# Your action portrayed you as one of those women who think money is everything (our Yorubas call it "ojuorolari" -someone not accustomed to wealth, literally).Properly put - Greedy. Your words suggest that your family has repeatedly warned you about this. It is the reason you know they'll condemn your action over a "mere property".

# You have brought the symptoms of your failed management to the www, and conveniently left out the main reason your "good" husband asked you and 'your children' out of your matrimonial home. Why would a good man do that? Infidelity? I know good men stop being good when conversations get to that.

# It is obvious your husband doesn't need the property. Let me shock you - He probably even knew this a long time ago and never thought much about it. He is shocked that what was important to you during that moment of his anger was the ownership of the house instead of showing remorse for your action (which led to his sending you out, which we still don't know yet).

# One of the goods and ironically the biggest danger of social media, is the plurality of uncensored opinions. You'd rather be left more confused with the amount of information thrown at you on here. Interestingly however, go back to yourself. The answer is with you.

# Don't change the name to his. Yes. I"d rather in the children's name like some suggest here. But in the heat of this moment, tell him you have agreed. When peace has been restored, tell him you have a much better idea. Then throw the idea of the children's name. A good man should buy that.

#Ultimately, I have read from memoirs of the dying and aged and their caregivers that at the end it is family that matters. Not marriage. Not properties. But I see the one that is closest of the two.

It is your call.

HRHQueenPhil:
let him go, did she tell u she wants 2 be a divorcee?u will answer GOD wen dis marriage crashes with ur foolish advise.

LexngtonSteele:


Shut your mouth with your tribalistic post.

I don't wanna go tribal, but an Igbo guy would have cut and put her in a bucket.

From the greed and selfishness shown over property, it's obvious they are both Igbos.

sholatech:
Change it to Mr & Mrs ABC. It is allowed. That way, it is now for both of you.