davidylan:

Move on dude, just another silly woman who thinks the world shld revolve around her. There is no fathomable reason why she shld travel all the way to Lagos without informing you (as you live there) and then respond to you in such disrespectful and insulting manner.

@ Davidlan
With this attitude and reasoning, it will be difficult to keep a relationship with anyone including a woman.

@ poster
If your story is indeed true, I will advise you have discussion with your girl rather than taking a decision base on assumption which may be wrong. People should always be given benefit of doubt and opportunity to discuss issues. Communication is very important in any relationship.

180K ring? From a job you secured only last week? Na you sabi. Pretending this is true, you didn't tell her before running down to I.B either. So who's to say she wouldn't have called eventually, since it's evident that you adore surprises? I don't see a problem here jor.

U can't afford accommodation, you have 180K to buy ring, U can't afford cheap hotel in Lagos of may 7k or less to have your girl friend for 3 night  i.e (3 x 7) = 21K. But you can buy an engagement ring 180K. how much ring will you buy for wedding. probably you will go to Paris to shop for your ring b/c you have $8000 dollar job per month. My friend keep quiet. you fabricated the story.

[size=16pt]u throwing away a 180k ring, is like not appreciating wat God has done for u, its like saying now i have the pay, wat cant i do, u're not better than the greedy, stingy politician, i'm sorry but that's the truth, i hope u understand and not see this as negative, [/size]

Hey Mr. I have done what you have just done before but I did not have the gut  post it on the internet after it all passed.

[size=18pt]What am I saying here.

This is all your imaginations, none of this ever happened. You just posted what you have been 'dreaming' of.
Day dreamers do that often.

The fact is still you are still a broke-@$$ unemployed graduate who is dreaming of getting an $8000 job at an oil company and then head to Ibadan to propose to his galfrend who has been doing shakara for him and if the girl still do the shakara, he will toss his 180k ring and go to a nearby hotel and have a good day.

WAKE UP BRO! If you dont, you will start believing its true![/size]

My people,make una help me ask am,why him ma no want make the girl come see am at list just to sabi where her guy dey stay? even if she no go sleep there ,they fit stay any small afordable hotel.I believe say this guy dey live with woman?either girl friend or Sugar Mummy, or spirit. Because if na human biengs them be,person no dey great them? u never chop beleful u dey throway ring of 180k.LIE LIE.

@ Y'all attacking the poster,
Why don't you all just cease questioning the veracity of his claim and focus on the substance.
if he is lying,then na him sabi, he aint fooling no one.Just try and keep an open mind towards topic s here on nairaland and give advice that are constructive in nature.

@poster,
Please hear her side of the story before jumping to irrational conclusions.Agreed,events surrounding what has happened clearly suggest that your galfriend is culpable of some illicit act but then,you still need to be 100% sure.Don't mortgage your future based on half-evidence.
Talk to her and break things down are if you are convinced within yourself she is guilty,then you might take necessary actions.
Another thing is i believe you have anger management problems or how would you explain throwing away such an expensive ring.am sure you regret ever doing that.
Goodluck bro

onye_ngbu:

Hey Mr. I have done what you have just done before but I did not have the gut  post it on the internet after it all passed.

[size=18pt]What am I saying here.

This is all your imaginations, none of this ever happened. You just posted what you have been 'dreaming' of.
Day dreamers do that often.

The fact is still you are still a broke-@$$ unemployed graduate who is dreaming of getting an $8000 job at an oil company and then head to Ibadan to propose to his galfrend who has been doing shakara for him and if the girl still do the shakara, he will toss his 180k ring and go to a nearby hotel and have a good day.

WAKE UP BRO! If you dont, you will start believing its true![/size]

U're a one baaaaaaaaaaaad brou.             

Maybe his dream might just come through, though.

If you love her, give her a second chance for the sake of the past, even if what you IMAGINED is the case.

gurls/women here has just put conclusion on this issue cos's its about their fellow
If there is no hidden agenda, she would have let him know she is coming to lagos for an omission.

And the response on the first place will utterly redirect your taught "WHO ASK U TO COME" damn.
she has something hidden under her undies, but poster try and hear her out, i know she has a story to tell you
"Cock and bull story i think huh?" but love counts no spot.

HEAR HER OUT.

From reading your post, what i can get out of it is that you are the kind of guy that like to order girls around. Because you told her not come to Lagos and she went, you are angry. You are very funny.

Mr poster, Listen carefully to what I am about to say now

Open your ear wide and listen carefully

I will not , I repeat I will not say this twice


If you lose any part of this advice dont ask me to say it again


Now, what I am about to say is












You are too big to be doing this na






I mean throwing that ring away




Now







Go back and look for that ring and when you find it contact me here so I can have it.

I don't believe the poster's story  no matter how bad where you reside is if truely you love her you would have let 

her know where you live not necessarliy sleeping their and then take her out to anywhere you want. When you love someone you have nothing to hide. You should love someone enough for the person to feel free.

Can someone help me slap this poster

frankly i dont believe ur story for the records.

But am atleast very glad that the bashing ;Dis coming from guys like urself,

Truely, ur galfriend might have come to lagos on one of dose gal trips, nothing serious, but since ur mind is so swallow, u cant tik of it differentlly, dre's realy no difference wen a guy believes his gal, whom he 'professes' to love is cheating on him , cos in ma books, its means he only a cheat himself.

Besides, she doesnt need to come as far as lagos to do dat, dre wre and probably are better guys dan u whre she resides(schools), with better sense of maturity n respect,

its funnie sha, dats d power of money abi!!! fool, let her be abeg, nonsense!

@poster, poorly cooked story. Wasted 180k ring without savings.

Be wise man. You cant fool everybody at the same time.

If you truly bought that ring for a 180k you shldn't hav thrown it away,but pls,pls,pls do not proceed any further with this r/ship,this is all the sign you need to put paid this charade.

Mr poster u r obviously in fantasy island , u seem not to know the country u r in ,ADVICE wake up from your slumber.

Just when u wanted to propose, you misbehave,

1. I dont see anything wrong allowing the girl to visit you in your squating appartment (1 day visit is okay) let her see things herself. This has given her a doubting mind i guess.

2. Throwing a 180k ring is uncalled for. Its amounts to immaturity.

As some people have suggested, try to call her face to face and let both of you discuss your future together. See how sensible or cunning she is in presenting her story.

'Take home to mama' ladies as you've commented should not be sent away just like that.

Ammend your ways for the betterment of your future.

Teminio:

@ Davidlan
With this attitude and reasoning, it will be difficult to keep a relationship with anyone including a woman.

your opinion.

A Wale Adenuga production.

We are nothing but pencils in the eye of the creator!

Fabricated story, unsuperb lies, We no be mumu for n/l go your village go tell ur fictitious story to the old mama and papa them.

dayokanu:

A Wale Adenuga production.

We are nothing but pencils in the eye of the creator!

Awww!!! I miss Super Story!!

Awww!!! I miss Super Story!!

Go and read the 1st post on this thread, You cant miss super story with that.

Gen gen!!!! and the plot thickens, watch out for next episode on Super Story

I want the real one Jo.

bros blackwood, u neva c ur woman yet?

try update us na. i want 2 hear more of this ur "nto"/ "fabu"

but while i'm still waiting, i go join forces wit unclebros and say d same tin he said

"someone should plssss give dis poster a very dirty slap". dat wan fit wake am up 4rm d slumber where e from dey cook dis half baked story!!!

, super super story,

Lol@ uncle bros, (can someone help me slap this poster),

If only he had said he got a job paying N80,000 a month and he threw away a N500 greeting card, one made in China Teddy Bear, two Tantalisers meatpies and an Ice cream cone, I may just about have managed to beleive the story.

Lmao! I no fit shout!!

@poster.
U try small.

Poster, be glad for d revelation. Becos I am 4 u. Forget those patronizing ur "ex" girl as she has become.(Abi u dey consider takin her back?) The mere fact that she was not straight in her response to someone who she know loves her die, speaks alot. Why did she not let u know she was coming 2 lagos dis time unlike she use 2? Afterall u claim she`s bn insisting on coming all along.

For those saying u shld hear her out, pls ignore. She had d chance 2 set things straight when u spoke with her over the fone. U never get a 2nd chance to make a 1st impression. I`m sure if u`ve bn goin 2 Ibadan all this while unannounced u wld av discovered dis other side of her long ago. Trust me, u`ll get a better deal elsewhere. I usually encourage bumping on ur gf/bf during courtship. U`ll be amazed at the kind of discoveries u`ll find.

Cry as much as u can if dat will make u better, its allowed as humans. However, move on wif ur life. U will find ur missing rib soon. Cheers

Poster, u most learn how to keep ur emotions intact at all times even in the face of things like this. 180K ring thrown away will do alot of good for the motherless and orphanage home. Go locate that ring and return it to where u bought it from or even sell it and use the cash for something better and rewarding.

Well, you both did not do anything wrong. Life is a process of learning , sometimes we want people to believe what we tell them and at he same time we become suspicious if they do something without our prior approval. You told her not to come to Lagos because you didn't have accomodation, and maybe she become suspicious and decided to come to Lagos without calling you just to see if you are been honest about her not coming to stay with you. And you on the other hand just got a job and want to surprise her and found out she's at Lagos, then you oo became suspicous as well. So the butom line is Trust, honesty , love ,compromise and forgiveness. If you think she's the one you love and want to marry don't let your emotions turn things for the worst. LOve her unconditional that's the key to a lasting marriage. One love

8000 dollars===wat r they drilling the oil frm ur arse