Tell her you are lusting after her

A bold move, but try to separate work from pleasure...and do not cross lines on job responsibilities

The only issue about shots like this is when the relationship turns sour...would you be able to handle being in the same workspace with her?

PS: be careful with the best friend who's not to happy about everything....maybe she likes you or feels bad you're crushing on someone else

Like someone said... Life is too short, do u know how many husbands and wives that met in the work place, let her know abeg, what's the worst that could happen.

Life is too short bro.

Ralphjoe:
@olanrefront3355 your submission is laced with alots of wisdom and common sense, am thrilled with this, I will definitely try out this, at least I have nothing to loose with this method you have stated out. And hey I will definitely tag you for matters like this next time. thanks bro

Tag him matters like this next time?

Broz bekiafu.

If you love somebody walk up to am and tell am you am o...It does no crime ...no crime st all o

all this kids here and there. oga why can't u focused on ur newly find job instead of babbling into this ur so called crush. na lust u dey lust for the babe. take ur time arrange urself work for some months before u can make move. is too early after all the beautiful ones are yet unborn. don't rush thing

Ralphjoe:


. I want a matured and reasonable advice. thanks guys.

u want a matured advice and response but u should have made ur decision by urself if u ar matured enough na

TO ME I ADVICE YOU LET HER KNOW ..IT HAS ONCE HAPPEN TO ME AND WHENEVER I SAW HER WITH ANOTHER GUYS I FEEL JEALOUS AND BY THE TIME I WILL OPEN UP TO HER IT IS TOO LATE THOUGH WE ARE STILL FRIEND OOOO...EVEN MORE CLOSE THAN BEFORE

Ralphjoe:
I recently got a job at a company and there is this girl, that is my colleague in the sales department, we've been close friends ever since I joined the company to the extent that even her best friend there is jealous of our friendship.

The crux of the matter is that am beginning to have a crush on her and it's eating me up, am kind of afraid to let her know of it because I think it will affect our friendship.

What do you guys think I should do here, should I go ahead and let her know about my feelings for her or should I just keep it to myself. I want a matured and reasonable advice. thanks guys.

Just be bold to express ur feeling. He that ask shall be given..

Olanrefront3355:
Ralphjoe

When you bring matters like this to the altar, tag people like us

OK take this from many

-Tell a friend of yours you trust (male of cos) at the company and ask that friend to inform her about it, like "Jennifer, do you know Joe is crushing on you, and he talks about it every time".. Get the exact response and body language from the friend u sent, if the response is positive, go get your girl, if it's negative (she might be forming hard to get sef, just calm down, she go woo u herself) either way, you retain your friendship.

You're welcome....

Bros, you are specialist...you ought to have practised relationship expert as a course

Jesse25:
Don't go for now just calm down allow her to give you the real green light first because some girls are just like that, after u make ur mind know to them dey we simply tell u no

PROF D PROF...

Ralphjoe:
I recently got a job at a company and there is this girl, that is my colleague in the sales department, we've been close friends ever since I joined the company to the extent that even her best friend there is jealous of our friendship.

The crux of the matter is that am beginning to have a crush on her and it's eating me up, am kind of afraid to let her know of it because I think it will affect our friendship.

What do you guys think I should do here, should I go ahead and let her know about my feelings for her or should I just keep it to myself. I want a matured and reasonable advice. thanks guys.

Never tell her...make her fall for you first.

Read this threads

https://www.nairaland.com/charlesnneji1/topics?_e_pi_=7%2CPAGE_ID10%2C9699779912

Oga boss in the same company



That should be done on code

But it all depends on what area she's looking at

Ralphjoe:
I recently got a job at a company and there is this girl, that is my colleague in the sales department, we've been close friends ever since I joined the company to the extent that even her best friend there is jealous of our friendship.

The crux of the matter is that am beginning to have a crush on her and it's eating me up, am kind of afraid to let her know of it because I think it will affect our friendship.

What do you guys think I should do here, should I go ahead and let her know about my feelings for her or should I just keep it to myself. I want a matured and reasonable advice. thanks guys.

Get someone else in your company who is friendly with you n her preferably a male n arrange with him to go n jokingly tease her about suspecting that you may be crushing on her n analyse her reactions,then continue from there,any how it goes you are safe.

Ralphjoe:
Thank you all for you meaningful advice so far, lalasticlala please move this to fp so I can get more advice on this burning issue. thanks.

must u crushhh cant u jst be friends in peace na wa ohhh!!!!! small thing crush... anything crush!!!!!! cant u stay put as friends and crush on someone else!!!!!! we no wan hear say na so e come happen later!!!!!

I will advice you use her for money rituals


What you love most pays best

namiji2598:
dating someone u work in the same place us never a welcomed idea

Why do u think so?

Keep it to ur self

Ralphjoe:
I recently got a job at a company and there is this girl, that is my colleague in the sales department, we've been close friends ever since I joined the company to the extent that even her best friend there is jealous of our friendship.

The crux of the matter is that am beginning to have a crush on her and it's eating me up, am kind of afraid to let her know of it because I think it will affect our friendship.

What do you guys think I should do here, should I go ahead and let her know about my feelings for her or should I just keep it to myself. I want a matured and reasonable advice. thanks guys.

Foolish man!

Instead of this foolish young man to think about the strategies and methodologies for improving sales and creating a profile for yourself na woman you dey focus on? Hmmm poverty is smiling at you already. That girl will mumu you and dispossess you of the little salary you are earning.
if you were my son I will give you a resounding slap to reset your brain.........oku obo!

Your boss should just SACK you immediately.

Olanrefront3355:
Ralphjoe

When you bring matters like this to the altar, tag people like us

OK take this from many

-Tell a friend of yours you trust (male of cos) at the company and ask that friend to inform her about it, like "Jennifer, do you know Joe is crushing on you, and he talks about it every time".. Get the exact response and body language from the friend u sent, if the response is positive, go get your girl, if it's negative (she might be forming hard to get sef, just calm down, she go woo u herself) either way, you retain your friendship.

You're welcome....

ugn awon boss follow this MAN

MrBrownJay1:
A) NEVER SHIIT WHERE YOU EAT....
B) NEVER GET INVOLVED WITH WOMEN AT WORK (or neighbors)

Bro, I'm curious, WHY? Kindly elaborate.

That feeling you think you are having is nothing but a release of some chemicals playing havoc on the pleasure centers of your brain. Give it time, it will fade and you can take your life back.

MrBrownJay1:
A) NEVER SHIIT WHERE YOU EAT....
B) NEVER GET INVOLVED WITH WOMEN AT WORK (or neighbors)

Just said what I had in mind too in 2 lines. Kudos

Ralphjoe:
i hear you sir, message read and understood. thanks for your matured contribution

In addition make sure you have another job ready in case something goes wrong before entering into office relationship or ensure that it is very discreet if you must start one.
Secondly, one of you should be ready to quit the job because it is a small business and not a large organization with various units spaced apart as productivity will be impacted and it may not go down well with your private employer.

Ralphjoe:
I recently got a job at a company and there is this girl, that is my colleague in the sales department, we've been close friends ever since I joined the company to the extent that even her best friend there is jealous of our friendship.

The crux of the matter is that am beginning to have a crush on her and it's eating me up, am kind of afraid to let her know of it because I think it will affect our friendship.

What do you guys think I should do here, should I go ahead and let her know about my feelings for her or should I just keep it to myself. I want a matured and reasonable advice. thanks guys.

Listen this is what you're going to do
Follow my advice!

Don't tell her you like her just yet.. Just play the good bad guy card on her.
Always dress up looking smart and gentle whenever you're going to the office and smell very nice at all time when you're in the office. Always be nice to her at the same time, don't give her the impression that you're crushing on her. Don't forget, For now do not invite her over to your crib. Just Chill first! remember you're a very good bad guy so chill.


Now
Tell her if she will be free to see a new movie at the cinema this weekend with you, if she likes the idea, boom! One achievement down. Go out and have a great weekend with her and make laugh... Take pictures. It creates memories

Again
If there is a natural park in your town make sure you take her there for site seeing. Go see some wildlife she would love it. While you're there get some few drinks it ain't that expensive.

By now
The two of you must have gotten along quite alright.
As a sharp guy before you know she don begin dey think of you.
Like play like play she don dey miss you sometimes. Boom!
You bring out the real man in you... Invite her over to your place to cook for you. So as you chop you kukuma chop from there.


At this point
You have succeeded in having her without even chasing her. Na she go dey chasing you las las especially if you hit it right cos that thing dey really confuse their upper

Kayceenaz:

Bro, I'm curious, WHY? Kindly elaborate.

it is simple...if the relationship goes south.. it will definetly affect work (if they are coworkers)..some companies will even sack both of you if they find out and if they are neighbours,the respect will diminish.....it is better to always separate work and relationship and not to date people in your area

There is nothing wrong in having a crush on your colleagues, but you have to weigh the effects on you and your place of work

What position are you occupying in your place if work,

Manageral level or floor member ❓

Is someone else interested in her that is higher than you ❓

How would you be able to cope should incase the love affair excalates

Incase it affects her work performance or yours and the fault is traced to you, if you are sacked for that reason, will you be willing to loose your job because you love her or would you continue the affairs even if you were sacked ❓

With all these points I have mentioned

Use your tongue and count your teeth

Take her out, spoil her a little but don't say a word until you get a green light.... Trust me when I was in school I will pick up girls in my ride, won't collect there number then when we meet again Would take her out, still won't collect her number ,then boom they'll start crushing. Women like been given attention in a way that doesn't depict they are been given attention.... They're complicated.....but don't be a mumu for her. Be sweet to her and also sometimes maintain your ground ....i'm just trying to teach u how to make her trip... ND hope you're also good looking and sociable .

Olanrefront3355:
Ralphjoe

When you bring matters like this to the altar, tag people like us

OK take this from many

-Tell a friend of yours you trust (male of cos) at the company and ask that friend to inform her about it, like "Jennifer, do you know Joe is crushing on you, and he talks about it every time".. Get the exact response and body language from the friend u sent, if the response is positive, go get your girl, if it's negative (she might be forming hard to get sef, just calm down, she go woo u herself) either way, you retain your friendship.

You're welcome....

Professor

Popmaster2019:
Of what use is it keeping it to yourself?

I didn't want to comment but this question is wise... Of what use is it keeping it to yourself....
Dying in silence

Ralphjoe:
I recently got a job at a company and there is this girl, that is my colleague in the sales department, we've been close friends ever since I joined the company to the extent that even her best friend there is jealous of our friendship.

The crux of the matter is that am beginning to have a crush on her and it's eating me up, am kind of afraid to let her know of it because I think it will affect our friendship.

What do you guys think I should do here, should I go ahead and let her know about my feelings for her or should I just keep it to myself. I want a matured and reasonable advice. thanks guys.

Do it this way, ask her what if we both develop feelings the way we're being close, I'm scared of our friendship. Don't say anything more after saying this, she will pour her heart out. Come back and testify