Busola has decided to live her life, she is tired of just existing,  by opening up and speaking up just like the majority of Nigerians who their lives has been taken away from them as a result of being raped or being sexually assaulted. ( many of them exist around us in cage/pain)

Unfortunately, our religious leaders which Coza pastor            Pastor Biodun Fatoyinbo,

is one of them, our politicians, big men and Big women in our society have resulted in making money to humiliate the venerable, majority of them use their money, fame and power to silence the cases of rape in our society today,  by threatening the victims who have no one to fight for.

or those who are more engrossed in protecting their names, family name or image for future purposes. as no man might want to marry a raped women, kudos to Timi Dakolo for being a supportive husband and a lesson to many AFRICAN Man/ husband. One thing everyone should know is that speaking up for abuse, be it, woman or man is not done by physical strength but emotional and mental balance, pending when one mob"s it up.

The aftermath of a sexual assault and rape on the individual, being it woman or man, is really a serious one as the survivors can face extremely difficult and painful emotions and experiences.

Every survivor of Sexual/rape case responds to traumatic events in their own way differently. The effects of the trauma can be short-term or last long after the sexual assault or rape has taken place.

this is because our healing process differs from person to person depending on character strength of an individual and will power of the victim involved, some months, some years while some live with it for a life time,

Is even better the person comes out of it and speaks up, be it 1month, 5years or 20years Later because those who live with it never got healed and the effect rubs off on the society, the people around them and society at large suffers it,

African culture has a culture where society blame the victims of sexual assault especially when is a woman that is a victim,(that was raped) they have a way of normalizing the male sexual violence or accepting it as normal. (after all is men's world)

The acceptance of rape as normal when a man rapes a woman, has given birth to occurrence of it in our society today, it is actually fueling the increase in of rape cases in our society, the impunity in our male and their mindset of ownership mentality that no women should reject them is as a result of this culture, this still the patriarchal culture that has kept us where we are today.

The report has it that 9 out of 10 raped womehttp://beadysworld.tv/busola-dakolas-raped-by-cosa-pastor/n don’t report the case not only because society will not support them or will stigmatize them, but the authorities wi pls read more here http://beadysworld.tv/busola-dakolas-raped-by-cosa-pastor/