I just want to know why most Nigerians don't show any intimate affection in public, whereas in some societies, its the norm, Fire away folks!

well, i dont think u should generalize it, as in 'nigerians'. it depends on if they truely love each other and are proud of themselves and the relationship. me, as far as i love my boyfriend and i'm proud of him, i kiss,hold,hug,and peg my boyfriend in public and he does that 2 me too. it makes us proud the way we feel for each other. i think i can date a guy i wont be free with.

another reason might be that most of our nigerian men have alot of ego in them. they wouldn't want to be termed weak because they are seen to express their feelings in public.

well, i dont think u should generalize it, as in 'nigerians'. it depends on if they truely love each other and are proud of themselves and the relationship. me, as far as i love my boyfriend and i'm proud of him, i kiss,hold,hug,and peg my boyfriend in public and he does that 2 me too. it makes us proud the way we feel for each other. i don't think i can date a guy i wont be free with.

another reason might be that most of our nigerian men have alot of ego in them. they wouldn't want to be termed weak because they are seen to express their feelings in public.

its to do with the culture thing. Plus you know how we like to act all saint like in public.
i think it is not so bad now anyway, like before if you are seen holding a boy's hand etc  you are bound to be ''reported'' to your parents by one aunt or uncle or just one nosey person

It depends oh, go and try it in the village and c wat ur grandma would do.

_*coughs* and rushes out of thread

I wonder why that isnt happening as well but here they will called them(ppl in such act) something else or use some kind of accused words on them like o-ni-she-ku-she ,o-ni-ra-nu ,o-shi-len-she that sort of words


Its not really part of our culture anyway,i find it hard to also kissing my girl friend in public but i can[b] kiss [/b] every part of her body when we are indoor hehehehe ,


@ poster


I showed intimate affection in public to my girl like hugging,cuddling with each other,holding hands,i also kiss her but we cant be kissing in public, Am not shy but am trying not to make people notice so they wouldnt use those accused words above on us

Can't argue on this point

@ne4real   It's not really about one feeling free with one's spouse and boyfriend,it's about our culture.
A woman seen kissing a man in public is seen as a loose woman or ashawo.
We ouight to be respectful of our environment.
Be careful if you do this on the streets of Naija,you may get some folks literally beat you to the ground with a Bible and Koran all at once.

i'm definitely not shy about public and private kissing.

O'd rather take this as a challeng. I think i will strat demonstrating it in public now with my wife. Will not be easy when starting but will definately ovrcom the enemies with time. thanks for this but let the married be given more prominence here please,

not all Nigerians but some

I dont bloody care,i can hug n kiss ma guy @ anywhere,anytime n any day
I just turn deaf hears to wot pple say,but rmemba its got to be a serious relatinship.

"Shy you say" dem too dey shame common small kissing

biko make una limit am to small pecks,no french kissing on the street of naija o
make people no vomit their amala and ewedu

That's true

@babyosisi

hahahaaaaaaaaaaa You such a funny lady,

There are behaviours best left in the bedroom. Richard Gere is wanted in India for merely kissing the cheek of Bollywood actress Shilpa Shetty. Its not part of our culture, to stick your tongue down the throat of your partner in public. Yuk!

Im not.

but for some people it could be they dont wanna get caught by the village gbegborun.

Are you sure?

Tornadoz:

There are behaviours best left in the bedroom. Richard Gere is wanted in India for merely kissing the cheek of Bollywood actress Shilpa Shetty. Its not part of our culture, to stick your tongue down the throat of your partner in public. Yuk!

this is 2007!!, get with the program

LOL

I can kiss in public oh. There is nothing to it. It depends on who I am kissing sha.

I think it depends on the person, Nigerian or not.

I for one I'm not the PDA showing type, I'm more of the private type.
I also dont like seeing people fullout making out in front of the whole world, the pecking of the cheeks and holding hands is ok,

I wonder what informs TTChopper. In my point of view, he is wrong. Back here in Uyo where I live, it is no big deal.

@adusol
I don't want to be out with my grandmother and seeing you eating the face of your girlfriend.

Its time to get out of this crazy mentality

After you have finished kissing your girl/boy friend in the public and demonstrating how much you love each other openly

What amount of love would be left for both of you indoor ??

Everything you see in another culture must be replicated in Nigeria abi?
You'll start kissing on the street and soon graduate to sleeping around in the park like dogs.
Everything Oyibo do, u must copy and sadly the best part of their culture is difficult for us to emulate.

talk for yourself - my man kisses me anywhere - on the bus, in church, in the toilet, in the mall, in the bathroom, in class, in the bank - anywhere.

wa_do_mi:

talk for yourself - my man kisses me anywhere - on the bus, in church, in the toilet, in the mall, in the bathroom, in class, in the bank - anywhere.

Haba my sister, You mean u Kiss in the Church? THE HOUSE OF GOD?

Why dont you go and kiss inside the the RED SEA?

@Software - bush man - what is wrong in kissing in the church -

bush man devil.