my boyfriend and i are mate, i luv him so much and he does too. if i talk of our future he always try 2 keep me out of the picture.
recently i asked him wen he's going 2 woo me. he told me if i get anybody i shld say yes but he keep calling i luv him & i dnt want 2 leave him but am afraid.

_{*clears throat}*

Can U stop forcing urself on d dude plzzz?. It seems like d guy hasnt even approached U yet, and hia U are talking about a lifetime commitment, biko, leave d guy and move on

how old are you guys? well its very important to care about the future as it is the reason for living today. he might not know the reason for a concern for the future or not wanting to allow the future bother him for reasons known to him. love is one thing and future is another, please hold on to him and let him see reasons why the future is important for the both of you. good luck

I think u should better wait for him to decided . Tell him abt the future is like forcing him to commit.u know, a little Patience is enough

smile007:

I think u should better wait for him to decided . Tell him about the future is like forcing him to commit.u know, a little Patience is enough

maka-gini? U dey advice d pikin abi U dey curse am?. Biko, modify ur post, Y U just dey tear english anyhow for hia, biko my PC is very sensitive

"Pray"





@cute-ass, hey cutie sorry i left. but had 2 go sleep really bad.

Dear,it all depends on ur age,if age is not on ur side and this guy has no pic of u about the future, Better start pitching ur tent in a more fertile ground ok.
Rem ,the earlier ,the Better.
goodluck.

lauryn:

_{*clears throat}*

Can U stop forcing yourself on d dude plzzz?. It seems like d guy hasnt even approached U yet, and hia U are talking about a lifetime commitment, biko, leave d guy and move on

lauryn:

maka-gini? U dey advice d pikin abi U dey curse am?. Biko, modify your post, Y U just dey tear english anyhow for hia, biko my PC is very sensitive

hey lauryn,
i think you are being too harsh on this girl, you shouldnt talk like taht because you dont know how long they ve been together and she said he is her boyfriend doesnt that mean anything to you. if you dont have anything to tell her please kindly keep quiet and stop talking anyhow.

biby,
i wish you well, open up your heart and be good friends with him and stll pray, but dont do anything stupid out of pressure.

thats d problem with d chics --- u ain't settled with d present u're talking of d future. now u want him 2 make a commitment he ain't so sure he can keep; if he goes ahead 2 make it & breaks it later, next thing we'll hear is "HE BROKE MY HEART", when its u who actually shot urself in the foot !

whatever happened to the good ol' "taking life one day @ a time" maxim?

@Sweet: Lauryn is entitled to her opinion. thats the way she sees it, simple.

@poster: He doesnt talk? most men don't talk, they act! From his tip that u should go to greener pastures, this is an act and an indicator that he is not devoted to u and neither his he planning to be soon (trust me if u leave him, he will get over u like a bad habit) . u can follow the path of patience (like some say) or u wake up from this bad dream!

He Doesn't Talk About Our Future = He doesnt think of A future with you

If he dosent woo you at the age you are to get married then u tell him u have to move on with ur life.GRACIAS

y are u in such a hurry, u don't know wat d dude is plannin 2 do but u are so worried and in a hurry Don't rush him if u see dat yall don't av a futre 2 gether and u r ready 2 get married u can leave

@ Topic

I think you should give him a little time to think about it rather than wooing you as you wish then break your heart.
Give him space and time and don't get rushing all over him, If he truly loves you then he will tell you that by talking about your future as you expect form him.

Cheers.

Talk! Talk as loud as you can. air your views once and for all, approach him in an honest and intelligent way and am sure, he'll understand.

Better to be heart broken now than to be in d next 5 years wen all d hopefuls dat come your way would have left whilst you're waitin for oga to make up his mind.

if he still does not know too, leave him. some men only realise and appreciate what dey will lose after they have lost it. move away from his comfort zone and see his reaction. dont pick his calls for a while, inshort make him want you then ask again.

ma candid opinion.

Lol he pretty much told you that if you find someone, say "yes" to the person and you are still claiming that he's your bf?

Why are girls so clueless? He pretty much said he's not "your someone"

the guy has told u loud and clear that he wont marry u and you're still snuggling up to him. pls try and move on. u can apply within cos I'm available lol

d kok is dat dating is far different from marriage and its obvious the guy aint ready 2 settle down with u. he has even told u dat u shld say yes if any1 proposes 2 u, wat else do u want any1 2 tell u 2 know u ppl dont have a future 2geda.

I will like 2 ask does he have any palns 4 d future because most men do not (Apology 2 all men) but the truth must be said. ask him where will he be nxt 15,10yrs 2 come not only 4 u but his entire family.

If you're looking for a husband you need to find another boyfriend. Forget about 'feelings', they will only mislead.

@ poster

Yea, it was good while it lasted but its time to head for the exit. Now please find the nearest one and make use of it.


Your case pretty much gives you an answer to your situation. I know love is blind, but you shouldn't be foolishly blinded by love. .

Tell me what guy will see a girl, be in a relationshiop, with her, actually see a future with her Cos he doesn't think someone else measures up or that he couldn't feel for someone else the way he feels for "you" and still tell you to say yes to the next bidder??

My dear, please wake up and read the boldly written hand-writing on the wall, please
If he still ain't sure of what he wants, then his loss but you my girl you cannot sit with your legs crossed waiting for him on him, till when?? the cows come home??.
And if he's just being a coward to express his feelings (i mean for some who think he's just hiding behind his feelings), then he's not worth you Cos he doesn't have the security and safety you need to feel in a guy's arms

Now honey, you see that no matter how we try to twist it, the only obvious truth remains that he doesn't feel for you the same way you feel about him, he doesn't see you as his potential wife.

I know it hurts real bad, but some day those wounds will be healed, but its left in your court to let some other capable, willing and sure hands soothe the pains away. Thats one of those things with love, but not to worry it only makes you more appreciative and concious of the "real thing" when it comes along

Good luck with the breakup (yea, you need to get out from there real fast, if you think you're of the age to let down your fishing net )
It shall be well, trust me

Cute-ass we need to talk

niceuzor:

Cute-ass we need to talk

Oya, start talking

Lets moved the talk to yahoo i guess u know i mean.

it's very official

@niceuzor; hmmmm! d topic needs ur contribution please

my sister i know but make i yarn with this babe small

i dey try make her know say She 2much.

hey cutie; u r 2 much

chiegemba:

hey cutie; you're 2 much

niceuzor:

my sister i know but make i yarn with this babe small

i dey try make her know say She 2much.

Thanks for the compliments, I wonder what we're yarning about lol , but we'll talk "yarn" some other time, ok?

Got to be in bed ina jiffy

Goodnite Dear See u some other time,
have a pleasant night rest and dont dream of Nairaland,

I see dis thread aint going nowhere.

@ sweet
biko, I'm entitled to my opinion, so just give urs and/or zip it. I ain't here to curse d girl, just saying it as it is. Thanx!!