LadySarah:
Keep doing good wife while life passess you by.
Do you want to die unfilfilled?

Lock the doors and ask him of he is happy in ur unhappiness.Both of you must arrive at a positive conclusion before the doors are opened.Change Tactics.Dont let poverty/marriage demean ur
person.

How can he be paying #160k fees for your daughter while you cant boast of #1k in ur acc?

What if he dies today?What if he loses his job.How can he earn 250_450 and no side biz/investment?

Both of you are jokers!!!!!

Fountainofyouth:
So far, the only problem he had with you is getting pregnant and blaming you solely for it, he is still blaming you with his attitude towards you, very painful, this thread is very sad and painful, if he doesn't want you anymore, he should divorce you and take his child instead of making you suffer, he shouldn't have married you then, you sef, why will you marry someone that wanted you to abort? why will you do this to yourself? that should have sink into your head that he doesn't want to have anything to do with you talk more of marriage, you have to divorce or separate for a while cos I cannot advice another human being to live a miserable life all cos of marriage, you need your sanity back and you need it without him in the picture, either you lay it all bare to him fiercely, and if he doesn't budge, take a walk, he is punishing you for what is not your fault, what da hell!!!

Ladyboobae:
he doesn't want to give me the money to do side biz,I dont know what he has in his head...I really dont know. I will try locking the door tactics..I hope it works..the man that wants to give me the govt work has told me I have just this week to decide to be his mistress or not

Plead:


Stop generalizing. In this present Nigeria any man stoping his wife from working is simply deceiving himself.

Ladyboobae:
he doesn't want to give me the money to do side biz,I dont know what he has in his head...I really dont know. I will try locking the door tactics..I hope it works..the man that wants to give me the govt work has told me I have just this week to decide to be his mistress or not

baby124:
OP,
Are you looking for solutions or money? Cause you keep going on and on as if you are helpless and hopeless. Do what pleases you abeg...*closes thread door*

Ladyboobae:
what can I compromise I dated him right from when I finished secondary school...till my final year in the university, my daughter was as a result of me being disvirgined by him...he said I should abort it I told him I can't cant,i have never done abortion and he knows thats,he insisted that this can be the first but I stood my ground my people got aware of my pregnancy and insisted the father must marry me,and he married me...would that bad why he is treating me this way....ever since we gave birth to my daughter he told me he is not ready for another child

Gloriagee:
Locking the door may result in violence but u can speak to him in the dead of the night. I trowey hand for our fore mothers... they got this whole stuff down to an art

Ladyboobae:
you can say it again..right now I feel helpless and hopeless

baby124:
OP,
Are you looking for solutions or money? Cause you keep going on and on as if you are helpless and hopeless. Do what pleases you abeg...*closes thread door*

sassysure:


This is the cross of the matter.
Even though he disvirgined you and went out with you for yrs, that man isn't into you.
It seems like he was forced to marry u which he never planned to do. U trapped him with pregnancy when he dont want to marry u
He don't want another child with you. If he loves you and is financially okay, why did he put a stop in child bearing.

Can't u see the hand writing?

When we say don't trap a man with belle, some of us no go hear.
There are condoms and contraceptives.
Have sex as much as u want but be alert. Learn your body system if u must do skin to skin.

I wouldn't be surprised if he has another family out there with the support of his family who is already against u.

U are on your own.
Be wise and use your number six.

When u get your bearing, free yourself.

sassysure:

She is in a lifeless relationship. If not for his daughter,3 months she will not set eyes on him even if he is in town.
Let's just tell her the truth.

Ladyboobae:
there was a church program I attended the pastor told me my husband has a child outside my marriage but I choose not to believe it

sassysure:

She is in a lifeless relationship. If not for his daughter,3 months she will not set eyes on him even if he is in town.
Let's just tell her the truth.

crackhaus:

I guess this proves the fact that a lot of women these days marry men who will increase their status in life.

So let's get back to the drawing board, please share with us exactly why your husband would rather invest so much on his daughter than on you.

Ladyboobae:
what can I compromise I dated him right from when I finished secondary school...till my final year in the university, my daughter was as a result of me being disvirgined by him...he said I should abort it I told him I can't cant,i have never done abortion and he knows thats,he insisted that this can be the first but I stood my ground my people got aware of my pregnancy and insisted the father must marry me,and he married me...would that bad why he is treating me this way....ever since we gave birth to my daughter he told me he is not ready for another child

baby124:

Is he the first that will impregnate and marry the girl? He’s just being intentionally hurtful and being enabled by his family. Anyway, I have doubts about this story because OP is making it more pathetic as the thread goes by without even trying to put in an effort. It’s like the purpose of the thread was to raise money. Like I said sha, I am done here. Everybody get their own problem.

Ladyboobae:
he doesn't want to give me the money to do side biz,I dont know what he has in his head... I really dont know. I will try locking the door tactics..I hope it works.. the man that wants to give me the govt work has told me I have just this week to decide to be his mistress or not

Ladyboobae:
I dont have a skill..to get a skill I have to pay to learn...and I go to school every day to teach and also do weekends class for our students organized by the school where I teach

crackhaus:




Beautiful.

It took you a whole five pages but I am glad you finally grew the honesty bone after first claiming not to know why he was acting this way with you.
Trying to paint the man as a monster when he dotes on his daughter was all the indicator I needed to know you were not telling the full story. So tay some people have started claiming all oil workers are womanizers and your hubby has a woman outside.

You go dey alright las las.

ifyalways:

Is that Fed Govt job offer (the one that came with mistress clause) still open and you have a single gf that will be willing to play ball with you to achieve your purpose? If yes to both questions, go with your cute, well dressed girlfriend ( she must be prettier than you) to the mans office ,introduce them and subtly excuse yourself. If the man is a randy goat as you have painted here, he will make moves on your gf and your gf will drop the ultimatum:- he must give you your appointment letter before anything.
Get yout appointment letter, be smart in the office, learn the ropes and plant yourself in firmly by getting to know the bosses and being on their sweet side so the randy man wont have any chance to come for you incase your gf does not play ball.
Your mama no teach you how to corner men? This is Nigeria, you are already at an advantage being lady,whats left is how to be smart and act swiftly. Being married does not stop a street savy woman. Your husband will not change, you dont have to shift yout pant for anyone either unless you want to but you have to do something to change your situation. Take charge of your life.

sassysure:

Are u oil worker?
If yes, after politicians and pastors,na una

I'm serious o. Mistresses everywhere. Girls don't want to know if u are married or not.
They have the money to throw around and they do exactly that.

The guy don't want to marry her. It was a forced union and the way she is responding, she is not giving room for people to suggest how she should handle her husband so he will open up.
Wish her luck.

So many marital problems

crackhaus:

Lol, na you sabi

sassysure:


Moment of truth

There is a popular saying among middle aged oil workers to justify their philandering.
" a man is as old as he feels and a woman is as old as she looks"

Wives of the big executives among them hire private detectives, use the recordings to strike a deal with them.

crackhaus:

Lol, na you sabi

Ladyboobae:
I have heard all your suggestions,and am going to save to start a petty business...and hope things will get better...you guys r like my extended family here, and I dont take your advise for granted..sincerely I appreciate all..the constructive criticism,the subtle advise all sums up that truely,people still care after all..am grateful...thanks and wish me luck...

crackhaus:

Lol, go to some staff club and see what's up

You're not far from the truth but there are exceptions honestly, plenty exceptions sef.
A company like Pan Ocean that is full of Redeemed and Mountain of Fire members, those ones no dey carry woman outside

sassysure:


U don't have to tell me.
There are unnamed senior staff clubs.
There is one we call white house for shell directors.
The kind of things they do with secondary school girls there, oh my.

Forget mfm or chosen. All of them are the same