This is the second time after my Dad passed on two years ago.
The first time it happened, it was to go be with a guy that promised to take her to Benin republic.

This time around, I suspect she's pregnant for this other guy. . She ran off yesterday evening and sent a text this morning that she did so because she didn't want to perform the abortion.

About the abortion, my mum took her to a pharmacist yesterday morning after she said she missed her period twice. The pharmacist gave her a drug to take, that after taking the drug, she should see her period the next day or in two days time.
But that if she doesn't see it, then she's definitely pregnant.

She's just 18yrs old, the most troubling is that this current guy stays with his parents, we got the guys number from a pastor friend, but he's not picking up the phone and no calls have come from them. What kind of family does that!?

Please Nairalanders, what do I do?

Ah!
Kelvee, this one is strong o, and people go come de recommend prayers, she no need am, wetin she need na una blessings since she's bent on keeping the child, she don unofficially marry be that.
Na choice to de unfortunate, na still choice to make am, you no go force horse mek e drink water, you only help carry am go water body.
Tell her completely, the consequences of that life she wants, if she still no wan change, then do what's in the first paragraph, she needed all these pieces of advice way before turning 18, e go hard sha, cuz the eye don tear finish, and good luck with that!

Is it that she wasn't given proper training at home while growing up or she just didn't take to the training

Children of nowadays and their so called quest for love... 18yrs she no won plan her future well .. after 2yrs wen de nigga don chop her in nd out den dump her like used condom.. her eyes go clear

Larryfest:
Is it that she wasn't given proper training at home while growing up or she just didn't take to the training

She was trained properly I'll say. She didn't just take to it

You people need to pay a visit to the parents and arrange for child support or marriage. Since that is the path your sister wants to take. She seems like the type that likes to learn the hard way.

baby124:
You people need to pay a visit to the parents and arrange for child support of marriage. Since that is the path your sister wants to take. She seems like the type that likes to learn the hard way.

Child support of marriage
We're trying to get across to them but they're not picking our calls. We don't Know where they stay exactly.

kelvee:

Child support of marriage
We're trying to get across to them but they're not picking our calls. We don't Know where they stay exactly.

Child support or marriage. So who told you about the boyfriend or are you just trolling? Who ever told you about him should know more about him. Also, you can get his surname through Truecaller. Then you go from there with other details.

baby124:

Child support or marriage. So who told you about the boyfriend or are you just trolling? Who ever told you about him should know more about him. Also, you can get his surname through Truecaller. Then you go from there with other details.

After I returned from school early this month, I heard she was seeing a guy. I approached her and she said he was her boyfriend and she had ended the relationship. I let it die. Not until yesterday, I was talking to her and trying to let her understand that there's no headway in opening her legs for any guy. She thanked me for the advice and I left for church that evening, coming back at night to hear a different story.

Bros, track the manchi just like Joey Tribbiani and perform the wedding rites yourself if you have to. No sis of mine is giving birth to no bastard.
Hopefully the guy's parents may be wealthy enough to aide the young couple till they find their feet.

kushercain:
Bros, track the manchi just like Joey Tribbiani and perform the wedding rites yourself if you have to. No sis of mine is giving birth to no bastard.
Hopefully the guy's parents may be wealthy enough to aide the young couple till they find their feet.

I don't know his parents, but I doubt they're well to do. The guy earns 10k as salary.

kelvee:
This is the second time after my Dad passed on two years ago.
The first time it happened, it was to go be with a guy that promised to take her to Benin republic.

This time around, I suspect she's pregnant for this other guy. . She ran off yesterday evening and sent a text this morning that she did so because she didn't want to perform the abortion.

About the abortion, my mum took her to a pharmacist yesterday morning after she said she missed her period twice. The pharmacist gave her a drug to take, that after taking the drug, she should see her period the next day or in two days time.
But that if she doesn't see it, then she's definitely pregnant.

She's just 18yrs old, the most troubling is that this current guy stays with his parents, we got the guys number from a pastor friend, but he's not picking up the phone and no calls have come from them. What kind of family does that!?

Please Nairalanders, what do I do?

Bro, you have to be decisive about this. I am almost in a similar mess...in fact messier because actions weren't taken.

Get some police men and visit the house, arrest the boy and his relatives and accuse them of child abduction, kidnap for money or ritual.

The whole family will get to know their boy isn't permitted to toy with your sister...they will have to come to the table where you will have to dictate the tune...what you want from them to your sister.

Never try to abort that pregnancy, please. I beg you.

The Yoruba elders say

Dog wey wan Los no go hear the whistle of hunters.

Solution: stop fretting, worrying, getting worked up AND LEAVE HER TO HER DECISION AND ITS CONSEQUENCES

In Yoruba we call such girls Eran iya they full our community well.no school,no handwork except to be following premature preek and within 1 year of directionless polybag relationship of just after 1 you will see 17 year old girl looking like 39 year old woman plus poverty and gross abuse

Some ladies nor fit get sense till they suffer so please leave her.let her keep following the direction of his phenese.just wash hand if her matter.lock up and no look her side when her eye clear

The elders say omo mapami mapami,tobaya ADI omo maparae

decatalyst:


Bro, you have to be decisive about this. I am almost in a similar mess...in fact messier because actions weren't taken.

Get some police men and visit the house, arrest the boy and his relatives and accuse them of child abduction, kidnap for money or ritual.

The whole family will get to know their boy isn't permitted to toy with your sister...they will have to come to the table where you will have to dictate the tune...what you want from them to your sister.

Never try to abort that pregnancy, please. I beg you.

Abortion is not even an option.
I thought of involving the police, but on what grounds? She went to him on her own will. Bringing up a case of child abduction or kidnap is not true.

baby124:
You people need to pay a visit to the parents and arrange for child support or marriage. Since that is the path your sister wants to take. She seems like the type that likes to learn the hard way.

I tell you. No self-respect. By the time, the love scales falls off her eyes, I hope it won't be too late.

This is bad signal to the guy's family already.

dangotesmummy:
The Yoruba elders say

Dog wey wan Los no go hear the whistle of hunters.

Solution: stop fretting, worrying, getting worked up AND LEAVE HER TO HER DECISION AND ITS CONSEQUENCES

In Yoruba we call such girls Eran iya they full our community well.no school,no handwork except to be following premature preek and within 1 year of directionless polybag relationship of just after 1 you will see 17 year old girl looking like 39 year old woman plus poverty and gross abuse

Some ladies nor fit get sense till they suffer so please leave her.let her keep following the direction of his phenese.just wash hand if her matter.lock up and no look her side when her eye clear

The elders say omo mapami mapami,tobaya ADI omo maparae

Thank you for this contribution, that's what I'll do normally, but the only challenge is my mum. She doesn't see it that way.

kelvee:

Thank you for this contribution, that's what I'll do normally, but the only challenge is my mum. She doesn't see it that way.

then let your mom know that she has made her decision AND YOU HAVE MADE YOURS TOO...kigbogbo e wabe. Abi is it until she use her matter kill everybody in your family before you handsoff her case?

And warn your mother not to develop high BP because of a stray goat wey no gree hear word

kelvee:

Abortion is not even an option.
I thought of involving the police, but on what grounds? She went to him on her own will. Bringing up a case of child abduction or kidnap is not true.

Seems you don't understand how things work yet.

I pity for the real stress you and your family are going to pass through if this is not handled in a stern way. The lady may turn her back at you all for life! I am talking from experience, aburo. Take charge...invite a third party that could assist to straighten things up.

No to abortion, please.

18years is an adult . Contact the family of the man responsible for the pregnancy and join the two together. If she loves the guy, there is nothing you can do to convince her . Abortion is morally wrong when she knows the father of her unborn child.


op , allow your sister to carry her baby. She is an adult according to Nigerian constitution

jidamsel43:
18years is an adult . Contact the family of the man responsible for the pregnancy and join the two together. If she loves the guy, there is nothing you can do to convince her . Abortion is morally wrong when she knows the father of her unborn child.


op , allow your sister to carry her baby. She is an adult according to Nigerian constitution

We're still trying to reach them.

kelvee:

Abortion is not even an option.
I thought of involving the police, but on what grounds? She went to him on her own will. Bringing up a case of child abduction or kidnap is not true.

She’s not a child... find the man responsible and his parents. Let them take care of her since their broke son knows how to enter vagina without protection. At least know where she is if you need to check on her. Also keep track of her movements and latest lovers over time so she doesn’t easily get used for rituals. 10% chance this is going to be her last bus stop. Young love Na mental illness

baby124:

She’s not a child... find the man responsible and his parents. Let them take care of her since their broke son knows how to enter vagina without protection. At least know where she is if you need to check on her. Also keep track of her movements and latest lovers over time so she doesn’t easily get used for rituals. 10% chance this is going to be her last bus stop. Young love Na mental illness

Thank you for this.

Children of nowadays.

Probably she is afraid.

Reply her message with love and everything and let her know she is loved no matter what for her to come back home.

Once she is back, talk to her very well and please don't send her off to the guy's family.

Take care of her and believe me she would turn a new leaf.

Sometimes these Young girls crave for love and attention and when they don't see within the family, you see them seeking it outside thereby resulting into this.


Thank God we didn't turn this way. I lost my dad when I was in SS1 and was just 13yrs... We move


In case you come across this.


I sell beddings materials (Bedsheets/Duvets)

I am just a call away

kelvee:
This is the second time after my Dad passed on two years ago.
The first time it happened, it was to go be with a guy that promised to take her to Benin republic.

This time around, I suspect she's pregnant for this other guy. . She ran off yesterday evening and sent a text this morning that she did so because she didn't want to perform the abortion.

About the abortion, my mum took her to a pharmacist yesterday morning after she said she missed her period twice. The pharmacist gave her a drug to take, that after taking the drug, she should see her period the next day or in two days time.
But that if she doesn't see it, then she's definitely pregnant.

She's just 18yrs old, the most troubling is that this current guy stays with his parents, we got the guys number from a pastor friend, but he's not picking up the phone and no calls have come from them. What kind of family does that!?

Please Nairalanders, what do I do?

so you planned it with your mother to kill your sister via illegal abortion... And you have the effontry to come on Nairaland to tell us that she ran for her life.....

Depressed101:
so you planned it with your mother to kill your sister via illegal abortion... And you have the effontry to come on Nairaland to tell us that she ran for her life.....

Lol. You think so It's not true

what of your father?

kelvee:
This is the second time after my Dad passed on two years ago.
The first time it happened, it was to go be with a guy that promised to take her to Benin republic.

This time around, I suspect she's pregnant for this other guy. . She ran off yesterday evening and sent a text this morning that she did so because she didn't want to perform the abortion.

About the abortion, my mum took her to a pharmacist yesterday morning after she said she missed her period twice. The pharmacist gave her a drug to take, that after taking the drug, she should see her period the next day or in two days time.
But that if she doesn't see it, then she's definitely pregnant.

She's just 18yrs old, the most troubling is that this current guy stays with his parents, we got the guys number from a pastor friend, but he's not picking up the phone and no calls have come from them. What kind of family does that!?

Please Nairalanders, what do I do?

Leave your sister, she has made up her mind for the guy

I don't want you guys to be blamed in future if she fails

Leave her to be, it's either it favours her or not

At 18yrs, once they test sex, it's difficult to tell them that it's tastless

Just visit the guy for him to acknowledge the presence of your sister and her safety

But, it's going to be a game of suffering for her because both of them are ill prepared

The reason ur sister ran away is because she needs love .



I've seen a lot


Most of this small small girls when they lack love and attention they tends to seek it somewhere...

But they always fall into the wrong hands

Larryfest:
Is it that she wasn't given proper training at home while growing up or she just didn't take to the training

raising kids isn't that easy my g especially when parent aren't all that well doing. Not to now talk of the breadwinner dying. Not every kid can take society pressure, sometimes they want to try and help their surviving parent but they mostly don't know it's a foolish part.

Op, there's nothing you can do except your mum is a troublemaker that can make sure she will go to the man that impregnate your sister and go force him to look after her only.

And i think you as a brother has failed in your duty sha. But it's not too late sha, show your sister a whole lot of love. She needs it.

kelvee:
This is the second time after my Dad passed on two years ago.
The first time it happened, it was to go be with a guy that promised to take her to Benin republic.

This time around, I suspect she's pregnant for this other guy. . She ran off yesterday evening and sent a text this morning that she did so because she didn't want to perform the abortion.

About the abortion, my mum took her to a pharmacist yesterday morning after she said she missed her period twice. The pharmacist gave her a drug to take, that after taking the drug, she should see her period the next day or in two days time.
But that if she doesn't see it, then she's definitely pregnant.

She's just 18yrs old, the most troubling is that this current guy stays with his parents, we got the guys number from a pastor friend, but he's not picking up the phone and no calls have come from them. What kind of family does that!?

Please Nairalanders, what do I do?

I'm sorry bro

I was in the same condition with my lil sis
Mom has been late since I was 3
elder sister was at school
Dad was not always home, because of his line of work
don't worry , things will turn out good
the probs is she still young and blinded
just give her 2 to 3 years


DO NOT PRESSURE HER
She will come home when her head don set

jesmond3945:
what of your father?

He died two years ago

Godfrey858:




I'm sorry bro

I was in the same condition with my lil sis
Mom has been late since I was 3
elder sister was at school
Dad was not always home, because of his line of work
don't worry , things will turn out good
the probs is she still young and blinded
just give her 2 to 3 years


DO NOT PRESSURE HER
She will come home when her head don set

Thank you so much